How to attract females?

Priapus90;420980 said:

I heard that!! Personally, I met my girlfriend and attracted her by not lookin at all!! First time she talked to me (I had just finished performing a guitar bit) she was like, "That was good playing!" I completely blew her off (I do feel terrible about it now btw) and just said, "Thanks." and walked off! I ignored her and didn't even say anything until she approached me again! We got together and its been a GREAT relationship!! Don't get hung up on the ladies! Be cool, be yourself, and they'll come to you!! :D

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The problem is that i do not play cool guitar like you. You can afford to ignore and still get them running after you. I cant do anything like that.

Something that really helped me heeps and I mean heeps, I used to be quite jittery and nervous from drugs etc. I downloaded a sound track that boosts confidence, listened to it as I went to sleep. Even just look up confidence affirmations track or something like that in google. Now after listening for only like a month I am permanently confident.

jiminy465;423585 said:

Something that really helped me heeps and I mean heeps, I used to be quite jittery and nervous from drugs etc. I downloaded a sound track that boosts confidence, listened to it as I went to sleep. Even just look up confidence affirmations track or something like that in google. Now after listening for only like a month I am permanently confident.

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Link anybody?

To acquire confidence you need to spend some time analysing yourself and taking [a mental] note of what are your qualities and defects.
After you have sorted those out, you could work on calling the attention to your qualities. I don't mean bragging, I mean letting them show more often. Maybe try new ways to use those qualities in other departments in your life.
As you do that, you can gradually start working on your weakest points to improve what you feel needs improvement. As time goes by you'll feel more confident.

Confidence is a funny thing. It is the only thing where I trully believe that, before you see it, you must believe it.
If you keep repeating to yourself that you can achieve something, in time that will change your mindset and will help you work towards your goals.
So, ridiculous as it may sound, it IS indeed a good thing that you, for instance, stand in front of the mirror and say to yourself "you're awesome, you can be anything you set yourself out to be, you are THE MAN".

However, confidence doesn't only come from self complimenting. You need to take action. Otherwise you're just lying to yourself.

So, GO FOR IT! :D

Shion;419484 said:

There are a shitton of shy girls here. Like I can take a girl to coffee and would end up doing all the talking because she doesn't want to say anything. Pretty soon I feel like I'm interrogating her just to avoid talking about myself. The ones that are outgoing, well, usually have an army of powerhouse men that she can do whatever she wants to with and so they don't go looking for people with no experience. Y'know, like job-hunting. Does this happen a lot in the real world or is this just a My College thing? I sure hope that doesn't happen outside this town.

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I'm a great interrogator of those shy girls-if you can blather endlessly like I can-shy girls are putty in your hands. They like guys that take all the pressure off them lol.

Girls come when you're not looking, i always find.

Confidence is key though. No girl likes a guy who puts themselves down all the time and has a pessimistic view on everything. How are you gonna compliment her if you can't even compliment yourself?

Chins up.

Wonder how you are faring these days?

I agree on ,,don't look for them, let them look for you'' tactics.
During my teens I was always alone, very few friends (2-3) but that's due my reputation around the neighbourhood. Mother was a teacher in local school (I was there also) so no one dared to mess around me because of ,,omfgbbq teachers kid! dont deal with him!''.
Sadly that also made me threatening to girls as I found out later from my wife. To this day I sometimes wonder, how many girls wrote me off because of this.
My suggestion to you would be: hone yourself both physically, mentally and intellectually. Make yourself best you can be, focus on yourself not on them. You will get that darlin' in no time!
It's like watching time every 5 min before end of the shift... it just keeps dragging and dragging until you stop and do something fun/interesting/useful and time will fly.

K.

Very nice post Kraken.

Has anyone checked out the Don Juan forums? Pretty good pick up info there.

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