My girl slept with another guy (possibly unprotected) and never told me!

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Guys I'm in a real dilemma here. I can't believe my girl has slept with another guy (a fucking ugly beta-male guy at that). The thing that really gets me is that she had sex, multiple times I believe, with no protection, then slept with me the next morning.

I can't fucking believe it! I'm devastated. This is un-fucking-believable. I've been in a stage of "fight or flight" for the whole day. I have been unable to eat any solid foods. All I've had today is a big Smoothie King. I'm also planning on kicking the guy's ass who she slept with. I've known the guy and he has known me for a while; plus he always saw us together. I'm going to give it to him really good.

I can't believe this happened. She was such an outstanding girl morally. She said, "I didn't know what I was thinking. We started making out and one thing led to another and..." Also, she said, "It didn't even mean anything; it wasn't even good. It was over fast."

FUCKING BITCH! Just trying to justify her lieing. FUCK FUCK FUCK. I've never been this angry in my life.
 
10inchadvantage;294633 said:
Guys I'm in a real dilemma here. I can't believe my girl has slept with another guy (a fucking ugly beta-male guy at that). The thing that really gets me is that she had sex, multiple times I believe, with no protection, then slept with me the next morning.

I can't fucking believe it! I'm devastated. This is un-fucking-believable. I've been in a stage of "fight or flight" for the whole day. I have been unable to eat any solid foods. All I've had today is a big Smoothie King. I'm also planning on kicking the guy's ass who she slept with. I've known the guy and he has known me for a while; plus he always saw us together. I'm going to give it to him really good.

I can't believe this happened. She was such an outstanding girl morally. She said, "I didn't know what I was thinking. We started making out and one thing led to another and..." Also, she said, "It didn't even mean anything; it wasn't even good. It was over fast."

FUCKING BITCH! Just trying to justify her lieing. FUCK FUCK FUCK. I've never been this angry in my life.
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best thing to do is leave her, i know its tough but thats the right thing to do. she disrespected you and didnt care about you so why should you now. your young and can find better. once a cheat always one, and theres no way you can trust her again.
 
Don't worry...the same thing happened to my gf...one thing always leads to another. Never the less I was able to forgive and actually married her lol. BTW what is a beta male?

Sorry to hear about it...forgiving someone is one of the hardest things to do. Now go punch that fool outrofl
 
Juggers;294635 said:
Don't worry...the same thing happened to my gf...one thing always leads to another. Never the less I was able to forgive and actually married her lol. BTW what is a beta male?

Sorry to hear about it...forgiving someone is one of the hardest things to do. Now go punch that fool outrofl
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no fucking way in hell.
 
Be careful. Dont get yourself in trouble with the law over some dumb bitch. Been there done that. my best advice would just to forget about both of them. get yourself another girl. It will makes things a lot easier and let you leave this shit behind.
 
The guy that fucked your girl was only doing the right thing. Been there too brother about 5-6 years ago, chose to work it out finding out afrter 2 years had past. Still very difficult for me to this day.

I would fuck that guy up that will make you feel better, but the pain she caused will remain.
 
The only thing that will make you feel better at this point is to get out and meet a dozen girls who are better than your last girlfriend.
 
Wang Chung;294644 said:
Be careful. Dont get yourself in trouble with the law over some dumb bitch. Been there done that. my best advice would just to forget about both of them. get yourself another girl. It will makes things a lot easier and let you leave this shit behind.
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best advice. kicking someones ass will help nothing.. first off it shows you care and she wins. act like u could give a fuck cut all ties and leave like that. believe me it will come back to get her. be the better person.
 
The BTC Killer;294645 said:
The guy that fucked your girl was only doing the right thing. Been there too brother about 5-6 years ago, chose to work it out finding out afrter 2 years had past. Still very difficult for me to this day.

I would fuck that guy up that will make you feel better, but the pain she caused will remain.
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Was only doing the right thing? ?:(
 
spinner2;294647 said:
The only thing that will make you feel better at this point is to get out and meet a dozen girls who are better than your last girlfriend.
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I feel that I'm going to go through a "man whore" stage. For some reason today I felt super confident around everyone, like I had been "born again", although I still felt like shit.
 
Also, this has really given me motivation to Penis Enlargement again. Just did 5 x 10 minutes from 2 - 5" hg in the pump with some edging and light jelqing in there. I'm just going to go all out on the physical body.
 
Wang Chung;294644 said:
Be careful. Dont get yourself in trouble with the law over some dumb bitch. Been there done that. my best advice would just to forget about both of them. get yourself another girl. It will makes things a lot easier and let you leave this shit behind.
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I won't start any physical shit, but I'm going to embarrass him quite bad at a party. If he wants to buck we'll buck. Wouldn't get in trouble with the law anyway that way (self defense).
 
Hey there 10 inch let me say I feel you. My wife did the exact same thing she cheated on me and then came home and gave me the best root I ever had the only way that I found she cheated was through a friend although we are in 2 different situations I have a kid and stuff I stayed with her and the relationship has been very good I still get very angry about it but I can controll it.
But at the moment I am pissed off because there is something that you said in your statment that your girl said and that is it was nothing it was not even that good and it did not last that long anyway my missus said exactly the same thing and I beleived her now I think that she was a load off shit and was just trying to cover her ass.
 
little fella;294677 said:
Hey there 10 inch let me say I feel you. My wife did the exact same thing she cheated on me and then came home and gave me the best root I ever had the only way that I found she cheated was through a friend although we are in 2 different situations I have a kid and stuff I stayed with her and the relationship has been very good I still get very angry about it but I can controll it.
But at the moment I am pissed off because there is something that you said in your statment that your girl said and that is it was nothing it was not even that good and it did not last that long anyway my missus said exactly the same thing and I beleived her now I think that she was a load off shit and was just trying to cover her ass.
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I agree. I'm pretty sure she has an interest in him; it seems they have been seeing each other for a while. I've decided to move on. I'm going to be a dick to the guy (but won't search out for it) just to warn him. He'll get the message. She should have fun fucking his average cock though. I know she'll miss getting hammered by a "huge" (in DLD's words) cock. I hope that guy enjoys fucking her wide and deep vagina (which is used to mine for 1 1/2 years) with his average-sized penis. There are plenty of girls out there who won't lie and cheat. I deserve better.
 
10inchadvantage;294680 said:
I agree. I'm pretty sure she has an interest in him; it seems they have been seeing each other for a while. I've decided to move on. I'm going to be a dick to the guy (but won't search out for it) just to warn him. He'll get the message. She should have fun fucking his average cock though. I know she'll miss getting hammered by a "huge" (in DLD's words) cock. I hope that guy enjoys fucking her wide and deep vagina (which is used to mine for 1 1/2 years) with his average-sized penis. There are plenty of girls out there who won't lie and cheat. I deserve better.
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best thing i heard all night is that you decided to move on. bitch doesn't deserve you. this will only make you stronger. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3jzSh_MLNcY
 
i have been in your shoes, and to hell with her. she came on to him, or whatever, or he came on to her, whatever...and if he came on to her, she should have stopped him and said no, if she came on to him..seeing how he's ur old friend..then he should have been the one to say no. there for i'm with ya on kickin that dudes ass beyond recognition.

but take some time away from her, she is ungrateful for you and doesn't know what she has. sometimes people do that, my ex did, and since i left her i have been much happier and found someone who really loves me for who i am and i haven't been happier, or more loyal.

to hell with her dude. lose the bitch
 
Thays it mate keep up the positive attitude she will be missing a big cock. And also missing a guy that actually gave a fuck about her. Be strong hang in there.
 
Just cut off all contact with her. Don't fight this guy because he could call the police and that would really suck to end up in jail over a bitch that never gave a fuck about you. She came onto your friend and it's not his fault. He did the right thing by proving she is an easy slut.
 
Good job handling this. Go hit up a lot of parties this next weekend and find some new girls. There's no better feeling in the world than hooking up with a new girl for the first time.
 
samzman;294688 said:
i have been in your shoes, and to hell with her. she came on to him, or whatever, or he came on to her, whatever...and if he came on to her, she should have stopped him and said no, if she came on to him..seeing how he's ur old friend..then he should have been the one to say no. there for i'm with ya on kickin that dudes ass beyond recognition.

but take some time away from her, she is ungrateful for you and doesn't know what she has. sometimes people do that, my ex did, and since i left her i have been much happier and found someone who really loves me for who i am and i haven't been happier, or more loyal.

to hell with her dude. lose the bitch
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Thanks for the advice. Although I had a lot of fun with her (lots of anal, anal cunninglingus, crazy shit) I must remind myself that if I have sex with her again it'll open up all those emotional wounds. The key is finding another girl and turning her into a freak. I'm already in the process. rofl
 
Eh, I'm glad time is a healer. I still have a lot of resurgent thoughts about her and the whole situation. I've been in other problems in my life and must realize once more that with time this will blow away, and I'll be a much happier and successful man because of it.
 
Dude your 20 years old? Fuck that cheating bitch. She said it was not that good and it was over fast, bullshit she is mind fucking you. Stop all contact with her, do not call her and do not pick up her calls. You are young as fuck and there are plenty of ladies out there, go have fun, flirt, fuck some of them. By doing this you are letting this cheater know she did you wrong by your actions, not your words. Disrespect is disrespect, but her cheating on you is the largest form of disrespect she can dish out. When a woman does that shit to me? I drop her because it is the best thing to do. If she really is sorry she will try to come back later, not now, dont fall for it. Let this girl you dont need her and could care less.

I know it sucks but you got to man up, and treat a ho like a ho. Next.


As far as fucking the dude up who sexed your lady, dont do it. Simply because it was her that let it happen in the first place regardless who started it. SHE LET IT HAPPenis EnlargementN, she knew you guys were together but she choose to go fuck around anyway. It was her fault not the guys, again it was her actions that did this, even if he did play a part in it she could have simply said no I love my boyfriend, instead she said O.K. I'm down for a quickie. Remember it was her who let this fool stick his dick in her. Now drop her like a deceiver shoud be dropped.
 
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There really are good girls out there...it's probably best that you found out now that she wasn't one of them. I know it was a hard way to find out (and totally sucks) but think about it this way...she just saved you years of your life to go out and search for a girl that is actually deserving of you.

And don't worry...from my experience (not that much but hey) all girls want to be bad/naughty...they just don't want to want you to think they are a whore. It doesn't take much convincing that they can be a good girl all day and a bad girl at night with you. :)

Also, this had nothing to do with you. Don't dwell on it. Some bitches are just crazy and you need to get out FAST. I know that it totally throws you for a loop when you find out that they aren't who you thought they were (I've been there). But at least you found out now.

Go enjoy your life...best of luck to you!
 
Dude, I have said it so many times, off and on again relationships where the guy actually cares.....it's a lose lose man. Ya gotta be on the other side of it, it's way funner, and less of a headache. Sad but true. Don't fuckin talk to her for a long long time, reinvent yourself emotionally, and I am afraid trying to embarass him at a party may backfire and only make yourself look bad like you're still so hurt (even if youare thats okay, but dont let that fuck know). Ya gotta play the game til you've given yourself sufficient time to really not give a fuck. Trust me man I've done my time in the trenches and have grown so much from a similar situation back when. I wouldn't steer ya wrong here.
 
10Inch my man...i'm sorry you went throught all this...only read it now my friend...

Please let it go and just rise above it like a real man and inteligent being that you are.

You just ignore her totally from now on don't even give her the time of day, but...at the same time, act like she didn't even make a dent on you, this will hurt her the most ehehehh

Peace

Mike
 
crazyed27;294717 said:
Dude your 20 years old? Fuck that cheating bitch. She said it was not that good and it was over fast, bullshit she is mind fucking you. Stop all contact with her, do not call her and do not pick up her calls. You are young as fuck and there are plenty of ladies out there, go have fun, flirt, fuck some of them. By doing this you are letting this cheater know she did you wrong by your actions, not your words. Disrespect is disrespect, but her cheating on you is the largest form of disrespect she can dish out. When a woman does that shit to me? I drop her because it is the best thing to do. If she really is sorry she will try to come back later, not now, dont fall for it. Let this girl you dont need her and could care less.

I know it sucks but you got to man up, and treat a ho like a ho. Next.


As far as fucking the dude up who sexed your lady, dont do it. Simply because it was her that let it happen in the first place regardless who started it. SHE LET IT HAPPenis EnlargementN, she knew you guys were together but she choose to go fuck around anyway. It was her fault not the guys, again it was her actions that did this, even if he did play a part in it she could have simply said no I love my boyfriend, instead she said O.K. I'm down for a quickie. Remember it was her who let this fool stick his dick in her. Now drop her like a deceiver shoud be dropped.
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This is great advice. I do need to treat a bitch like a bitch. Using this mental framework has really helped me cope. When I realize she's willing to throw 1 1/2 years of trust out the gutter for some B-team guy, yeah she's a bitch. She's going to be pissed when I'm at parties getting the best women.

The thing is I'm probably going to talk with her in about a week, after my (and hopefully her) emotions have somewhat settled. I'm not sure what to say to her other than, "I'm glad you did this, I wouldn't want a partner with such horrible character flaws. I hope you enjoy your average guys you fuck around with. I'm moving on. There are MANY women out there who would love to be with me and would cherish me for the person I am."
 
matts22;294721 said:
There really are good girls out there...it's probably best that you found out now that she wasn't one of them. I know it was a hard way to find out (and totally sucks) but think about it this way...she just saved you years of your life to go out and search for a girl that is actually deserving of you.

And don't worry...from my experience (not that much but hey) all girls want to be bad/naughty...they just don't want to want you to think they are a whore. It doesn't take much convincing that they can be a good girl all day and a bad girl at night with you. :)

Also, this had nothing to do with you. Don't dwell on it. Some bitches are just crazy and you need to get out FAST. I know that it totally throws you for a loop when you find out that they aren't who you thought they were (I've been there). But at least you found out now.

Go enjoy your life...best of luck to you!
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Yes I'm glad I learned of this now rather than a few years down the road possibly. I thank God that I could be revealed this, and still have over two years at a big university to go have totally FREE fun!
 
alwaystrying;294728 said:
Dude, I have said it so many times, off and on again relationships where the guy actually cares.....it's a lose lose man. Ya gotta be on the other side of it, it's way funner, and less of a headache. Sad but true. Don't fuckin talk to her for a long long time, reinvent yourself emotionally, and I am afraid trying to embarass him at a party may backfire and only make yourself look bad like you're still so hurt (even if youare thats okay, but dont let that fuck know). Ya gotta play the game til you've given yourself sufficient time to really not give a fuck. Trust me man I've done my time in the trenches and have grown so much from a similar situation back when. I wouldn't steer ya wrong here.
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Ya I'll just treat him like the little dick he is. I'm not going out of my way to do shit but if we cross paths (which we will) I'm going to be straight-up gangster with him. Basically show him that I know what he did and I'm pissed.

Actually, I thought about just telling him thank you :), and just leaving it at that.
 
8InchMIKE;294736 said:
10Inch my man...i'm sorry you went throught all this...only read it now my friend...

Please let it go and just rise above it like a real man and inteligent being that you are.

You just ignore her totally from now on don't even give her the time of day, but...at the same time, act like she didn't even make a dent on you, this will hurt her the most ehehehh

Peace

Mike
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I feel the best way to do this is have some hot mama all on my shit. ;)
 
The BTC Killer;294743 said:
Meaning you probably would have done the same thing in that guy's situation, but fuck him.
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Ya. It's hard not to hate two people who fucked such a "good" thing up for you. If you're spending over a year with a girl I'd say it's a pretty timely investment.

The thing is that I've had some girls hurling themselves on me, but I always turned them down as she was jealous (even though I would say I'm interested in fucking them beforehand which was part of the deal). My dad said this is a red flag, and that this helps women justify their cheating/lieing/deceiving. I'm getting more realistic in how I look at peoples' character.

All I can say is the law of karma will be in effect. I hope some guy who she is crazy about will do this same thing to her one day so she knows just how devastated I am.
 
10inchadvantage;294745 said:
This is great advice. I do need to treat a bitch like a bitch. Using this mental framework has really helped me cope. When I realize she's willing to throw 1 1/2 years of trust out the gutter for some B-team guy, yeah she's a bitch. She's going to be pissed when I'm at parties getting the best women.

The thing is I'm probably going to talk with her in about a week, after my (and hopefully her) emotions have somewhat settled. I'm not sure what to say to her other than, "I'm glad you did this, I wouldn't want a partner with such horrible character flaws. I hope you enjoy your average guys you fuck around with. I'm moving on. There are MANY women out there who would love to be with me and would cherish me for the person I am."
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Ok, maybe it's just me, but I would fuck with her a little bit if I was you. I've been in similar situations where after a week or two I'd go tell her something like what you said...and it really doesn't sink in with them. I know your point is to make her realize what she is going to be missing, but what that is saying in "girl talk" is that you are insecure and had to tell her that to make yourself feel better. What I would do instead is just be a confident, fun-loving guy around her...don't even mention the whole relationship with her. Odds are that she knows that she was wrong and is looking for reasons to justify it (by you appearing insecure, she can justify that it might have worked out for the best in the long run anyway). You don't want her to be able to justify it. If you are cool and confident, she will end up feeling much worse, without you doing anything.

For an example, an old girlfriend told me that she wanted to take a break from our relationship. Instead of being all needy and stuff, I just looked at her, smiled, and said something like "sure, I think it's a great idea for us to see what else is out there". Sure enough, like a month later, she called me up and practically begged me to get back together with her. A few months later, we decided to end the relationship, and instead of just being cool with it, I started asking questions and saying that I wanted to find a girl that appreciated me and stuff. After this, she was never attracted to me again, and everything has been weird since.

By not asking questions, acting like you care, etc. it shows that you are a confident guy who knows he deserves a great girl and has plenty of options. Girls see through the words coming out of your mouth...they see your intentions...your true character when the times get tough. When you can handle a situation like this in a truly confident manner, she will know that she let a great guy get away.
 
Do your best to stay away from that dick head. I think that you have a lot off thoughts running through your mind at the moment and all that is going to happen is when you see him they are all going to come puring out and who knows what could possibly happen as you said you have spurts of anger and if you see him these spurts could turn into pure rage. You honestly sound like you are a smart guy with a good head on his shoulders I am sure that there are many woman out there that would kill to have a guy like you keep your head up as you said time heals and that is what you need at the moment time to chill out. Can I ask what do your mates think about this?
 
matts22;294819 said:
Ok, maybe it's just me, but I would fuck with her a little bit if I was you. I've been in similar situations where after a week or two I'd go tell her something like what you said...and it really doesn't sink in with them. I know your point is to make her realize what she is going to be missing, but what that is saying in "girl talk" is that you are insecure and had to tell her that to make yourself feel better. What I would do instead is just be a confident, fun-loving guy around her...don't even mention the whole relationship with her. Odds are that she knows that she was wrong and is looking for reasons to justify it (by you appearing insecure, she can justify that it might have worked out for the best in the long run anyway). You don't want her to be able to justify it. If you are cool and confident, she will end up feeling much worse, without you doing anything.

For an example, an old girlfriend told me that she wanted to take a break from our relationship. Instead of being all needy and stuff, I just looked at her, smiled, and said something like "sure, I think it's a great idea for us to see what else is out there". Sure enough, like a month later, she called me up and practically begged me to get back together with her. A few months later, we decided to end the relationship, and instead of just being cool with it, I started asking questions and saying that I wanted to find a girl that appreciated me and stuff. After this, she was never attracted to me again, and everything has been weird since.

By not asking questions, acting like you care, etc. it shows that you are a confident guy who knows he deserves a great girl and has plenty of options. Girls see through the words coming out of your mouth...they see your intentions...your true character when the times get tough. When you can handle a situation like this in a truly confident manner, she will know that she let a great guy get away.
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Ya that's a good point. I know she'll be calling in about a week. When she does I was thinking of just saying, "Look, I'm done with you. Stop calling. Bye." Do you have a better suggestion?
 
little fella;294820 said:
Do your best to stay away from that dick head. I think that you have a lot off thoughts running through your mind at the moment and all that is going to happen is when you see him they are all going to come puring out and who knows what could possibly happen as you said you have spurts of anger and if you see him these spurts could turn into pure rage. You honestly sound like you are a smart guy with a good head on his shoulders I am sure that there are many woman out there that would kill to have a guy like you keep your head up as you said time heals and that is what you need at the moment time to chill out. Can I ask what do your mates think about this?
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My buddies (a lot of which are in the frat the guy is in) think it's fucked up what they both did. Turns out the guy is pretty scared. He called my roommate (on social chair with him) and told him he needed to talk with him. So the guy is running high already. Doesn't mean I'm not going to be an asshole to him.
 
10inchadvantage;294834 said:
Ya that's a good point. I know she'll be calling in about a week. When she does I was thinking of just saying, "Look, I'm done with you. Stop calling. Bye." Do you have a better suggestion?
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Yeah. Don't pick up the phone or return her calls. It'll make her go crazy.
 
10inchadvantage;294836 said:
My buddies (a lot of which are in the frat the guy is in) think it's fucked up what they both did. Turns out the guy is pretty scared. He called my roommate (on social chair with him) and told him he needed to talk with him. So the guy is running high already. Doesn't mean I'm not going to be an asshole to him.
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10inch sorry to hear you've been fucked over like this.

what you must do is knock his cunt in so your emotions leave a visual mark. don't think about it just do it. talk with your fists.
this cheeky arsehole has requested to talk to you... about what?! how he fucked your woman and how he's really really sorry... knock the cunt out of him!

there is only one answer here. do the right thing friend.


keep pushing
 
Reber187;294852 said:
10inch sorry to hear you've been fucked over like this.

what you must do is knock his cunt in so your emotions leave a visual mark. don't think about it just do it. talk with your fists.
this cheeky arsehole has requested to talk to you... about what?! how he fucked your woman and how he's really really sorry... knock the cunt out of him!

there is only one answer here. do the right thing friend.


keep pushing
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No, he wanted to talk to my roommate. If he so much as makes a beep at me his teeth are flying out.
 
Well. I went out with my best friend tonight somewhere off Loop 360 and meditated for a while. I came to the realization that to truly be happy and spread the Divine Love everywhere I just truly needed to forgive both of them. I did so (haven't in person yet) and I feel so free. What is done is done. I'm not taking her back due to emotional scaring. However, I still have the Love for her that I did beforehand. It's just that due to the fragile circumstance I can no longer sleep or really see her for a long time. I'm excited to meet women whom I really connect with on another level. The ego is never satisfied. Spirit simply IS.
 
Yeah, as hard as it will seem, be as vague and as short as possible with all involved (him and her). Don't convince her you're going to do better, just know it and go out and do it. I used to fall in this trap and get in these tid for tat arguments with my old ex and it was so dumb. And as for the idea of "thanking him", I actually like that......give him a cold glare but thank him, that could work. Just don't go down with the ship more than u need to and go and get into a fight over this chick, getting into trouble will only further your problems. Be smart/safe.
 
dude honestly i c u kinda young, but as for forgiving them and stuff thats cool, but you have no reason to talk or communicate with them. you shouldnt even let them know u thinkin about them. if you have convenced your self you happy then just go be happy and talk no more about. you have gotten good advice from everyone here you no what do do and that is live your life and be succesful and happy.
 
atlyroc;294912 said:
dude honestly i c u kinda young, but as for forgiving them and stuff thats cool, but you have no reason to talk or communicate with them. you shouldnt even let them know u thinkin about them. if you have convenced your self you happy then just go be happy and talk no more about. you have gotten good advice from everyone here you no what do do and that is live your life and be succesful and happy.
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I've got things under control and am creating my reality around what I want (at the same time doing so spiritually), not others. Thanks. ;)
 
10inchadvantage;294922 said:
I've got things under control and am creating my reality around what I want (at the same time doing so spiritually), not others. Thanks. ;)
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read you were from texas good man . me too
 
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