Single again

I'm single, I have like one real friend left who's not really available to hang out at night, where and what do I do to meet women? I have no problem talking to women, it's just that a single lonely looking guy in a bar isn't really that attractive imo. I've never been part of the bar scene and don't know that I could just waltz in and fit in with the crowd. I could go to the club, but again I feel weird going by myself...do I have an issue I have to get over here? Anyone got any tips?

Try internet. Obviously you'll have some real misses with that one, but there are more and more people successful with that. If I had the time and ability to manage a relationship at this point in my life, there's no question I'd go that route.

I've been single my hole life (pun intended).

Anywhere man. As a matter of fact clubs and bars are some of the worst places to meet girls, since every more or less attractive girl has like 10 guys hitting on her. Try this: come up to a girl in the street and ask her "Excuse me, can I ask you a quick question?" -Sure "Are you single?" she'll say something like -why? "Because I know an extremely attractive guy that would really like you" And handle it from there. P.S coffee shops are good too.

Zurik said:

Anywhere man. As a matter of fact clubs and bars are some of the worst places to meet girls, since every more or less attractive girl has like 10 guys hitting on her. Try this: come up to a girl in the street and ask her "Excuse me, can I ask you a quick question?" -Sure "Are you single?" she'll say something like -why? "Because I know an extremely attractive guy that would really like you" And handle it from there. P.S coffee shops are good too.

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I'm starting to see these openings. Like I was at TGIF eating with my friend, and the hostess chick looked at me and I looked right into her eyes and didn't look away, she looked away and then looked back....there was my chance but I didn't take it. Seems like all the hot girls work in restaurants around me. Also saw a few cutie's at the bookstore. Time to step my game up and get some numbers. I just need to get out more. I feel weird tho when I'm by myself, I'm more confident when I'm with friends...If I were to get shot down we'd laugh it off and try again.

AnotherGuy said:

I'm starting to see these openings. Like I was at TGIF eating with my friend, and the hostess chick looked at me and I looked right into her eyes and didn't look away, she looked away and then looked back....there was my chance but I didn't take it. Seems like all the hot girls work in restaurants around me. Also saw a few cutie's at the bookstore. Time to step my game up and get some numbers. I just need to get out more. I feel weird tho when I'm by myself, I'm more confident when I'm with friends...If I were to get shot down we'd laugh it off and try again.

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Thats exactly it. And not only that, I've found that so long as you "do the right things" while not really caring about the results works much better. For example, I was at a club this past Saturday. I saw lots of hot girls there, and must have seemed interested in many of them, because they pretty much wouldn't give me a second look. But there was a girl there that was somewhat eyeing me. Pretty cute girl, but for some reason I just didn't care at all. She ended up coming over to flirt with me a bit, and again I kind of blew her off. I would talk to her a bit, but just didn't care really.

She came up to me later, and gave me a nipple twister out of nowhere. ? I was confused, as shit. All my friends said she was just a cock tease. So I walked up to her and said, "hey that was pretty inappropriate of you, if I did that I'd get kicked out". She opened up her shirt (had a tank-top on underneath) and said go ahead. We talked a bit, I was just cocky and didn't really care about the outcome, I turned around for a second, and when I turned back she handed me a beer she had just bought for me. First time a girl has ever flirted with me, and bought me a drink.

So not really caring about the outcome, and kind of doing the right things is what worked for me in that situation. You can do this pretty much anywhere, with almost any girl. Some will take it differently than others though.

esteban said:

Thats exactly it. And not only that, I've found that so long as you "do the right things" while not really caring about the results works much better. For example, I was at a club this past Saturday. I saw lots of hot girls there, and must have seemed interested in many of them, because they pretty much wouldn't give me a second look. But there was a girl there that was somewhat eyeing me. Pretty cute girl, but for some reason I just didn't care at all. She ended up coming over to flirt with me a bit, and again I kind of blew her off. I would talk to her a bit, but just didn't care really.

She came up to me later, and gave me a nipple twister out of nowhere. ? I was confused, as shit. All my friends said she was just a cock tease. So I walked up to her and said, "hey that was pretty inappropriate of you, if I did that I'd get kicked out". She opened up her shirt (had a tank-top on underneath) and said go ahead. We talked a bit, I was just cocky and didn't really care about the outcome, I turned around for a second, and when I turned back she handed me a beer she had just bought for me. First time a girl has ever flirted with me, and bought me a drink.

So not really caring about the outcome, and kind of doing the right things is what worked for me in that situation. You can do this pretty much anywhere, with almost any girl. Some will take it differently than others though.

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That's awesome! A chick bought you a drink...Salude!

I just went to the gym today and started getting into my workout and some nice eye candy decide's to start her workout slightly to the left of me...maybe 2ft to the left and 5ft forward. What a cutie, but I now have a rule about dating and picking up girls....don't eat where you shit. I won't pick up girls at the gym because I don't want things to ever get uncomfortable. Just like the chick who cuts my hair, she's foine, natural blonde/blue, nice body real cool to talk too and she's single. But I like the way she cuts my hair so I won't ask her out cuz if it went bad I'd need to find a new hot hair stylist I know they sound like excuses but I really want my personal routine to be there without getting screwed up.

IMHO, it's easier to find a new hairstylist than a good, quality chick. Now, if you're just looking to bang her, I can see where it would cause problems and might not be worth it, but if you're talking "ask out" you might see potential relationship qualities and it ain't everyday you find that. Go for it, if you feel compelled.

AnotherGuy said:

That's awesome! A chick bought you a drink...Salude!

I just went to the gym today and started getting into my workout and some nice eye candy decide's to start her workout slightly to the left of me...maybe 2ft to the left and 5ft forward. What a cutie, but I now have a rule about dating and picking up girls....don't eat where you shit. I won't pick up girls at the gym because I don't want things to ever get uncomfortable. Just like the chick who cuts my hair, she's foine, natural blonde/blue, nice body real cool to talk too and she's single. But I like the way she cuts my hair so I won't ask her out cuz if it went bad I'd need to find a new hot hair stylist I know they sound like excuses but I really want my personal routine to be there without getting screwed up.

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By all means, you are correct in your thinking. I worked with my most recent ex, and when things went wrong....hell I don't work there anymore, enough said. I had to get out. So yes, be very careful with where you pick up a girl, but the gym might actually be a place where you want to be uncomfortable. I say that because I am a bit at my gym. My ex kissed another guy right in front of me while we were dating. It turns out that this guy started working out at my gym. So now...he's nothing but motivation for me when I see him.

I'm getting tired...Hydromaxmm...might do 2-3 less reps this set. Oh look who it is...no I think I can do a few extra reps....maybe another set. Maybe more weight too.

Yeah, work is a little different, but I would not let a gym or salon influence my decision of whether or not to chase tail.

I've learned that from my own experience, being 'single' is not a bad thing. It allows me time to regroup. You do have to be semi careful when trying to date girls you work with to a degree. Learning to keep a semi professional attitude between the two of you at work... separating the dating mentallity from the at work mentallity is a good idea. When youre at work, dont be all clingy, and 'loveedovee'...give her her space. If things dont work out, you can still work comfortably around her. I love dating girls I work with so far. LOL, I've tapped the 'pool' again so to speak. Went out with another girl from work last night, and things went great. Looks like the start of another potential relationship. We'll see what happens, but I'm always optimistic. :cool:

stillwantmore said:

I've learned that from my own experience, being 'single' is not a bad thing. It allows me time to regroup. You do have to be semi careful when trying to date girls you work with to a degree. Learning to keep a semi professional attitude between the two of you at work... separating the dating mentallity from the at work mentallity is a good idea. When youre at work, dont be all clingy, and 'loveedovee'...give her her space. If things dont work out, you can still work comfortably around her. I love dating girls I work with so far. LOL, I've tapped the 'pool' again so to speak. Went out with another girl from work last night, and things went great. Looks like the start of another potential relationship. We'll see what happens, but I'm always optimistic. :cool:

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Good for you that you can keep the two separate. I have no problem being professional at work, but its just wierd seeing her after we broke up, period. I guess that has more to do with how you break up rather than if you work with them though. But seeing her at work 5 days a week was a real bad reminder of something I wouldn't care to ever repeat, so I suppose thats my reasoning. Wish I coulda dated more girls from that work though....my god the females there were about 65% college girls or trophy wives.

Well that didn't take long. I hung out with this chick I met online like 6 month's ago, dissed her 6 month's ago too...lol Hung out last Friday at her friend's watched a movie, then this Friday went and saw Constantine and she invited me in but I declined, Then she invited me over last night and I went. We watched TV for a while and I attempted to get her horny about 3 time's and got rejected all 3, but I don't quit in the face of rejection I just change my approach. Well needless to say she went from saying "I don't want you to think I'm that type of girl" to "Do anything you want to me" And that's literal, put it on my dick. Sadly I have to say I couldn't bust a nut, I had to be hittin it for over an hour and she kept cumming and stayed wet :eek:, I was dripping sweat and finally just gave up cuz at a certain point working soo hard for a nut seems ridiculous. She offered me Head but I didn't really want it at that point. Oh well...Her pussy was really tight too, felt like I was jelqing when I was pulling out...dayum. Why the fuck couldn't I nut, damn condoms! She mentioned something about a threesome too...gonna have to push that button

ah damn you... good job, and definitely see whats going on with the threesome.

I had a similar experience the first time with my ex, couldn't climax no matter what. dunno why. all mental i'm sure.

its good to see that people are getting some help and putting it to use on the site for something besides Penis Enlargement. congrats man.

she make any comments on your size?

nice dude...

slayman said:

its good to see that people are getting some help and putting it to use on the site for something besides Penis Enlargement. congrats man.

she make any comments on your size?

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Only comment I got was after I eased myself in and starting grinding her, she got starry eyed and said "DO ANYTHING you want to me" I didn't need her to say anything about my size after that, I did get a few owe's when I went balls in...just backed off a bit. Girl's petite like 5'4" 110lbs, her wrist was thinner than my dick :cool:

I think I overcame my fear of rejection and am getting much more confident. I'm starting to notice the women who notice me, now to go get their numbers :scratchch

I did find out there's a chick in one of my stops that sweats me, gotta talk to her friend and find out what's up...I might have a mid-day work booty call :cool:

thats cool, i was asking cause im pretty similar in size. Trying to figure out how much more i need to go with Penis Enlargement.

AnotherGuy said:

We watched TV for a while and I attempted to get her horny about 3 time's and got rejected all 3, but I don't quit in the face of rejection I just change my approach. Well needless to say she went from saying "I don't want you to think I'm that type of girl" to "Do anything you want to me" And that's literal, put it on my dick.

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Details. Details. I want details!!! Romantic duds like myself need to learn these approaches. Nothing works for every chick, but describe what you were doing that didn't work and how you turned things around. I'll buy you a drink someday if I make it out of "loserdom" in the minds of chicks.

penguinsfan said:

Details. Details. I want details!!! Romantic duds like myself need to learn these approaches. Nothing works for every chick, but describe what you were doing that didn't work and how you turned things around. I'll buy you a drink someday if I make it out of "loserdom" in the minds of chicks.

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Well I was kissing her, then I got her legs laying over my lap and started rubbing them..worked my way to the inner thigh, tried to get the snatch but got rejected...working the clit always gets you laid, once she's hot and wet it take's alot of Will for them to say no and most don't. After being rejected and called on what I was doing I just played it off like "What? me do something like that, never" smirk. I tried the same approach once more and got rejected again, but also got much closer. Then she laid her head on my lap, which gave me insta-wood...I would assume she felt the growth. I started rubbing her neck and gently rubbing my fingers behind her ears in the nape of her neck(edge of the hair). After a lil of this she brought me to the bedroom, wher I thought it was on. We talked for a lil while in bed then started messin around and I tried getting to the holy grail again, but again I was knocked away...and that's when I got turned it around. The tone in her voice was playful at that point and I picked up on it, So I started rubbing her breasts and snuck my way into her bra. Got to the nipple and started the tongue action, lil bit of circling to tease and then a mouthful and light suck. She was liking it so I started playing with her thighs again and got to the clit, where she again tried to stop me, but I got to the clit and started rubbing and she was liking it so I kept it up. Got her worked up, guided her hand down to my Crotch and started recieving a hand job. I continued to work her clit till she was very wett and she started squirming and moaning, once I felt it was right I moved in and asked if she wanted to have sex, in a gentle soft voice of course. She said we could and I jumped to the wallet for my freshly placed condom and put that bad boy on. Then I eased my way inside, she's petite and I thought I'd hurt her, but she took it quite nicely, plus she was very wet. worked it low for a while then started pounding away, just kept changing the rytHydromax up until I started finding what was getting her off, she liked long stroke's and some grinding. Too bad I didn't nut I could have probably bust in her mouth...she did say she swallows... :cool:

I think the key to getting laid is maintaining a friendly humorous environment, be a tease. If she rejects you blow it off and lay back for a while, try again when you see an opportunity. If she like's you she's gonna give it up. I think some guys get mad and give up, me I just see it as a game, except I cum to win. Don't give up and don't keep doing the same thing, play off her, find things that get her hot, work them and try to find other things, once you pick up enough you can string them together and play her guitar :cool: Think of it as picking up girls 10 out of 100 should talk to you and have potential, so what you get rejected 90 time's...just think about the other 10 and work for it.

My main issue is getting up to talking to a girl. Once I get in the bedroom it's my court and I have the ball. I'm very confident in the sheets