Ok guys, this might be a long one but well worth the read. I'm sharing bc it's a source of pain, curiosity, lack of self confidence and reason I took up PE. I welcome comments and really want input from those that have this experience and can describe what it was like going from one size to significantly bigger.
I've been with my fiancé for about 4 years. I love her more than anyone I've ever met in my life. The issue that keeps coming up stems from me asking the dreaded "how big was the biggest guy you've been with"? Well, the last two guys were bigger. Me, I'm 7 1/4" x 5 3/4". Her ex husband was 1/4 to 1/2" longer and a little thicker. Her exact words. "Sometimes he seemed bigger - sometimes you do. I would say the difference is .25 to .5" in length and not a noticeable difference in width - maybe. .125" at most." So between 7.5-7.75" and a little thicker than me. No big deal, but basically an 8x6. The BF before him though was 9" and really thick. I asked how she knew and she had actually measured it. She dated him for ~5 years. I believe her on the size because she knows exactly how big I am. The comments, albeit all prompted by me regarding penis size in general have been varied and mixed when the topic of size comes up. She knows it's a hang up for me, so I guess I understand. However, it makes me think she's not being exactly honest to protect my feelings.
I have never wanted to please a woman in bed more than her. Didn't really think of myself as a pleaser before dating her. This probably stems from me thinking she wants more, can handle more, needs more for an elusive vaginal orgasm, or to be filled up more. She's said I'm the best lover she's ever had, even before I ever brought up size. I believe her...but somehow think it's not entirely true. She's a joker and so am I, but she's made enough comments about dicks and size (before it was a real issue for me) to know she likes them on the bigger side.
One of the things that puzzles me is this. She says no one has ever penetrated her as deep as me. In my mind, I'm thinking WTF are you talking about? I'm no where near as long as several guys she's been with. I waited a long time to ask her if mr. 9" had actually fully penetrated her until recently and she said yes. He put his whole shaft into her and she took it.. I should add, she's not very tight(but not loose either) and when her vagina tents, it expands quite a bit. I've never been with someone where it's so noticeable. She still maintained that no one has ever fucked her as deep as me. I called BS and said it just doesn't make sense! She stuck by it and wouldn't budge; said she couldn't explain it. Only thing I can think of is when our pelvises touch, I give one extra thrust- in and up. It really stimulates her clit and penetrates her a little further is the only thing I can think of. She says no one else has ever done that to her. She can only orgasm clitorally at least with me, so I guess it sets me apart.
Recently, I asked her to clarify her "acceptable range" comments as she's stated several times when I've brought size up. "Size doesn't matter much if you're in the acceptable range- and you're above the minimum acceptable size." I grabbed a ruler and said show me. She said anywhere from 5.5-8.5 inches is acceptable...maybe even 5 inches. So I didn't get to ask many more questions, but obviously thought to myself mr. 9" was outside of her acceptable limits but she stayed with him for 5 years! I did later ask how she came up with this range but she refused to answer. I've brought this shit up too much...I know this.
At the end of the day, I want an 8x6 or better and have now dedicated myself to getting there. Not sure it'll make a difference in our sex life, but I'm doing it. I'd love some thoughts on all of this and what, if any difference 1-1.5" has made in your sex life with the same woman. I'd also like to add that we're late 30s, she's had 26 partners and I've had 35.
I literally torture myself with this stuff daily and want to get over it. Only way I know how is to grow a bigger one...
Thoughts?
I've been with my fiancé for about 4 years. I love her more than anyone I've ever met in my life. The issue that keeps coming up stems from me asking the dreaded "how big was the biggest guy you've been with"? Well, the last two guys were bigger. Me, I'm 7 1/4" x 5 3/4". Her ex husband was 1/4 to 1/2" longer and a little thicker. Her exact words. "Sometimes he seemed bigger - sometimes you do. I would say the difference is .25 to .5" in length and not a noticeable difference in width - maybe. .125" at most." So between 7.5-7.75" and a little thicker than me. No big deal, but basically an 8x6. The BF before him though was 9" and really thick. I asked how she knew and she had actually measured it. She dated him for ~5 years. I believe her on the size because she knows exactly how big I am. The comments, albeit all prompted by me regarding penis size in general have been varied and mixed when the topic of size comes up. She knows it's a hang up for me, so I guess I understand. However, it makes me think she's not being exactly honest to protect my feelings.
I have never wanted to please a woman in bed more than her. Didn't really think of myself as a pleaser before dating her. This probably stems from me thinking she wants more, can handle more, needs more for an elusive vaginal orgasm, or to be filled up more. She's said I'm the best lover she's ever had, even before I ever brought up size. I believe her...but somehow think it's not entirely true. She's a joker and so am I, but she's made enough comments about dicks and size (before it was a real issue for me) to know she likes them on the bigger side.
One of the things that puzzles me is this. She says no one has ever penetrated her as deep as me. In my mind, I'm thinking WTF are you talking about? I'm no where near as long as several guys she's been with. I waited a long time to ask her if mr. 9" had actually fully penetrated her until recently and she said yes. He put his whole shaft into her and she took it.. I should add, she's not very tight(but not loose either) and when her vagina tents, it expands quite a bit. I've never been with someone where it's so noticeable. She still maintained that no one has ever fucked her as deep as me. I called BS and said it just doesn't make sense! She stuck by it and wouldn't budge; said she couldn't explain it. Only thing I can think of is when our pelvises touch, I give one extra thrust- in and up. It really stimulates her clit and penetrates her a little further is the only thing I can think of. She says no one else has ever done that to her. She can only orgasm clitorally at least with me, so I guess it sets me apart.
Recently, I asked her to clarify her "acceptable range" comments as she's stated several times when I've brought size up. "Size doesn't matter much if you're in the acceptable range- and you're above the minimum acceptable size." I grabbed a ruler and said show me. She said anywhere from 5.5-8.5 inches is acceptable...maybe even 5 inches. So I didn't get to ask many more questions, but obviously thought to myself mr. 9" was outside of her acceptable limits but she stayed with him for 5 years! I did later ask how she came up with this range but she refused to answer. I've brought this shit up too much...I know this.
At the end of the day, I want an 8x6 or better and have now dedicated myself to getting there. Not sure it'll make a difference in our sex life, but I'm doing it. I'd love some thoughts on all of this and what, if any difference 1-1.5" has made in your sex life with the same woman. I'd also like to add that we're late 30s, she's had 26 partners and I've had 35.
I literally torture myself with this stuff daily and want to get over it. Only way I know how is to grow a bigger one...
Thoughts?
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