BriT;282392 said:
hi all
i have pre-jac (1minute if that) i need help badly!! and it drives me mad i feel like killing my self at times (no lie) or worse chop off my penis.
Hey Brit, First and foremost, and I know I sound strict, this is not acceptable! You are a living miracle. Your penis is such a tiny part of the miracle you receive every moment. Value your life and love yourself. There has NEVER been a problem in my life that I have not been able to overcome (and everyone in this forum will tell you just how insane I am). I have faced things in my life that seem so difficult, so desperate and I have been faced with choices but ending a miracle of life is never an option...believe me, he will take you when it's time
) We have all been in a situation where things seems so hopeless but eventually, through dedication to ourselves, we get through these things. God never gives us a cross we can't carry! You have been given this problem as you can handle it. I believe in you and I don't know you...believe in yourself! If you don't I may have to spank you and ground you for a few weeks
BriT;282392 said:
it only happens when i have sex, if i get wank off, or a BJ i last plenty. bassically i have read a fair few post's on here about it and one made me see how i got it, i use to try and cum quick couple years ago so i didnt get caught and that as ovously programme my head to cum quick, i try and beat this problem by doing kegals every time i remember, and i wank intill i get close and then slow down or stop and kegal hard intill it the feeling goes away and then carry on i normally do it for 20-30min a time, and i only do it 2-3 times a week sum times none, but i was wondering for those who have beat pre-jac or lasting longer how did you do it? and what was your routine? and what should my routine be? i realy need help it gets me down loads, i am in a long term relationship which is not effected at all by it, i need this for me.
please get back to me asap thanks loads guys Brit
If you are able to conquer this problem in private you are able to do the same in a relational situation. With your description you a very well able to last as long as you wish, so what is stopping you? You are stopping you! This is a purely mental condition and changing it will require work, mentally and physically. A particular routine will not change this completely, it will take some cognitive practice.
I remember when this was happing to me for a spell and one thing that helped me through the embarrassment (and took a lot of pressure off myself) was telling my girl that she is some fine, so incredibly sexy that it is hard for me to contain myself. This not only made her feel good but it also took some of the pressure off of me. This allowed me to be more rational and take another perspective on things. Without the embarrassment issue I became more able to last longer.
I would bet my entire business on one thing that I know is a fact with you. I bet that while you are having sex the prominent thought in your head is "how long will I last" or "I hope I can last" This line of thinking sets you up for failure. You, in your mind, have already decided that you will fail. This line of thought needs to change and this will take time and dedication. If you are able to make yourself cum so quickly then you are able to make yourself cum more slowly. It is purely a mental game.
You have built up so much failure and disappointment that you now only are punishing yourself for your past failures (over and over) but you are robbing yourself the pleasure of sex. I realize my words are just that, words, but it is the first step in changing this issue.
There are a few exercises that you can practice and I will post them. But I want to leave you with one more valuable piece of advice. Women, for the most part, are into intimacy, romance, love, etc. Unlike men, women, for the most part, are not looking for instant gratification. Try to spend some time on foreplay. Be creative. Enjoy the time and be sure that you are catering to her needs. Intercourse, on average, lasts approximately 4 minutes. You are falling short of the average by 3/4. This will change, I promise, but dedicating yourself to some major, timely, foreplay will make you a star. This will give you additional confidence to change your concerns. Lastly, while you are being intimate, prior to insertion, your mind will be focused on her not you. This will teach you that thought is so valuable to action.
Here are a few tips:
Becoming in touch with your orgasm
There is a very fine line between cuming and about to cum. making this distinction is the first step in having more staying power.
Identify your brink of orgasm
You will want to identify the fine line that separates cuming from about to cum. During this period pay special attention to what brings you almost to orgasm. What are your thoughts? How long does it take to get there? Keep Track of this information for future reference. The goal here is to paint a mental picture of your orgasm and identify just what brings you to this brink and what you can do to stop it.
Breathing to Reduce Excitement
Simply taking a deep breath at the brink of orgasm is a very effective way to reduce your excitement level and reset your orgasm. It does not work for everyone but it is worth trying.
Breathing to Reset Orgasm
When you feel that you are getting too close to orgasm, just completely stop and take a deep breath. Give yourself a minute or two to reset your mental orgasm. Once you feel that you have reset this mental orgasm continue with the confidence that the physical orgasm is far off. You will find with practice this process will give you longer and longer periods of staying power. Eventually this mental reset will happen automatically with no pause.
The Squeeze Techniques
When you feel close to your orgasm completely stop, pull out, take a deep breath and apply one of these two squeezing methods. One method usually works better for men than the other so try them both.
BASE SQUEEZE: at the brink of orgasm stop, take a deep breath. Using the OK grip squeeze the base of your penis and squeeze until the urge has faded.
UP SQUEEZE: at the brink of orgasm stop, take a deep breath. Using the forefinger and thumb squeeze the top and bottom of your penis just below the glans until the urge to orgasm has faded.
DLD Push
The DLD Push is a technique to prolong orgasm and remain erect after orgasm. This method involved a hard reverse kegel right at the brink of orgasm. It takes some practice but once it is mastered 4-5 orgasms are possible.
Reverse Psychology
A great technique that seems to work very well for me is the Reverse Psychology method. Previously to having sex I convince myself that I am going to have problems ejaculation.
A very smart man said "Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler." Chew on that for a while
I hope this has helped.
DLD (Mike)
