I guess my thought is that I don't want to be with a player, just like girls don't want to be with guys that are players. A girl who has to have a giant cock is also probably a big player. Like guys who only want girls who have a certain size of tits and perfect ass.
You can't hold a conversation with a pair of tits. At some point you might want to move above the neck.
If my girl was wishing my cock was 9" long, I'd be at a loss what to do to satisfy her. I'd also feel like she doesn't love me.
Most women want a nice guy. A guy who actually cares about them.