It's just not fair <:(

I had a post in the main forum similar to this but I felt posting one in this forum would be more suitable.

It just seems wherever I go I feel people are talking about how small penis is even though I have a decent flaccid size (about 4.75x5, erect size about 7.1x6 bp). But it seems no matter what pair of jeans I wear the top part always sticks out a little bit and I think it makes people think Im small.

The other night I was at a club and I saw a girl do the classic small sign to here friend. (You know the one Im talking about). I have tons more stories where Ive heard people talking about my size just be looking and the way it appears in jeans or shorts. It just doesnt make sense. I have an above average flaccid size, as well as above average erect size, but it doesnt matter and Ive been told I am an extremly handsome guy, and Im really tall (6'3) and very athletic but none of that matters because girls wont even give me a chance to take my pants off.

This frustrates me so damn much It's like I spend hours trying to buy a pair of jeans or shorts or something just to make sure my penis looks ok in them its like I cant even shop for style anymore. And I could live with this if I really was below average or average size but thats just not the case and I dont think my life should have to be this way.

This post is mostly just a vent but if anyone has any good advice or life lessons they would like to share

I wouldn't worry about it. If a girl looks at your crotch and writes you off because you don't present "the package" then she's not worth knowing. Don't worry about it so much either. Penis Enlargement and make your flaccid size bigger if it's bothering you. Of course they could have been saying good things about it, you never know.

scubaman70 said:

I had a post in the main forum similar to this but I felt posting one in this forum would be more suitable.

It just seems wherever I go I feel people are talking about how small penis is even though I have a decent flaccid size (about 4.75x5, erect size about 7.1x6 bp). But it seems no matter what pair of jeans I wear the top part always sticks out a little bit and I think it makes people think Im small.

The other night I was at a club and I saw a girl do the classic small sign to here friend. (You know the one Im talking about). I have tons more stories where Ive heard people talking about my size just be looking and the way it appears in jeans or shorts. It just doesnt make sense. I have an above average flaccid size, as well as above average erect size, but it doesnt matter and Ive been told I am an extremly handsome guy, and Im really tall (6'3) and very athletic but none of that matters because girls wont even give me a chance to take my pants off.

This frustrates me so damn much It's like I spend hours trying to buy a pair of jeans or shorts or something just to make sure my penis looks ok in them its like I cant even shop for style anymore. And I could live with this if I really was below average or average size but thats just not the case and I dont think my life should have to be this way.

This post is mostly just a vent but if anyone has any good advice or life lessons they would like to share

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can anybody till me y the e_mails never come to me in pics just links???

My heart goes out to you and I am happy you have asked for help. First I would like to agree with philadelph that, indeed, it is all in your head but these "head" things have a very creative way of manifesting themselves into a very real problem. I don't think your problem is paranoia, although that is something you are going through, but more obsession and possibly compulsions. I go through very similar problems and can attest to things seeming very real...so real that I believe other people know what is in my head. It has caused me unnecessary hardships and has robbed me of even the most basic normality of life. Obsessions are extremely debilitating but there are things you can do to help give you better quality of life.

Let me relate this to myself and a typical situation, this will show how insidious this problem really is. For me it starts out as a simple thought...I will be looking at �naked people movies� and I think to myself, "wow that guys dick looks huge...I wonder if he is bigger than me" Most people would have this thought, soon forget it and go on with watching their movie but my brain does not work that way. The thought will spin in my head like a record and start a mental skip...."wow that guys dick looks huge...I wonder if he is bigger than me"..............."wow that guys dick looks huge...I wonder if he is bigger than me"..............."wow that guys dick looks huge...I wonder if he is bigger than me"....Eventually my concentration is lost and I get a nagging desire to challenge the thought with "real" evidence and prove it wrong. At this point the movie gets paused on the guy, I get every possible measuring device and start the long, fruitless task of proving the thought incorrect. Sound fun yet? Next I measure or compare or weigh or whatever gives me a rational conclusion in this mental dilemma. (did I just say rational?) Let's say this was a good night and I actually proved to myself I was bigger or longer or thicker or any other penis related "er". I then go back to the movie feeling pretty accomplished, I proved it wrong. Maybe a minute goes by and a new thought replaces the earlier one...."Maybe you measured wrong" then the argument starts between me and me. me will be played by the blue and me will be played by the red.

"Are you sure you measured right"...."I am positive"...."Nau, maybe you did it too quickly"..."No, I remember, it was a very accurate measurement"..."Just do it again to be sure"..."I don't have too, I just measured"....."What's a matter, scared?"...."No" ..."Then just do it"......

This thought pattern will go on until I go back and double check then the entire scenario starts over again. This could go on for 15 minutes or an entire day depending on when the record in my brain stops skipping. A double check will quickly become 3rd, 4th, 5th....100-check.

The problem with this proof, being the actual compulsion, is the obsession uses it as fuel to make it's value that much bigger...that much scarier. With each episode the obsession grows larger than life. Even though, at the time, I think the proof is helping it is really keeping me in bondage. An episode like this could put me in a mood where I think everybody knows my problem. My girlfriend, Jen, may make a totally innocent comment like "I'm feeling sorta sick" and, of course my deranged mind hears "you have a little dick" As sili as this sounds this is how far this insidious problem will go. It will fuck up my night, my relationship, my sex drive, my motivation...everything and this is only one example of my many obsessive problems.

I understand that your problem is different than mine but every obsession and compulsion share many of the same traits. I hope you are able to see the similarities in our situations. There is hope and things can get better but you will need to take charge and fight this thing. Again, I would rather relate this to myself in hopes it helps you. When an intruding thought comes in my head I need to make a decision to just ignore it. Such a simple thing but ignoring the starting thought will rob the obsession of it's powers and eventually you will be able to move on. When an obsessive thought has been around a while it dies hard so prepare yourself for battle. It may take time to erase these beliefs in your head but I promise you it is worth it. When you take charge and fight back it leads to a much better quality of life.

I can tell you all day long that no one is thinking about your bulge but until you believe it the words won't stick. This belief comes from you and your ability to destroy these obsessions. Here are some links to some articles I have wrote on the subject. I hope it helps.

If your 6’3 ,very athletic ,extremly handsome and chicks wont give you a chance to take off your pants.I don’t think buyin a pair of jeans to show your packing down stairs is going to help solve the problem. To me it sounds like you need to sort out your game with chicks.

I dont know...are you positive that is why the ladies brush you off? Maybe all you are thinking about is your penis, wondering if they can see your actual size somewhat thru your pants, and you think everytime a woman walks away, its because of your "small" penis, but in reality it has nothing to do with your penis? Your mind can make you believe many things.

i am going through the same thing as you, and sometimes people still say shit about me. even after i made my gains one friend of mine refered to me as "hung like a mouse" only because i don't have that bulge in there, seein how i have high riders. however he revealed his size and i'm at least a good solid 2 inches more than he is, i'm normal what he is erect!!! it doesn't matter though, they seem to forget easy because i don't have that bulge. it's an unfair thing and it seems to always happen to me. sometimes i would walk by a girl or somethin and i would get a look, good ego boost...true that they aren't going to see it and i'm only givin it to kittie...but it's still nice to know that i went from being made fun of to the exact opposite. however sometimes i get that feeling that they are judging me, or i watch �naked people movies� and i see the dudes dick is bigger than mine and i get upset, and it goes right back to highschool where i felt like the smallest dude in the world, which is why i'm now on a fuckin rant and spree to try to reach my goals by the beginning of next year. i can't stand just not having any gains. i'm afraid that even when i get to my goal that i'll feel the same way. when i first started out i felt like 7 inches would make me feel great, but it didn't....then i thought it would be 8 inches...then 9...and i'm still feeling like i'm not enough. kittie has no complaints, she praises me and tells me she loves it. and i'm glad she does and sure that she does. i'm just not happy with what it's at. trust me man i feel your pain......

You guys make no sense whatsoever. I'm doing Penis Enlargement because I just want to improve what I have already not because I feel I'm inadequate. Please forgive me if I seem harsh.

Sam; you have a girlfriend who clearly in previous posts tells everyone how great you are so I'm confused why you'd be hung up on size.

Scubaman70; don't worry about dumb shit like that. Women are always going to be measuring the same way we guys will measure and unless she's a size queen she'll be squealing when you stick it 'em.

DLD; I dunno what to say to that, you're a monster and still feel like you can't compare to men in �naked people movies�? You should be making the �naked people movies� with that tool.

Sorry guys, I don't mean to come off as an asshole here but sometimes the mind plays tricks on us and it takes someone on the outside to shake the cobwebs out of our heads so they're back on straight again.

that's fine. and you're right kittie does tell me that she likes it and i KNOW she does. but i started out Penis Enlargement before i even saw kittie for the first time. i had goals and i gotta meet em. i'm not doing this for her, though it's a great benifit and i love the fact that she loves it, i'm doin it for myself. and i don't mean to seem like i'm ungrateful for my gains or anything like that, i know i made progress and i know that i am bigger than the norm. it's just in my head that this happens. it doesn't make any sense or anything, it's just somethin i have to do for myself. there are plenty of motives behind it, well mainly two. one, i feel like i have to live up to the "black stereotype". i'm half black and when people find that out they automatically think i'm packin heat, even members within my own family talk about how "if i'm a part of the family then i should have no problems in that area". and there i was with a just above5 inch erect dick! and also the whole highschool scene didn't help that out that much. i know i don't have to live up to the stereotype or anything like that. like i said before i know kittie loves my size and i'm glad in that aspect that i pleasure her and can give her good quality satisfaction. i'm in this game to make it so i can hold my head up high and say "yeah i aint got nothin to hide". that's slowly startin to happen within my family and i'm feeling more apart of the group. i just have to keep it goin.

sorry for the ranting

Maybe you guys are right that I am just being paranoid, I actaully have a pretty intresting story on the development of my complex that Ill post later when I have more time.

I guess its just that certain things get to me when I cant explain why they are happening. Even today every time I pass by a guy at work they give the classic "Hows it goin" and then I see them start adjusting pants, or putting they're hands in their pockets. And Im just like damn does my dick look that small....

doublelongdaddy said:

Maybe a minute goes by and a new thought replaces the earlier one...."Maybe you measured wrong" then the argument starts between me and me. [b

"Are you sure you measured right"...."I am positive"...."Nau, maybe you did it too quickly"..."No, I remember, it was a very accurate measurement"..."Just do it again to be sure"..."I don't have too, I just measured"....."What's a matter, scared?"...."No" ..."Then just do it"......


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This right here, I think like this all the time to myself, and challenge myself and talk to myself in 3rd person like that.....And whenever I catch myself doing it I wonder if thats normal, do other people think and challenge themselves like that in the Third person????
I always thought you were sposed to think "I" have to do this rather than "you" to yourself.....

meh

Sorry Scubaman, that I can't be of any help, I think all of us have a complex of some sort, we just have to unjamble our minds.....

scubaman70 said:

I had a post in the main forum similar to this but I felt posting one in this forum would be more suitable.

It just seems wherever I go I feel people are talking about how small penis is even though I have a decent flaccid size (about 4.75x5, erect size about 7.1x6 bp). But it seems no matter what pair of jeans I wear the top part always sticks out a little bit and I think it makes people think Im small.

The other night I was at a club and I saw a girl do the classic small sign to here friend. (You know the one Im talking about). I have tons more stories where Ive heard people talking about my size just be looking and the way it appears in jeans or shorts. It just doesnt make sense. I have an above average flaccid size, as well as above average erect size, but it doesnt matter and Ive been told I am an extremly handsome guy, and Im really tall (6'3) and very athletic but none of that matters because girls wont even give me a chance to take my pants off.

This frustrates me so damn much It's like I spend hours trying to buy a pair of jeans or shorts or something just to make sure my penis looks ok in them its like I cant even shop for style anymore. And I could live with this if I really was below average or average size but thats just not the case and I dont think my life should have to be this way.

This post is mostly just a vent but if anyone has any good advice or life lessons they would like to share

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Why don't you put a pair of oranges down your pants in the crutch, you can support them in a sock so that they do not fall out when you walk. That will give them something to talk about.

Do you guys really think people walk around all day staring at others crotches???? I'm not talking about people on here.....most people in everyday life have enough going on in their own lives (problems, business, etc.) and really could less give a fuck about the size of your dick......Come to grips with reality, the world is not centered around you and it should definitely not be centered around your dick.....i think many people on here just dont have enough going on in their lives that they become obsessed with one small part of their anatomy...well me being one of those people, I know where your coming from, but damn your stressing yourself over something no one else really gives a shit about or would ever know for sure about the size of your dick

if that were true then many of the guys here on these forums wouldn't be here. comments are made, things hurt, that's the way it's been in my life and i'm sure many others. if you didn't have anything said to you then consider yourself lucky. i on the other hand have had people makin fun of me, both men and women.

samzman said:

if that were true then many of the guys here on these forums wouldn't be here. comments are made, things hurt, that's the way it's been in my life and i'm sure many others. if you didn't have anything said to you then consider yourself lucky. i on the other hand have had people makin fun of me, both men and women.

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I have had things said to me.......but the key is to not let it take over your life. And were talking about bulges here, flaccid..........means absouloutely nothing.

samzman said:

if that were true then many of the guys here on these forums wouldn't be here. comments are made, things hurt, that's the way it's been in my life and i'm sure many others. if you didn't have anything said to you then consider yourself lucky. i on the other hand have had people makin fun of me, both men and women.

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Maybe it's just because I'm an asshole who refuses to take any shit from people I barely or don't know...(of course if there are five people talking shit to me I know better) if someone made fun of my bulge or package or the lack there of, they'd have my fist going across their nose and then again with my left in their throat just as fast. I'd slap him and grab him from the back of his hair and pull him close and ask him, "Since we know each other so well while don't you tell me something, what do you want to do now?" then I'd throw my weight back completely and kick him in the jaw lol Try that next time...it'll make ya feel better!

I have felt the same way about not having "the bulge". I know that I am average, maybe a little above average, as far as flaccid, but it doesn't show at all. I think the main reasons for this are that my package seems like it is positioned a little lower than some (if it was higher, it would stick out instead of hang) and also, I've got fairly free-hanging balls (if they were smaller/tighter this would push one's penis out instead of down. I don't worry about it too much though. I just wish girls understood that "the bulge" doesn't necessarily mean someone has a big dick.

If I were you man, I would not worry about it. If they are immediately judging you based on whether you have a bulge or not: A) they don't understand that it doesn't really play a big role in determining size, and B) they are too shallow to be worth your time. Just my opinion.

iwant8inches said:

Maybe it's just because I'm an asshole who refuses to take any shit from people I barely or don't know...(of course if there are five people talking shit to me I know better) if someone made fun of my bulge or package or the lack there of, they'd have my fist going across their nose and then again with my left in their throat just as fast. I'd slap him and grab him from the back of his hair and pull him close and ask him, "Since we know each other so well while don't you tell me something, what do you want to do now?" then I'd throw my weight back completely and kick him in the jaw lol Try that next time...it'll make ya feel better!

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trust me i thought about it :D

matts22 said:

I just wish girls understood that "the bulge" doesn't necessarily mean someone has a big dick.

If I were you man, I would not worry about it. If they are immediately judging you based on whether you have a bulge or not: A) they don't understand that it doesn't really play a big role in determining size,

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very true.