I'M A LOSER, it's finally hit me.

I’m actually talking to a really nice girl and after meeting her twice I haven’t even thought about that nasty timer waster! Looking forward to seeing her again.
 
Stripeee;753461 said:
I’m actually talking to a really nice girl and after meeting her twice I haven’t even thought about that nasty timer waster! Looking forward to seeing her again.
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I've been with someone for a decade so I've been out of the dating scene for a long time. Based on personal experiences and knowledge I've gained this is what I'd be doing if I were single:

1 - identifying 1-night stands and "fuck buddies" and trying to get my penis inside as many as possible as often as possible. I view pussy as money in a savings account. If I'm in a relationship I know I'm covered. If I'm single I don't like being without the guarantee that I've got pussy available to me (it's a deep rooted personal flaw).

2 - identifying long term potential. If I found a girl I felt could be relationship material I would forego trying to get her in bed ASAP. If after a few dates/hangouts it appeared the chemistry is there for a good relationship I would flat out tell her. I would let her know I'm very attracted to her and my hormones/penis are saying "go to bed now and show her at least 5 different positions before cumming and then 5 more during round 2!" However my rational thoughts and emotions are saying, "this girl is something special! Spend more time with her getting to know her more. In a few weeks the sex will be amazing due to the emotional connection."

I feel if you do this right with a woman she will go totally nuts. You'd be telling her how much you respect her and truly like HER. Obviously in those weeks leading up to sex you need ensure she keeps you out of the friendzone. Makeout sessions are required. Long passionate kisses goodnight are a must. We're talking the type that she's feverishly masturbating to multiple orgasms within 2 minutes of you leaving because she's so turned on by you. Maybe you both agreed to wait until after 4 weeks of dating to have sex but if you do things correctly she will be tearing your clothes off and stuffing your cock in her somewhere between days 18-24.

Anyway I haven't been able to put #2 into practice as I am married. In theory it should not only work but have a woman going insane wanting you. Telling her you respect her greatly, you really like her as a person, and you don't need sex to know those things? That would get a lot of women so wet you could wring out their panties into a bucket 2 weeks before you're even having sex.
 
cladre60;753529 said:
I've been with someone for a decade so I've been out of the dating scene for a long time. Based on personal experiences and knowledge I've gained this is what I'd be doing if I were single:

1 - identifying 1-night stands and "fuck buddies" and trying to get my penis inside as many as possible as often as possible. I view pussy as money in a savings account. If I'm in a relationship I know I'm covered. If I'm single I don't like being without the guarantee that I've got pussy available to me (it's a deep rooted personal flaw).

2 - identifying long term potential. If I found a girl I felt could be relationship material I would forego trying to get her in bed ASAP. If after a few dates/hangouts it appeared the chemistry is there for a good relationship I would flat out tell her. I would let her know I'm very attracted to her and my hormones/penis are saying "go to bed now and show her at least 5 different positions before cumming and then 5 more during round 2!" However my rational thoughts and emotions are saying, "this girl is something special! Spend more time with her getting to know her more. In a few weeks the sex will be amazing due to the emotional connection."

I feel if you do this right with a woman she will go totally nuts. You'd be telling her how much you respect her and truly like HER. Obviously in those weeks leading up to sex you need ensure she keeps you out of the friendzone. Makeout sessions are required. Long passionate kisses goodnight are a must. We're talking the type that she's feverishly masturbating to multiple orgasms within 2 minutes of you leaving because she's so turned on by you. Maybe you both agreed to wait until after 4 weeks of dating to have sex but if you do things correctly she will be tearing your clothes off and stuffing your cock in her somewhere between days 18-24.

Anyway I haven't been able to put #2 into practice as I am married. In theory it should not only work but have a woman going insane wanting you. Telling her you respect her greatly, you really like her as a person, and you don't need sex to know those things? That would get a lot of women so wet you could wring out their panties into a bucket 2 weeks before you're even having sex.
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Thanks Cladre for this write up! Very helpful to so many!
 
Great advice I must say! Some good news, I’ve started seeing someone! She’s a couple of years younger than me and luckily lives very near to me as well. She’s what I would call girlfriend material for sure
 
Stripeee;753623 said:
Great advice I must say! Some good news, I’ve started seeing someone! She’s a couple of years younger than me and luckily lives very near to me as well. She’s what I would call girlfriend material for sure
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Just be careful strip, don't go all in too quickly.
 
Stripeee;753623 said:
Great advice I must say! Some good news, I’ve started seeing someone! She’s a couple of years younger than me and luckily lives very near to me as well. She’s what I would call girlfriend material for sure
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Well Jesus is smiling on you my Brother! She sounds like wifey material, I hope it alleges fabulous for you. It always brings me so much joy when my Brothers fall in love!
 
contrary to what our fearless leader just espoused, don't fool yourself into thinking there's an actual 'one' for you...there are many. Once she becomes 'the one', your focus shifts 100% to her and then the 'imbalance' happens and you're sunk. You MUST make yourself the primary focus, not her or her (or anyone else), you and only you...this is when/where attraction happens and SHE has to make YOU the focus, (not the other way around).
 
Big Schwanz Acht;753681 said:
contrary to what our fearless leader just espoused, don't fool yourself into thinking there's an actual 'one' for you...there are many. Once she becomes 'the one', your focus shifts 100% to her and then the 'imbalance' happens and you're sunk. You MUST make yourself the primary focus, not her or her (or anyone else), you and only you...this is when/where attraction happens and SHE has to make YOU the focus, (not the other way around).
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BSA is right you yourself are the most important factor in your life, once you take your own feelings out of it and put someone else above you then that when you start shooting yourself in the foot.
I may not believe in a "One" as most monogamous and/or religious people do but i do know you should always remember, if true happiness is what you seek you must learn to love yourself and your flaws in order for it to be healthy instead of toxic. You cant love someone or feel the love of someone else unless you learn to love yourself first and all of your flaws. We are human flaws are what define us they can become the chains that bind us in place of the wings that push us into the future it is up to you.
 
There is someone out there for everyone who is a perfect match but many will never meet :(
 
doublelongdaddy;753577 said:
Thanks Cladre for this write up! Very helpful to so many!
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As long as you keep yourself out of the friendzone and keep her going nuts wanting you while getting to know each other you're setting the stage for a good relationship.
 
cladre60;753759 said:
As long as you keep yourself out of the friendzone and keep her going nuts wanting you while getting to know each other you're setting the stage for a good relationship.
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<3 Love this!
 
Fuck women until u have ur sexual style down. Eventually u will see wonwn Chase u. Never let them know u want them. If yiure eing a prick u gone too far. Its ok to be a dick though as long as youre being one for the saje of humor. Humor is tha mantey master key. An angry asshole gets left. A cynical comedian gets laid.
 
If u can find a way to make fun of yourself in a way that causes intrigue u can eliminate yiur blockage
A woman admires an honest man.
 
bulldaboss93 said:
If u can find a way to make fun of yourself in a way that causes intrigue u can eliminate yiur blockage
A woman admires an honest man.
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Very smart advice! I really like the way you think
 
DLD said:
Trying to teach an old dog new tricks, very difficult to do. Changing a person is a very challenging thing, especially when cognitive dissonance is involved. Many do not want to let go of beliefs, habits, etc. because they can not see past those attachments to a greater good on the other side. It is not impossible but it will take compassionate work that does not come off as being a controlling person.

I can relate to this when I want to help someone convert their life to Jesus. If I am pushy and preachy, controlling and ego driven they will not even hear me. I approach them is a loving way, never being pushy, only pointing them in the right direction. Many of these people simply can not let go of their secular beliefs so they remain unchanged.

So with any belief system there will be a certain degree of resistance and to get through that resistance one needs to let go and put there trust in a new way of living.
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Hahaha that's right n even funny, trying to teach an old dog new tricks is almost impossible LOL..years ago I met this hippie girl LOL she was into me or something and used to look for me every now and then.One fine day she left n spend years Whit out seeing her face,I was Whit these guys n they started talking about their sexual adventures when two of them claimed theyd had sex Whit her LOL,

Had the answer I basically knew that she was an adulterous girl LOL.. now she's back n I see her cause she stays in a place close to my house actually a relative owns the place n she gets a lot of "visitors" LOL is quite impressive how some people never changes, hahaha
 
DLD said:
If you let her go and she comes back there is something there otherwise, on to the next!
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LOL if she fucked up once she'll fuck up twice better stay away from that bullshit,unless you're into sharing her slit Whit someone else.. maybe one maybe two.. LOL
 
DLD said:
There is someone out there for everyone who is a perfect match but many will never meet :(
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My case I guess but as long it's not a sin I think is fine lol,the shitty part is when I have absolutely nobody around and the monster of loneliness visits my room.. LOL
 
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DLD said:
"I'M A LOSER, it's finally hit me."

The most word that proceeds "I AM" is what the mind defines us by.

"I am a winner" - "I am a loser" one feels good and the other feels bad.

This is very simple and agrees with what has already been said but understand that the most powerful two words in us is "I AM"...these are the two words our Lord defined Himself by "I AM" It may feel fake at first or even like a lie, but that is only because the negativity wants to keep you hostage. The best way to defy the negativity is with a out loud yell of "I AM GOOD" "I AM WORTHY" "I AM LOVED" "I AM VALUABLE" "I AM A CHILD OF GOD" "I AM SPECIAL" "I AM A WINNER"

Do this over and over, make it your mantra. Eventually you will curb the negative thoughts with positive. Being in a positive state allows us to see ourselves as worthy and good. You can also pray for help in this also as there is a GOD who loves you so much and wants to help you in every way.

Any man that is here is a Brother and if you are a Brother there is no way for you to be a loser. Brothers win, we do not know want loosing means.,,You are a Brother!
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bsolutely true. A mantra is a conversation between your conscious self and subconscious self. Say it enough and you'll believe it. There is probably no reason whatsoever why you shouldn't believe it either. If you can't go as far as to say you're a winner or something at the extreme opposite of how you currently see yourself, then try starting with, 'I accept you and I love you for who you are'. It sounds corny but try looking yourself in the eye, in the mirror every morning and saying that five times slowly and see how you feel in a couple of weeks!
 
Getbiglonger7 said:
Mmm actually it's quite interesting besides looks like a simple n harmless thing to do..
Just change our state of mind trough our thoughts
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That's basically it. It's the same principle as smiling when you're feeling down. Something in the action makes something in your psyche 'think' it must be happy. A mantra essentially persuades your psyche that what you tell it is the actual state of things. This may be accurate or not in terms of the objective landscape but it doesn't really matter whether it's true or not. It will be the knew truth to us. Everything about how we see ourselves and see the world around us and our place in it is based upon our interpretation of whatever data we see anyway, likely on a subconscious level, so it's just trying to influence our subconscious to see it in a different way. It can't hurt to love ourselves more though, can it?
 
A-Spot Spammer said:
That's basically it. It's the same principle as smiling when you're feeling down. Something in the action makes something in your psyche 'think' it must be happy. A mantra essentially persuades your psyche that what you tell it is the actual state of things. This may be accurate or not in terms of the objective landscape but it doesn't really matter whether it's true or not. It will be the knew truth to us. Everything about how we see ourselves and see the world around us and our place in it is based upon our interpretation of whatever data we see anyway, likely on a subconscious level, so it's just trying to influence our subconscious to see it in a different way. It can't hurt to love ourselves more though, can it?
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Getbiglonger7 said:
Mmm actually it's quite interesting besides looks like a simple n harmless thing to do..
Just change our state of mind trough our thoughts
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going back to what you said about mantra-ing our dicks bigger. Whilst it's likely it wouldn't be possible to increase size just with thecpower of thought, we could perhaps influence ourselves enough to accept what we have or even see it as big regardless of our prior belief...
 
A-Spot Spammer said:
going back to what you said about mantra-ing our dicks bigger. Whilst it's likely it wouldn't be possible to increase size just with thecpower of thought, we could perhaps influence ourselves enough to accept what we have or even see it as big regardless of our prior belief...
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Could help to motivate n keep on doing the routines even when I feel I can't get bigger no more...(wasting my time)
 
There is an older book called “Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting” It’s written by Lynn Grabhorn. It’s on it’s 3rd or 4th edition already (all different covers). Specifically for me, this book was the ah-ha moment.

I’ve read myriads of self help books over the years and they all basically said the same thing, believe, positive thinking, yada, yada, yada. But none seemed specific on “How To”. This book talked about getting your mind into an intention state and feeling the vibration of actually being in the outcome you wanted to be in.

For me, this worked. I layered on top of it an energy clearing and a clairvoyant reading from a couple of different energy workers and I noticed simple changes immediately to my benefit.

Ive noticed with myself, that positive or negative thinking are useless, unless you‘re vibrating intention to go along with it. That’s when it becomes powerful. And it works for either good or not-good thoughts.

Ive used it for simple things like getting a front row parking spot, finding a used car in great condition at dealer auction prices, and ensuring my flight was delayed so I could make it on since I was running late. I cannot consider these incidences coincidence because way too many have happened WHEN I put vibrating intention behind it.

too much ramble.... sorry.
 
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Self help books, well this is the place... lotta experienced people here, LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, getting bigger, facing life.
 
Big Schwanz Acht said:
I can help, but I don't think you're going to like it...

Channel all of this energy (negative and positive) into yourself, your career, your body...make yourself into an educated, interesting person that people (not just women, but everyone) flock to and want to be around. Positive energy attracts, negative energy repels. Find something that you love to do and are good at...make that your 'why'.

Stop chasing that elusive 'one' and start attracting that wonderful 'many'. Make yourself into something.

And don't get married to the first woman who has sex with you...furthermore, don't get married until you're well on your way to fulfilling your dream(s)
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Spot on....and never define yourself as a looser.
 
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