Do I really need to be bigger ?

doublelongdaddy;521719 said:
I try to see myself in a constant state of betterment, an evolving series of corrections to improve myself as a man. The goal is never to get there, it is too become abundant in the journey. You indeed should be happy with yourself at all points, as long as you are consciously striving to become better.
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Rome wasn't built in a day as the saying goes
 
doublelongdaddy;521905 said:
Yup, they are still building it!
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And yet when they had it all, the empire fell appart. There's a saying here in Portugal that "those who want it all, end up losing it all". Now, this is not to say that one shouldn't strive to become better in every aspect of life. One should!
However, there's that "little" thing called sensibility, common sense, good judgement, or whatever you wich to call it, and it should be as important as your ambition. If your wife already told you to not grow any bigger, and if you want to maintain a steady, respectful, faithful, long term relationship with her, my advice would be to respect her wish. That doesn't mean you have to stop Penis Enlargement altogether. You can still perform lighter routines that won't exactly get you any noticeable gains, but still contribute to the overal health of your penis and your performance in bed.
Penis Enlargement is mostly a personal thing, yes, we do it to feel more confident. But let's face it, there are only 2 things you can use your penis for: taking a piss and having sex. Does having a bigger penis make sex more enjoyable TO YOU? Apart from the psychological factor, I'd say it won't make much difference to you. Therefore, the other physical reason we want to have a bigger dick is to provide a more enjoyable and pleasurable sexual experience to our partner. So, if your partner specifically tells you that you getting bigger will NOT make ir more pleasurable and enjoyable, what's the point in continuing? Is it so you can jerk off with 2 hands instead of one? Are you planning on enroling into vault poling? :p

Penis Enlargement is not all about size. To me, the fact that someone can get harder erections from jelqing or keggels (just to name an example) is a far greater benefit than adding inches. It's a matter of health. And I bet the majority of men wouldn't trade an average healthy dick for a big impotent one.
To add to this, I believe that one of things that contributes to our self esteem in Penis Enlargement, is not just that we have a bigger dick, but most importantly, that we created it ourselves, we got our bigger dick through hard work and dedication over long hours. That gives us a sense of accomplishment along with the added inches, it makes us feel like we have overcome an "obstacle", we have attained something valuable and rare.

So, although I wouldn't say that size is overrated (it is OVERrated but it does have its importance), it is just one part of Penis Enlargement.

Once some guy told me that he thought Penis Enlargement meant Penis Enhancement, and not Penis Enlargement. I believe this is a better perspective on the subject.

Just my 4 cents :p
 
I think we as guys can intuit whether we need to be bigger or not.

While sexually my wife never had a problem; I felt I needed more. When I would jokingly talk to the wife about getting bigger she was always, "No, your fine as you are" and worried I'd get "too big". Her worries were based on her satisfying me in not being able to handle me; not based on her not being able to enjoy it.

I did it anyways and didn't tell her at the time. Her responses were always favorable with a sense of awe. In growing in length we both discovered she had a culdesac and man when I found that she was an animal. She'd come walking in the room and say, "I want you to hit my spot"!

Ultimately we are doing this for ourselves anyways. As long as you are sexually healthy you wouldn't have a problem pleasing a woman. My experience has been: "I wish I would have known about this sooner than later".

If you think you need to do it for yourself then do it and keep it to yourself.
 
savageblue;523568 said:
And yet when they had it all, the empire fell appart. There's a saying here in Portugal that "those who want it all, end up losing it all". Now, this is not to say that one shouldn't strive to become better in every aspect of life. One should!
However, there's that "little" thing called sensibility, common sense, good judgement, or whatever you wich to call it, and it should be as important as your ambition. If your wife already told you to not grow any bigger, and if you want to maintain a steady, respectful, faithful, long term relationship with her, my advice would be to respect her wish. That doesn't mean you have to stop Penis Enlargement altogether. You can still perform lighter routines that won't exactly get you any noticeable gains, but still contribute to the overal health of your penis and your performance in bed.
Penis Enlargement is mostly a personal thing, yes, we do it to feel more confident. But let's face it, there are only 2 things you can use your penis for: taking a piss and having sex. Does having a bigger penis make sex more enjoyable TO YOU? Apart from the psychological factor, I'd say it won't make much difference to you. Therefore, the other physical reason we want to have a bigger dick is to provide a more enjoyable and pleasurable sexual experience to our partner. So, if your partner specifically tells you that you getting bigger will NOT make ir more pleasurable and enjoyable, what's the point in continuing? Is it so you can jerk off with 2 hands instead of one? Are you planning on enroling into vault poling? :p

Penis Enlargement is not all about size. To me, the fact that someone can get harder erections from jelqing or keggels (just to name an example) is a far greater benefit than adding inches. It's a matter of health. And I bet the majority of men wouldn't trade an average healthy dick for a big impotent one.
To add to this, I believe that one of things that contributes to our self esteem in Penis Enlargement, is not just that we have a bigger dick, but most importantly, that we created it ourselves, we got our bigger dick through hard work and dedication over long hours. That gives us a sense of accomplishment along with the added inches, it makes us feel like we have overcome an "obstacle", we have attained something valuable and rare.

So, although I wouldn't say that size is overrated (it is OVERrated but it does have its importance), it is just one part of Penis Enlargement.

Once some guy told me that he thought Penis Enlargement meant Penis Enhancement, and not Penis Enlargement. I believe this is a better perspective on the subject.

Just my 4 cents :p
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Thanks for posting and a very good post indeed.

I do totally understand what your saying and I do agree with you but for me it all mental.

The main reason I want to be bigger is for my own satisfaction, when I look in the mirror I don't like what I see and I want to change that so I'm happy with my body and its as simple as that.

Yes I think being bigger will help my sexual performance and my wife says it won't but when I started Penis Enlargement I gained around .5 inch in girth and she didnt notice so I think I can get bigger without it causing a problem in my relationship but I will feel better about myself.

Tbh 1inch in girth and length and I'd be a lot happier and I can't see that increase in size being detrimental during sex.


anth1225;524101 said:
I think we as guys can intuit whether we need to be bigger or not.

While sexually my wife never had a problem; I felt I needed more. When I would jokingly talk to the wife about getting bigger she was always, "No, your fine as you are" and worried I'd get "too big". Her worries were based on her satisfying me in not being able to handle me; not based on her not being able to enjoy it.

I did it anyways and didn't tell her at the time. Her responses were always favorable with a sense of awe. In growing in length we both discovered she had a culdesac and man when I found that she was an animal. She'd come walking in the room and say, "I want you to hit my spot"!

Ultimately we are doing this for ourselves anyways. As long as you are sexually healthy you wouldn't have a problem pleasing a woman. My experience has been: "I wish I would have known about this sooner than later".

If you think you need to do it for yourself then do it and keep it to yourself.
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We did have a convocation about it and I said it was mainly for myself and not to pleasure her more but did say if I was bigger it might make sex better which is when she said it wouldn't.

Thing is I can't see a extra inch being the difference between non painfull sex (now) and painfull sex (if I were bigger) some times she says its painfull but that's when I go deep deep in certain positions which we don't do anymore for obvious reasons so.
 
Kingy;524795 said:
Thing is I can't see a extra inch being the difference between non painfull sex (now) and painfull sex (if I were bigger) some times she says its painfull but that's when I go deep deep in certain positions which we don't do anymore for obvious reasons so.
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Length should not be any kind of issue for her and sex as you can control how much length you give her. The bigger issue, I would think, is girth. I would ask her if this is the fear she has. You may find she is worried more about length and at that point you can repeat what I said above. I would try to get specifics and tailor your routine around that.
 
doublelongdaddy;524817 said:
Length should not be any kind of issue for her and sex as you can control how much length you give her. The bigger issue, I would think, is girth. I would ask her if this is the fear she has. You may find she is worried more about length and at that point you can repeat what I said above. I would try to get specifics and tailor your routine around that.
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I don't no if extra girth would be a problem tbh, this will sound bad which its not and I'm not saying she has a huge vagina because she doesnt but its a little looser now which you would expect after 2 kids.

Like I said before when I started I was 5inch girth and went upto nearly 5.5 and she didnt mention it being different, which make me think I could get to 6inch girth and things be ok.

Tbh I don't really want to ask her about it because of the negative way she came across last time, maybe I should just start again and see where I get to and if she says anything, if it causes a problem ill just stop Penis Enlargement
 
i have this crazy idea...

How about paying more attention to her? She'll like that.

Then you can do whatever you want with your dick, it's your dick not hers.
 
AdmiralLongDong;525114 said:
i have this crazy idea...

How about paying more attention to her? She'll like that.

Then you can do whatever you want with your dick, it's your dick not hers.
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I pay her plenty of attention
 
doublelongdaddy;520629 said:
Listen to what you just typed! "I don't choose to be unhappy but it is constant" you are right whether you want to be or not. If it is constant, it will remain constant. Make the choice and agreement that happiness is constant! A simple shift in perspective will go miles with mental illness. It will feel fake at first but I promise you, eventually it will stick. We are quite similar and I only offer this advice, as you know, because I have been through it for years and I want to see you gain some joy in life!
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Amen DLD this is very true
 
she probably got tired of being poked and prodded like a peice of meat from her X, and wanted someone better suited to her needs
if shes still with ya then it wasnt the penis that drew her to you
this is only a plus
she found qualities in you more than your penis could give and this is why she is with you
your mind is a great thing and can do wonders for relationships
mental aspects of a penis when a couple makes love or has sex they just do it because its nature at its finest
after sex what is the first thing couples do and not talking bout dressing
think bout it for a little bit you would be surprised how much it is the same answer with every couple
 
ShaggyRat;525516 said:
she probably got tired of being poked and prodded like a peice of meat from her X, and wanted someone better suited to her needs
if shes still with ya then it wasnt the penis that drew her to you
this is only a plus
she found qualities in you more than your penis could give and this is why she is with you
your mind is a great thing and can do wonders for relationships
mental aspects of a penis when a couple makes love or has sex they just do it because its nature at its finest
after sex what is the first thing couples do and not talking bout dressing
think bout it for a little bit you would be surprised how much it is the same answer with every couple
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I'd say most just lay there for a minute and think about what they've just done.

Am I right ? That's what I do lol
 
Kingy;525731 said:
I'd say most just lay there for a minute and think about what they've just done.

Am I right ? That's what I do lol
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your right on that but it goes into pillow talk afterwards and this is where the relationship gets interesting
even if you didnt say a thing to each other or you both were mute you both made a connection and it wasnt based on penis size but the love for each other
haveing that connection is the greatest thing better than a one night stand and i mean this as the truth because love can make the connection more intense ;)
 
ShaggyRat;525749 said:
your right on that but it goes into pillow talk afterwards and this is where the relationship gets interesting
even if you didnt say a thing to each other or you both were mute you both made a connection and it wasnt based on penis size but the love for each other
haveing that connection is the greatest thing better than a one night stand and i mean this as the truth because love can make the connection more intense ;)
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Ahh yes I know what you mean, the few moments you share after you've both orgasmed when you cuddle and share the moment and tell your wife you love her.

After being together for years and the tiredness of work and kids this moment seems to slide me 90% of the time unfortunately I'm like the women that wants to kiss and cuddle ect and my wife if like the male and just want to rollover and go to sleep lol
 
Kingy said:
Been a member on here for a good few months and started off well doin Penis Enlargement but I've not done any for a month or so and I wanted to get things going again so planned to buy a Bathmate.

This evening I mentioned to my Mrs that I was going to get one and she asked why ? 'You don't need to' to which I replied not even if it makes me feel better about myself. She then said but it won't make me feel better because sometimes its uncomfortable already when you go balls deep and you haven't exactly go a skinny dick.

So basically my Mrs is more then happy with my size and sometimes can be uncomfortable and she says extra girth wouldn't be more pleasurable so do I really need to be bigger seeing as the only person I plan on sharing my dick with is her.

Yes it might make me feel better but could effect our sex life by making it unpleasurable for her.

What would you do ?
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Is she still in your life? If she is no longer in your life, grow that dick brother.
 
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