Happy new year to all the brothers. Now is the time to update this thread and unfortunalty it is not going to be a happy update. Over the Christmas period I have been talking to the dream girl from a long time ago, we have been talking very regularly and even met up. I really have begun to feel like this second chance is going to come true! But on the 1st of January 2018 this little dream smashes beyond repair I think. On the 31st I spent the evening with her and her friends in a pub and eventually club in our town. Things seemed great until 03:00 on the 1st of the new year. I heard from her friends in a local takeaway food shop that she had gone home with another guy. I walked past her house as it is near mine and saw her light was on. I knock on the door twice and eventually she answers, she seems confused and says she is tired and hungover and just needs to sleep. She also says she really likes talking to me after I subtly mention (while acting a little drunk) that her friends claimed she has taken a guy home, she denies this and wants to see me again soon. I know this is a 100% lie! For multiple reasons. 1) I walked around the block and saw her light still on nearly 30 minutes later. 2)(more significant the 1!) I know the guy and messaged him where he disappeared to after the night out, after a couple of Qs admitted he went to a girls house 3) she messaged me later saying she didn’t like my snapchat (which was a honey trap) around an hour after I left hers so she couldn’t have been that tired!
I’ve been lied to by a girl i thought was so genuine and honest, now I know I’ll get responses saying you aren’t in a relationship so who cares, but this girl is special to me as she was my 1st and the only girl who’s ever truly been interested in me and not just attention. I feel so stupid thinking she might actually still have feelings for me and want to rekindle a former romance. I poured my heart out to a very cold, cynical but realistic friend and he said make her feel guilty, ignore her messages, and make her almost hate herself for treating me that way and want to try and make things up to me. Whatever she has to say I’m not particularly interested in as she said the previous day she didn’t feel like meeting as she was basically on her period! Another lie!
I feel so angry, betrayed and upset right now by her that I don’t think I want to know her anymore! Which is a scary thought as I adore this girl. I had not seen her for 3 years but when I met up with her it felt just perfect being with her. But unfortunately I think she has just become a bad fish in a sea where many of the fish are toxic and therefore a bad catch. I just don’t know how I can try to move things forward with her and that’s what truly breaks my heart.