Fuck buddies: experiences, tips and advice?

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Shafty

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Alright, here's the deal:
lately my sex drive has been through the roof, and I haven't gotten laid in a looong time. :blush: My [words=http://fleshlight.sjv.io/c/348327/302851/4702]FleshLight[/words] and adult entertainment aren't cutting it any more; I need the real thing!! I don't want a relationship with anyone though, but what I would like is a fuck relationship, or "fuck buddy" as the say in the States.
Now, there are plenty of hot girls in my school who are interested in me, and I flirt with them all the time. It would be easy pickings for me to just choose one... if it weren't for the relationship catch.
I just don't know how to approach a woman with the intent of making her my fuck buddy while avoiding sounding too crass or straightforward. The best scenario would be if I could get maybe two or three girls who I could just call up whenever I start to feel horny.
My lil sister also has some tight 16 year old friends, and I know they are all drooling over me. I wouldn't mind some sweet 16 pussy, and I know my sister wouldn't mind either. She's open minded, and I actually asked her once if she would be upset about me messing around with her friends. The answer was a resounding "I don't really care, do what you like"!. :D
Girls at that age can be incredibly shy, though, so I'll have to be even more careful with my approach if I want some of that.

Does anyone have any experiences to share or tips on fuck buddies and how to aquire them in the first place without sounding like a total pervert?
 
Hey man, I can definitely give a little advice from my own experience. First thing's first. YOU have to be totally ok with the 'fuck buddy', or more commonly called "friends with benefits" scenario. I say this because not all people can handle it. Sex has a way of causing feelings to develop. Sometimes they can be pretty emotional feelings too. If you have ever had possessive/controlling feelings while dating a girl before, I would proceed with extreme caution. I'm not saying you cant do it, it's just that you 'may' have issues. Example, the 'fuck buddy' youve been with on and off for a few months, and yourself just happen to both be at a party or get together, and you see her kissing/making out with some guy. Are you gonna go off, and approach the two of them or, her later like a possessive/controlling boyfriend asking her what the fuck she was thinking making out with this other guy, when in fact, you are NOT her boyfriend?

That said, there's no real, set way of approaching a woman for a "just sex" relationship. In fact, you will usually have little or no success in doing so. The way to be about it is "I'm not really looking for a committed relationship, but you seem cool, I would like to go out with you sometime". That's the way of saying exactly the same as "I dont wanna date you seriously, but I would like to go out and see what happens"....albeit a lot less indirectly. How you put it into words is up to you of course.

A girl I'm currently "seeing" and I are basically in the same situation. We're not in a totally committed relationship. We talk on the phone a few times a week, she and her girlfriend might come by and see me at work for a little bit once a week or so, and we go out and do stuff together when we can, but there's not that clingy, boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Oh, and we have sex once and a while too. Currently, about once a week. This situation is working well for both of us. Then again, we both have openly acknowledged with each other (communication on what youre both looking for is a BIG factor) that we're trying the friends first thing. Now, depending on how you were raised, what type of social "values" or religious guilt trips you may have been exposed to growing up, you may see things differently than I do. I feel like two people of the opposite sex can in fact be friends, in other words care about each other, be there for each other, hang out together, do all the things friends might do together, AND have sex without being in a dating, or "we're gonna get married someday" type of relationship. It's a foreign idea to many people, that things can be that way, but it can work....if the right kind of people are doing it.

Also, you both have to be ready for the very real possibilty that one or both of you may either develop feelings for each other, OR that one or both of you may meet someone else and develop feelings for that person. If and when that happens, you have to be prepared mentally. If you dont deal with change well, again you may have issues. Then again, if you both go into the friends with benefits type relationship, and you discuss this type of stuff, you shouldnt have issues later on if/when something like this happens. There has to be some sort of acknowledgement that if either of you meets someone that youre interested in seeing on a committed level, then it's curtains ...the end of the 'friends with benefits' relationship.
 
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The worst chance you'll ever have finding a fuck buddy is when you are looking for one.

Even so, it's possible. There are girls looking for the same thing you are. In that case, you will know those girls - they are easy to pick out of the crowd. They want a relationship about as much as you do. You can most definitely ask these girls to have sex... if done tactfully, nonchalant, and NOT JOKINGLY. Where most guys dig their grave is they try to play it off like a joke or are too direct and to "beggy."

As far as the young girls - they are good candidates. Very often they are happy with whatever attention they get from older guys - including sex. It is easy to carry on a fuck buddy system with one of them, as long as they are old enough that they don't have to have their mom drive them over. Be weary of the law, make sure they tell you they are 18. Also, be careful with breaking one of the poor girls' hearts.

I'm not too down with the whole fuck buddy thing myself lately. But I'll cheer you on if that's what you want. Do be careful of STDs, protection, and keeping those who you have a sexual relationship with and yourself psychologically sound - don't let things get out of hand with jealousy, actually liking the girl, attachment, etc. These things happen.
 
stillwantmore said:
Hey man, I can definitely give a little advice from my own experience. First thing's first. YOU have to be totally ok with the 'fuck buddy', or more commonly called "friends with benefits" scenario. I say this because not all people can handle it. Sex has a way of causing feelings to develop. Sometimes they can be pretty emotional feelings too. If you have ever had possessive/controlling feelings while dating a girl before, I would proceed with extreme caution. I'm not saying you cant do it, it's just that you 'may' have issues. Example, the 'fuck buddy' youve been with on and off for a few months, and yourself just happen to both be at a party or get together, and you see her kissing/making out with some guy. Are you gonna go off, and approach the two of them or, her later like a possessive/controlling boyfriend asking her what the fuck she was thinking making out with this other guy, when in fact, you are NOT her boyfriend?

That said, there's no real, set way of approaching a woman for a "just sex" relationship. In fact, you will usually have little or no success in doing so. The way to be about it is "I'm not really looking for a committed relationship, but you seem cool, I would like to go out with you sometime". That's the way of saying exactly the same as "I dont wanna date you seriously, but I would like to go out and see what happens"....albeit a lot less indirectly. How you put it into words is up to you of course.

A girl I'm currently "seeing" and I are basically in the same situation. We're not in a totally committed relationship. We talk on the phone a few times a week, she and her girlfriend might come by and see me at work for a little bit once a week or so, and we go out and do stuff together when we can, but there's not that clingy, boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Oh, and we have sex once and a while too. Currently, about once a week. This situation is working well for both of us. Then again, we both have openly acknowledged with each other (communication on what youre both looking for is a BIG factor) that we're trying the friends first thing. Now, depending on how you were raised, what type of social "values" or religious guilt trips you may have been exposed to growing up, you may see things differently than I do. I feel like two people of the opposite sex can in fact be friends, in other words care about each other, be there for each other, hang out together, do all the things friends might do together, AND have sex without being in a dating, or "we're gonna get married someday" type of relationship. It's a foreign idea to many people, that things can be that way, but it can work....if the right kind of people are doing it.
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Good post Still, you seem to have the right mindset.
 
Thanks for the input guys!
Stillwantsmore, great advice! I have pretty "loose" morals in these matters, if you can put it that way. The thing is, about 90% of the girls I've gotten to know better over the course of my life have failed to spark any romantic feelings in me. Arousal and passion is a different ballpark, but I don't usually fall head over heels for a girl in any given scenario. I am totally cool with the whole "friends with benefits" thing, and it doesn't bother me the least if the girl wants to fool around with other guys at the same time. After all, I know that I'm the best thing for her, so if she wants second rate guys on the side, then she can knock her socks off for all I care. :D Contrary to what might be expected, this not-giving-a-crap attitude actually makes THEM chase after YOU and try and force a more serious relationship down your throat (for anyone who's ever read David Deangelo's stuff, you know what I'm talking about).

And alloyCG, thanks for your insight, too!
Don't worry- the legal age here is 16, so I can get away with what would be considered child molestation in the States. ;) Still it would be wise to check up on them, just to avoid the embarassing scenario of a broken hearted 15 year old girl ratting my ass out to the police, out of spite for me "taking advantage of her". These young girls are often at the peak of sexual curiosity, though: not getting any, but dying to, so they would make for good practice.
I seriously don't want to break any hearts while I'm at it, so I guess it would be best to pick out the sluttiest, horniest girls whose first priority is to get some cock, just to minimize the risks. If they start to have feelings for me, then I will end the whole thing as tactfully as possible to avoid any unneccessary heartache.

This has always been sort of a fantasy for me: just to be able to skip on all the shit that comes along with a relationship and just get busy with fucking. I'll see what happens...

thanks again for the great input!
 
My Ermgard, would make you a good FUCK buddy, She would probably suck you right in and then blow you out boot laces first. If you ever cum to the UK, cum to Newcastle on Tyne, We call it Gannan Yam country. Emrgard has massive tits big arse, and does a wonderful blow job. But let me warn you mate, If you ever did fuck her, you would probably be crippled for a month. She would suck your bollocks dry.
 
I would let Ermgardt suck me dry if it wasn't for the fact that she kinda looks like patrick swayze. Im just not sure if my main player could rise to the occassion for such an event.

She does have big tits though.
 
lol lol lol lol


just go get with girls and try and make a move on them without being their boyfriend if all goes well theyll be like a fuck buddy
 
Adolf Hilter said:
My Ermgard, would make you a good FUCK buddy, She would probably suck you right in and then blow you out boot laces first. If you ever cum to the UK, cum to Newcastle on Tyne, We call it Gannan Yam country. Emrgard has massive tits big arse, and does a wonderful blow job. But let me warn you mate, If you ever did fuck her, you would probably be crippled for a month. She would suck your bollocks dry.
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But would I be able to satisfy her with my 7 inch penis after a lifetime of her getting banged by Sidney Sidebottom? rofl
 
Make sure the bitch isnt emotional or you'll be in for phone calls and emails all day everyday... Yeah I had a bad experience with a girl my age, but I still have my 46 year old fuck buddy :)
 
Bigd5903 said:
Make sure the bitch isnt emotional or you'll be in for phone calls and emails all day everyday... Yeah I had a bad experience with a girl my age, but I still have my 46 year old fuck buddy :)
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Yeah, I'll do my best to steer clear of the touchy-feely types. I get no kicks from breaking girls hearts, so it's gotta be a slutty bitch who doesn't care.

What happened with the girl that freaked out on you? Did it turn into a stalker type of situation?
 
Shafty how old are you man? i only ask cause your talking bout ur lil sis being 16 and wanting to get with 16yr olds.

hollar back amego.
 
Hey bug,
I'm 20, so this is not a 'dirty old man' scenario. :D 16 is the legal age for sex here in Finland.

I just happen to know quite a few 16 year old girls that would make for excellent practice in the fuck buddy field while on my way up to bigger fish. It may sound cruel, I know, but the particular girls I have in mind are the type of young hoochies who just want cock and don't really care if the setup is what I am planning for them.

I've come down with a case of weak erections as of late, though. <:(
I have also obviously stopped gaining again, so it may be time for me to take a deconditioning break from Penis Enlargementing. I need to get my slight ED fixed before I start playing the field, and I think taking a break would help.
 
Shafty, so your little sister has young lolitas coming over all the tiem to your house.......wow.

I wish i had a little sister, then i wouldnt even have to go out, just let em flock to the homeland.....
yeah, you better take a break off the Penis Enlargement cuz if you have ED in this situation......somethings fucked lol
 
VladtheImpaler said:
Shafty, so your little sister has young lolitas coming over all the tiem to your house.......wow.

I wish i had a little sister, then i wouldnt even have to go out, just let em flock to the homeland.....
yeah, you better take a break off the Penis Enlargement cuz if you have ED in this situation......somethings fucked lol
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Yeah, I know... I can't help myself when these IoIitas (had to type it this way to avoid the "lol" smiley) come over. I joke with them and tease them in a semi sexual manner... you know, grabbing their tight little asses at every opportunity and whatnot. I'm just waiting for the day when they let me take it a little further... and the best thing is, IT'S all LEGAL BABY! :D
God, I am such a swine! rofl

Anyway, I HAVE to get my dick up and running again! I'm only going to be 20 years old for so long...I'll be moving out of the house soon enough, so the pussy won't be coming home to me any more. That, and I'd start to lose my sense of self respect if I kept on doing this at an older age.
 
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