I believe we are all unhealthily fixated on our penises. Don't take that as an insult, it's just a conclusion I have reached.
However, can we be blamed? I for one have not met a single person who claims to have less than 7". What's more, the penises I have seen have been enormous. I have seen people measure in front of me, 7, 8, 9 inches and 5.5 inches or more in girth. Growing up has been difficult. Although one can rationally be comfortable with one's penis size, the irrational part of your brain becomes fixated and it is difficult to let go. I see my penis in the mirror or in the shower, and I impulsively measure with the hope of seeing some sort of gain. I have abandoned any attempt to improve my size as I felt that regardless of any real-time gains that I achieved I would never be satisfied.
My on-off partner says 'you are good' or 'you have nothing to worry about' and then at other points mentions that her ex had a 6 inch girth and it 'feels amazing'. The gap between good and amazing is like a yawning cavern. My measurements are far from shameful, 6" length, 4.65" girth. Many men would kill for the safety net of 'average'. But what are the connotations of average? Boring, normal, adequate, acceptable, 'good', fine and okay.
This is where the problem lies. I'm sure you've all reached this conclusion yourselves. The desire to be outstanding, unique, perfect, lies in all walks of life. In my case, I am the strongest out of my close peer group whilst also being the most academically successful by far. This is overridden by the penis issue. If one is not intelligent, then the chances are that intelligence is not an issue, as they are too stupid to know of its merits. If one is not strong, they can steer clear of strenuous exercise or simply lie about their achievements. The penis issue haunts men in a way no other attribute can. If one is genuinely small to the point of usability, then that is a size issue. That size issue will infect every other walk of life; confidence will suffer, self esteem will suffer, the person may retreat and 'curl up' into themselves and become a devout introvert. However, even a usable, normal size can cause these effects depending on the stimuli around you. Me, having seen many large penises in person is stuck with a feeling of injustice; why me? why couldn't I have this genetic advantage as well?
Of course this is down to greed, which is a natural attribute of humans. The problem is that the issue is unshakable. Logic dictates the people whose penises I have seen showed them BECAUSE they were big, and following from this, the ones which I haven't seen are not big. The same applies to my strength. I show it off, BECAUSE I have it. Would I show off being weak? Of course not. Nonetheless the 'deficiency' grows stronger the more large penises you see. The internet is inescapable; adult entertainment is everywhere, bitchy women proclaiming that small penises make you pathetic, unlovable and destined to a miserable existence. Even this forum is full of people with stats in their signature which are claimed to be to help monitor progress, but one can almost count on those men being well endowed to start off with. This is a form of unconsciously showing off. Even I have done it. My signature on this forum is so precise in the measurement. You want to squeeze out as much as you can. In order to feel better about ones assets another person must be made to feel worse. This is why I believe it is a fixation for which there is little to no cure.
Generally intelligent men fall victim to it; their minds are overactive. My mind races with jealousy, greed and envy whenever my peers pull out their 8 inchers, or when the girl I'm talking to tells me of how 'amazing' so-and-so was in bed. The cure to this is to stop thinking. The chances of that happening are next to none.
I am trying to become fixated on my assets, not my 'shortcomings' (although rationally average cannot be considered a shortcoming...) This post is being logged primarily as a form of self councelling but also with the hope that it will shed new light on anyone who also feels they have become fixated on what is essentially a non-issue. Repeat after me; Penis size is a non-issue. Could you truly love someone who thought you were inadequate? If a woman thought you were ugly, could you truly love her and trust her? The same applies to penis size. Few women will be concerned. It is not an issue except to the bearer. We blow it out of proportion with our own intelligence. Women can get over it. So can you.
However, can we be blamed? I for one have not met a single person who claims to have less than 7". What's more, the penises I have seen have been enormous. I have seen people measure in front of me, 7, 8, 9 inches and 5.5 inches or more in girth. Growing up has been difficult. Although one can rationally be comfortable with one's penis size, the irrational part of your brain becomes fixated and it is difficult to let go. I see my penis in the mirror or in the shower, and I impulsively measure with the hope of seeing some sort of gain. I have abandoned any attempt to improve my size as I felt that regardless of any real-time gains that I achieved I would never be satisfied.
My on-off partner says 'you are good' or 'you have nothing to worry about' and then at other points mentions that her ex had a 6 inch girth and it 'feels amazing'. The gap between good and amazing is like a yawning cavern. My measurements are far from shameful, 6" length, 4.65" girth. Many men would kill for the safety net of 'average'. But what are the connotations of average? Boring, normal, adequate, acceptable, 'good', fine and okay.
This is where the problem lies. I'm sure you've all reached this conclusion yourselves. The desire to be outstanding, unique, perfect, lies in all walks of life. In my case, I am the strongest out of my close peer group whilst also being the most academically successful by far. This is overridden by the penis issue. If one is not intelligent, then the chances are that intelligence is not an issue, as they are too stupid to know of its merits. If one is not strong, they can steer clear of strenuous exercise or simply lie about their achievements. The penis issue haunts men in a way no other attribute can. If one is genuinely small to the point of usability, then that is a size issue. That size issue will infect every other walk of life; confidence will suffer, self esteem will suffer, the person may retreat and 'curl up' into themselves and become a devout introvert. However, even a usable, normal size can cause these effects depending on the stimuli around you. Me, having seen many large penises in person is stuck with a feeling of injustice; why me? why couldn't I have this genetic advantage as well?
Of course this is down to greed, which is a natural attribute of humans. The problem is that the issue is unshakable. Logic dictates the people whose penises I have seen showed them BECAUSE they were big, and following from this, the ones which I haven't seen are not big. The same applies to my strength. I show it off, BECAUSE I have it. Would I show off being weak? Of course not. Nonetheless the 'deficiency' grows stronger the more large penises you see. The internet is inescapable; adult entertainment is everywhere, bitchy women proclaiming that small penises make you pathetic, unlovable and destined to a miserable existence. Even this forum is full of people with stats in their signature which are claimed to be to help monitor progress, but one can almost count on those men being well endowed to start off with. This is a form of unconsciously showing off. Even I have done it. My signature on this forum is so precise in the measurement. You want to squeeze out as much as you can. In order to feel better about ones assets another person must be made to feel worse. This is why I believe it is a fixation for which there is little to no cure.
Generally intelligent men fall victim to it; their minds are overactive. My mind races with jealousy, greed and envy whenever my peers pull out their 8 inchers, or when the girl I'm talking to tells me of how 'amazing' so-and-so was in bed. The cure to this is to stop thinking. The chances of that happening are next to none.
I am trying to become fixated on my assets, not my 'shortcomings' (although rationally average cannot be considered a shortcoming...) This post is being logged primarily as a form of self councelling but also with the hope that it will shed new light on anyone who also feels they have become fixated on what is essentially a non-issue. Repeat after me; Penis size is a non-issue. Could you truly love someone who thought you were inadequate? If a woman thought you were ugly, could you truly love her and trust her? The same applies to penis size. Few women will be concerned. It is not an issue except to the bearer. We blow it out of proportion with our own intelligence. Women can get over it. So can you.
