Im buying my wife a strap on to use on me. Im getting a 5 inch dick and a 4 inch anal plug. Its all from Doc Johnson. Anyone else here do this with there wife and any advice??
 
3lee said:
Im buying my wife a strap on to use on me. Im getting a 5 inch dick and a 4 inch anal plug. Its all from Doc Johnson. Anyone else here do this with there wife and any advice??

I've heard stories of this kind of thing making girls leave the men who wanted it. But, whatever floats your boat. They only thing I've ever considered and tried shoving up my ass was the Aneros because it's actually to promote prostate health and people report of AMAZING prostate orgasms. But, I tried it once and it doesn't seem like something I'd want to try again.
 
PenilePersist said:
I've heard stories of this kind of thing making girls leave the men who wanted it. But, whatever floats your boat. They only thing I've ever considered and tried shoving up my ass was the Aneros because it's actually to promote prostate health and people report of AMAZING prostate orgasms. But, I tried it once and it doesn't seem like something I'd want to try again.
She brought it up though. I was relutant at first. But with some finger stimulation from her, it was pretty fun and good. She seemed to like it.
 
3lee said:
She brought it up though. I was relutant at first. But with some finger stimulation from her, it was pretty fun and good. She seemed to like it.

Hmm. That would be an interesting proposition to have from a GF or wife.
Finger is a whole lot different than her fucking your ass with a dildo. I wouldn't let that shit happen no matter how much my wife begged. I'd let a GF finger a bit and oral a bit but no way in hell I'd let her shove a dildo up my ass, especially not with the dominance of her fucking with a strap-on.

You may like the Aneros so do a search for it. It's formed to massage the prostate which is considered the "male g spot" and some people get comfortable with it enough to get full body orgasms according to many testimonials.
 
I'd NEVER in my life let anyone fuck me in the ass because it gives them dominance. Just my opinion but it'd probably give her a dominant feeling over you and then what could you possibly say, I'm the man in this relationship? If you wanted anal pleasure why not just get a vibrator? I have to agree with Persist on this one, don't be surprised if her attitude about you changes. I doubt this would be a good thing for her to brag about to her friends. When she said it to you, it could just be testing you. If a small penis doesn't makes me feel less of a man, having a wife fucking me in the ass certainly would.
 
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I mean if I absolutely wanted to try something like this, it'd have to be with a woman who I'd never in my life see again.
 
goldmember said:
P.P.) Do you ever let your ladies ride on top?

Yes. Totally different than being fucked in the ass with a strap on. Plus, any time I want I can start humping her from the cowgirl position and controlling her body with my hands and arms as well and that makes me more of the dominant again.
 
PenilePersist said:
Yes. Totally different than being fucked in the ass with a strap on. Plus, any time I want I can start humping her from the cowgirl position and controlling her body with my hands and arms as well and that makes me more of the dominant again.
lol good point
 
Man, some uptight guys around here. I'm not really into having anything done to my ass, but I don't see why his wife being turned on by this is such a bad thing, or why not being in a dominant position sexually is bad thing. What's the problem? What's wrong with a woman being more in charge than he is for a turn? If they're secure in the relationship and they both enjoy it, who cares? I read Dan Savage's column all the time, and according to him this activity is called pegging and it's really not all that uncommon. Healthy sex is about both partners working to please each other, even if one of them is 100% into what the other wants, you still have to play ball if you expect to get what you want as well. And, being a man is a lot more than just running the show in the bedroom, so I don't really understand how this is is supposed to be emasuclating for him.
 
I don't think i can ever let anyone fuck my ass... however, i have thought of getting a strap-on so that i can wear it just above my dick and double fuck my wife. From doggy, i could fuck her pussy with my dick and her ass with the strap-on... i bet she'd go crazy from it.
 
Well I dont drink Everclear for that reason. hahah> But she is curious as to what its like to be "the man", so I say let her be. What can it hurt? She is very much still my one and only, and although at first I was not into it, she has done some things Ive asked of her she wasnt willing to do at first but later liked it( sucking me). I say let her have her fantasy. After all she is my wife. I dont feel less of a man for doing it or thinking of it, so when the strap on arrives, Ill let her do it. Its mainly for her, so Im game. i love my wife alot, she is my all. Anyway Ill post updates of how it goes. La;) ter guys!!!
 
sed26 said:
It's just unnatural. It's almost like having gay sex. Don't take this hard as it is just one person's opinion.

I'm not taking it hard, I just think it's a little silly to be so horribly concerned about a woman being more dominant in the bedroom. I once again can't speak from experience, but plenty of men enjoy being dominated sexually - supposedly it's usually very powerful men that enjoy releasing control in at least one aspect of their lives.

And, the only thing gay he could do is something with another man. Just because his ass is involved doesn't mean there's anything gay going on. Think about that for a moment. If you want to fuck your girlfriend in the ass, are you gay? That's just a pretty uninformed statement. I swear you guys will have better sex if you're not so paranoid about this shit.

Anyway 3lee doesn't seem to phased by any of it so no worries.
 
If you want to fuck your girlfriend in the ass, are you gay?

What does that have to do with gay sex? Its a woman's ass. There are thousands of ways to have unbelievable sex besides getting fucked by a strap-on, or anything else involving my ass. I look at it as I was the one born with the penis and it gives me a sense of power. I guess I'm not the type to be dominated thats all.
 
See, I'm at the ripe old age of 45, where I have to get the annual finger wave from Ol' Doc. Personally, I can't fukkin' stand it, so the very thought of something even remotely cock-sized jammin' its way the wrong way up the highway just fills me with.....not quite dread...but; a whole lotta hesitation.
 
Du,

I think that you are a Pioneer with stating that you want your wife to fuck your ass with a strap-on, and I see nothing wrong with it !

My wife and are swingers (I am not active at this time), but she still is and at the parties, we have many toys and alot of the guys/girls are "bi-sexual" and love to get fucked with our strap-ons, slip on rubber cocks, giant dildos etc . . . check out some of these links to some good ass fucking info.

I have used a dildo and/or viberator in my asshole along with my wife for years now - for our kegel training sessions - but at this point I have not got fucked with a "strap-on" . . . . . . . . . . yet . . . . LOL.




I say "GO FOR IT" - make a difference in "YOUR" life, you only live once, dont worry about what other people say - experience all you can - "Life is Short Enjoy Yourself"

Just tell her to take it easy on your asshole at first and use lube - you done want any permanant damage to your asshole. My wife is very experienced with anal sex and she loosens up and relaxes quickly. So until you get used to getting it in the ass, you may have to learn some relaxation techniques for your anal sphincter muscles - "Relax" them, its alot easier.

My wife said when she first started letting guys fuck her asshole, she was really scared from what other girls said (in highschool) and she would tense up and expect pain. She said that there was a little pain at first then she learned how to relax her ass muscles and it created orgasms.

When we fuck doggy style, she lets me fuck her ass, then pussy, then ass, then pussy and so on and so on . . . . . . . .

Keep us updated and enjoy the ride. Also, post some pics as often as you can - especially of you getting rammed ! Cant wait to see em' :O
 
sed26 said:
What does that have to do with gay sex? Its a woman's ass. There are thousands of ways to have unbelievable sex besides getting fucked by a strap-on, or anything else involving my ass. I look at it as I was the one born with the penis and it gives me a sense of power. I guess I'm not the type to be dominated thats all.
 
It's simple - you have the impression that his ass being messed with during sex is somehow gay, simply because it's his ass and you associate this with gay men, but it's just a body part. If he were to rim his wife's asshole - something I presume gay men do all the time - does that seem gay to you? Or if his wife rims him? The only way to be gay is to be attracted to another man and do something sexual with them - there's nothing he could do with his wife that is 'gay.'

So far as a dick giving you power, whatever floats your boat. It's actually a prety tiny appendage on your body and power and sex are mostly pyschological. If you have to be the one doing the thrusting to enjoy sex, then rock on. But realize that not everybody is going to see it that way.

For instance, there are gay men that take it in the ass all the time that could mop the floor with you physically, and I doubt they'd react well to being told they have no power sexually. In fact, there may even be some women that could do the same. Basically, this shit is all just in your head. Lot's of people don't need or don't subscribe to the rigidly defined gender expectations.
 
Why isn't shoving the dildo up there not enough. Why use a strapon? No its not gay to do things with your ass but getting fucked; that's different. Enough about the constant arguement as it is going nowhere we could go on forever.
 
sed26 said:
Why isn't shoving the dildo up there not enough. Why use a strapon? No its not gay to do things with your ass but getting fucked; that's different. Enough about the constant arguement as it is going nowhere we could go on forever.

A women is performing a sex act on a man and if it gives him pleasure then WHY not,sex is something to enjoy not to to be uptight about.
 
5{\0\0\0\0\0\0\0\0\0hy isn't shoving the dildo up there not enough. Why use a strapon? No its not gay to do things with your ass but getting fucked; that's different. Enough about the constant arguement as it is going nowhere we could go on forever.[/QUOTE]

I'm just curious why you're so opposed to this. What is the deal with you and needing to be the one doing the fucking? I find it interesting, and I may be putting words in your mouth but it seems like you find the idea of the woman being in charge really threatening. I mean, if she's sticking a dildo in his ass with her her hand or wearing it around her waist, really, what's the difference?

The boundary you're drawing here is entirely mental and it seems like it's deeply rooted in the need to be dominant over women. I'm not judging that, but you haven't really explained why what 3lee is up to grosses you out so much beyond the fact that it seems to give the woman too much control or seems 'gay.' Why is a woman taking over in the sack such a bad thing?
 
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I know that everybody is not the same and he has the right to do things that he wants to do. I love my masculinity and no one will convince me to be otherwise. I apoligize if I sound as if I'm comming off hard, no its not gay since its with a woman. I may be wrong but it seems as if you're having a problem with me liking to be dominant in the bedroom. I'll never accept anything up my ass and nothing can convince me otherwise, unless its for medical reasons. That's just me. The only way women are in charge in the bedroom that I don't mind at all is being on top and in control or any other way not involving my ass. I'm not gonna knock your hustle and tell you not to do it its just my opinion. You have to accept the fact that there really are some guys that won't be convinced to play with their ass, the same as some women out there refuse to give oral sex. It seems that you guys want to switch roles and see how it feels on the woman's side. There's nothing wrong with that at all but I never wanted to do things like that. For me, there are plenty of other ways to be adventurous, so you have your way and I have mine. I don't see the meaning of us both debating the subject so much, it seems as if you have a problem with me being a dominant person. It may sound uptight to you that I'm not into things like that. But as far as that goes, there's nothing that a woman can ask me to do to her that I won't do, wether its giving a rimjob,69 or anything of the sort. I'm just not in to things that involves anything up my ass.
 
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Eh, I think you're taking this all wrong. I actually don't particularly like the idea of getting fucked in the ass by a woman or even having anything up there. For me it would be more pain than pleasure. The closest thing I've ever experienced to that is when a girl drunkenly tried to snake a finger up there during a blowjob, which I quickly put a stop to. It doesn't gross me out and I've certainly fucked women in the ass, but it doesn't turn me on in the slightest to be the recipient of anything.

I was just curious about your strong opposition to the idea - you did proclaim pretty vigorously that it seemed weird or 'gay,' and talked about how you would never let a woman demasulanize you in that fashion. You've since explained that you just need to feel dominant over women in the bedroom for whatever reason, and that's cool, that's all I was asking about. Before when you questioned why the hell 3lee would want to do such a thing when there were so many other sexual options it gave me the impression that you had some kind of serious problem with what he was up to with hsi wife, as if you were questioning why anybody would even consider it. I was interested to know why you feel that way. I don't really have a problem with what 3lee, you, or any other consenting adults want to do sexually, I was just asking for curiosity's sake - nothing personal whatsoever.

I was also curious about you being dismayed by the 'gay' aspect of it, since I couldn't help but notice you also started a thread about being attracted to shemales, which seemed like a weird contradiction. Finding a woman with a penis sexy seems much closer to homosexual feelings than having a woman stick something in your ass. So far as masculinity, as I said, I don't think it robs anybody of their manhood to engage in activities like what 3lee is up to - that stuff is all just in our heads. As I mentioned, there are probably men that like their wives to fuck them in the ass who are also the zenith of masulinity and dominance, they might just happen to get off on kinkier stuff like that. I just don't understand how it makes anyone less of a man to do that.

It seemed like you were really hung up on some rigid gender roles and really bothered by 3lee epxerimenting with them with his wife, but maybe I got the wrong impression. Either way your comments, combined with the interest in shemales seemed a little strange, so I was just asking, not accusing. Sorry if it came off that way. I wasn't trying to really debate anything with you, but rather just asking why you feel that way and saying that I disagree.
 
sikdogg said:
I don't think i can ever let anyone fuck my ass... however, i have thought of getting a strap-on so that i can wear it just above my dick and double fuck my wife. From doggy, i could fuck her pussy with my dick and her ass with the strap-on... i bet she'd go crazy from it.

Good one. In another thread, I called for using a dildo or two in addition to your own dick so you can fill up all three holes. But, the strap on would definitely help keep some hands free.

Stridge, I don't know about eeverybody else, but I have said from the beginning "whatever floats your boat" and I agree that they should do what pleases them both as a couple. I just shared how I would handle it and why and what I have heard from people who have tried this.

For me, this would be me taking a loss of enjoyment in order to give more joy to the woman ... not mutual enjoyment ... and the amount I'd have to take is not worth it.

If my wife or GF was extremely adamant about wanting to fuck somebody in the ass with a strap on, I'd tell her we'd have to invite another woman into the bedroom for that purpose so we could run a train:
me > GF/wife > 2nd woman.;)
 
PenilePersist said:
Good one. In another thread, I called for using a dildo or two in addition to your own dick so you can fill up all three holes. But, the strap on would definitely help keep some hands free.

Stridge, I don't know about eeverybody else, but I have said from the beginning "whatever floats your boat" and I agree that they should do what pleases them both as a couple. I just shared how I would handle it and why and what I have heard from people who have tried this.

For me, this would be me taking a loss of enjoyment in order to give more joy to the woman ... not mutual enjoyment ... and the amount I'd have to take is not worth it.

If my wife or GF was extremely adamant about wanting to fuck somebody in the ass with a strap on, I'd tell her we'd have to invite another woman into the bedroom for that purpose so we could run a train:
me > GF/wife > 2nd woman.;)

I don't think any guy is automatically obligated to do anything like this just because his wife is interested and I never said as much. While some things that are common place and not particularly unpleasant like oral sex can be expected of partners to a degree in a healthy sexual relationship, so long as it's understood that it's expected, things like your wife wanting to fuck you with a strap-on are a bigger compromise. I would never suggest that a guy that's not willing to do that is somehow weird or close-minded - I wouldn't want to do it myself. I was just curious about the slightly revulsed posts discussing the surrendering of masculinity and such.

I've never experimented with it too much of a degree, but I don't find the idea of letting my girlfriend or any other woman take charge in the bedroom to be a particular threat to my manhood. The idea isn't a particular turn-on either, but I was just curious why the idea of being in a subordinate role freaked some guys out as I didn't have that reaction at all. I was also intrigued that somebody would suggest that there was a gay element to what a happily married guy was doing with his wife, which I pointed out.
 
Please point out to me where I said exactly that "Doing strap-on sex is gay". I said it would seem like gay sex to me, not calling it gay. Secondly the shemales post. I don't like shemales as women with a penis. I specifically stated that some are very attractive "with clothes on" and that I wouldn't have sex with them. I just found it curious that it was the #1 fetish right now so I brought it up. Also I never said that naked shemales turned me on. I don't find anything gay about that because even though you know its a man that has been changed, your eyes still percieve them as a woman.
 
I must not have read the shemales post very carefully, my mistake. I believe your exact words were 'seems gay,' as you stated. I took this to mean that you thought a man being penetrated in that fashion was indicative of homosexual desire or something to that effect. I frequently hear guys stating that certain sexual acts done with a woman somehow make you gay (see the infamous Sopranos episode where Uncle Junior is derided when it comes to light that he likes eating out his girlfriend), and I've always disagreed with that idea. Again, I wasn't trying to push your buttons. I was just stating my point on it and asking why you thought that way about it. Clearly we miscommunicated.
 
Don't worry I was merely stating my point. None of it was taken personally. There's nothing you can do with a woman and call it gay. After all it is a woman.
 
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Indeed - Maybe if a guy dressed her up in his clothes, insisted she fuck him in the ass with a strap-on, and also requested that he be allowed to call her Dave or Steve while she fucked him there might be some borderline issues . . . but I digress.
 
Alright enough!:P OK I dont have to explain this but I will say this....I am one tough fellow. I can bench press 315 pounds twice. I am only 5'5" and 178lbs. I have 6% bodyfat. I can knock over a 150lb punching bag with 100lb stand if it isnt bolted down with one punch.. I am very athletic and very tough. I am a man that is not gay at all. The thought of it makes me puke. My wife is a women. If she wants to do this and I am willing, then so be it. I will tell you this much...and this is a fact. If anyone thinks Im gay in anyway for doing this, you are totally wrong. I am a very kinky guy in the bed. Besides weve been married for 13 years now, some adventure is needed hahaha. Years ago, I did think it was gay myself, but relized it wasnt. There are alot of nerves in that area that feel good. Dont miss out on something just because it seems odd at first. I will never be with another man EVER, but my wife can do anything to me she wants.rofl
 
Dude,
After that I just gotta throw this in:

Wadda they call hemorrhoids in San Francisco?
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Speed bumps !

Sorry man....I just hadda do it.
 
rofl rofl
MAXAMEYES said:
Dude,
After that I just gotta throw this in:

Wadda they call hemorrhoids in San Francisco?
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Speed bumps !

Sorry man....I just hadda do it.
 
WOW, you guys have to let people be themselves. If he wants to be packed in the ass by his wife with a dil, then let him be himself.

Du, I thought it was gay at first too, but then worked on it with my wife with the kegel training and viola, I found it would help my orgasms. While we do some packin', she puts the viberator up my ass and I guess it hits the "Male G-Spot" - prostate and holy fuck man, I spew out like a fucken volcano !

My wife likes to fuck with me, cause I love holding my load for as long as I can. She then lets me fuck her asshole and she does her squeezing thing and geeeeeeeeeeez, her asshole is like a fucken vice - tight gripping. That just fucken killz me !

But if any of your were ever in a Swingers Club, you'd think this was the "norm". It sounds normal to me as my wife and I have seen and/or experienced it all at one time or another.

Enjoy getting your ass packed and post some pics ! I cant wait! LOL rofl
 
The thought that somes to my mind is that after she's fucked him with a strap-on, she might not look at him the same way she does now.
 
haha i hope she will look at me with love and respect as that is what she wanted to do. I know my wife and that is how it will be... Thanks for all the input.;)
 
Well, my wife still looks at me the same way when she sticks the viberator up my ass and I or other Members of the Club, fuck her in the ass with the strap-on ?

Strap ons are alot of fun and kool when ya learn how to use them correctly.
 
This whole thread takes me back to the "Good Ol' Days" when I was still active. Any vets out there?

Everybody know how the Gub'ment, and especially the Military, loooooves acronyms. We all had special names for our ships....like:
The USS WASP was "What A Shitty Place", until there was a TB outbreak and then it became "We Are Sick Puppies"
and
The GUAM was "Give Up And Masturbate".
Even the Army got it; Fort Eustis stood for "Even Uncle Sam Thinks It Sucks".

What the fuck has this got to do with strap-ons you say?
Well I'll tellya; my absolute favorite and the reason for this post was the good old USS IWO JIMA which means:

"I Want One Jammed In My Ass".

So hey kid, if it turns you & the Ol' Lady on I say give it hell, but whenevr I hear about anybody wantin' to get anything jammed in the ass....I just gotta giggle like short striper all over again.
 
You guys sound like you have a great relationship. I don't judge you. In my own experience, there is nothing better than a great sex life with your wife of many years. Everyone has there own little thing in the bedroom. Mine is taking pics of my wife in outrageous outfits and having her go out in public in some of the tamer ones. Really turns me on...go figure.
But of course, my favorite is when she bends over and takes me from behind and grimaces and clenches her fists! Oh, man...I'm getting carried away! Oh, honey?
 
kcee7x7 said:
You guys sound like you have a great relationship. I don't judge you. In my own experience, there is nothing better than a great sex life with your wife of many years. Everyone has there own little thing in the bedroom. Mine is taking pics of my wife in outrageous outfits and having her go out in public in some of the tamer ones. Really turns me on...go figure.
But of course, my favorite is when she bends over and takes me from behind and grimaces and clenches her fists! Oh, man...I'm getting carried away! Oh, honey?


kcee,

Well, I gotta cum clean. I kinda like seeing other men/women have sex with my wife. Do you think that there is something wrong about that ? It turns me on and the guys love it that I love it ! LOL, guess I am a Professional Voyeur' ? I love at the Club, when another guy is ramming my wife (from behind - dogstyle) and she is blowing me - WOW, whatta rush and she just gulps my shaft and head wayy down her throat - she can deep throat me. She loves to wear sexy clothing also and lingerie to the parties or out shopping. She loves to get home and put on her miniskirt, heels (no panties or thongs ) and go out with me to the mall, Wal-Mart, etc . . . . . and I love to watch the guys look at her. She teases them by bending down to pic up something when there are guys behind her at the stores, but you could barely see her lips or asshole (keep the mind wondering). WOW, its sooooo kool, to see these guys fall all over her - then I see her certain look for me to cum and rescue her . . . . . . . I really bust her balls some times. Especially when its a guy that she really is "afraid" of, or he is just wierd. LOL

I love big tits and hairy pussy too - thats my fetish's.
 
I don't see nothing wrong with that because I look at it this way. I think you look at your wife as a fuck buddy and you may have a different view on relationships than everyone else. It's almost like watching adult entertainment but in real life. I personally wouldn't do that though because its too risky with diseases that some people have and plus if I really loved her I don't want anyone else touching her. So I guess you have to have fun for the both of us. rofl
 
GashKing said:
kcee,

Well, I gotta cum clean. I kinda like seeing other men/women have sex with my wife. Do you think that there is something wrong about that ? It turns me on and the guys love it that I love it !

From what I read, whether guys actually let their wife have sex with other guys or not, it is a pretty popular fantasy. However, most guys that have the fantasy would not want to actually go through with it because every married man's greatest fear would be that his wife might enjoy it more than being with him. Remember the movie Indecent Proposal with Demi Moore, Woody Harrelson, and Robert Redford? He was obsessed with whether she enjoyed the sex with Robert Redford. When she admitted that she did, he went crazy.
You are a brave (I guess) man, Gashking!
 
kcee7x7 said:
GashKing said:
kcee,

Well, I gotta cum clean. I kinda like seeing other men/women have sex with my wife. Do you think that there is something wrong about that ? It turns me on and the guys love it that I love it !

From what I read, whether guys actually let their wife have sex with other guys or not, it is a pretty popular fantasy. However, most guys that have the fantasy would not want to actually go through with it because every married man's greatest fear would be that his wife might enjoy it more than being with him. Remember the movie Indecent Proposal with Demi Moore, Woody Harrelson, and Robert Redford? He was obsessed with whether she enjoyed the sex with Robert Redford. When she admitted that she did, he went crazy.
You are a brave (I guess) man, Gashking!


Kcee,

I didnt get used to it over night - it took awhile at first!

Dont forget, we have been swingers for many years now and most of the members of the Club know who belongs with who and who can have sex with who ? Members of the Club really dont have to worry about stealing anyones mate as we get together quite often for parties and we all know each other outside of the Club. My wife has been doing this way before I got involved (she started in high school and college).

Indecent Proposal is only "in the movies". My wife does enjoy sex with other men and tells me this - which I support - to make her happy. But she "loves only me" ! I live with her, go to bed with her each night and she is the mother of my children and my loving wife.
 
:O What would your children think about this? I don't think that'll have a positive effect on them if ever found out.
 
sed26 said:
:O What would your children think about this? I don't think that'll have a positive effect on them if ever found out.


Some things are best kept from prying eyes as children are innocent and do not have access to any info !

They will make their own decision when they are old enough and can understand. Its kinda like an adult club, play ground, if you will ? rofl

Also, kids are more apt to know most sexual connotations, games, information by age 11 now days. Many 12 & 13 year olds are getting pregnant today, which is just upsetting and immoral - wrong.

By the way, I and many others see nothing wrong with sex. Too many people look down upon sex. There is nothing wrong with people wanting to have many partners, and an adult Club with consenting adults. All mature adults love sex. I never met an adult that didnt !

"To each his own"
 
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