im having sex problems and its causing insecurity

so the girl ive been dating for a month and a half and i just started having sex a few weeks ago but we r always busy so we only fucked 4x so far. The problem is she cums but i cant cum at all. I can fuck her for 2 hrs and not cum. The first time we fucked i fucked her from 6am till almost 9am and didnt cum. Its not bothering me too much but its bothering her because she gets insecure that i dont cum from having sex with her.
the other day we were having sex and i wouldnt cum so she told me to masterbate while she played with herself. I started masterbating and came within a minute and go more pissed that i couldnt come from sex for over an hour. I was thinking the problem is that i masterbate wayy too much around 4-5x a day on avg but ive cut down to once a day or once every 2 days but still no help. What can be the problem because its really bothering me. Im hoping someone can help me

honestly i don't know if this is a problem...there are plenty of women out there that wish there guy can go the fraction of the time you can...i wouldn't mess with it to be honest...i would suggest after she cums a couple of time...you pull out (not sure if you are using rubbers or not) and just jerk off on her if she doesn't mind that...or have your suck you til you cum...now i have a problem coming from bj's...but i would tell you if she feels insecure like she isn't satisfying you...just ease her mind and tell her that its not her...you love being inside her..but that's just how sex goes with you...but after a couple of hours of non-stop sex it's not even fun anymore ...just whenever your ready to blow pull out and jerk off on her like i said...but let her know how amazing she felt.

Fuck her insecurities. Your a sex god to most other women. Tell her to get over it and enjoy. If she can't move on and you'll find a woman that won't stop bragging about you to her friends.

you guys are right. she gives good blow jobs but for some reason it seems i can only cum from masterbating and from a secret fetish i have =x lol.
she just gets annoyed cause she wants to make me cum. Im thinking of quiting masterbation period because i am addicted to it and i think maybe my cock got too used to my hand

bigtyivier;322234 said:

you guys are right. she gives good blow jobs but for some reason it seems i can only cum from masterbating and from a secret fetish i have =x lol.
she just gets annoyed cause she wants to make me cum. Im thinking of quiting masterbation period because i am addicted to it and i think maybe my cock got too used to my hand

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Can she jerk you off?

4-5 times a day is ALOT man....like everyone said lasting that long is actually a GOOD thing most women see. I would stop jacking off period...start humping more and maybe encourage her to do kegel exercises? Maybe her pussy isnt giving the friction you need to cum.

yeah i was thinking of telling her to kegel when im inside her.
she does jerk me off but her hand around my cock feels not as good as my own lol
she also gives me blowjobs before sex but i cant come from those either =(

Stop whacking it for a couple weeks and see what happens.

I have the same problem.

1. Huge libido. honestly I think it would be nice if it was half of what it is.
2. Can't cum easily in my girl. Although I do cum after a half an hour of pounding her.

My girl is having issues with it too. Women don't think you are a sex god when you rub them raw. They think you are a jerk.

I would say that you should do more foreplay. Even things like back rubs. Light kissing without tongue. Don't worry about what you want just make her feel like the luckiest girl on the planet. Just work her up for a long time and you'll be ready to blow.

whats the evil dark fetish?

bigtyivier;322234 said:

Im thinking of quiting masterbation period because i am addicted to it and i think maybe my cock got too used to my hand

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That is EXACTLY what the problem is.

This has become an unknown epidemic. Run a search and you'll find loads of forums full of guys with ����-induced ED.

I quit masturbating and watching ���� completely a week ago when I noticed that I was no longer getting hard ons from checking out real women.

Your brain literally physically changes as a result of these habits. You become neurologically conditioned to the feeling of your hand or the visual stimulation from watching ����. Think about it, you've had sex with your hand 1,000 more frequently than with a woman. It sounds strange, but your brain begins to accept this as what's natural.

Do yourself a favor. Stop jerking off. Stop watching ����. Stay away from it, and your body will regain it's natural responses to live women.

���� addiction is a tough demon to slay. You should find some support forums online. It's generally harder to break than a drug addiction. The mental images don't leave your system. ���� is fast, easy, and free. Find someone to hold yourself accountable to.

Stay focused, and keep hardening your resolve. Sex is so much more satisfying without it.

its weird oyu cant come from BJ's. i cum from bj and handjob but sex is difficult because i think pussy is to lose so im going to suggest kegels.

Heat89;324331 said:

That is EXACTLY what the problem is.

This has become an unknown epidemic. Run a search and you'll find loads of forums full of guys with ����-induced ED.

I quit masturbating and watching ���� completely a week ago when I noticed that I was no longer getting hard ons from checking out real women.

Your brain literally physically changes as a result of these habits. You become neurologically conditioned to the feeling of your hand or the visual stimulation from watching ����. Think about it, you've had sex with your hand 1,000 more frequently than with a woman. It sounds strange, but your brain begins to accept this as what's natural.

Do yourself a favor. Stop jerking off. Stop watching ����. Stay away from it, and your body will regain it's natural responses to live women.

���� addiction is a tough demon to slay. You should find some support forums online. It's generally harder to break than a drug addiction. The mental images don't leave your system. ���� is fast, easy, and free. Find someone to hold yourself accountable to.

Stay focused, and keep hardening your resolve. Sex is so much more satisfying without it.

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My girlfriend noticed how long I take to come and she asked if I jerked off a lot. She told me a story about a friend of hers who had bought herself a toy called a magic wand. She was a complete slave to her toy. It could make her come instantly and more times than her boyfriend could. Infact it got so bad she couldn't come with her boyfriend anymore. Needless to say her boyfriend started feeling really useless. She finally gave up on the wand and things got back to normal.

Now I try to not masturbate between sex with her. I find my orgasms with her are better too.

I think fetish sex can be like this too. I went through a phase of really being into BDSM. All my fantasies were about dominating women.

Somehow I turned normal naked sex into a fetish. Now it gives me as much of a hard on as the kinks used to. It really is about programming your brain.

bigtyivier,

If I can't come right away my girlfriend lets me jerk off and she'll just take the head in her mouth. Or she'll use her hands on me as I get close to blowing. Sometimes she just lies next to me and just rubs her hands on my chest.

If you just mix it up a bit and enjoy the moment, things will work out for you. Just talk to your girl about it and explain it's just how you are and not an issue about her looks or skill.

Oh yeah, relax and have fun.

I have been in that situation before and found with time and experience that the mind is all you really need to put you over the top. Don't stress about comforting her insecurities, this will only add to your anxiety levels. Focus on the things that turn you on and fantasize about them.

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Do you take anti-depressants?

They are known to make it harder to ejaculate...

I like the idea of stopping all masturbation and the watching of ����. Keep at it and relax. Don't worry if you don't cum, but do tell her HOW you like her to jack you off. Assure her that it is not HER fault that you don't cum. Stretch the sex out. Do a lot of relaxing and just fondling of each other.

I've always had a problem of lasting too long--sounds great for the woman, but after a while I realized that I was not allowing myself to enjoy the complete sexual experience. I was cheating myself. She was having multiple orgasms and I had to finish off myself. When I relaxed and let her ever so gently rub (more like tickling) my sensitive under glans, (I love blow jobs, but she finds me too large for that), I started having multiple orgasms--mind blowing orgasms lasting up to a minute or longer.

Many of us, again because of these phony images from ����, think we have to be these super sex performers rather than learning to be open and vulnerable to women.

Keep at it and believe me, things will change for the better.

This is a blessing. You will cum eventually as the trust grows in your relationship. In the mean time, tear that shit up for the marathon 3 hour fucking