Girlfriend getting hurt...er help :(

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BosheR

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Everytime I have sex with my girlfriend just lately it seems to hurt her.
I'm not ubber big like some people here. I'm

Length

6.8-7" nbp

Girth

top: 5"

Middle: 5.2"

Base: 5.5"

Apparantally sometimes it's too hard like a bone.
Sometimes it goes too deep in.
Sometimes it hurts at the base cause its too girthy.

:(

I dunno what to do. I'm going to keep Penis Enlargementing though.
I've been with this girl for a year and a bit. I dont think I've made her cum that much or at all, from intercourse. I go for a long enough time, like about 20mins really going for it. Although I slow it down now cause it hurts sometimes. So I dont think that it's cause I'm bad at sex.

I'm the oral master and make her cum through that mostly.

My question is. Why do you think I'm hurting her. I never used to hurt her. I'm beggining to think she needs more foreplay. Today she didn't want any and it hurt her, and the sex was below par in my books. I came as she started to enjoy it towards the end >:( . I felt a bit bad and wanted to give her offered her oral, but she didnt want ti. I'm also thinking she just might not be a sexual person. I mean, isnt been bigger sposed to be better. She always says it feels nice, but I never see her get really really excited. Well I spose I have, but not as regularly as I get excited about sex. Today it almost seemed like she just wanted sex to please me. The same I'd have to say about yesterday as well, although she liked that more. I dunno what to say really. I love her and I love sex, but I dont think she does.

I got paraniod that the upwards curve in my penis might be hurting her.
and I want to do DLD bends ( how do I do these ) to sort it.
She told me she doesnt think that the curve is hurting her. When I told her that its meant to be good she was like its not a curve inside her, its straight. I told her the etra pressure it would put on the side or top is better than if straight.

Bottom line I dont think it's really me thats the problem anymore. I used to think my dick wasnt big enough. Now I just think whatever I do she wont like it enough to cum (Im not one of these people who blags there gf about cumming at all, So I put her under no pressure too. I almost dont expect her 2). Please help I dunno whats goin on here :(. Anyone with experience know anything would b much appierated

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personally it sounds like an excuse, maybe not to have sex at all.
some girls get like that. maybe u should try something new, like a sex toy? and lay off sex for a bit. if she feels pressured into having sex it will make things much worse. does she initiate sex or you?
me and my ex would sometimes just have oral sessions and it can be more satisfying than sex, an less work :P lol.
i dont think its your size, many girls can take ALOT....
 
I think you should focus on positions that don't deeply penetrate her and work from there. The same thing happend with my girlfriend after a couple of simultaneous sex sessions that were over 20 minutes each, she didn't say anything until it was extremely painful and started to cry. I felt like an asshole but she gave me no warnings of it. I think its all in the positions your partaking in, try not doing the doggy style or have her legs up in the air in missionary, it helped me a lot.
 
It could be an excuse as some have suggested, however, let's go a little deeper (pun intended rofl ).

Okay, what we are talking about here is a lack of enthusiasm. It is not her fault and this is just something that you both need understand and then work hard to find a common solution.

Lack of enthusiasm is no reflection on your dick size at all. It is very likely a reflection of her past mixed with your (both of you) love making techniques. Simply state, she is not turned on nearly enough and her vagina has not gone through the proper changes required for optimal penetration.

What do you do to fix this? Well, with most women of this sort you will need to take the lead to find the solution. So now we know that you are in the lead but you are listening and watching intently for signs, both positive and negative. These signs will guide your path.

Leading the way is hard and requires lots of patience but pays off big in the end. Simply stated, if you transform a woman that "appears to not like sex" into a woman that is into it, she will look at you as her king.

How do you do it? Well for starters, talk to her. Ask her waht really turns her on. If she will not talk frankly to you then go ahead and tell her what turns you on and then proceed to ask her to help turn you on with these new ideas. This will loosen her up (pun intended rofl ) and eventually she will either show you are tell you what she wants.

Go slow. Women are like fine wine and they take time to get just right and ready for the act. The idea is that you work with her until she is very horny and wants it. Mind you, this might mean talking to her for hours or even days to get her in the mood. It might mean talking dirty, role playing, fingering, pussy stretching, spanking, licking, toys, porno or about 1000 other ideas. Find her trigger and then work the fuck out of it (pun intended rofl ).
 
I've gotta agree with the "excuse" reasoning.

I hate to sound like a prick, but it sounds like the girl just isn't into you much anymore. Might be time to look for new pussy rofl
 
I didnt initate sex the last two times we did it. And those were the times it hurt her. whenever I iniate it I'm really passionate and will work the mood cause I'm well good at that. And I can see her getting excited and its cool. The 2 times before her getting hurt have been really good.

I know this though, and she told me, that the last two times she didn't want sex, but she knows that my sex drive is high, and thought that was what I wanted. So I think in a strange way she felt pressured into having sex. She always tells me she hates me, and this is wrong and thats wrong. But deep down, ( without trying to make out I'm some sort of amazing person, cause I'm not and I wouldnt want to protray that ) I think she couldnt let me go to be honest. She always rings me and says i'm sorry and I didnt mean that. It's fuct up cause we both really love each other and it's ashame the sex couldnt reflect that all the time. Maybe I'm been imature or nieve and sex ISNT good all the time. I'm not sure whether it's a number of things which have been causing her to feel pain the last couple of times.

The positions which hurt as someone said, were the legs over the shoulders and doggy. Maybe its that she's small as well.

I do take charge as u were saying to do Dash
 
BosheR said:
but she knows that my sex drive is high, and thought that was what I wanted.
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maybe a conversation is all u need. imo its better to have no sex at all than awkward, lifeless or painfull sex. i would try to hold off sex for a while, let her come to you - and when she does tell her you dont feel like it. maybe then she will realise that she doesnt have to go out of her way to please you. so when she does she will want to.
the best way i can describe it is: when u REALLY want sex (both of you) its ALWAYS good! no matter what the sex is like.

if there hasnt been a problem like this before then i doubt its much to do with size of either of you. sounds purely mental
 
BosheR said:
I didnt initate sex the last two times we did it. And those were the times it hurt her. whenever I iniate it I'm really passionate and will work the mood cause I'm well good at that. And I can see her getting excited and its cool. The 2 times before her getting hurt have been really good.

I know this though, and she told me, that the last two times she didn't want sex, but she knows that my sex drive is high, and thought that was what I wanted. So I think in a strange way she felt pressured into having sex. She always tells me she hates me, and this is wrong and thats wrong. But deep down, ( without trying to make out I'm some sort of amazing person, cause I'm not and I wouldnt want to protray that ) I think she couldnt let me go to be honest. She always rings me and says i'm sorry and I didnt mean that. It's fuct up cause we both really love each other and it's ashame the sex couldnt reflect that all the time. Maybe I'm been imature or nieve and sex ISNT good all the time. I'm not sure whether it's a number of things which have been causing her to feel pain the last couple of times.

The positions which hurt as someone said, were the legs over the shoulders and doggy. Maybe its that she's small as well.

I do take charge as u were saying to do Dash
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What type of lube do you use??? Are you pounding the fuck out of it? Do you take some time before you go balls deep?
 
EVO said:
maybe a conversation is all u need. imo its better to have no sex at all than awkward, lifeless or painfull sex. i would try to hold off sex for a while, let her come to you - and when she does tell her you dont feel like it. maybe then she will realise that she doesnt have to go out of her way to please you. so when she does she will want to.
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Thanx for the advice Evo. Thats really good.
Thats what I'm going to do. I think thats exactally the situation here.
 
crazyed27 said:
What type of lube do you use??? Are you pounding the fuck out of it? Do you take some time before you go balls deep?
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Errrr I dont use lube.

Sometimes I just go straight for it depending on how turned on she is.

Most of the time I go slowlyish for a bit before going for it
 
crazyed27 said:
What type of lube do you use??? Are you pounding the fuck out of it? Do you take some time before you go balls deep?
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Errrr I dont use lube. We been using condoms though.

Sometimes I just go straight for it depending on how turned on she is.

Most of the time I go slowlyish for a bit. Find a spot where she's liking it before really pounding.
 
BosheR said:
Errrr I dont use lube. We been using condoms though.

Sometimes I just go straight for it depending on how turned on she is.

Most of the time I go slowlyish for a bit. Find a spot where she's liking it before really pounding.
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Condoms with no lube might be your problem. I know that my girl at times does not have enough natrual lube and the condom will rub on the inside of the vagina causing a what you might call a rubber burn.

Go out and get you a bottle of WET you can find it at a local drugstore. Cost like 5 bucks or something like that and it will last a long time. Try this out and see if it could be the problem with her getting hurt.

IMO you can never use too much lube, it is a must especially if your into long love making sessions.
 
When was the lost time this girl saw the gyno? Pain during intercourse can be a symptom of an STD. Remember some can stay dormant for long periods of time, and then rare up unexpectedly. Just a thought.
 
The problem is you have a higher sex drive than your girlfriend,nothing you can do about that.

If she isn't in the mood,aroused then it will hurt.

EVO,has made some good points.
 
Dashdeming said:
It could be an excuse as some have suggested, however, let's go a little deeper (pun intended rofl ).

Okay, what we are talking about here is a lack of enthusiasm. It is not her fault and this is just something that you both need understand and then work hard to find a common solution.

Lack of enthusiasm is no reflection on your dick size at all. It is very likely a reflection of her past mixed with your (both of you) love making techniques. Simply state, she is not turned on nearly enough and her vagina has not gone through the proper changes required for optimal penetration.

What do you do to fix this? Well, with most women of this sort you will need to take the lead to find the solution. So now we know that you are in the lead but you are listening and watching intently for signs, both positive and negative. These signs will guide your path.

Leading the way is hard and requires lots of patience but pays off big in the end. Simply stated, if you transform a woman that "appears to not like sex" into a woman that is into it, she will look at you as her king.

How do you do it? Well for starters, talk to her. Ask her waht really turns her on. If she will not talk frankly to you then go ahead and tell her what turns you on and then proceed to ask her to help turn you on with these new ideas. This will loosen her up (pun intended rofl ) and eventually she will either show you are tell you what she wants.

Go slow. Women are like fine wine and they take time to get just right and ready for the act. The idea is that you work with her until she is very horny and wants it. Mind you, this might mean talking to her for hours or even days to get her in the mood. It might mean talking dirty, role playing, fingering, pussy stretching, spanking, licking, toys, porno or about 1000 other ideas. Find her trigger and then work the fuck out of it (pun intended rofl ).
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"pussy stretching"! har har, let's here more about that!
 
She always tells me she hates me, and this is wrong and thats wrong. But deep down, I think she couldnt let me go to be honest. She always rings me and says i'm sorry and I didnt mean that. It's fuct up cause we both really love each other and it's ashame the sex couldnt reflect that all the time.
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There are more things going on here than just sex problems. If a woman isn't relaxed she'll become tense all over, including the Zone of Mysteries. These are symptoms of a great problem, not the problem itself. Address and work through these issues and better sex will follow. Even if a woman isn't necessarily receptive to sex, you can help her out with foreplay because foreplay causes the vagina to balloon and become receptive to the penis. You're penis isn't too big for the average woman and if she had a small vagina, as some women do, she would have known about it before you.

You say that the last two times it hurt she initiated sex and left out the foreplay. From now on, use foreplay as a means to help her get into sex and don't let her skip it. You don't want her using sex as a means of expressing problems with the relationship. It's not healthy to do so. To initiate sex and then make you skip the part that makes it pleasurable for her, causing her pain and you guilt, is classic passive-aggressive behavior and it has to stop or else the relationship is doomed.

Work on the outstanding issues to make your relationship healthy or else get out of it. Sometimes we stay in bad relationships because they're comfortable and the idea of moving on is too daunting. Don't let that happen to you.
 
She may have a smaller vag on her that's always a possibility though with lots of foreplay you should be fine. really she has to be excited, I saw some cool studies and it showed that sex for woman is almsot totally in their heads. so if she's happy then it pleasurable then your happy
 
Well....no clue if you'll read this or care or even if you're still with your lady. But your size isn't "to big" the length is a bit length if that's non bone pressed...but in all reality if you do things proper it won't be a problem.

Reasons it hurts:

A. Dry

B. Stress


If she's too dry it'll hurt her the best thing is of course lubrication and going slow. Instead of 20 minutes of hard cock pumping action spend your 20 minutes justing being in her and gradually SLOWLY grinding.

If she's stressed (as she might be if she feels obligated and forced into sex) again take your time...hell turn her down a few times. Also spend more time foreplaying her EVEN if she insist she doesn't want it...most likely that'll change once you get into nibbling her ear lobe and sucking on her neck lightly.


Always ALWAYS reassure her that you want her and you love her and she's beautiful hell spend time just looking at her and enjoying her body. If she feels you want her not for the sex but because it's HER you'll get less worry and stress and then she might enjoy it more.
 
BosheR the girl sounds bored. You can't always make love to her. Women like to be respected, pampered and treated like a delicate flower in public. In the bed (sex) they like being freaky and wild, so be more aggressive with her. Find out what turns her on. Spank her, shoot your load on her ass, rub your dick on her tits/nipples. Just do something new and different for her, give her something to look forward to (surprise her). She doesn't always want romance and love-making. Give her some of your Freaky side ... Make her feel like you lust only for her, talk to her, build up the foreplay. Beat around the bush for awhile before you stick it in. It shouldn't be a job, but an adventure; most of all have fun with sex.

If all that doesn't work. Tell her go see a doctor because her pussy is broken. lol
 
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As Threak said. Put some excitement into it. Make her think shes a Queen. Get some ice cream put a small amount on the clit area and alowly lick it off. My wife trembles with the cold, then the warmth. Try some jelly, whip cream etc... Goto the pron shop get some flavored/warming lotion and goto work on her.
Try different sex positions. If you 69, try it laying sideways instead of 1 being ontop. No added weight to the person on the bottom and your also able to see 1 another.
 
Some women find 7 to 7.5 to big, I have met two girls that have told me that their ex bf's were that size and it hurt way to much.
 
Dude, from your original post, I'd say you've got the wrong idea about sex. Sex isn't just about the orgasm, it's about the fun of getting there. It's not just about "pounding her pussy". She needs to want you in her. In fact, it should be your goal to make her want your dick in her badly enough that she actually takes charge and shoves it in her herself ( with that wild sexy look on her face of course ).

Sex starts outside the bedroom. So don't put stress on her. Even though you think you might not be pressuring her, just the fact that you say she knows you have a high sex drive will put pressure on her to perform even when she's not feeling like it.

So be playfull and hint at sex, but don't initiate anything, and especially DON'T ask for it. If you need to clean your pipes, then just jack off. It's not as good as sex, but you won't annoy your chick and keep her happy.
 
good tread!

what ever it is don't stress it to death. If she is fucking someone(your bestfriend?:( ) rofl :P ..... just playing. dash- had some pretty good advice all the way to other advice like turning her around and tapping that ass. Remember your the one fucking her, not the other way around.
Their pussy is like a flower, you have to unravel it( yeah right :) ), what ever.
Maybe get some toys, or chain in your basement for a weekend??:( :)
 
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