I am at a crossroad with continuing PE

Since my hysterectomy thread got derailed with jokes....

My wife is facing a hysterectomy very soon. They've been running tests and scans and hopefully there's no cancer or we're really screwed. They need to remove her cervix and uterus from what we're being told. Fortunately the upper 1/3 of her vagina should remain intact.

Sex can be painful for her at times if I hit too deep and she's not positioned right. This was almost never a problem before PE. I've gained enough so far that she regularly needs to tilt her cervix. For you guys who don't think 1" in length is a lot, well, IT IS.

So now I'm unsure how to proceed. After the surgery (date isn't set yet) and recovery sex should go back to normal. Actually it should be better since she won't have pain. Maybe it will fully expose both the anterior and posterior fornixes. I know during sex the uterus will pull back to extend the vagina and I'm not sure how that will work after the surgery. Those are questions for the doctor.

So right now I'm not sure if gaining more is in our best interests. I may not be able to add more length, maybe just some girth and that's it. I need to really think about all this and talk to her doctor.


It's a constant struggle. We knew this was a possibility a few years ago and now it's a reality. Tough times. We'll get through it though.


For now I think I may ease up on length a bit, just do hand stretches. Girth I can gain more still so I think I'll focus on that more for a while. I'm not sure which direction I'm going to be honest.

I pray everything goes well for you and your wife.

huge-girth;764786 said:

I pray everything goes well for you and your wife.

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Thank you. This isn't going to be easy. Hoping for the best possible news later this week.

Sometimes life gets in the way for whatever the reasons and we have to put things on hold for a while. Focus on what's more important right now. You can always resume PE later on.

stillwantmore2;764813 said:

Sometimes life gets in the way for whatever the reasons and we have to put things on hold for a while. Focus on what's more important right now. You can always resume PE later on.

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This is true. I am going to keep going at it for now best I can. I'll know more of what's going on and when in a few days.

cladre60;764829 said:

This is true. I am going to keep going at it for now best I can. I'll know more of what's going on and when in a few days.

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You need to do the most important things first. You can always come back to PE.

cladre60;764829 said:

This is true. I am going to keep going at it for now best I can. I'll know more of what's going on and when in a few days.

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Get in what you can whenever you can so you maintain. Maybe 5 minutes here and 5 minutes there.

Fortunately she has you to support/love/nourish her in any way that she needs and being 'the best you' (whatever that entails) is the best gift you can give her. Sometimes taking an hour to maintain and recharge is all that's needed, but imperative to providing for her and family. Stay strong and you have all of us pulling for a speedy recovery

doublelongdaddy;764889 said:

Get in what you can whenever you can so you maintain. Maybe 5 minutes here and 5 minutes there.

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The plan at the moment is exactly that - do PE when possible until I'm certain of everything they're removing and how it's going to effect our sex life once she heals. After surgery I'm hoping size is no longer an issue as right now I can accidentally hit her cervix much easier than before.

If gaining more length is going to be an issue I'll switch to girth for a while until I'm as thick as she can handle and be satisfied knowing that I'm still above average. All of this will determine my final PE goals. I don't want to kill her, just completely fill her.

Big Schwanz Acht;764893 said:

Fortunately she has you to support/love/nourish her in any way that she needs and being 'the best you' (whatever that entails) is the best gift you can give her. Sometimes taking an hour to maintain and recharge is all that's needed, but imperative to providing for her and family. Stay strong and you have all of us pulling for a speedy recovery

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Thanks. It's going to be a difficult journey. While she knows the surgery will eliminate her pain she's still upset that the ability to reproduce will be taken from her. She's had her tubes tied for a decade but that didn't take away all ability to have a child (either through reversal or a test tube baby). I guess the only way you can compare it to men is saying "we're going to remove both your balls but we'll give you testosterone so you still feel like a man."

No clue how long her recovery will be but we'll get through it financially somehow. Worst case I have to lean on family for help. My job is secure but once I use all my vacation time I'll have no income and we have no savings. It'll all work out though, I have faith. Plus I won't be completely out of work during all this. I'll work days and hours that I can while she's recovering. Might not be full time hours for a few weeks but something will be better than nothing. We'll survive, we always do.

...plus this procedure has been done countless times and the medical technology has made it much less invasive (still a major surgery, but she'll be soooo much better for it, guaranteed!!)

Big Schwanz Acht;764911 said:

...plus this procedure has been done countless times and the medical technology has made it much less invasive (still a major surgery, but she'll be soooo much better for it, guaranteed!!)

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Yes she will. It'll eliminate the pain she's been going through.

I'm really hoping both forenixes are undisturbed from this and she's still able to fully expand to accommodate length. If so once I'm hitting them at the same time things are going to be insane. In the end the surgery could turn her into a total squirting orgasm machine.

Just hoping for the best possible news later this week and outcome. If we hear the C word however this will turn into a nightmare quick.

I’m so sorry to hear this I agree with most other posters. Be there for your wife. Perhaps if after she recovers your size is actually an issue, you will have good reason to stop. Hell I wish I had a reason and someone who cares about me enough where I didn’t have to PE. I envy your situation and will be praying for ya!

RR04;764915 said:

I’m so sorry to hear this I agree with most other posters. Be there for your wife. Perhaps if after she recovers your size is actually an issue, you will have good reason to stop. Hell I wish I had a reason and someone who cares about me enough where I didn’t have to PE. I envy your situation and will be praying for ya!

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Thanks. I don't think size will be an issue after she heals but we'll find out.

And sometimes us married guys envy you single guys. Grass always looks greener thing

As others have said, be there for her and be her rock and that alone will help her get through it. As for you, you have a large brotherhood in your corner to help you get through it as well. Wish the best for the both of you and please keep us posted on how things are going

Lookn4girth;764932 said:

As others have said, be there for her and be her rock and that alone will help her get through it. As for you, you have a large brotherhood in your corner to help you get through it as well. Wish the best for the both of you and please keep us posted on how things are going

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Thank you.

I really hope her doc is cool cause I have many questions that I don't want to research. I've found if I go into those situations too armed with knowledge they tend to assume I know more than I do and skip over things. Plus each situation is different. What may apply for the majority of hysyerectomies may not apply for her.

But I don't know how to say, "last time I measured my BPEL was 6.5" and girth was 5.25". I really want to get to 7.5 or 8" X 5.75" or so. Do you think that will pose a problem for her sexually after she's healed? Will the removal of her cervix and uterus mean she can expand to take DLD's length with ease and I can shoot for an absolute monster penis? Which is it doc?"

Still working on that wording lol.


I'm not worried about anything yet. I'm usually very calm and take things as they come, deal with them, and move forward. When I get worried you guys will certainly know and I'm glad I have the support here.

I'm pretty certain the Doc will give you that perplexed look and admonish you by saying 'this procedure is about your wife's health, not your pleasure'

Big Schwanz Acht;764986 said:

I'm pretty certain the Doc will give you that perplexed look and admonish you by saying 'this procedure is about your wife's health, not your pleasure'

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Big Schwanz Acht;764986 said:

I'm pretty certain the Doc will give you that perplexed look and admonish you by saying 'this procedure is about your wife's health, not your pleasure'

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Her pleasure is part of her health so it applies lol

Hopefully, you will get good news from her Doc that will allow you get to 9 inches length