Can adult entertainment "desensitization" toward sex

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Deon

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This may have been brought up before, but for the first time, I actually believe this is true...To make a long story short I watch adult entertainment on the computer everyday before going to work and before going to bed for years and I finally think adult entertainment is the reason why I can't Keep it up during sex!!! I have been taking Viagra thinkin that is was something else?????

I kinda noticed that even after not being with a women for weeks at a time I still wasn't as into it as I should be?? I just thought hey Im gettin older maybe my T-Levels are fallin off, BUT NOOOO I think it is too much adult entertainment.

The adult entertainment was satisfying something within me on a daly basis in such a way that I desired an actual physical relationship less than normal, hense a reduced libido, desire, need, whatever you wantto call it and BAM Erection goes down!!

This is an awesaome revelation for me...

Here is where it gets weird, you guys might think I am talkin crap but I felt this: I have been adult entertainment free for like a week or a little more and I seriously think I felt some withdrawal symptoms as a result...I am irritable, I snapped at some people, I get angry and shit, short tempered, it is weird as hell...

What do you bros think do I sound like a adult entertainment addict?
 
i know how you feel.i can have erections.adult entertainment doesnt affect erections.but in my opinion masturbation affects the time you spend having sex.if i masturbate on a daily basis i cant ejaculate during sex.i can only ejaculate if i dont have a masturbation session for 3-4 days.i believe that you should stop watching to much adult entertainment and relax.and if you want to know how are your T-levels.have an hormonal blood test.it costs 16$.
 
Here is how I think adult entertainment effects my erections: When I first began watching adult entertainment I would erect no problem but after awhile(months/years whatever) I wasn't getting erections from watching adult entertainment anymore I had to play with the unit to get up when before i would consistently rise without even touching the unit....That is why I think you can become desensitized to adult entertainment over time as well...regardless I am cutting out the adult entertainment bro..lol
 
adult entertainment doesn't desensitize... what it does do is raise your standards. Just aim higher. The girls you should be going for should be hotter and skilled. There should be obvious sexual chemistry between you and your partner(s). That's probably the most important thing of all. Otherwise it's just a waste of time. My 2 cents.
 
Deon, I am in the same boat as you. I am slowly weaning myself off. I love tits and ass and all that, but what really seals the deal is all the other stuff; teasing, seduction, innuendo, making a girl smile and blush... you know, none of the stuff adult entertainment has.

Too much adult entertainment and jackin off can definitely lead to reduced libido for lots of guys. I think, as guys we get all obsessed with orgasm while good sex involves much more than just intercourse.

adult entertainment is only bad when it interferes with your ability to have relationships.
 
Yeah I think it has I have lost my ability to have intimacy...I am letting my body re wire itself with no adult entertainment or no masturbation. Watching tons of people have sex on the computer all the time has really reduced my sensativity to sex in general I think and that aint good bro...Thanks for the reply dude
 
Deon said:
Here is where it gets weird, you guys might think I am talkin crap but I felt this: I have been adult entertainment free for like a week or a little more and I seriously think I felt some withdrawal symptoms as a result...I am irritable, I snapped at some people, I get angry and shit, short tempered, it is weird as hell...

What do you bros think do I sound like a adult entertainment addict?
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Most of the guys know here that I am a recovering Heroin Addict. Withdrawals were a normal part of my life for a while. adult entertainment withdrawals, of course! I mean you get pleasure from adult entertainment, your endorphins are released, your seratonin levels are lifted. If you have experienced this pleasure for a minute you will feel withdrawals from it. Heroin is not much different (as any other addictive process)

I think it is great you are getting it under control as when the imaginary takes the place of the real we need to become worried.
 
Thanks for getting in on this Double D...I have felt this "Withdrawal" bro no body seems to believe me but I felt it, it was wild it was an aggression sort of thing I guess. adult entertainment def replaced what I was gettin at home mainly because I am not attracted to my wife 5 foot oer 200 lbs and it aint muscle (It wasn't always like that, kids and health trouble) Anywy I found my sexual release from the adult entertainment. Then I got a couple girl friends and I still was having intimacy trouble had to be because of the adult entertainment!! I had to cut it out of my life...I believe we are different and adult entertainment can effect people in different ways. I think some bros can watch as much adult entertainment as they want for years and not have a problem, but not me...lol

Yeah DD the imagination is comin back bro and with that come the erections. Gotta get the body/mind thing reconnected...HA!
 
Deon said:
Thanks for getting in on this Double D...I have felt this "Withdrawal" bro no body seems to believe me but I felt it, it was wild it was an aggression sort of thing I guess. adult entertainment def replaced what I was gettin at home mainly because I am not attracted to my wife 5 foot oer 200 lbs and it aint muscle (It wasn't always like that, kids and health trouble) Anywy I found my sexual release from the adult entertainment. Then I got a couple girl friends and I still was having intimacy trouble had to be because of the adult entertainment!! I had to cut it out of my life...I believe we are different and adult entertainment can effect people in different ways. I think some bros can watch as much adult entertainment as they want for years and not have a problem, but not me...lol

Yeah DD the imagination is comin back bro and with that come the erections. Gotta get the body/mind thing reconnected...HA!
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...and remember, perversion for men is very broad. We can get turned on by a chick that is 90 lbs and in the same evening we can get into a chick twice her size. We could take interest in gay adult entertainment, out of curiosity, as we could she-males. Sexuality is extensive in it gamut. WHen we find ourselves with the same person for days, months and years it becomes boring. What I would suggest is thinking how it would be if she (or he) were not there. I guaranty you that your adult entertainment, masturbation, etc. would be based on the person who had abandoned you.

Sex is complex. As men we are constantly changing our views on what we find attractive. But, even though our thoughts may wane from our current relationship, I beckon you to remain dedicated to your partner. If she were not there I guaranty the adult entertainment you select is as close to her as possible.

adult entertainment is strange but if we are honest with our selves we can see why it has the effect on us it does.
 
I gave up on the shit too, was dling way too much and not looking back now. My problem is that I can't concentrate, I'll be standing in the shower for 5 minutes trying to get a fucking hard-on because I get distracted by the wall tiles, or I'll start thinking about something else. O well, video tape it and send it off to Fox as a new citcom.
 
I gave up on the shit too, was dling way too much and not looking back now. My problem is that I can't concentrate, I'll be standing in the shower for 5 minutes trying to get a fucking hard-on because I get distracted by the wall tiles, or I'll start thinking about something else. O well, video tape it and send it off to Fox as a new citcom.
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Wow, poetry in motion.

I think I have no T-levels. It doesn't really matter to me I just don't get a hard-on. I barely think of women until a woman is actually presented in-front of me or I am discussing matters such as these. That is when I get a hard-on but I stop it because I don't want a boner in public. So really, the only time i get a hard-on I have to repress it. That is my problem. I dunno about you guys, adult entertainment is just boring in a way. Not even realistic. You have women who bought their looks with surgery going with men who have bought their dicks and bought their muscles through protein shakes and steroids. It just seems my standards are way to damn high.. I am looking at a world of purchased everything. I look at average women and I am like I see all your "faults" your not a jenna jameson. I mean I can't just blame adult entertainment. Blame the fashion world. Blame myself for thinking that this is remotely ok. Of the standards I have of women do I even meet my own standards of looks? Am I as beautiful as the women I desire? Imagine an overweight computer nerd with cheetos all over his shirt sweating and smelling lusting over "x" adult entertainment star not accepting the average woman would that make any sense in society? I don't see what make beautiful beautiful either.... why can't I just accept the girl next door who will accept me too. Maybe that is why marriage is shit... you look for what is "better" for bragging and showing around the work room then turn around and find nothing is in common.
 
my problem toward adult entertainment is a often probably obsession. A small viewing session of adult entertainment i already just wanna whip it out and jack off right then and there. I think i have no morals in this department i probably need help. i dont think i haven;t seen a adult entertainment movie all the way through without jacking off. I think it has major complications in my life since i have become more shy and less outgoing then i knew i was back then. Im slowly being more talkative to people, but getting out of the habit of wanting pron and just the feeling of a quick fix is a hard fix.

I find myself procrastinating more when i have adult entertainment on my mind and its basically fucking myself over.
 
Thing is it's not natural everyday males behavior, it was like 20 25 years ago when started, it still isn't natural. It's about basic selfish need to satisfy your self, naturaly trough that we satisfy other person too. If mastrubate often watching adult entertainment you just delaying or even making it impossible in your head to live naturaly, way it should be. I can totaly relate what you guys saying, it's like some epidemic, cure is obvious off course, stop watching. However, i find that mastrubating once weekly, keeping my self off hardcore adult entertainment, just a little erotica , are very effective for me, to have that sweet taste of real women in my mouth , makes me wanna chase more, talk more, meet more people. That 'sweet taste' for me is a key, and adult entertainment is a tool for destruction of that taste....just some of may thoughts on this, i just couldn't passed not to post something..:)
 
Forgetting about using adult entertainment for motivation for P.E., pornography does isolate me from my significant other. The fantasy takes over and it affects my sex life. It IS a way not to engage with the important person or people in our lives. It's safe. When you use adult entertainment as a substitute for a real sexual (emotional and intimate) relationship, which is so much more fulfilling, but also more subject to disappointments, you are limiting the possibilities of a much more exciting sex life. adult entertainment might have its place, but when it takes over your sex life, it's time to cut back or eliminate it. It can definitely desensitize you to greater possibilities.
So long as you use adult entertainment as your major sexual outlet, you'll never learn what real intimacy is all about. It's a terrible loss. And if you're involved in a long-term relationship it cheats you and your significant other. (Of course, I am not talking about using adult entertainment as an adjunct to a sexual relationship. That is a different story).
 
What do you guys need to do for a clamping routine? I can jelq without watching adult entertainment, although I remember vids in my head to get it up. Is it a better idea to just get some sets of erotica pictures like the poster above 11x8 said? I'm guessing erotica is pics of women posing, everything that is said I can deffinately see from experience of being in my brain. Yeah I stopped for two or three months and you mind does change, you need to do more or else get bored. BUT I NEED TO CLAMP GOD DAMIT!
 
Hey, i wrote up on this topic long time ago. Excellent post, i am quiting it too. Want to get more excited with my hot lady doing very basic ordinary things. Keep posted on the effects, as i will.
 
Personally, I try to avoid adult entertainment as much as possible. At one time I was addicted to it, wasted a huge amount of money on it, wasted time on it, and it encouraged me to do things in real life and have expectations which are harmful to myself and others.

Since quitting using it, I feel a lot better, happier, more free. I would recommend "quitting" to anyone.

For Penis Enlargement purposes, its tempting to use adult entertainment to if I need an erection. However, in the past I've often found that using adult entertainment with Penis Enlargement is a bad combination, because you may be tempted to ejaculate, and that can prematurely end what was going to be a good Jelq session. Your routine ends up spoiled, irregular, and taking up more time than needed.

So nowadays, if I need an erection for a Jelq session, a quarter of a Viagra pill is all I need. No adult entertainment wanted or needed. When my Jelquing is finished, I put it back in my pants, my erection dies, and I get on with my life. No messy clean up required.
 
Ironkettle;262453 said:
Wow, poetry in motion.

I think I have no T-levels. It doesn't really matter to me I just don't get a hard-on. I barely think of women until a woman is actually presented in-front of me or I am discussing matters such as these. That is when I get a hard-on but I stop it because I don't want a boner in public. So really, the only time i get a hard-on I have to repress it. That is my problem. I dunno about you guys, adult entertainment is just boring in a way. Not even realistic. You have women who bought their looks with surgery going with men who have bought their dicks and bought their muscles through protein shakes and steroids. It just seems my standards are way to damn high.. I am looking at a world of purchased everything. I look at average women and I am like I see all your "faults" your not a jenna jameson. I mean I can't just blame adult entertainment. Blame the fashion world. Blame myself for thinking that this is remotely ok. Of the standards I have of women do I even meet my own standards of looks? Am I as beautiful as the women I desire? Imagine an overweight computer nerd with cheetos all over his shirt sweating and smelling lusting over "x" adult entertainment star not accepting the average woman would that make any sense in society? I don't see what make beautiful beautiful either.... why can't I just accept the girl next door who will accept me too. Maybe that is why marriage is shit... you look for what is "better" for bragging and showing around the work room then turn around and find nothing is in common.
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I know it's an old post, and may be slightly off topic...but I must say that this is one of the most profound and accurate posts regarding society and sex that I've ever read. Truly honest and intelligent. I don't know if you post much anymore ironkettle, but you're a wise fellow. Just wanted to give props to you.
 
I will admit there was a time where I watched adult entertainment non-stop and I could even get hard/be turned on by chicks cause adult entertainment fried my horny meter out.

If you watch every once in a while cool, but if its a habit I will advise you to learn how to control it.
 
Tmember;263236 said:
Thing is it's not natural everyday males behavior, it was like 20 25 years ago when started, it still isn't natural. It's about basic selfish need to satisfy your self, naturaly trough that we satisfy other person too. If mastrubate often watching adult entertainment you just delaying or even making it impossible in your head to live naturaly, way it should be. I can totaly relate what you guys saying, it's like some epidemic, cure is obvious off course, stop watching. However, i find that mastrubating once weekly, keeping my self off hardcore adult entertainment, just a little erotica , are very effective for me, to have that sweet taste of real women in my mouth , makes me wanna chase more, talk more, meet more people. That 'sweet taste' for me is a key, and adult entertainment is a tool for destruction of that taste....just some of may thoughts on this, i just couldn't passed not to post something..:)
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real talk!
 
i agree with perdip really intelligent ive always had the same feeling but never was able to put it into words like that found that post to be genius
 
i saw some thing interesting about this

adult entertainment Addiction: The Pull of adult entertainment
Not everyone who sees adult entertainment will become
addicted. Some will just come away with toxic ideas about women, sex,
marriage, and children. However, some will have some kind of emotional
opening that allows the addiction to really grab hold. The adult entertainment companies
don't mind at all if you become completely addicted to their product. It's great
for business. Dr. Victor Cline has divided the progress of addiction into
several stages; addiction, escalation, desensitization, and acting out. For
adult entertainment addicts, I've found that there is another stage that comes first -- early
exposure. Let's look at these stages:
EARLY EXPOSURE Most guys who get addicted to adult entertainment start early. They
see adult entertainment when they are very young and it gets its foot in the door.
adult entertainment ADDICTION You keep coming back to adult entertainment. It becomes a regular part
of your life. You're hooked and can't quit.
ESCALATION You start to look for more graphic pornography. You start
using adult entertainment that disgusted you earlier. Now, it excites you.
DESENSITIZATION You start to become numb to the images you see. Even
the most graphic adult entertainment doesn't excite you any more. You become desperate
to feel the same thrill again, but you can't find it.
ACTING OUT SEXUALLY This is the point where men make a crucial jump
and start acting out the images they have seen. Some move from the paper
and plastic images of adult entertainment into the real world, with real people, in destructive
 
because i think im starting to get a bit numb i remember when i as younger i used to be all out crazy for ass tits pretty faces sexy attitude and pussy but now cus all that adult entertainment its just lowered my libido to shit
 
The thing i hate about adult entertainment is that it really is so shit. I mean would you watch a movie that had the same crappy storyline and the same crappy acting over and over again. I have not watched adult entertainment for months but i can tell you that when i did i rarely felt anything except for total boredom.
 
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