I'M A LOSER, it's finally hit me.

[Sinthious]

Unfortunately there are always going to be those questions even if you asked is it really going to help you going forward? More than likely it will make more questions arise, Take a step back take your mind out of this circle around this girl its not helping you to stay this focused on her. What does it matter what she does, ask yourself why does someone who hasent shared their heart with you and has made it clear she doesnt intend to do so so why in truth does deserve this much of you?!

We can go around in circles forever but nothing will change unless you make it change, step out of her shadow and live up to your potential.

 

[Stripeee]

You’re right, mentioned this to my mother n she she wouldnt give me an honest answer and would play the victim. I don’t want to develop an attachment to this girl, I’ve made my mind up as it can’t go anywhere positive. But I do think I have one last assault in me, just to message her and hang out, deep down I’d like to fuck her one more time as bad as that sounds but I’d feel better I think if I did that then backed off from her.

 

[Sinthious]

You’re right, mentioned this to my mother n she she wouldnt give me an honest answer and would play the victim. I don’t want to develop an attachment to this girl, I’ve made my mind up as it can’t go anywhere positive. But I do think I have one last assault in me, just to message her and hang out, deep down I’d like to fuck her one more time as bad as that sounds but I’d feel better I think if I did that then backed off from her.

She right that this girl would likely play the victim, she would twist everything till you felt like you were in the wrong and manipulate you. My honest opinion would be stop texting dont go on a last mission just to try and get laid that is the worst thing you can do right now, reading through this thread i honestly dont think you could handle sex with keeping your head out of it the endorphins hormones and intensity will only make you want to redouble your efforts. She is not the only person out there, she is not the only option, she is a cruel vindictive woman who will only cause you more pain than anything and is a short moment of physical attention worth months of pain as you struggle to get away?! The answer should be obvious that its an outstanding NO! you deserve to be happy, you deserve a woman that accepts you for you don't be the person to fall into her trap.

 

[arkailija]

I can see the somewhat point in fucking her, but ... There's plenty of pussy out there. Let your ego out of the window, you win some, you lose some. I see this "revenge" sense in the action, I'd say it isn't healthy in the longer run.
Consider that you'd end up in the bed and what if it all didn't went as great as you've made a picture in your head? I don't want to be the negative Bill here, but still, let it go.

Sinthious said it well; We can go around in circles forever but nothing will change unless you make it change, step out of her shadow and live up to your potential.

 

[DLD]

Sinthious said it well; We can go around in circles forever but nothing will change unless you make it change, step out of her shadow and live up to your potential.

I agree with Ark, this is a very good quote!

 

[Stripeee]

I think there is a clear message here, and that is let it go and walk away, we spoke like I mentioned but if she wanted more she we still be messaging me now. Something I’ll have to carry with me. If I see her I’ll speak but it’s unlikely

 

[DLD]

I think there is a clear message here, and that is let it go and walk away, we spoke like I mentioned but if she wanted more she we still be messaging me now. Something I’ll have to carry with me. If I see her I’ll speak but it’s unlikely

If you let her go and she comes back there is something there otherwise, on to the next!

 

[Sinthious]

I think there is a clear message here, and that is let it go and walk away, we spoke like I mentioned but if she wanted more she we still be messaging me now. Something I’ll have to carry with me. If I see her I’ll speak but it’s unlikely

The experiences that we encounter are what makes us who we are, wither they are good or bad they prepare us for the future as building blocks for our lives. Take what you can from this experience and use it to learn, grow and flourish one day you will look back and see how it changed you for the better.

 

[Lookn4girth]

The experiences that we encounter are what makes us who we are, wither they are good or bad they prepare us for the future as building blocks for our lives. Take what you can from this experience and use it to learn, grow and flourish one day you will look back and see how it changed you for the better.

Well said Sin, you nailed it

 

[DLD]

The experiences that we encounter are what makes us who we are, wither they are good or bad they prepare us for the future as building blocks for our lives. Take what you can from this experience and use it to learn, grow and flourish one day you will look back and see how it changed you for the better.

Good shit!

 

[Stripeee]

I’m actually talking to a really nice girl and after meeting her twice I haven’t even thought about that nasty timer waster! Looking forward to seeing her again.

 

[Lookn4girth]

It sounds like you are getting the hang of how the game works, replace the one that drops with another. Keep up what you are doing strip

 

[cladre60]

I’m actually talking to a really nice girl and after meeting her twice I haven’t even thought about that nasty timer waster! Looking forward to seeing her again.

I've been with someone for a decade so I've been out of the dating scene for a long time. Based on personal experiences and knowledge I've gained this is what I'd be doing if I were single:

1 - identifying 1-night stands and "fuck buddies" and trying to get my penis inside as many as possible as often as possible. I view pussy as money in a savings account. If I'm in a relationship I know I'm covered. If I'm single I don't like being without the guarantee that I've got pussy available to me (it's a deep rooted personal flaw).

2 - identifying long term potential. If I found a girl I felt could be relationship material I would forego trying to get her in bed ASAP. If after a few dates/hangouts it appeared the chemistry is there for a good relationship I would flat out tell her. I would let her know I'm very attracted to her and my hormones/penis are saying "go to bed now and show her at least 5 different positions before cumming and then 5 more during round 2!" However my rational thoughts and emotions are saying, "this girl is something special! Spend more time with her getting to know her more. In a few weeks the sex will be amazing due to the emotional connection."

I feel if you do this right with a woman she will go totally nuts. You'd be telling her how much you respect her and truly like HER. Obviously in those weeks leading up to sex you need ensure she keeps you out of the friendzone. Makeout sessions are required. Long passionate kisses goodnight are a must. We're talking the type that she's feverishly masturbating to multiple orgasms within 2 minutes of you leaving because she's so turned on by you. Maybe you both agreed to wait until after 4 weeks of dating to have sex but if you do things correctly she will be tearing your clothes off and stuffing your cock in her somewhere between days 18-24.

Anyway I haven't been able to put #2 into practice as I am married. In theory it should not only work but have a woman going insane wanting you. Telling her you respect her greatly, you really like her as a person, and you don't need sex to know those things? That would get a lot of women so wet you could wring out their panties into a bucket 2 weeks before you're even having sex.

 

[DLD]

I've been with someone for a decade so I've been out of the dating scene for a long time. Based on personal experiences and knowledge I've gained this is what I'd be doing if I were single:

1 - identifying 1-night stands and "fuck buddies" and trying to get my penis inside as many as possible as often as possible. I view pussy as money in a savings account. If I'm in a relationship I know I'm covered. If I'm single I don't like being without the guarantee that I've got pussy available to me (it's a deep rooted personal flaw).

2 - identifying long term potential. If I found a girl I felt could be relationship material I would forego trying to get her in bed ASAP. If after a few dates/hangouts it appeared the chemistry is there for a good relationship I would flat out tell her. I would let her know I'm very attracted to her and my hormones/penis are saying "go to bed now and show her at least 5 different positions before cumming and then 5 more during round 2!" However my rational thoughts and emotions are saying, "this girl is something special! Spend more time with her getting to know her more. In a few weeks the sex will be amazing due to the emotional connection."

I feel if you do this right with a woman she will go totally nuts. You'd be telling her how much you respect her and truly like HER. Obviously in those weeks leading up to sex you need ensure she keeps you out of the friendzone. Makeout sessions are required. Long passionate kisses goodnight are a must. We're talking the type that she's feverishly masturbating to multiple orgasms within 2 minutes of you leaving because she's so turned on by you. Maybe you both agreed to wait until after 4 weeks of dating to have sex but if you do things correctly she will be tearing your clothes off and stuffing your cock in her somewhere between days 18-24.

Anyway I haven't been able to put #2 into practice as I am married. In theory it should not only work but have a woman going insane wanting you. Telling her you respect her greatly, you really like her as a person, and you don't need sex to know those things? That would get a lot of women so wet you could wring out their panties into a bucket 2 weeks before you're even having sex.

Thanks Cladre for this write up! Very helpful to so many!

 

[Stripeee]

Great advice I must say! Some good news, I’ve started seeing someone! She’s a couple of years younger than me and luckily lives very near to me as well. She’s what I would call girlfriend material for sure

 

[Lookn4girth]

Great advice I must say! Some good news, I’ve started seeing someone! She’s a couple of years younger than me and luckily lives very near to me as well. She’s what I would call girlfriend material for sure

Just be careful strip, don't go all in too quickly.

 

[DLD]

Great advice I must say! Some good news, I’ve started seeing someone! She’s a couple of years younger than me and luckily lives very near to me as well. She’s what I would call girlfriend material for sure

Well Jesus is smiling on you my Brother! She sounds like wifey material, I hope it alleges fabulous for you. It always brings me so much joy when my Brothers fall in love!

 

[Big Schwanz Acht]

contrary to what our fearless leader just espoused, don't fool yourself into thinking there's an actual 'one' for you...there are many. Once she becomes 'the one', your focus shifts 100% to her and then the 'imbalance' happens and you're sunk. You MUST make yourself the primary focus, not her or her (or anyone else), you and only you...this is when/where attraction happens and SHE has to make YOU the focus, (not the other way around).

 

[Sinthious]

contrary to what our fearless leader just espoused, don't fool yourself into thinking there's an actual 'one' for you...there are many. Once she becomes 'the one', your focus shifts 100% to her and then the 'imbalance' happens and you're sunk. You MUST make yourself the primary focus, not her or her (or anyone else), you and only you...this is when/where attraction happens and SHE has to make YOU the focus, (not the other way around).

BSA is right you yourself are the most important factor in your life, once you take your own feelings out of it and put someone else above you then that when you start shooting yourself in the foot.
I may not believe in a "One" as most monogamous and/or religious people do but i do know you should always remember, if true happiness is what you seek you must learn to love yourself and your flaws in order for it to be healthy instead of toxic. You cant love someone or feel the love of someone else unless you learn to love yourself first and all of your flaws. We are human flaws are what define us they can become the chains that bind us in place of the wings that push us into the future it is up to you.

 

[DLD]

There is someone out there for everyone who is a perfect match but many will never meet