Attracting the wrong girls
Someone posted the answer on the last page but I'm gonna expand a little bit on it.
The reason you attract the same type of girls is YOU. Not them, not some other reason but they are bringing to you what you need to see in order to improve yourself.
In my experience I've found out repeating cycles reflect the relationships that were modeled in our families and the way we related to them.
My example - my mother was very controlling and dominating; she was passive aggressive. My dad was very non-confrontational and would internalize his anger.
Guess what, I ended up like my dad and mostly attracted women like my mom. Go figure. Over time I figured this out and became more assertive and didn't hold the bullshit in. What do you know - I started to attract and be attracted to a different type of woman.
Usually one of two things happen - we become like one of our parents, or we reject the role model completely and go to the opposite extreme. No matter which way you cut it, it's based on our familial models. That's how we learn as children.
If your mom was wild, you'll equate love with wild women.
Healthy people don't attract unhealthy people. If you find yourself attracting women who you 'think' you don't want (subconsciously it's exactly the woman you want or need) then you need to change yourself. It's the only way.
The reason you attract the same type of girls is YOU. Not them, not some other reason but they are bringing to you what you need to see in order to improve yourself.
In my experience I've found out repeating cycles reflect the relationships that were modeled in our families and the way we related to them.
My example - my mother was very controlling and dominating; she was passive aggressive. My dad was very non-confrontational and would internalize his anger.
Guess what, I ended up like my dad and mostly attracted women like my mom. Go figure. Over time I figured this out and became more assertive and didn't hold the bullshit in. What do you know - I started to attract and be attracted to a different type of woman.
Usually one of two things happen - we become like one of our parents, or we reject the role model completely and go to the opposite extreme. No matter which way you cut it, it's based on our familial models. That's how we learn as children.
If your mom was wild, you'll equate love with wild women.
Healthy people don't attract unhealthy people. If you find yourself attracting women who you 'think' you don't want (subconsciously it's exactly the woman you want or need) then you need to change yourself. It's the only way.
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LOL, I love how to men it's "they're sluts" and we're the "studs". Sleep with more women until you reach "stud" status, then the "sluts" won't matter.
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