how to date when youre boring as hell

hello there first and foremost Im a virgin. Im 27 years and Im boring as hell. I have no social life whatsoever. I have no friends. What can I do to improve my dating life. I dont know how to ask a girl out. And even if I did I honestly dont have anything to talk about. Conversation is the main thing I need to focus on. If I could improve my social skills that most definitively help but I dont know how.

Well Sometimes knowing people can be an amazing experience,when that people is kind, educated,and they share things and knowledge they think is useful for you is great.

Unfortunately knowing people thats is the complete opposite annoying,rude,and inconsiderate can be a really bad experience...

Dont worry man you have plenty of time ahead start your routine,get bigger,youd get more confident...

What do you truly enjoy to do? You're more interesting when you can be your authentic self and having a good time. Positive energy will exude from your pores when you're happy and engaged in an activity that really gets you going. I'm stealing this next part from an older/obscure movie called The Tao of Steve...'be excellent in one thing'. Doesn't matter what that one thing is, just be excellent at it. Once you start gaining down below, you'll also project much more confidence and people will automatically gravitate toward that confidence.
Good luck and as was mentioned before, you have lots of time to find your Tao

Ok...this comes with a disclaimer..."Honesty is the best policy"...however, if you are "boring as Hell", why not become someone else? If you are looking for a wife, you should stick to honesty. If you are just looking to get laid or even have more fun in life, having stories to tell to females is priceless. Some will be 100% honest, some will be a mix of honesty and a little stretching of the truth, and some will be mostly or totally made up. There are many "coaches" out there that you can follow, and there's a lot of bullshit advice, but nearly all of them will talk about the importance of having stories to tell. Forget a big dick,a handsome face...monster bank account...being able to have a conversation with a woman will open more doors or drop more panties (having them as a friend, girlfriend, acquaintance, fuck mate...whatever) than everything else combined. The basis of those conversations will be stories about experiences you've had (or a friend, real or imagined) today, last week, or maybe 5 years ago.

I would cultivate your ability to tell stories. Look up guys like Carlos Zuma, Badboy, Vince Kelvin, Tom Torero...there are dozens more...who will show you how to become an interesting guy, even if you're not right now. At some point, even if you have to fake being an interesting guy in the beginning, you will become a legitimate interesting guy.

cincityvet;692553 said:

hello there first and foremost Im a virgin. Im 27 years and Im boring as hell. I have no social life whatsoever. I have no friends. What can I do to improve my dating life. I dont know how to ask a girl out. And even if I did I honestly dont have anything to talk about. Conversation is the main thing I need to focus on. If I could improve my social skills that most definitively help but I dont know how.

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I can relate.

Two things made me man up:

-Nearly losing my father to illness
-Being introduced to powerlifting after rehab and counseling for substance abuse.

I was a wimpy kid with no confidence. Almost losing my father taught me to never procrastinate in life. Just live, love and do before it is too late.

Powerlifting not only gave me physical strength, it gave me discipline. Before, I hated the gym. My cousin tried to get me into body building while I was in rehab but I found it all so boring. Powerlifting took a while but it became an outlet for me to channel all the negative feelings I had about myself and grow from them. At first I had thoughts like "im a weak pussy, I don't want to do this. I can't do this." As I worked on my form and got stronger, those thoughts turned to "I got this, let's do this". A lot of people ive spoken to say they get this from martial arts too. Powerlifting has given me confidence, physical presence (corrected my posture) and even changed the way I carry myself.


Strength, confidence and a burning ambition to better yourself is all you need man. If you really have these attributes you'll be swimming in pussy. When you really have it, people around you can sense it.

But that's still boring as hell

Thanks for killing my from the heart moment.

Its ok bra go have a 'coming to Jesus moment'

GottaGetAGrip;697928 said:

Two things made me man up:

-Nearly losing my father to illness
-Being introduced to powerlifting after rehab and counseling for substance abuse.

I was a wimpy kid with no confidence. Almost losing my father taught me to never procrastinate in life. Just live, love and do before it is too late.

Powerlifting not only gave me physical strength, it gave me discipline. Before, I hated the gym. My cousin tried to get me into body building while I was in rehab but I found it all so boring. Powerlifting took a while but it became an outlet for me to channel all the negative feelings I had about myself and grow from them. At first I had thoughts like "im a weak pussy, I don't want to do this. I can't do this." As I worked on my form and got stronger, those thoughts turned to "I got this, let's do this". A lot of people ive spoken to say they get this from martial arts too. Powerlifting has given me confidence, physical presence (corrected my posture) and even changed the way I carry myself.


Strength, confidence and a burning ambition to better yourself is all you need man. If you really have these attributes you'll be swimming in pussy. When you really have it, people around you can sense it.

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Strength comes from so many places and much of the time it is not a pleasant place but the outcome is what matters, becoming stronger. It is during the toughest times that Jesus wants to see us flip that and see the silver lining. We are never given more than we can handle and you handled it perfectly and became stronger because of it.

Losing my Father was very hard for me but in return Jesus gave me a Son and 2 Grandson's so I know my Father and my Heavenly Father had something to do with it! After Jen left me I was heart broken but I took that [pain and I started to paint and became a great artist. I guess what I am saying is always take something from a painful situation, do not allow it to go for nothing, always take a lesson.

Being a bore is something that is attractive to some women just like an outgoing guy is, the biggest thing we need to do is take that risk and start the conversation. I have tried with not so much luck but I know that only means that was not the right person for me. Jesus always brings them when the time is right. We have to have faith.

I'd say take time away from dating and work on yourself/try to find some things that interest you.

That said, the bigger problem is when you start running into girls that bore you...I still haven't fully figured out the solution to that one. Seems most these days are only interested in following the Kardashians and restaurants they want to eat at.

Phoenix7672;698094 said:

I'd say take time away from dating and work on yourself/try to find some things that interest you.

That said, the bigger problem is when you start running into girls that bore you...I still haven't fully figured out the solution to that one. Seems most these days are only interested in following the Kardashians and restaurants they want to eat at.

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It depends on what your intentions are with the girls that bore you. If you are looking for a long term relationship or anything beyond that, just walk away. If you run into girls that bore you, but nevertheless you would like to get balls deep...then there are alternatives. I can give you some direction on those too...but I need to know the general direction you'd like to take with girls that bore you.

idk in some ways I think some women like boring guys, maybe.

I still haven't fully figured out the solution to that one. Seems most these days are only interested in following the Kardashians and restaurants they want to eat at.

LOL TRUE

Nah man. Girls want assholes and aloof DGAF guys. If you're looking for a wife, then I have no advice to offer. I am, on my best day, very average, but I've had way more than I could possibly deserve...and that was after spending a lot of time trying to figuring what women want and listening to/reading what the supposed "experts" recommend...When I actually did follow the advice...game changer.

True seems like they never learn about that..they get those DGAF type of guy, and the assholes too,the ""tough ones"" too..

Nothing more lame than women being regretful once they really get to know those guys....

But most of them love them hahahalol

ode2;698632 said:

Nah man. Girls want assholes and aloof DGAF guys. If you're looking for a wife, then I have no advice to offer. I am, on my best day, very average, but I've had way more than I could possibly deserve...and that was after spending a lot of time trying to figuring what women want and listening to/reading what the supposed "experts" recommend...When I actually did follow the advice...game changer.

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I was going to also say this, many girls love mean and nasty men. Not what I am looking for, I am looking for a woman who respects herself.

doublelongdaddy;698744 said:

I was going to also say this, many girls love mean and nasty men. Not what I am looking for, I am looking for a woman who respects herself.

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Absolutely it's a fine line that I definitely find myself walking all the time. For sure...if you want quality...just be yourself and honest and sincere...and if a girl takes advantage of that or doesn't want to be with you...just move on and realize that says a lot more about her than you. For me, I'm not looking for anything serious and without a doubt, being an aloof, DGAF guy has dropped more panties than anyone like me could possibly deserve. I almost got married once but I can count on one hand the number of women I've dated and/or slept with that I would ever consider marrying. I just don't like being accountable to someone else..."Where are you at?"...."What time are you coming home?"...just can't do it. I'm pretty sure a wife is not gonna like it when you're like "Don't you fucking worry about where I'm at or when I'm coming home." I know for a fact girlfriends don't react too well to that...although that attitude does open other opportunities and legs...which I think is where I started this. Circle of life...LOL.

PEers and our strange lives...but is true who wants someone asking where you at,what are you doing,and that kind of stuff..

But it may be a sign that she cares ...who knows lol.Or she just want to control the whole thing..