Take an SSRI!

Out of the blue about 2 years, I got extreme premature ejaculation. I never had a problem with it, but after it hit, I couldn't make it passed a few strokes before I blew. I tried every technique period and nothing helped. Then I was prescribed lexapro for my anxiety and it was instantly gone. My sex game is through the roof now because it takes forever to blow, so I've got plenty of time to try new strokes. I take half of the pills I'm prescribed and it works wonderfully without any side effects

I've taken Lexapro for depression in the past and had to stop taking it because the anorgasmia made sex less interesting! However, that's a really good idea, if you are taking an SSRI already or have the option of trying out Lexapro (with a PDoc's consent) then go for it! I mean, as long as it doesn't totally turn you into a limp sausage.

Whaaat? They make everything exactly the same, it just last longer. I can't believe they kept you limp. In fact, I might get even more frequent erections just because I'm so damn confident with my skills now. How many mg did they have you on? I get 10 mg and cut it in half because I've read some horror stories on people that took too much

dmoney101;567468 said:

Whaaat? They make everything exactly the same, it just last longer. I can't believe they kept you limp. In fact, I might get even more frequent erections just because I'm so damn confident with my skills now. How many mg did they have you on? I get 10 mg and cut it in half because I've read some horror stories on people that took too much

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Money, everybody is different on SSRI and all psychotropical medications for that matter. For me, it took years of different meds to get myself to a cocktail that was both beneficial mentally while remaining with little side-effects, esspecially sexual. The best advice on thos matter to those who are sacrificing sexuality for mentality, STOP! Go back to your doctor and work with him/her until you achieve the perfect dose.

Understand this to, sometimes the dose or even the medication can change and cause issues so be open to adjustments over time as needed.

Lastly, what I want to emphasize the most is COGNITIVE THERAPY...this is above all things the best method of change in mentality. The medication can be a way to get yourself to the place where you can wean yourself off while all the while working, physically, on your mental issues. Remember what I have said many times, a seemingly debilitating issue can sometimes be a hidden, special gift! OCD for some is a total waste of time but to others, who take discipline and control cognitively, they actually benefit from the OCD in ways of greater concentration on the things that truly matter. For me, Borderline Personality Disorder is a challenge of great labor. But I have addressed trhis disorder with great dedication to making it a virtue of benefit. I see my disorder as a benefit in the sense that I have 12 people working in my head all the time They all have a job and they all do it because, ultimately, I am the boss. In addition to my medicine I NEED to practice good, cognitive behavior modification. The goal, in my opinion, is positive, personal correction!

dmoney101;567468 said:

Whaaat? They make everything exactly the same, it just last longer. I can't believe they kept you limp. In fact, I might get even more frequent erections just because I'm so damn confident with my skills now. How many mg did they have you on? I get 10 mg and cut it in half because I've read some horror stories on people that took too much

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I believe I was taking 10mg, and at times I wouldn't be able to get aroused only because I anticipated the worst, which is not being able to cum, and at the time I was married, and feeling my wife's contempt - or potential - was enough to wreck my self-confidence and frighten my into dropping the SSRI. However, for me it was the right choice because that particular medication wasn't independently justified. I have since thought about going back on an SSRI though now as an addition to my current therapy, as I've heard in many cases it takes many months for some people to adjust to the side effects like anorgasmia. That being said, I try to keep an open mind and I realize everyone's different.

doublelongdaddy;567544 said:

Money, everybody is different on SSRI and all psychotropical medications for that matter. For me, it took years of different meds to get myself to a cocktail that was both beneficial mentally while remaining with little side-effects, esspecially sexual. The best advice on thos matter to those who are sacrificing sexuality for mentality, STOP! Go back to your doctor and work with him/her until you achieve the perfect dose.

Understand this to, sometimes the dose or even the medication can change and cause issues so be open to adjustments over time as needed.

Lastly, what I want to emphasize the most is COGNITIVE THERAPY...this is above all things the best method of change in mentality. The medication can be a way to get yourself to the place where you can wean yourself off while all the while working, physically, on your mental issues. Remember what I have said many times, a seemingly debilitating issue can sometimes be a hidden, special gift! OCD for some is a total waste of time but to others, who take discipline and control cognitively, they actually benefit from the OCD in ways of greater concentration on the things that truly matter. For me, Borderline Personality Disorder is a challenge of great labor. But I have addressed trhis disorder with great dedication to making it a virtue of benefit. I see my disorder as a benefit in the sense that I have 12 people working in my head all the time They all have a job and they all do it because, ultimately, I am the boss. In addition to my medicine I NEED to practice good, cognitive behavior modification. The goal, in my opinion, is positive, personal correction!

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I believe in everything you said in this post, DLD. Personally, it's refreshing to have someone share their experience with mentality especially in a positive manner. Personally I struggle with Bipolar Disorder and I'm still trying to figure out the correct "cocktail" for me, however, I have hope in achieving an acceptable balance as time goes on. Sometimes, ruling out negative factors in ones life can be a huge progressive step, no matter how difficult it might be, such as distancing oneself from attachments and things that take you away from focusing on yourself. I believe that once you have a relatively stress free environment and daily living, and with the cognitive practices you have elicited, we as individuals will be better able to focus on what we actually want, and who we actually surround ourselves with, and why. This brotherhood at MOS has been a huge help in many ways, and after a two hear hiatus I still find comfort in having been graced to experience the camaraderie that's been such a huge support.

I believe they have something called dapoxetine out there specifically for pe. You take it only before sex too so its not an everyday thing

Listen boys, the best and biggest weapon you have to defeat stress and unlock your way to joy and well being is yourselves. Why do you risk getting side effects? Isn't it better to achieve it through meditation and mind techniques. Once you learn the way your body works and become one with yourself you will see that your life has been taken to a whole new level. Plus, if you use medicine too frequently- your body might just adapt to it and it may stop working. I am in no way someone who knows a a lot, I am just someone who deeply believes that having control over your mind and body is what can make your life full of the long seeked happiness and joy. I am also a medication hater (even when I have to take any form of medication and pills I just don't). But that's just me and my 2 cents. Do whatever you think is best, but keep what I just wrote in mind

Zambrodom3;569666 said:

Listen boys, the best and biggest weapon you have to defeat stress and unlock your way to joy and well being is yourselves. Why do you risk getting side effects? Isn't it better to achieve it through meditation and mind techniques. Once you learn the way your body works and become one with yourself you will see that your life has been taken to a whole new level. Plus, if you use medicine too frequently- your body might just adapt to it and it may stop working. I am in no way someone who knows a a lot, I am just someone who deeply believes that having control over your mind and body is what can make your life full of the long seeked happiness and joy. I am also a medication hater (even when I have to take any form of medication and pills I just don't). But that's just me and my 2 cents. Do whatever you think is best, but keep what I just wrote in mind

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In my experience, mental illnesses get worse when untreated, and that what happened with me, I was very anti medication, and would use marijuana and other drugs abusively because of my mental illness, and I became a vagabond and hobo for a year before I sought help which saved me.

While I agree that having control over your thoughts and body is very important for any ambitious endeavors in life, sometimes it's just not possible for people without outside help, whether it be chemical or cognitive. I don't believe that anyone has the right to judge others when it comes to emotios because we all have them and most of the time it's not our choice how to experience them, it just comes on.

That being said, I believe life is about trying to picture others before you knew them, and really try to understand who they are. How hard you try is up to the individual.

sizerp;569781 said:

In my experience, mental illnesses get worse when untreated

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But do you believe there actually is a medication for someone's mental illness? I think that the only way medications can help is physical. If you do not face the problem face to face and solve your inner conflict, it will still be there no matter how much medication you take. But that is just my 2 cents. Everyone is free to do what they want, but i believe this is the best advice I can give to you, my brothers

Zambrodom3;569784 said:

But do you believe there actually is a medication for someone's mental illness? I think that the only way medications can help is physical. If you do not face the problem face to face and solve your inner conflict, it will still be there no matter how much medication you take. But that is just my 2 cents. Everyone is free to do what they want, but i believe this is the best advice I can give to you, my brothers

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Great point, and I'd agree with you on it because some people like myself deal with real physical brain issues, and the medication I take is in no way a cure, and I think it allows or "unlocks" an ability to grow with cognitive reasoning and gaining knowledge and wisdom with the new found peace in my mind. However, without other treatment alongside the medication, like behavior therapy, it makes it difficult to retrain your brain completely by depending on a pill - although the breathing room and ability to actually function without causing a shitstorm hurricane of drama and anger and irritability that may be attributed to the medication cannot be denied - and I look at it like Penis Enlargement, I have a Bathmate and a SG extender and they are of absolutely no use without my effort and facilitation of such tools, and like always we have bad days that mustn't be blamed on any one other condition. Like I would feel foolish if during one bad day, I just said "fuck is medication isn't working and I shouldn't take it", rather than realizing that I've had a ratio of more good days than bad and sometimes realizing the significance of such is enough two awaken the heart and provide room for loving yourself. Just my 2c.

I see your point, right you are. Really like when having good discussions.