best way to overcome performance anxiety

I am trying to lose my virginity to my girlfreind but i cannot because my raging hard on goes away when i try to put a condom on or when i know she is ready. Its subconscious i dont even feel nervous and i am comfortable around her. What the fuck do i do? I am thinking i cud take viagra, take a benzo for anti-anxiety or fuck i duno.

ED medications do NOT lead to erections by themselves. You must be turned on for them to work. Play around with her sexually more. I think we've all been there. You'll be hard when you're ready.

ED medication is seriously not a good idea if you're healthy. Some Penis Enlargement'ers take it regularly, but I'm assuming they're taking way below the normal dosage. A guy I knew once took half a pill just to experiment and said he came close to cutting off his dick just to end the pain. That was probably hyperbole, but an extremely painful erection lasting for 4 hours is not fun.

no its not that i cant get it up. i can up until the very point i need to be. fuck i get hard around this girl so fast and stay that way for an hour of playing around if i want but then as soon as i can tell she wants me in her ill lose that shit.

man it even starts with your nick : like SHE likes ! What about your needs and how YOU like it ?

There are several things you could do. Of course a low dose 25mg viagra is the easy way out, to help you overcome the problem. Once you manage to do it , you won't have any difficulties later on.

Another thing is , realize what you think AND by this TELL your body to do.

Don't think about a pink elephant with big big ears. Wait , I said DON't and you still DID think about it, because thats how the human mind works , it HAS to imagine everything before it can understand that.

Don't THINK about BIG BREAST ! haha YOu see it always works !


So what you are doing to yourself is : Putting yourself under high pressure
speaking in your mind to yourself : I hop I will not LOOSE the Erection , I Hope I will not LOOSE the erection:

You command Yourself : LOOSE the erection , LOOSE the erection !

You see, this alone releases so much stress and adrenalin that it makes your dick shrivel up again. So what you do ?

The opposite : Play around with her AND tell yourself , pls god I don't want to get an erection , I don't want to become erect.

You command yourself : BECOME ERECT , BECOME ERECT. vuola it will work...

Beisdes , what about your needs , don't focus to much on her, why always 1 hour forplay , what about 10 minutes and stcik the fucker in while its rising up, keep telling yourself I don't like sex , I don't want to get it up :

And you mind will imagine : SEX , SEX , SEX and GET IT UP GET IT UP !!!

Understand is easy really...


even besides that , your world YOUR rules - if you say to yourself 1 hour forplay IS already part of sex AND very satisfying you will be happy , if you say its only sex WHEN you stick it in, then you are UPPING the pressure on yourself.


Besides , free yourself of any feelings of guilt , maybe you kissed around with another girl , and thats whats coming up in this moment, like : Shit i'm not worthy to have sex with this woman who loves me.

Also TAKE AWAY the importance of sex completely , its a simple and nessesary part of your life , absolutely normal and nothing special , like talking , eating , sports , and taking a shit. It just a way to communicate to a woman , nothing to worry about...sometimes you make mistakes when you talk , sometimes you don't eat right , sometimes you fuck up in sports and trip , and sometimes the hankey just don't want to come out , yah know these things though would never make you come runnin and postin asking for help on a Forum -because they seem unimportant to you ! Understand , life goes on after this no matter what.

So don't take sex serious : ENJOY it...everything of it , from the forplay , the failures , the fun of , it take eevrything with humor and fun and ironie , this way you can never fail at anything.


Good eh ?

Say lets play a game, where the point is, is for you to try stay flaccid for as long as possible, and shes trying to turn you on, and get up in whatever way she can. That way its fun, and you have 'reason' to be flaccid etc.

this happens to me as well...well sorta

Thanks for the advice guys! what do you think about taking a benzo? i have valiums, temezepam, ativan and xanax.

the click has to happen in the head ANYWAYS, or do u need a drug dependency ?

What do you think about actually trying what already was suggested to you , then report back and only then ask about more invasive methods...???

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tbirdy;291950 said:

the click has to happen in the head ANYWAYS, or do u need a drug dependency ?

What do you think about actually trying what already was suggested to you , then report back and only then ask about more invasive methods...???

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what!? why the hell do you think? this isn't something i want to repeat more then i have to. duh?

tbirdy;291950 said:

the click has to happen in the head ANYWAYS, or do u need a drug dependency ?

What do you think about actually trying what already was suggested to you , then report back and only then ask about more invasive methods...???

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People have suggested alcohol in other posts of this topic, which can be more problematic than just about any other drug.

To the original poster, if you're going to use benzos, use the smallest amount possible to even get the slightest relaxation. If possible, you could use marijuana (check your local laws of course! ) as a safer alternative.

You could always have her put the condom on you and have her put the dick inside her herself. That would prolly keep u erect

10inchadvantage;291975 said:

People have suggested alcohol in other posts of this topic, which can be more problematic than just about any other drug.

To the original poster, if you're going to use benzos, use the smallest amount possible to even get the slightest relaxation. If possible, you could use marijuana (check your local laws of course! ) as a safer alternative.

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Again, experimentation on every level could be the determining factor in gains or not.

yea I had that problem because I was so insanely nervous but when I looked back at it when I failed (twice) with two previous girlfriends I realize that one I had been forced into the relationship and two they weren't my type, I'm just glad to hear that I wasn't alone. But yea dude it's all in the head I don't really know how but thinking about it and worrying is probly what causes ya to go down

goosefaba;292051 said:

yea I had that problem because I was so insanely nervous but when I looked back at it when I failed (twice) with two previous girlfriends I realize that one I had been forced into the relationship and two they weren't my type, I'm just glad to hear that I wasn't alone. But yea dude it's all in the head I don't really know how but thinking about it and worrying is probly what causes ya to go down

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Yeah, a girl whose personality you're not jiving with is a huge turnoff for me as well. It's pointless to get hard over them unless you just want to use someone's vagina to get off.