I am 19 and i jst started dating this girl. She is really hot and I am currently on cut pieces of proscar aka propecia. I am feeling depressed cause my errectiosn aren't that hard. I stopped the propecia cause i think thats causing me erections to be softer. I am so depressed though because just recenlty i stopped getting erectiosns hard enough to have sex and i just always feel like shit now because i think she is gonna leave me becuase im losing my hair and the sex even though she just started telling me she loves me. But talking to friends they say they still get mourning wood i stopped getting that in highschool, who here still gets it and how old are u? I am just so fucking depressed right now i don't know what to do.

I think the drug accutane might have something to do with it or the fact that i rode bikes alot as a kid or that i have a small benign cyst on one of my testicles. How long after u stop taking propecia would the ed go away if it was causing it?

any encouraging words?
 
PocketCowboys, You are being so hard on yourself! I think much of what you are going through is because you are your own worst enemy. I understand that medication has the potential to cause ed but I have news for you; combine this with performance anxiety or depression and your chances for ed have greatly improved. You sound like you have a full plate and thinking about all this stuff at once is stressful. Take things slow and easy, start with one of the problems and solve it. For instance, the fear you have around your girl. Why not sit down and tell her what is going through your head, woman can be very compassionate and opening up these lines of trust may even make your relationship better.

I know that when I have ed episodes I can go a couple different ways and the road I take determines how I am going to feel. If I get mad at myself and frustrated I can easily go off on my own with these feeling, close off and let it manifest into a much larger problem which will sabotage my future sex life. Obviously this road leads to more depression and self hate.

You could choose a different outlook when ed happens and it really works. Take the pressure off yourself, spend time of her. Woman love foreplay and foreplay requires no erection. When I do this my mind relaxes and I am able to get back in the mood and before I know it I have an erection. When we get an erection there needs to be a open route from the brain to our penis. The route needs to be filed with sexual thoughts on a continuous basis in order for us to get and maintain an erection. If you can imagine this routine as a direct tube from the brain to the penis and then imagine intrusive thoughts polluting this tube you can see that the penis is not getting the much needed line of sexual thoughts as it is being clogged with other anxiety ridden thoughts. I bet I can tell you exactly what is going through your mind when you are trying to have sex and your penis is no cooperating. I bet you obsessive over having to get an erection, what she is thinking, what will happen if you don't get hard, and a slue of other non-sexual thoughts. As you can see there is little in this thought process that is mental food for your erection. Stopping, relaxing, engaging in foreplay will clear your mind, get you on a more sexual thought process and allow your penis to get erect. She will be happy getting your attention and you will have an opportunity to relax and get back on track.
 
Pocket, I went through depression for nearly 4 years. It took time for me to realize I needed help and it took time for me to realize medicine was the only way to help (for a period of time) and the many meds I was one during this time made it pretty damn impossible to get a hard on for longer than oh I don't know 15 seconds before any depressing thoughts or feelings kicked in. So, I know what it is that you are going through as far as not being able to maintain or even get hard erections. It will take time even if it is the medicines directly affecting your penis.

I would start trying to make yourself feel better. You can do this by simply distracting yourself. Take up a new hobby, something you've always wanted to try or thought was cool, but never tried. Find some new interests. Read if you've never been a reader. Write if you've never liked writing. Just try to focus on "expanding your horizons" and you'll start to feel somewhat empowered by the new changes in your life. Just make sure to try something new, bring something new into your life, and stay as positive as you can. I know it sucks.
 
I've never really got morning wood....My erections are pretty strong most of the time...but they probably could be stronger...is morning wood a good indication of erection strength?
 
Im 27 and I usualy get morning woods,nowadays i have lost them because i use xanax for my generalized anxiety.Now i taper down the dosage to slowly leave them.I also had problem in the past getting erections while i was on celexa(couldnt cum so easy too).This E.D. problems afected my subconcious mind and i still have some times problems thats why i take a half pill of 50 mg viagra.With 25 mg of the blue pill in my veins i get good erections.Dosent count that anxiety's come while making love,hard erection will still remains.Now i want to change some how my life style and reprogram my subconcious mind and to get rid of any anxiety.Mind is very powerfull,thoughts are like a wizard.You can do anything with the power of thoughts if you know to control it.
 
Pocket - I'm 33 now but have been through some of the same. Alot of what your going through & what I learned was that it was mostly just in my mind, I'll tell you why. First, my experience with Propecia. When my doctor prescribed it to me he told me of the side affects but never mentioned erection problems. I took it for a year & a half without any issues, none. One night while looking at sites on hair transplant I found a forum that talked about hair loss issues. One of the things I noticed was that a number of guys talked about having erection problems on Propecia. (some said they had no issues either) I became a little freaked out & started to think about this. Needless to say, I took the thoughts to bed with me that night. I had those thoughts pop into my mind just before trying to have sex with the girlfriend, well guess what happened.. No erection. I was troubled, to say the least. Long story short, it happened the next night, & the next. Same thoughts, same problem. I then realized after the third time that I'd been on this medication for 18 months & never had a single issue, UNTIL I READ ABOUT IT. For me, it was all in my head, have not had issues since that realization. I know Propecia will tell you this does occur in a small amount of men. I believe alot of the guys that have this issue is because its on their mind before having sex, especially if it happens more than once or twice. For me, sex is just as mental as it is physical. If I'm thinking about having problems just before sex, well, I'm going to have problems. If I believe that all is well & I'm going to bang this girl with a rock hard erection all night, guess what happens. I went through the same thing at your age with premature ejaculation with a girl I dated. Could not last for 45 seconds, everytime. It was devastating. The next girlfriend I was terrified the first time I knew we were going to have sex. Somehow, I mustered up a bit of belief that I could last for 15 or 20 min, I had to, just had to. Guess what, I lasted for alot longer than that. So what the hell am I saying after all this. All you need is one good erection dude, believe me, once it happens, & it will happen, you'll be fine the rest of your life. Believe that you can & you will. Instead of having the bad thoughts before the act, remind yourself that your 19 years old...you could have sex for days if you wanted! (what i'd give to be 19 again!) Second, the morning wood. I lost it around 19, was out of shape & partying alot. I got myself back into good shape about 2 years ago, still go to the gym 5 days a week. Once I was back in shape, at 32, I started getting the morning wood again. I'm not going to lie & say every morning, but alot of the time. If your out of shape look into a gym. It's done wonders for me, physically & mentally. Its a great way to work off those depression thoughts too. Third, I believe the acutane you take is for acne. Had the same problem all my life, tried everything but that drug. I looked that up on the net, its got some wicked side affects. What I stumbled upon though, for me, the problem was my diet. I ate healthy but never got much protein in my diet. I started drinking protein shakes 3 times a day, mostly for the workouts I had, but noticed over time that my acne totally disappeared. Sounds funny, I know. Went out of town for three weeks not too long ago, did not eat very healthy, & some acne came back. Got back home on the regular diet, & now its gone again. Look into it when you get time.

Didn't mean to go on for so long, but I can relate.
Positive thoughts dude, your only 19, your dick will get hard no matter what!Take it from me, once you get past that first erection, you'll never look back.
 
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