Why do people cheat in a relationship?
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The reason why I cheat in my relationship because I can say this like any other person can say "I am not perfect" and so not you so we always find things that interest us a little more than what the person we are with.
Sometimes, I like to try new things with other people to see their reaction (which is such a turn on for me). But some people just do it just because and thats the way it is.
Sometimes, I like to try new things with other people to see their reaction (which is such a turn on for me). But some people just do it just because and thats the way it is.
Actually, I view it differently, she has enough commitment to you, respect for you, and trust in you to communicate her sexual desires/needs instead of going behind your back. It's hurtful to hear, but the emotional/mental pain isn't as severe as if you found out after the fact. Personally, I would explore her missing needs and reasons for seeking out another man sexually. Communication is one key factor in a healthy relationship, letting each other know what is going on inside.rakas;520256 said:
I'm not one to judge a person's choice of consensual sexual life-style, nor am I one to deny my significant other her happiness of choices, but it doesn't mean I have to like it and live with it. The choices one makes affect the others in a relationship and should be up for discussion from all parties involved before making a finally decision. This allows everyone to have a choice in the matter affecting the relationship and the possible outcome(s) from it.
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Threak-X;520272 said:
Or you could say that she's selfish enough to try to get you to change into something you aren't since she wants something (sex) that is, in fact, rejecting in its behavior if not its intended effect (which is to get sex, let's be honest). For a woman to tell you such a thing isn't an indication of some deep emotional connection. It's putting the so called deep emotional connection on a tier below sexual desire. I've been the second man in such relationships and let me tell you that there was some deep pathology at work there and lots of co-dependence on the part of the couple but there wasn't what I would call a deep and healthy emotional connection.
With deep emotional connections people grow into one another, not apart. Do some people have perfectly happy marriages/relationships based on open sexuality? Sure, but I wouldn't say it's because of some vast personal enlightenment they've attained. Quite the contrary in my opinion.
Threak-X;520272 said:
I have no issue with the communication of such desires be it saying that she wants something kinky or even that she fancies the ass off somebody but to actually act on a desire to have intercourse with somebody else takes it a step too far and i couldn't ever see myself in a position where i would willingly accept my mate having sex with another guy. I also don't see why it should be discussed as a practical outcome, if a girl was to ask me if she could have sex elsewhere, i would quite simply say "not a chance".
MAXAMEYES;520418 said:
Exactly. I can understand if the relationship is quite casual and they do not love each other (they may like each other a lot or fancy the pants off each other however) then quite naturally i can see how it may be something to do however if you develop a serious relationship and love each other fully then i simply cannot understand how any man could grant permission to his girl to be ploughed by another man.
I'm not debating the merits of an open relationship, just under what circumstances they could be allowed.
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rakas;520339 said:
I completely agree. If a girl has the audacity to ask that question, I'd be asking questions of her.
I feel it is a pride thing more than a love or trust issue. If you can't give a woman the pleasure she could have then why would you deprive someone you love of experiencing better sex? That's like saying you can't eat pizza hut because your wife cooked a crappy meal. IMO having open communication about lacking sex life could save more relationships than hurt.
It is human nature to want different partners. If its from not knowing what sex with a different person is like or just having a sexual preference that the person can't or won't fill. I'm not saying anyone should have sex with somoen other than their partner but if you truely loved them it would be better than actually getting cheated on or being dumped.
There would be huge repercussions to letting someone into a relationship sexually and I don't think you could ever understand until it happens. You would have to have an enormous amount of trust but in theory it could work....I mean don't you want your lover to have the most pleasure out of life?
It is human nature to want different partners. If its from not knowing what sex with a different person is like or just having a sexual preference that the person can't or won't fill. I'm not saying anyone should have sex with somoen other than their partner but if you truely loved them it would be better than actually getting cheated on or being dumped.
There would be huge repercussions to letting someone into a relationship sexually and I don't think you could ever understand until it happens. You would have to have an enormous amount of trust but in theory it could work....I mean don't you want your lover to have the most pleasure out of life?
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rebel2011;520443 said:
No. I want her there to cook my meals, clean my skid marks, paint the house, bring me a beer and let me unload my balls in her holes. And if she cheats, I'll beat her like a cop beats a minority.
rakas you are entitled to the type of relationship you want to fulfill your happiness as well as your mate/spouse. You're open to the communication of it, but under no circumstances open to the actual act of it, fair enough. If she has no respect (love) for your wishes, concerns, she will commit infidelity whether you know about it or not. The communication is important because everyone should be aware of the possible negative outcome/affect to the relationship. Ultimately, the decision is hers, rationally discussing your side with her about your feelings, reasons, and consequences to the relationship gives her more to make an informative decision. Also, it allows you have a choice to live with it or not if she goes through with it. You shouldn't deny her of happiness, you have to trust her to enough to make the right decision for the relationship. These are the testing/trying times to a relationship that will either create a stronger bond working through it or dissolve the bond down to nothing.rakas;520339 said:
Communication & Trust: key elements to a healthy relationship
She sounds like a Truck-Driver's Dream Woman, especially making her paint the house when you're on the road. (LoL)MikeShlort;520447 said:
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rebel2011;520443 said:
Would you honestly let your wife/partner have sex with another person to make them happy?
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