Low Confidence

No worries DLD, I know sometimes we build things up in our heads too much, but for some reason I think this will be great for you. I wish you the best luck.

Low confidence is damn terrible low confidence+low selfsteem=a terrible life

Wazedi, Low confidence is not fun, I've been through it. I ain't fun and it sure as hell ain't no walk in the park. But regardless how bad it was, I abandoned most of my low self esteem. How? I kept on pushing my comfort zone, and it worked for me.
Now I don't know what works for you, but since you're a part of the brotherhood I sincerely hope you will get over it and manage it.
I'm also only 20 years old and poor on Experience, but they say that wisdom does not come with age(they could be wrong) but I'm still gonna give you some advice.

- Push yourself sometimes. Sometimes its easy to do nothing. It's easy to just watch TV and play video games, or just hang out with friends. But don't forget to push that comfort zone sometimes. Change the rules for your own good.

- Invest in yourself. Thats how I managed it the most. I couldn't find new friends, did not study etc. So I started started working out. I then gained some 'flame' if you can call it that. And then I invested in my looks a bit. Focused on hair, cologne, clothing etc. And suddenly I was on the right track. I started Studying again and I moved out of my Moms house, gained new friend like myself. Now P.E. is the tip of the iceberg for me. Go invest my friend.

- Keep it cool. Never lose your sanity. Control yourself and remember you're doing this for you, and maybe someone else also. But It would not start, if you did not get benefits from it. Challenge yourself, but be yourself.

I hope it did not write this too late. Wish you the best, keep it real

Great advice,you fought against the things that bothered you and you beat them up,changing your habits,lifestyle,way of thinking..

thats what i am trying to do now...small steps to be more confident and build a nice enjoyable life

wazedi;642164 said:

thats what i am trying to do now...small steps to be more confident and build a nice enjoyable life

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Small steps is what its about, they lead to big changes. For me and my confidence it has always been a battle because I expect things to change quickly. I had to learn to be patient and take my time.

doublelongdaddy;642267 said:

Small steps is what its about, they lead to big changes. For me and my confidence it has always been a battle because I expect things to change quickly. I had to learn to be patient and take my time.

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Well said DLD, I think we tend to focus too much on what we don't have versus what we want. Based on my life experience we need only think about what we want, never give a thought to what we do not want, while simultaneously enjoying our life or appreciating it moment by moment. Semper Fi.

well said bro, live in the present

doublelongdaddy;642267 said:

Small steps is what its about, they lead to big changes. For me and my confidence it has always been a battle because I expect things to change quickly. I had to learn to be patient and take my time.

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yep exactly, the same happens to me,my mind wanted quick results n didnt happen thats why i havent been able to accomplish the goals i have,its quite frustrating but your words allowed me to know what im supposed to do,i have been emotionally hurted because of that,things cant change quickly takes time.....

shortdick;642316 said:

yep exactly, the same happens to me,my mind wanted quick results n didnt happen thats why i havent been able to accomplish the goals i have,its quite frustrating but your words allowed me to know what im supposed to do,i have been emotionally hurted because of that,things cant change quickly takes time.....

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The biggest reason many do not accomplish their goals in life is because they have unrealistic expectations. Now, this in itself is not bad, have high expectations can be used as a good thing. If you allow yourself room for a lower goal and also implement a higher goal, shooting for the bigger goal may land you right in the smaller goal. Kind of a way to trick the mind. I guess the best way to say it is Shoot for the stars but be happy if you only get to the moon.

wazedi said:

Hello brotherhood.i wasnt here for a long time,probably for like 6+ months but i was doing my p.e.Many thing on my life is going great but my confidence is very very low.Long story short the last 2 years of life was a train wreck.The girlfriend i loved cheated on me i lost interest about my studies and both of my parents lost their jobs.We are ok now but still i dont have enough money(100-120$ per month for me)so thing for me the last 2 year is much tighter than it used to be,i had depression.i know welcome to the adult life.but last summer i freaked out and realise i have to make my own luck.i start going at my university everyday,studing and doing my hw,i am trying to train as much as i can,my cock is bigger,generally trying to make my self as much as i can better person and professional.But still my confidence is very low and scared when i talk to girls.I feel like i dont have the balls to do anything diffrent.My psychology is diffrent.
Anyway,If anyone can give me some tips or a nice book about confidence it would very helpfull.A friend of mine told me to read a book"how to manipulate people"
i dont remember the exact title but he told me that help him cause he knew better how to talk and behave on them.

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For me, a bigger dick gave me so much confidence but I still feel shy when I approach ladies. I drink beer to lose the shyness when I want to approach a lady for the first time.

wazedi said:

Hello brotherhood.i wasnt here for a long time,probably for like 6+ months but i was doing my p.e.Many thing on my life is going great but my confidence is very very low.Long story short the last 2 years of life was a train wreck.The girlfriend i loved cheated on me i lost interest about my studies and both of my parents lost their jobs.We are ok now but still i dont have enough money(100-120$ per month for me)so thing for me the last 2 year is much tighter than it used to be,i had depression.i know welcome to the adult life.but last summer i freaked out and realise i have to make my own luck.i start going at my university everyday,studing and doing my hw,i am trying to train as much as i can,my cock is bigger,generally trying to make my self as much as i can better person and professional.But still my confidence is very low and scared when i talk to girls.I feel like i dont have the balls to do anything diffrent.My psychology is diffrent.
Anyway,If anyone can give me some tips or a nice book about confidence it would very helpfull.A friend of mine told me to read a book"how to manipulate people"
i dont remember the exact title but he told me that help him cause he knew better how to talk and behave on them.

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The best thing to increase your confidence is to build it up the right way, and
not by building for example: big muscles (can help), but you need to go deep into yourself. One important aspect you are going to discover with time, is that it doesn't matter what anybody else are thinking about you (or what you think they are thinking about you).
Because the truth is that most people are mostly not focusing on you, but are focusing on themselves and many people have the same issues as you have. Just this will make you accept yourself more and become more confident in yourself. You do not longer come from a "victim" mentality but instead from a mentality of; I have great confidence in my self, my own social value and my self respect are strong. By the way, you create your own social value before you interact with people.

Nobody knows what I'm feeling deep inside. And when you concur your fears long enough, these will not be your fears any longer, to the point of looking back and not understanding why you where afraid of it in the first place, for example: Talking to women or social anxiety. Many people have some nervousness in regards to meeting new people, only with this knowledge can make you more relaxed and confident in yourself.

You can look at a person and see if they have true inner confidence, or a glued on conference. A glued on confidence is a person that try to assert oneself to everyone around them, the so called "Alpha" personality trait (even when these concepts are not valid, I'm mentioning it as a reference point). They are not just them confident in themself, but they need to prove that to other people constantly, for example by bragging, push other people down and talk a lot.

If you focus on yourself and create a confidence in what your are doing, and you do what you want, and not what anyone else want you to do then you will find your own way and confidence in yourself. You know you are doing the right thing and you will in time accomplish your goals.

Do not focus on women, women will come into your life when you are on your journey in life. Do not chase then, and do not put them on a pedestal. ���� can create this for you.

You will stop to see yourself as lacking of confidence and instead see yourself as a person that can do anything he puts his mind to. I'm not limit by my past, I can create my own future.

Hope this helps.