I have read alot of threads about the importance of size and the cruelty of women. I decided to see what the general consensus(sp?) is.
LifeScript Healthy living for women http://www.lifescript.com/Life/Sex/Nookie/Does_Size_Really_Matter.aspx
Men obsess about their bodies just like women. Too fat, too tall, too small… Does size really matter when it comes to our sexual pleasure? Read on to find out. Plus, how much do you know about his equipment? Take our quiz…
When it comes to size and aesthetics, it’s a rare guy who wants an honest assessment of his anatomy. But every so often, women hear this question: “What do you think of my penis?”
That’s sure to jolt you out of a post-coital daze. Should you lie? Tell the truth? But what’s so surprising about this question is the naked vulnerability it reveals – sort of the male equivalent of Does this make me look fat?
I once got “the question” when I was seeing a man who was smaller than I preferred. But I was enormously attracted to him and the electricity we generated could have lit up Times Square
In that unguarded moment, I think I liked him even more for giving me a peek at his anxieties. And so I said, quite honestly, “Absolutely. It’s amazing.”
When it comes to sexual insecurity, women haven’t cornered the market. For all the reassurances from urologists, sex therapists and former girlfriends that it’s not the size of the boat but how they captain it that matters, guys still wonder: Does size matter? More important: Do I measure up?
Yes, size matters. But not the way men might think it does.
Too Big
“We’ve put such inflated importance on size, and as a result, women’s eyes are bigger than their vaginas,” says Anne Semans, marketing director for the sex toy boutique chain Babeland (Babeland.com).
Semans knows women’s size preferences, at least when it comes to dildos. Babeland’s most popular model measures six inches long and 1¼ inches around, though women have sought longer and fatter.
“The cultural perception is that bigger is going to feel better,” Semans says. But, she adds, that’s not always the case.
In fact, women who overreach often end up returning dildos (unopened, of course). “Too big and you’re going to need a lot of lube, there’s going to be a lot more friction and it might chafe,” Semans says. “Even your orgasmic contractions may be less powerful.”
Logically, the same holds true for penises of the non-silicone variety. It doesn’t matter how many Long Dong Silvers show up in adult entertainment flicks. Many women may initially enjoy the sight of a big guy, but their next reaction is often Ouch! That poor girl!
My friend Shari, 38, agrees. She’s dated guys who were too long and too thick. “If it’s too big, it can be overwhelming and painful,” she says. “You have to really be ready to deal with something that large.”
And here’s something else guys don’t take into account when wishing for more inches: A woman may be reluctant to vault that big pole again.
“You can be sore the next day and not so eager to have intercourse,” Shari says. “There were definitely times I said, ‘Don’t poke me with that thing.’”
My friend Alice, 31, understands that all too well. She confesses she was so saddle-sore after a romp with a bigger-than-usual guy that the next day she made an emergency appointment with her gynecologist. And although they dated for three months, she refused to get back on that bronco again.
“He wanted to, but I diverted him with oral sex or made excuses to avoid having sex with him,” she says.
Anecdotes aside, accommodating an extra-large penis can result in vaginal injury. Extra-long members can bump against a woman’s cervix during intercourse, causing discomfort or pain.
With larger girth, tearing could occur and cause bleeding. Making sex pleasurable with a well-hung honey comes down to three things: lubricant, patience and position experimentation.
But it’s unfair to claim that a “good fit” is up to the man. Have a couple of children the old-fashioned way, and you may not be as tight down there as you once were. That can make a slender penis feel too small.
Fortunately, toys can help. Cock rings and penis pumps can (temporarily) add girth for guys with more modest holdings.
Women can do their part by using Kegel exercises to tighten the vaginal walls, leading to a snugger fit.
“That gives you more control over your vaginal muscles so that during intercourse, you’re contracting more and harder, so that feels good for both of you,” Semans says.
Also, before writing a guy off for not measuring up, consider his ability to compensate for his shortcomings. Can he please you in other ways? Being attentive to your needs is the most important quality in a good lover, regardless of his penis size.
When it comes down to it, it’s not about actual inches, how big he is or how tight you are, but what you both do with the equipment you’ve got and how it all feels when you’re together.
Says Shari: “My husband isn’t the biggest I’ve ever been with or the smallest. But we fit together very well. It’s just right.”
Penis Size: What Women ThinkHow Big is Yours?
Penis size doesn't matter much to her. So stop worrying and start pleasuring herSmall penis syndrome.
Sounds horrifying, right?
If you're anxiously reading this article, you may already have it.
Oh, relax. It's not a johnson-shrinking virus. "Small penis syndrome" is a psychological condition in which a man thinks his manhood is too small, even though he's really on par with the rest of mankind.
Does size matter? (To her, that is.)
That age-old question was addressed by British researchers in a scholarly article this week in BJU International.
Their findings, in a nutshell (or two): 63 percent of men complained of having inferior hardware -- but none of them was smaller than normal! (Normal is between 5.5 and 6.2 inches long when erect and 4.7 to 5.1 inches around -- and don't even think about measuring at your desk.)
To make those fears all the more pointless, 85 percent of women are happy with their partner's size.
Okay, British researchers are one thing. But what do real women think?
That's where Men's Health comes in. We asked two of our favorite women: Nicole Beland, our "Girl Next Door," and Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., our "Bedroom Confidential" columnist.
"Yes, we care about the size of a man's penis," Nicole says. "But when it comes to sexual satisfaction, it's pretty far down on our list of priorities."
And having a big wood certainly doesn't guarantee her orgasm, which is more important than penis size, Debby says. "Women find it difficult to orgasm, and oral sex and hand stimulation are often more effective, as are vibrators," she says. "It's not personal -- it's just how some women's bodies work."
Nicole notes that small penis syndrome can work in a woman's favor.
"There's nothing worse than a guy who thinks he has a HUGE penis and is therefore God's gift to the ladies," she says. "That kind of guy thinks that getting an erection is pretty much all the effort he has to put into sex. The chances that the women he sleeps with are having orgasms? Slim to none."
Ian Kerner, Ph.D., sexologist and author of She Comes First, says we should worry more about her pleasure than our size.
"Usually when women complain about a small penis, it's also that they're not having orgasms," Kerner says. "If they're orgasming, it'll matter a hell of a lot less what size your penis is."
For the truly tiny or even those paranoid normal guys, Kerner recommends "pressing instead of thrusting in missionary position, or trying woman-on-top," both of which maximize clitoral stimulation.
Nicole suggests these positions: "Place her legs on your shoulders during missionary position, enter her from behind when she's on all fours, or, when she's on top, put a pillow under your butt to raise up your pelvis."
The British research (really just a review of previous studies) confirmed that women do indeed prefer a thick penis. The reason: "The greatest number of nerve endings are in the lowest part of the vagina," Nicole says. "So when a thick penis pushes against the labia and lower vaginal walls, it provides intense, pleasurable sensation.
"But men with thinner penises can provide a similar experience by penetrating in the positions described above or moving his hips in a circular motion while thrusting."
Why are men so worried about penis size? Part of the reason is pornography--21st century man has seen plenty of prodigious penises on his screen. Most women don't want that.
"When women watch male adult entertainment stars humping away like lobotomized underwear models," Nicole says, "it's almost always with a cringing, confused expression."Getting pummeled with a giant penis is painful, not fun. The majority of women don't consider bouncing up and down on a Poland Spring bottle to constitute great sex."
Herbenick, a researcher at Indiana University, says penile worries arise from "cultural myths and stereotypes about penis size that stem from television, movies, jokes told among friends, and advertising messages from companies that present false information about penis size in order to sell products that probably don't even work."
Lou Paget, Ph.D., author of The Great Lover Playbook, said point of view matters--literally."The majority of men compare themselves to something they see in adult material. They haven't seen another man's penis up close," she says. "But women see them all the time. And we see a whole range of sizes."Men only see themselves, and look at a different angle than women -- looking down.B]"In other words: Your penis looks bigger to women than it does to you.[/B]
And don't forget that there's a lot more to sexual and relationship satisfaction than penis size and positions. Like communication, Herbenick says: "Trust and believe your partner if she says, 'Honey, you're fine' or 'I like you just how you are' rather than second-guess yourself."The irony is that men spend so much time thinking about their anatomy when they should be thinking about hers. "It's a man's knowledge of female anatomy and ability to stimulate a woman in all the right ways that determines whether or not we're happy in bed," Nicole says.And don't forget foreplay. "Twenty minutes of erotic foreplay with a guy who has a penis the size of a Sharpie will be far hotter than 2 minutes of sloppy groping from a dude with a johnson the size of a [words=http://fleshlight.sjv.io/c/348327/302851/4702]FleshLight[/words]," Beland says.And finally, guess what really matters? Don't groan -- it's personality.
"Of course it's more important than any physical aspect of a man's body," Nicole says. "Any woman who thinks otherwise isn't worth dating."
LifeScript Healthy living for women http://www.lifescript.com/Life/Sex/Nookie/Does_Size_Really_Matter.aspx
Men obsess about their bodies just like women. Too fat, too tall, too small… Does size really matter when it comes to our sexual pleasure? Read on to find out. Plus, how much do you know about his equipment? Take our quiz…
When it comes to size and aesthetics, it’s a rare guy who wants an honest assessment of his anatomy. But every so often, women hear this question: “What do you think of my penis?”
That’s sure to jolt you out of a post-coital daze. Should you lie? Tell the truth? But what’s so surprising about this question is the naked vulnerability it reveals – sort of the male equivalent of Does this make me look fat?
I once got “the question” when I was seeing a man who was smaller than I preferred. But I was enormously attracted to him and the electricity we generated could have lit up Times Square
In that unguarded moment, I think I liked him even more for giving me a peek at his anxieties. And so I said, quite honestly, “Absolutely. It’s amazing.”
When it comes to sexual insecurity, women haven’t cornered the market. For all the reassurances from urologists, sex therapists and former girlfriends that it’s not the size of the boat but how they captain it that matters, guys still wonder: Does size matter? More important: Do I measure up?
Yes, size matters. But not the way men might think it does.
Too Big
“We’ve put such inflated importance on size, and as a result, women’s eyes are bigger than their vaginas,” says Anne Semans, marketing director for the sex toy boutique chain Babeland (Babeland.com).
Semans knows women’s size preferences, at least when it comes to dildos. Babeland’s most popular model measures six inches long and 1¼ inches around, though women have sought longer and fatter.
“The cultural perception is that bigger is going to feel better,” Semans says. But, she adds, that’s not always the case.
In fact, women who overreach often end up returning dildos (unopened, of course). “Too big and you’re going to need a lot of lube, there’s going to be a lot more friction and it might chafe,” Semans says. “Even your orgasmic contractions may be less powerful.”
Logically, the same holds true for penises of the non-silicone variety. It doesn’t matter how many Long Dong Silvers show up in adult entertainment flicks. Many women may initially enjoy the sight of a big guy, but their next reaction is often Ouch! That poor girl!
My friend Shari, 38, agrees. She’s dated guys who were too long and too thick. “If it’s too big, it can be overwhelming and painful,” she says. “You have to really be ready to deal with something that large.”
And here’s something else guys don’t take into account when wishing for more inches: A woman may be reluctant to vault that big pole again.
“You can be sore the next day and not so eager to have intercourse,” Shari says. “There were definitely times I said, ‘Don’t poke me with that thing.’”
My friend Alice, 31, understands that all too well. She confesses she was so saddle-sore after a romp with a bigger-than-usual guy that the next day she made an emergency appointment with her gynecologist. And although they dated for three months, she refused to get back on that bronco again.
“He wanted to, but I diverted him with oral sex or made excuses to avoid having sex with him,” she says.
Anecdotes aside, accommodating an extra-large penis can result in vaginal injury. Extra-long members can bump against a woman’s cervix during intercourse, causing discomfort or pain.
With larger girth, tearing could occur and cause bleeding. Making sex pleasurable with a well-hung honey comes down to three things: lubricant, patience and position experimentation.
But it’s unfair to claim that a “good fit” is up to the man. Have a couple of children the old-fashioned way, and you may not be as tight down there as you once were. That can make a slender penis feel too small.
Fortunately, toys can help. Cock rings and penis pumps can (temporarily) add girth for guys with more modest holdings.
Women can do their part by using Kegel exercises to tighten the vaginal walls, leading to a snugger fit.
“That gives you more control over your vaginal muscles so that during intercourse, you’re contracting more and harder, so that feels good for both of you,” Semans says.
Also, before writing a guy off for not measuring up, consider his ability to compensate for his shortcomings. Can he please you in other ways? Being attentive to your needs is the most important quality in a good lover, regardless of his penis size.
When it comes down to it, it’s not about actual inches, how big he is or how tight you are, but what you both do with the equipment you’ve got and how it all feels when you’re together.
Says Shari: “My husband isn’t the biggest I’ve ever been with or the smallest. But we fit together very well. It’s just right.”
Penis Size: What Women ThinkHow Big is Yours?
Penis size doesn't matter much to her. So stop worrying and start pleasuring herSmall penis syndrome.
Sounds horrifying, right?
If you're anxiously reading this article, you may already have it.
Oh, relax. It's not a johnson-shrinking virus. "Small penis syndrome" is a psychological condition in which a man thinks his manhood is too small, even though he's really on par with the rest of mankind.
Does size matter? (To her, that is.)
That age-old question was addressed by British researchers in a scholarly article this week in BJU International.
Their findings, in a nutshell (or two): 63 percent of men complained of having inferior hardware -- but none of them was smaller than normal! (Normal is between 5.5 and 6.2 inches long when erect and 4.7 to 5.1 inches around -- and don't even think about measuring at your desk.)
To make those fears all the more pointless, 85 percent of women are happy with their partner's size.
Okay, British researchers are one thing. But what do real women think?
That's where Men's Health comes in. We asked two of our favorite women: Nicole Beland, our "Girl Next Door," and Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., our "Bedroom Confidential" columnist.
"Yes, we care about the size of a man's penis," Nicole says. "But when it comes to sexual satisfaction, it's pretty far down on our list of priorities."
And having a big wood certainly doesn't guarantee her orgasm, which is more important than penis size, Debby says. "Women find it difficult to orgasm, and oral sex and hand stimulation are often more effective, as are vibrators," she says. "It's not personal -- it's just how some women's bodies work."
Nicole notes that small penis syndrome can work in a woman's favor.
"There's nothing worse than a guy who thinks he has a HUGE penis and is therefore God's gift to the ladies," she says. "That kind of guy thinks that getting an erection is pretty much all the effort he has to put into sex. The chances that the women he sleeps with are having orgasms? Slim to none."
Ian Kerner, Ph.D., sexologist and author of She Comes First, says we should worry more about her pleasure than our size.
"Usually when women complain about a small penis, it's also that they're not having orgasms," Kerner says. "If they're orgasming, it'll matter a hell of a lot less what size your penis is."
For the truly tiny or even those paranoid normal guys, Kerner recommends "pressing instead of thrusting in missionary position, or trying woman-on-top," both of which maximize clitoral stimulation.
Nicole suggests these positions: "Place her legs on your shoulders during missionary position, enter her from behind when she's on all fours, or, when she's on top, put a pillow under your butt to raise up your pelvis."
The British research (really just a review of previous studies) confirmed that women do indeed prefer a thick penis. The reason: "The greatest number of nerve endings are in the lowest part of the vagina," Nicole says. "So when a thick penis pushes against the labia and lower vaginal walls, it provides intense, pleasurable sensation.
"But men with thinner penises can provide a similar experience by penetrating in the positions described above or moving his hips in a circular motion while thrusting."
Why are men so worried about penis size? Part of the reason is pornography--21st century man has seen plenty of prodigious penises on his screen. Most women don't want that.
"When women watch male adult entertainment stars humping away like lobotomized underwear models," Nicole says, "it's almost always with a cringing, confused expression."Getting pummeled with a giant penis is painful, not fun. The majority of women don't consider bouncing up and down on a Poland Spring bottle to constitute great sex."
Herbenick, a researcher at Indiana University, says penile worries arise from "cultural myths and stereotypes about penis size that stem from television, movies, jokes told among friends, and advertising messages from companies that present false information about penis size in order to sell products that probably don't even work."
Lou Paget, Ph.D., author of The Great Lover Playbook, said point of view matters--literally."The majority of men compare themselves to something they see in adult material. They haven't seen another man's penis up close," she says. "But women see them all the time. And we see a whole range of sizes."Men only see themselves, and look at a different angle than women -- looking down.B]"In other words: Your penis looks bigger to women than it does to you.[/B]
And don't forget that there's a lot more to sexual and relationship satisfaction than penis size and positions. Like communication, Herbenick says: "Trust and believe your partner if she says, 'Honey, you're fine' or 'I like you just how you are' rather than second-guess yourself."The irony is that men spend so much time thinking about their anatomy when they should be thinking about hers. "It's a man's knowledge of female anatomy and ability to stimulate a woman in all the right ways that determines whether or not we're happy in bed," Nicole says.And don't forget foreplay. "Twenty minutes of erotic foreplay with a guy who has a penis the size of a Sharpie will be far hotter than 2 minutes of sloppy groping from a dude with a johnson the size of a [words=http://fleshlight.sjv.io/c/348327/302851/4702]FleshLight[/words]," Beland says.And finally, guess what really matters? Don't groan -- it's personality.
"Of course it's more important than any physical aspect of a man's body," Nicole says. "Any woman who thinks otherwise isn't worth dating."
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What I discovered is size does matter. It matters if it is too big and it matters because it matters to guys. But the truth is Most women(There will be the odd ones who say it is very important, but they are usually the ones who love aggressive sex.) don't care as long as the rest of the package is ideal.
