asking for sex?

If there is mutual attraction between you and some woman who is either a friend or a stranger is it good just to go ahead and tell her you would like to sleep with her? Or how does one hint at it the best way? I'm not looking for a girlfriend or wife right now and I really can't come up with any other stuff to say when that is the primary focus on my mind. Ladies hit on me all the time but it's like I'm not saying or doing something to take it to that level.

Just verbalizing it outright will not work often, I'm sure. You have to work it into your body language and actions.

Yeah really I know that is unlikey to work. But I imagine it does work for some guys sometimes. I'm just going through what I think is a self imposed dry spell for longer than I have liked. Getting too drunk at a bar doesn't help with conversation either.

I find alcohol helps, because it takes away my shyness and insecurity problems.

I guess if you do flat-out ask and you get a positive response, you've got a hell of a good thing going there.

Thanks. That's more along the lines of what I need to say from now on and actually is exactly what I use to say in the past and was pretty successful with until I hooked up with this witch and fell in love a decade or so ago I was too young and inexperienced sexually for her at the time. We slept together regularly for a few months but I really wasn't doing proper foreplay because of my own ignorance and a previous girlfriend that had plenty of orgasms from just screwing. But the witch didn't orgasm from just screwing and made some comments about my not pleasing her sexually. She didn't make any comments about my size which was average but stiil good at the time but it messed with my mind and we kinda drifted apart from there. That same girl started anonymously calling me at the beginning of the year and I've since then heard stories that she's engaged or married to some guy whom she really doesn't like but continues to fuck for whatever reasons. I think she may be a scandalous woman or a size queen but there was some sweetness in her too that I really liked and I know from her friends that she has never stopped thinking about me. Why in the hell is she calling me? I can take it or leave it with her but will probably just wait it out to see her true intentions. Plus I really think I need to sleep with plenty of more women before giving her another chance.

Thanks. That's more along the lines of what I need to say from now on and actually is exactly what I use to say in the past and was pretty successful with until I hooked up with this witch and fell in love a decade or so ago I was too young and inexperienced sexually for her at the time. We slept together regularly for a few months but I really wasn't doing proper foreplay because of my own ignorance and a previous girlfriend that had plenty of orgasms from just screwing. But the witch didn't orgasm from just screwing and made some comments about my not pleasing her sexually. She didn't make any comments about my size which was average but stiil good at the time but it messed with my mind and we kinda drifted apart from there. That same girl started anonymously calling me at the beginning of the year and I've since then heard stories that she's engaged or married to some guy whom she really doesn't like but continues to fuck for whatever reasons. I think she may be a scandalous woman or a size queen but there was some sweetness in her too that I really liked and I know from her friends that she has never stopped thinking about me. Why in the hell is she calling me? I can take it or leave it with her but will probably just wait it out to see her true intentions. Plus I really think I need to sleep with plenty of more women before giving her another chance.

wrangler7;280541 said:

I think she may be a scandalous woman or a size queen but there was some sweetness in her too that I really liked and I know from her friends that she has never stopped thinking about me. Why in the hell is she calling me? I can take it or leave it with her but will probably just wait it out to see her true intentions. Plus I really think I need to sleep with plenty of more women before giving her another chance.

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Wrangler, mate. You're contradicting yourself here. Are you in to for just the sex or something more ??

Sounds like u've got feelings for her too...... And, if that be the case even so many years after drifting apart, then stop waiting for sleeping around and then going to her. And remember, shes calling you, so shes definitely got a soft spot for u !!!

Live the moment, and I'd say go for a coffee and see how things work out... You never know, there might still be some hidden love there and I'm sure that since u last meet her, u've gotten a bigger penis and some more experience, so u're definitely more experienced/ confident than before, and thats a bonus.

Just go to her rather than regretting it in a month or so time; if she gets the wrong signal and thinks u're not interested in her and moves off.....

Hope this helps....

Keep us posted.

Regards..

I actually went to the house she owns about an hour away from me a few weeks after the anonymous calls stopped. I know for a fact it was her that was calling my cellphone and also calling my now former place of work The person renting her house said she was engaged and living with her boyfriend/fiance but he didn't know where that house was. I'm fairly sure he was actually a friend of hers and was instructed not to tell me where she lives which I can understand. I've called her work and we had a brief and awkward chat, she asked for my number and said she would call later. She didn't call and I didn't call her back for a few days at her workplace and then I get another anonymous call. Her again. I've sent her numerous emails after she agreed to give her email to an old mutual friend of ours. But in my emails I think I purposely or unpurposely said too much about how much I still thought about her, missed her, etc etc. I laid it on way too thick and probably scared her and pissed her off as well with some other stuff I eventually said when she wouldn't write or call back. I continued to call her work maybe a half dozen times over a period of a few weeks and was always politely told she wasn't there or available to talk. Now I'm mostly just mad at her. I care about her and was in love with her for many years but I'm not feeling it right now anymore. Maybe something could be rekindled but she won't respond to my calling or emails. I'm not going to this house she lives in with
whomever because I really have no idea of what the guys name really is or where the house is or how crazy he may be. Everyone else I've talked to has told me to drop it. Plus I'm not even working right now and she owns a house, a boat, and lord know what else. I have few career prospects at the current moment and I think she's the type that would probably only date/marry a person with good earning potential and I don't see that for myself right now. I could be happy living in a tent by the beach or a nice big house somewhere. No kidding that's just how I've become. Yes, she has sent me signals and maybe I responded too quickly out of emotion and screwed up whatever I thought I was feeling when she called in the first place. Everyone has told me to let her make the next move. I think I can have no regret if we never talk again but i'm still not sure because right now I'm just kinda upset at her and myself for how I handled things.

Yeah guess I was rambling a bit there. She said some other things to me that I didn't appreciate and just messed with my mind to the point of it affecting me for a long time and it's hard to get past that stuff.

Situations get confusing when you're dealing with a bf/fiance. My best advice would be to leave it alone for now and see how things go. Eventually, her and her bf will break-up and she'll most likely be calling you as a rebound sort of thing (Which will at least give you a chance at her vagina, lol). You worry too much about things, and seem a bit insecure, this could be why she is acting so strangely towards you as well. Stand like a man and have confidence dude.

Touching a girl in provocative ways (kino) does wonders. Women get really turned on if you do kino right.

penguinsfan;280968 said:

Guys, any recommended resources that discuss this touching thing?

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Any decent seduction book?

Thanks for the replies. Yes, I worry way too much about most things and am insecure sometimes about certain things and overly confident about other things. I'm gonna try and wait her out and hope she's alright.

10inchadvantage;281307 said:

Any decent seduction book?

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Any personal recommendations? I've never really read a seduction book.

"Ladies hit on me all the time but it's like I'm not saying or doing something to take it to that level."

I see what happening, not to escalate is to masturbate. They wants sex just as much as you! To verbalize it will rise there anti slut defence if you dont do it right ,you wont get no ass. You need to be the dominate male and LEAD them in to sex. If you dont lead they will either think of you as a friend or worst a man thats to scared to escalate. There nothing to lose other then your load ! Never put one woman on a pedestal

theimpalerr;281617 said:

"Ladies hit on me all the time but it's like I'm not saying or doing something to take it to that level."

I see what happening, not to escalate is to masturbate. They wants sex just as much as you! To verbalize it will rise there anti slut defence if you dont do it right ,you wont get no ass. You need to be the dominate male and LEAD them in to sex. If you dont lead they will either think of you as a friend or worst a man thats to scared to escalate. There nothing to lose other then your load ! Never put one woman on a pedestal

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Very sound advice. The minute you put a girl on a pedestal is when you stop being the man in the relationship and she loses a lot of respect for you.

penguinsfan;281567 said:

Any personal recommendations? I've never really read a seduction book.

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The Venusian Artist by Mystery and Neil Strauss's Annihilation DVD set (specifically on Inner Game).

10inchadvantage;281621 said:

The Venusian Artist by Mystery and Neil Strauss's Annihilation DVD set (specifically on Inner Game).

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Thanks. I'll look them up.

10inchadvantage;281620 said:

Very sound advice. The minute you put a girl on a pedestal is when you stop being the man in the relationship and she loses a lot of respect for you.

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That's so true, but I feel so unattractive. I know I'm a good, cool person and live in a world full of assholes and losers. It's strange...I honestly feel that there is not one women out there that rejected me that was not stupid for doing so...but more because of who I am than what I look like. The idea of me really coming on to a super-hot chick still seems absurd to me.

I know that the hottest women see less action than one would think because guys are timid to approach them, but the idea of me really trying to get with one seems like Beetlejuice (from the old Howard Stern show) stepping into the cage to fight Randy Couture...and guys familiar with both will laugh at that comparison.

penguinsfan;283667 said:

That's so true, but I feel so unattractive. I know I'm a good, cool person and live in a world full of assholes and losers. It's strange...I honestly feel that there is not one women out there that rejected me that was not stupid for doing so...but more because of who I am than what I look like. The idea of me really coming on to a super-hot chick still seems absurd to me.

I know that the hottest women see less action than one would think because guys are timid to approach them, but the idea of me really trying to get with one seems like Beetlejuice (from the old Howard Stern show) stepping into the cage to fight Randy Couture...and guys familiar with both will laugh at that comparison.

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I consider myself to pretty an above average looking guy, with a nice build, and a nice penis to boot. I don't think approaching really hot women ever just comes "totally smooth." Even the best PUAs admit that they "need to get a few out of the way" during the night in order to "warm up."