Sex on the beach, Viagra and Frustration (advice needed)

Alright guys, I think I have a problem and maybe you guys can help me. I know that there are a lot of experienced guys here on this forum, so I feel more relaxed. I`m currently 18 years old and I`m having problems maintaining an erection.

When I was 15, I started dating this girl and lost my virginity with her (using Viagra). I knew I would be nervous on my first time with her, and consequently wouldn`t manage to get hard, so I used Viagra and it all went perfectly. From that day on, everytime we were about to have sex, I secretly popped the blue pill. And this went on for 2 years.

I always knew that my problem wasn`t physical, because I was able to be rock hard while masturbating and always had my morning boner. The problem was psychological, and everytime I tried to have sex with her without Viagra, I wasn’t able to maintain an erection (I had erections during foreplay but when the time for penetration would come, In a matter of seconds, my cock would lose it`s erection). Everytime I tried to have sex without Viagra I wasn’t able to fully relax, and somewhere hidden in my mind, there was a voice saying: will I make it or not? Is my penis hard already?”.

Some months later, I had to do a minor plastic surgery in my belly to remove an old scar, and couldn’t have sex for about 2 months. I told that to my girlfriend and she understood and accepted. She would go to my house and watch TV, and we would talk without thinking about sex. Then, one day, there I was, laying in my bed watching a movie, with my girl next to me, 1 and a half months after the surgery. We started making out softly, and I started to have an erection. There were no worries in my mind because I knew I wasn`t going to have sex anyways. Then we started making out harder and I had a completely rock hard erection. I pulled her skirt down, looked at her and pulled my cock out. We started having sex, and I was ECSTATIC! I could not believe I was having sex without the aid of Viagra! I was the happiest man on earth!

I was so happy that I was finally free of Viagra, that we had sex again that day. When I woke up the next day I was feeling like a new man, it felt like I had been born again. We had amazing sex with no problem for the next 2 days (at my place). Those 3 days were the best days of my life. I was feeling like superman, and my confidence skyrocketed.

A week later we went to a beach resort with her parents, and at night she told me she wanted to have sex at the beach (not in the water, on the sand). Since nobody went there at night, and we we`re sleeping in separate rooms, I agreed. When we were making out in the sand, in the moonlight, somehow, from the depths of my mind, that old voice of insecurity came back. I knew I was capable, I knew I could do it, but that wasn’t enough. My erection was weak and I wasn`t able to become fully erect. We hardly had sex, and it was upsetting.

That night I reminded myself that I was able to have sex without Viagra, and remembered those 3 days of bliss in the past week. Unfortunately this incident on the beach planted a seed of insecurity in my mind. Next time we tried to have sex, I was rock hard during foreplay and makeout, but when I took my pants off to penetrate, guess what happened? My erection failed. That happened again and again when we tried to have sex, and my confidence slowly faded away. I knew she was disappointed, and I always told her that I had a head ache or something.

From that day on, I started using Viagra again, and I`m feeling like shit and very confused. When we are making out, about to have sex, I can`t relax completely and not ask myself if I will make it or not. I can`t manage to keep my head free of thoughts, and just relax and be in the moment. I try to do it, but somewhere hidden in my mind, there is the doubt and the insecurity.

I`m sure someone here may have experienced a similar thing in their lives, specially in the start of the sex life. That is why I kindly ask for advice. I don`t know what to do to overcome my mind, and these unresourceful thoughts. I sincerely ask your help. Thanks for those who read this, I know it is long and boring, but I feel like if there is someone that can help me in this world, the men on this forum are the most qualified.

Thanks,

Peter

Wish I was here to help you but sadly I have the same problem. Hard during kissing and everything but goes down when ready to penetrate. It's rock hard when jacking off though. I recently started doing more cardio in the gym to help the problem. But maybe you can help me until I see if the cardio helps. What viagra do you buy? I never bought it before and what's the dosage like mgs or something? All I know about it is that there are different amounts of certain stuff in it but dont know how to ask the question lol Hope you understand what I'm trying to ask though.

Mentally selective impotence...I rarely hear a guy say he can't get hard during private masturbation. Obsession and/or fear based dysfunction is a difficult and persistent but can be dealt with. The belief in self during private masturbation needs to be the focal point of positive reinforcing thought. When the thoughts start to be come intrusive it is important to replace those thoughts with a positive thought, like "I am a fully functional, healthy, sexual man that enjoys rock hard erections"...Say it over and over until it becomes habitual. As you start to think differently, or shift your thoughts the external functions will fall into place. It is you who is setting the rules for when you can have an erection, it needs to be you who changes these rules.

Try not to put too much pressure on yourself. Spend time satisfying your mate and enjoys her satisfaction. The natural function of the body with happen if your thoughts do not prevent it from doing so. If you are concentrating on your mates passions your penis will play its role. If you do not feel attracted to whom you are with then a pound of Viagra will not help.

I hope that helps

Unfortunately you've turned your girlfriend into a part of your problem. You need to turn her into a part of your solution. Explain your problem to her just as you have explained it to us. If she's worth her salt then she'll actively help you overcome what is actually a mutually shared problem.
It should have a mutually shared solution.

Sorry if im not contributing to a solution, but im curious where you were getting all this viagra. Were you just ordering it online like it has become so easy to do?