Why do people cheat in a relationship?
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People's nature is not monogamous.
People are not honest with each other.
People are afraid of loosing what they have now and keep it just in case new relationship won't work out. Think of especially women, usually they only break up when they know for sure they have a new boyfriend already.
People stay with people just for money and still need a big cock for example or hardcore sex or whatever the desire might be.
People are not honest with each other.
People are afraid of loosing what they have now and keep it just in case new relationship won't work out. Think of especially women, usually they only break up when they know for sure they have a new boyfriend already.
People stay with people just for money and still need a big cock for example or hardcore sex or whatever the desire might be.
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Because being with the same boring piece of shit is boring. People are only together in the first place for convenience. Why not get what you can while you can get it? A relationship is nothing more than a business partnership. Fuck it.
walkingmoon;519165 said:
whether people are naturally mono or it s a choice doesnt really matter to me. i feel like most people are pretty monogamous but temporarily... not for life. most people dont have 5 partners they are all fucking at the same time and trying to maintain relationships with. but they tend to stay to one while they are with them for a moment.
i think once you have kids it should change your feelings on monogamy. its just not feasible for a man to raise children in multiple families in modern urban society. pretty sure we all know trashy "baby daddies" who have kids with 5 moms and dont do shit to take care of them but all the time proclaiming loudly how great of a dad they are and "I love my kids!". If you are just getting pussy on the side i think you should talk to your partner about it instead of lying. she might be into threesomes, you never know.
in a couple relationship people should be able to discuss other partners and decide for them selves. i know my wife isnt really into having other partners (as far as I know) and i really dont think it is worth the hassle to cheat and try to deal with another womans bullshit. id rather just get a pro and call it a night if i wanted to do something like that.
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Usually when someone cheats (infidelity) in a relationship it is because something is wrong within the relationship. Intimate relationships are based on emotional attachment and having certain personal needs fulfilled by another person where one cannot provide it for one's self. When one isn't getting the emotional support needed and/or certain personal needs fulfilled, after waiting long enough, one will eventually seek for it else where.
Basic foundation of any relationship is Committment, Communication, Confidence (trust), & Compromise. Break one or any of these (4-C's) and the relationship will begin to deteriorate. Left untreated and it will eventually become completely dysfunctional and/or crumble apart. The number one 'C' to be broken in a relationship is Communication.
..hope this give some direction for you.
Basic foundation of any relationship is Committment, Communication, Confidence (trust), & Compromise. Break one or any of these (4-C's) and the relationship will begin to deteriorate. Left untreated and it will eventually become completely dysfunctional and/or crumble apart. The number one 'C' to be broken in a relationship is Communication.
..hope this give some direction for you.
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Sometimes, if they're Generals in the United States Army, like this guy:
They cheat on their wives because they're ugly, unappreciative feminist bitches like this woman:
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And then the have affairs with other women, like this woman:
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Who writes a book titled "All In", describing her sexually erotic adventures in Afghanistan and reads excerpts like this:
[video]http://www.hulu.com/watch/426525#i0,p10,d1[/video]
They cheat on their wives because they're ugly, unappreciative feminist bitches like this woman:
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And then the have affairs with other women, like this woman:
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Who writes a book titled "All In", describing her sexually erotic adventures in Afghanistan and reads excerpts like this:
[video]http://www.hulu.com/watch/426525#i0,p10,d1[/video]
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All In, as in cocks all in her holes. Tramp.
People may cheat for several reasons, first of all...monogami is a social structure and in the modern world it works good, I have hard to believe that it would work if people where screwing around with everyone ad getting kids here and there.
Men exist to reproduce and spread all there genes, they can fuck several females in a week and all those girls could get pregnant and have there child.
Girls has to carry the child for 9 months and they will try to get a partner that's good and have alpha qualities, that they think have good genes and can protect them.
Therefor it's in mens nature to look for other willing females, and girls will look for guys who are more alpha.
alpha is in my opinion someone who have a lot of the following qualities(I guess there is more stuff too.):
Power
Big dick
Money
Health
Humour
Looks
Fitness and muscles
Dominant
Intelligence
You don't have to have it all to be alpha, I think you become more alpha by having enough of some of the qualities.
You might be a fat dominant ugly rich man and be alpha but you can also be a dominant jerk with cocky humour, a big dick and looks and be alpha.
Girls will if they are not under to much social conditioning and feel that they wont get discovered, sleep with a guy who is more alpha then you.
People may also sleep with others if they feel they are getting to little attention but also if they get to much and feel constricted, they might sleep with others due to poor self esteem. and it doesn't have to be that they don't love you anymore.
I cheated 3 times with my last gf, I still loved her a lot but I had poor self esteem and felt horny and those girls where willing.
anyway the latest survey i read told me that 52% of men have cheated and 54% of the females. So I just think that's a part of life.
Men exist to reproduce and spread all there genes, they can fuck several females in a week and all those girls could get pregnant and have there child.
Girls has to carry the child for 9 months and they will try to get a partner that's good and have alpha qualities, that they think have good genes and can protect them.
Therefor it's in mens nature to look for other willing females, and girls will look for guys who are more alpha.
alpha is in my opinion someone who have a lot of the following qualities(I guess there is more stuff too.):
Power
Big dick
Money
Health
Humour
Looks
Fitness and muscles
Dominant
Intelligence
You don't have to have it all to be alpha, I think you become more alpha by having enough of some of the qualities.
You might be a fat dominant ugly rich man and be alpha but you can also be a dominant jerk with cocky humour, a big dick and looks and be alpha.
Girls will if they are not under to much social conditioning and feel that they wont get discovered, sleep with a guy who is more alpha then you.
People may also sleep with others if they feel they are getting to little attention but also if they get to much and feel constricted, they might sleep with others due to poor self esteem. and it doesn't have to be that they don't love you anymore.
I cheated 3 times with my last gf, I still loved her a lot but I had poor self esteem and felt horny and those girls where willing.
anyway the latest survey i read told me that 52% of men have cheated and 54% of the females. So I just think that's a part of life.
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I believe most men cheat because they are unhappy in the relationship they are in.
But now you are thinking well no shit.
The question is why are they unhappy?
I believe the answer to this is because most guys will latch to the first woman that gives them any attention instead of exploring their options or they just don't want a change or they like having regular sex to just bust a nut while they go look for better options.
But now you are thinking well no shit.
The question is why are they unhappy?
I believe the answer to this is because most guys will latch to the first woman that gives them any attention instead of exploring their options or they just don't want a change or they like having regular sex to just bust a nut while they go look for better options.
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There is the conquering new turf factor. It is fun and exciting to bang and claim new pussy. It's a very narcissistic thing to do.
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AdmiralLongDong;519379 said:
This is the best response. Women think the exact same way for new cock.
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Peruano, I have a positive opinion about open relationships in regards to satisfying us emotionally and sexually.
People still might want some strong kind of partnership to raise a family I believe, but it need not be marriage.
To me the only reasons these kinds of relationships haven't been accepted is because people strongly believe in what society showed them a relationship should look like, they have FEAR of what others will THINK of them if they themselves were in such a relationship, and they have an intense jealousy that exhibits itself in several ways, mostly through not wanting to see others enjoy the same kind of relationship with someone they like, but also seeing third parties do this.
As for why people cheat, I can only guess it is because they want to be with someone different. Variety is a good thing in my opinion in nearly all facets of life. I hate to use a food analogy, but it works. If you try a another style of your favorite dish, even if it turns out to not be as good, you will still enjoy it, and chances are you will enjoy your favorite dish even more the next time you have it. When we don't allow ourselves or our partners to be open about who we befriend or get intimate with, and make ourselves afraid of being honest about how we feel, why then do we expect our relationships to not become dishonest?
There are more complex reasons for specific examples but I think that the want of a variety of emotional and sexual relationships is the main reason.
People still might want some strong kind of partnership to raise a family I believe, but it need not be marriage.
To me the only reasons these kinds of relationships haven't been accepted is because people strongly believe in what society showed them a relationship should look like, they have FEAR of what others will THINK of them if they themselves were in such a relationship, and they have an intense jealousy that exhibits itself in several ways, mostly through not wanting to see others enjoy the same kind of relationship with someone they like, but also seeing third parties do this.
As for why people cheat, I can only guess it is because they want to be with someone different. Variety is a good thing in my opinion in nearly all facets of life. I hate to use a food analogy, but it works. If you try a another style of your favorite dish, even if it turns out to not be as good, you will still enjoy it, and chances are you will enjoy your favorite dish even more the next time you have it. When we don't allow ourselves or our partners to be open about who we befriend or get intimate with, and make ourselves afraid of being honest about how we feel, why then do we expect our relationships to not become dishonest?
There are more complex reasons for specific examples but I think that the want of a variety of emotional and sexual relationships is the main reason.
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Damn dirty hippie
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I cheated when I was a younger man, I guess it had a lot to do with dividing and conquering, the whole male alpha thing. As I got older I started to see how much work cheating really was and decided being with one person would be so much easier
Today I am single and celibate, much by choice. I have more interest in my work than I do sex and females. I would rather give that time to you guys, MOS is a big enough girlfriend!
Today I am single and celibate, much by choice. I have more interest in my work than I do sex and females. I would rather give that time to you guys, MOS is a big enough girlfriend!
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I'm going to be the opposite. I'm going to be a sac of shit towards women until I'm too old to pull anymore. Can't wait!
Two primary reasons..
1) Humans are not naturally monogamous (though we are equally not the fuck and chuck type), in the wild we are pack animals and so the males of the group will have sex with all the females in the group and raise the children as their pack. This is a little like a lion rather than a bear who will meet the female and then never see her again.
2) Love is fleeting, love is the subconscious recognition of a compatible mate but over time you will likely fall out of love (there are many women you can fall in love with through your lifetime)
I've never understood how you can claim to love somebody and cheat or be in an open relationship, i view that as a rejection of love from/to you/her.
1) Humans are not naturally monogamous (though we are equally not the fuck and chuck type), in the wild we are pack animals and so the males of the group will have sex with all the females in the group and raise the children as their pack. This is a little like a lion rather than a bear who will meet the female and then never see her again.
2) Love is fleeting, love is the subconscious recognition of a compatible mate but over time you will likely fall out of love (there are many women you can fall in love with through your lifetime)
I've never understood how you can claim to love somebody and cheat or be in an open relationship, i view that as a rejection of love from/to you/her.
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