So I'm in a bad spot

cladre60 · May 16, 2017

I don't really want to go into the specifics so I'll paint some broad strokes.

There's something major I feel like I need to do. I've asked for a sign on which way to go in life and I was basically slapped in the face with the answer. This isn't something small, it's huge but it'll change some very big problems.

It's going to piss off some people to the point it will probably end some relationships. That could be a good thing though. It will be life changing. There may be failure, it's always possible, but even if some things fail other doors will be opened so I'm not very worried about that.

Why am I so afraid to take the first step and put it all in motion? Once I start there's no stopping. It will be like dropping an atomic bomb on my life and I'll be left to rebuild. I'm prepared for the rebuilding, I know what I'm getting into and there will be times I'll be lonely and feel like maybe I made a mistake but in the end it will all be better.

So how do I get the balls to start? I feel like I'm holding a knife to my stomach and that first step is plunging the knife in. It'll all heal eventually but I'm just afraid to do it.

megamike · May 16, 2017

cladre60;731164 said:
I don't really want to go into the specifics so I'll paint some broad strokes.

There's something major I feel like I need to do. I've asked for a sign on which way to go in life and I was basically slapped in the face with the answer. This isn't something small, it's huge but it'll change some very big problems.

It's going to piss off some people to the point it will probably end some relationships. That could be a good thing though. It will be life changing. There may be failure, it's always possible, but even if some things fail other doors will be opened so I'm not very worried about that.

Why am I so afraid to take the first step and put it all in motion? Once I start there's no stopping. It will be like dropping an atomic bomb on my life and I'll be left to rebuild. I'm prepared for the rebuilding, I know what I'm getting into and there will be times I'll be lonely and feel like maybe I made a mistake but in the end it will all be better.

So how do I get the balls to start? I feel like I'm holding a knife to my stomach and that first step is plunging the knife in. It'll all heal eventually but I'm just afraid to do it.

look brother,whatever change you are thinking about doing,just go ahead and do so. if your heart and mind tell you this is the right thing to do then do it. don't let doubt and fear get in the way of your future and prospects. do as I do,just say fuck it and dive in brother!

Sinthious · May 16, 2017

cladre60;731164 said:
I don't really want to go into the specifics so I'll paint some broad strokes.

There's something major I feel like I need to do. I've asked for a sign on which way to go in life and I was basically slapped in the face with the answer. This isn't something small, it's huge but it'll change some very big problems.

It's going to piss off some people to the point it will probably end some relationships. That could be a good thing though. It will be life changing. There may be failure, it's always possible, but even if some things fail other doors will be opened so I'm not very worried about that.

Why am I so afraid to take the first step and put it all in motion? Once I start there's no stopping. It will be like dropping an atomic bomb on my life and I'll be left to rebuild. I'm prepared for the rebuilding, I know what I'm getting into and there will be times I'll be lonely and feel like maybe I made a mistake but in the end it will all be better.

So how do I get the balls to start? I feel like I'm holding a knife to my stomach and that first step is plunging the knife in. It'll all heal eventually but I'm just afraid to do it.

Major life changes are never easy nor should they be taken as so, never the less if it is going to make you happy and doesn't actually involve a knife (scalpels aside) do it. Take your time nothing good in life is fast.

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long as the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.” -Helen Keller

DLD · May 16, 2017

My advice and what I will do for you is to get on your knees and pray with all you have for God's help. This world is filled with disappointments and sadness. Depending on the word of man can be a let down, especially when the advice is incorrect. You have a Father sin Heaven who loves you and has given you a friend to help you here on earth. Allow Jesus to take this from you and show you the way.

I will pray for you in general but if you want to PM me with specifics I can ask for even more.

I love you my Brother and I hope you get through this with grace!

Big Schwanz Acht · May 16, 2017

This is where your conviction and strength of mind/character will pilot you through. Loneliness? This is a very temporary state which is often the disguise (or byproduct) for other emotions...plus, in getting to know you here, you're far too engaging and likable to ever be lonely for long.

My best advice, (in whichever path you choose) is do it with purpose...you're a strong-willed man and can figure the 'stuff' part along the way.

We're all here if you need anything

stillwantmore · May 17, 2017

cladre60;731164 said:
I don't really want to go into the specifics so I'll paint some broad strokes.

There's something major I feel like I need to do. I've asked for a sign on which way to go in life and I was basically slapped in the face with the answer. This isn't something small, it's huge but it'll change some very big problems.

It's going to piss off some people to the point it will probably end some relationships. That could be a good thing though. It will be life changing. There may be failure, it's always possible, but even if some things fail other doors will be opened so I'm not very worried about that.

Why am I so afraid to take the first step and put it all in motion? Once I start there's no stopping. It will be like dropping an atomic bomb on my life and I'll be left to rebuild. I'm prepared for the rebuilding, I know what I'm getting into and there will be times I'll be lonely and feel like maybe I made a mistake but in the end it will all be better.

So how do I get the balls to start? I feel like I'm holding a knife to my stomach and that first step is plunging the knife in. It'll all heal eventually but I'm just afraid to do it.

Ironic that you post this. I'm in a similar situation in my life currently as well. We both know the answer though, don't we?

DLD · May 17, 2017

Big Schwanz Acht;731192 said:
We're all here if you need anything

stillwantmore2;731260 said:
Ironic that you post this. I'm in a similar situation in my life currently as well. We both know the answer though, don't we?

Both Brothers care deeply for you!

Big Schwanz Acht · May 17, 2017

Still, Clad...or anyone else for that matter, feel free to PM me if you ever want to chat.

huge-girth · May 17, 2017

Will-power is all that is needed here. Achieving your heart desire comes with sacrifices and some includes ending some relationship during the process. You should be happy for this is a big change heading your way.

stillwantmore · May 17, 2017

This has turned into a positive thread, good job guys!

DLD · May 18, 2017

I hope you got my PM and I really hope you take it to heart.

cladre60 · May 18, 2017

I did. Read it this morning, thought about it all day, and about to reply to it.

Thanks to the rest of you. I'd reply individually but I'm so drained right now emotionally and mentally (and a bit physically thanks to fighting with a transmission in a friend's truck yesterday) that I just can't right now.

Big Schwanz Acht · May 19, 2017

cladre60;731435 said:
I did. Read it this morning, thought about it all day, and about to reply to it.

Thanks to the rest of you. I'd reply individually but I'm so drained right now emotionally and mentally (and a bit physically thanks to fighting with a transmission in a friend's truck yesterday) that I just can't right now.

These situations have a pace all to their own, once we try speeding it up or slowing it down, just makes it worse. Take whatever time that feels right...we'll always be here

DLD · May 19, 2017

cladre60;731435 said:
I did. Read it this morning, thought about it all day, and about to reply to it.

Thanks to the rest of you. I'd reply individually but I'm so drained right now emotionally and mentally (and a bit physically thanks to fighting with a transmission in a friend's truck yesterday) that I just can't right now.

Good

cladre60 · May 19, 2017

Big Schwanz Acht;731453 said:
These situations have a pace all to their own, once we try speeding it up or slowing it down, just makes it worse. Take whatever time that feels right...we'll always be here

Right now it's all about me growing a set of balls.

And then using them.

The longer this goes on they're either dropping or falling off, I'm not sure which.

Big Schwanz Acht · May 20, 2017

cladre60;731500 said:
Right now it's all about me growing a set of balls.

And then using them.

The longer this goes on they're either dropping or falling off, I'm not sure which.

I'm a 'make it work' type person...I tried to make something work for 8 years that should have only lasted 6 months. Read the signs and most of all trust/listen to your instincts...ripping-off the Band-Aid is usually what it takes. There's really no easy/clean way to do it. Been there (half a dozen times) and done that (wrong each time, but there's really no right way).

My best advice is to use as few words as possible to get whatever you need accomplished...in the end, you'll garner the respect for yourself that you've been putting aside just to 'make it work'

cladre60 · May 20, 2017

Big Schwanz Acht;731512 said:
I'm a 'make it work' type person...I tried to make something work for 8 years that should have only lasted 6 months. Read the signs and most of all trust/listen to your instincts...ripping-off the Band-Aid is usually what it takes. There's really no easy/clean way to do it. Been there (half a dozen times) and done that (wrong each time, but there's really no right way).

My best advice is to use as few words as possible to get whatever you need accomplished...in the end, you'll garner the respect for yourself that you've been putting aside just to 'make it work'

Well it'll take a few more words than "Fuck you, I quit!" but I know what you're saying.

I don't like to quit or give up on things but there's a point in time to cut your losses and move on. It's a battle of being stupidly hard headed vs using the brain inside thar hard skull.

Big Schwanz Acht · May 20, 2017

cladre60;731520 said:
Well it'll take a few more words than "Fuck you, I quit!" but I know what you're saying.

I don't like to quit or give up on things but there's a point in time to cut your losses and move on. It's a battle of being stupidly hard headed vs using the brain inside thar hard skull.

You're smart, confident, funny and probably very good at whatever you do...so you'll know when it's time. I'm 100% sure of that

cladre60 · May 21, 2017

Big Schwanz Acht;731525 said:
You're smart, confident, funny and probably very good at whatever you do...so you'll know when it's time. I'm 100% sure of that

Thanks, but I'm not very confident. I wish I was but it's something I've lost a lot of over the years

DLD · May 22, 2017

cladre60;731615 said:
Thanks, but I'm not very confident. I wish I was but it's something I've lost a lot of over the years

You will get it back, I promise you!

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