Do you consider yourself an attractive person?
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my fault. Its"metrosexual" not queer.
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PaloMalo, thanks for the gifts via e-mail.
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Hey, we were talking about tanning and shit. Now perhaps this deserves and entirely separate thread to give it the attention it deserves, as it might get lost in here. I work with a guy that used to be an exotic dancer on the weekends. Now, he manages a business of exotic dancers where he books male revues at bars in the area. Still he likes to keep in great physical condition and he appeared in Playgirl several months ago. The point is he makes fairly regular visits to the tanning bed. The other day, in a casual conversation, he suggested I tan. My immediate response was that I would freckle bad enough that they would standout and ruin my complexion. He said that might not be the case. He told me that he had freckles on a couple parts of his body (his hair is blond) but that the tanning bed really does not seem to accent his freckles. What do you guys think?
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Go for it. I am considering the same. I will probably wait and buy one to put in my basement.
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Do you freckle? If so, do you freckle heavily and do you consider it to take away from your appearance?
Originally posted by Stoffel17
I look at myself in the mirror and think, "Shit, who's that sexy beast in the mirror?" Then I realize its me. I see women making eye contact, pretending not to look, and then giving a little smile all the time. God damn I'm fine! I'm also cool as all shit. Shit, I could be up at 3 am in my boxers, in the kitchen, with peanut butter all over my face and milk dribbling down my chin and I'd still be the hottest piece of meat on the block.
I rule.
LOL, a good read
dopefish
Two part answer to this one.
Part one: Yes, I consider myself physically very attractive. Luck of genetics mainly, half german and half italian, 6'1" with naturally strong musculature.
Part two (the bad news): Last couple of years my mind seems to have changed on me, and I've become increasingly anti-social and inwardly insecure. I come across as cold and aloof, and feel that I have nothing in common with the people I meet. Conversations are a strain. Picking up women in all kinds of places used to be the most natural thing in the world for me. Now, speaking to the person at the dry cleaners is an almost unbearable annoyance. Some of it is contempt, and I have a very difficult time with trust. Ok, so maybe I'm paranoid.
I'm monogamous for the first time in my life, and I flip back and forth between two perceptions. One day, its a great thing to find someone I can trust and that I share common ideas with. The next day, I'm with her only because I'm hiding from the rest of the world.
Shitty thing to say, but hey its true. And it isn't a reflection on her, she's a wonderful woman. But I know this isn't the real me.
I posted another thread basically on how to pick up girls by being yourself. Maybe I come across as a hypocrite now, sort of "do as I say, not as I do", but they are things that used to work for me, and I remember them vividly. I still have plenty of outside interests, I just dont want to share them with anyone.
I don't think it's social anxiety disorder, because there isn't any fear involved. Just cynicism. Nothing more fun than a few drinks and some self diagnosis, right?
So overall do I consider myself attractive? Only on the outside.
Anyway, Penguin the point is that charm is worth at least as much, if not more, than physical appearance. I know because I have plenty of one and none of the other.
Going to go mix my hemlock now. (just kidding) lol
Hobgoblin
Part one: Yes, I consider myself physically very attractive. Luck of genetics mainly, half german and half italian, 6'1" with naturally strong musculature.
Part two (the bad news): Last couple of years my mind seems to have changed on me, and I've become increasingly anti-social and inwardly insecure. I come across as cold and aloof, and feel that I have nothing in common with the people I meet. Conversations are a strain. Picking up women in all kinds of places used to be the most natural thing in the world for me. Now, speaking to the person at the dry cleaners is an almost unbearable annoyance. Some of it is contempt, and I have a very difficult time with trust. Ok, so maybe I'm paranoid.
I'm monogamous for the first time in my life, and I flip back and forth between two perceptions. One day, its a great thing to find someone I can trust and that I share common ideas with. The next day, I'm with her only because I'm hiding from the rest of the world.
Shitty thing to say, but hey its true. And it isn't a reflection on her, she's a wonderful woman. But I know this isn't the real me.
I posted another thread basically on how to pick up girls by being yourself. Maybe I come across as a hypocrite now, sort of "do as I say, not as I do", but they are things that used to work for me, and I remember them vividly. I still have plenty of outside interests, I just dont want to share them with anyone.
I don't think it's social anxiety disorder, because there isn't any fear involved. Just cynicism. Nothing more fun than a few drinks and some self diagnosis, right?
So overall do I consider myself attractive? Only on the outside.
Anyway, Penguin the point is that charm is worth at least as much, if not more, than physical appearance. I know because I have plenty of one and none of the other.
Going to go mix my hemlock now. (just kidding) lol
Hobgoblin
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Hobgoblin:
It's hard to really explain how to deal with the personal issues because we've all been there at some point in time as far as like dealing with social issues and feeling totally at ease in social environments and working the room.....but I think that the first key is bringing yourself up to the point where you are not going to be overly self-conscious by taking care of things like health/fitness, grooming, dress, etc...and it sounds like you've said you feel fine on the outside....thats great because you are now more than half-way there....
Then once you have handled the external issues it really is just a matter of getting outside of your own head and interacting with people well keeping a few points about attraction in your head (or better yet internalizing them so that they come out naturally)
I think that in many ways the contempt feeling for others is just a defense mechanism you have so that you feel superior and above having to interact with people or actually pick-up that hot girl....actually as you have said you are not feeling on top of the world internally....so this is a sign of it...I've personally only overcome these feelings by going out and talking to people IN SPITE OF THEM....its usually just a little nervous energy I have when I go out and even if I get something similar to it now (and feel like I shouldn't have to go up to that girl or talk to those people because I am so cool--thats what the feeling is) I just truck through it and feel great even after a few blown sets or bad interactions....because eventually talking to people and interacting socially gives me the opportunity to prove without a doubt just how cool and fun and fearless and adventurous I really am....hahaha
:rocker: :rocker: :rocker: :rocker:
P.S. Stay away from the hemlock.....causes terrible hangover lol
It's hard to really explain how to deal with the personal issues because we've all been there at some point in time as far as like dealing with social issues and feeling totally at ease in social environments and working the room.....but I think that the first key is bringing yourself up to the point where you are not going to be overly self-conscious by taking care of things like health/fitness, grooming, dress, etc...and it sounds like you've said you feel fine on the outside....thats great because you are now more than half-way there....
Then once you have handled the external issues it really is just a matter of getting outside of your own head and interacting with people well keeping a few points about attraction in your head (or better yet internalizing them so that they come out naturally)
I think that in many ways the contempt feeling for others is just a defense mechanism you have so that you feel superior and above having to interact with people or actually pick-up that hot girl....actually as you have said you are not feeling on top of the world internally....so this is a sign of it...I've personally only overcome these feelings by going out and talking to people IN SPITE OF THEM....its usually just a little nervous energy I have when I go out and even if I get something similar to it now (and feel like I shouldn't have to go up to that girl or talk to those people because I am so cool--thats what the feeling is) I just truck through it and feel great even after a few blown sets or bad interactions....because eventually talking to people and interacting socially gives me the opportunity to prove without a doubt just how cool and fun and fearless and adventurous I really am....hahaha
:rocker: :rocker: :rocker: :rocker:
P.S. Stay away from the hemlock.....causes terrible hangover lol
