Need some advice from the experts!

Hi guys

I've been lurking for a few weeks now... so thanks to everyone for all the excellent info I've come across!

But now I'm at the stage where I need some serious advice ?

I've done Penis Enlargement occasionally over the last 2 years (maybe a total of 30 times), and have been doing it full time now for 6 weeks.

I've gone from 6bpel x 5eg to 6.75bpel x 5 1/8 eg, just using Phase 1 from DLD's program.

However, my bedroom performance has got worse since I started, to the point that I'm now having difficulty lasting longer than a couple of minutes.

After a lot of research, I've decided to attack the problem from all angles. I read the threads by RWG and am now having a course of acupuncture treatment. I am about half way through and the results have been a bit mixed so far.

She told me that my kidney energy is very low, and that is part of the problem.

But the thing I'm really confused about is whether I should kegel or not.

Up until the problems developed, I had been kegelling every day, as per the program, but then I read a number of threads where people blamed kegelling for causing premature ejaculation.

I then began to get worried about kegelling.

However, I know that long-term, kegelling is supposed to help you control yourself, and it is what is prescribed in a number of books and all the tantra stuff.

So what I'm looking for is to learn from the experience of others on the board.

Do you think I should attack the kegels and really build up my PC muscle?

Will I get to the stage that even though I am really aroused, my muscle will be strong enough to control it?

Or if I continue to kegel will the problem get worse?

It's really getting to me... the fact that I am in a relationship means that I am feeling more pressure to get the problem sorted out quickly.

My girlfriend knows that I am doing Penis Enlargement exercises, but now she thinks that they have caused the problems, so it's a real Catch 22 situation.

Thanks for taking the time to read this and for any advice you might have!

Digby

Take a complete break from kegals and Penis Enlargement for at least 3 weeks and see how things improve or not. Remember that these things can usually be in the mind and are mental problems, maybe your just worried or something....
Just relax and take a break from things for a while.

Don't kegel during sex. It puts your penis closer to your prostate, therefore stimulating your prostate more. The prostate has been called the "male G spot." If you learn to not kegel during sex, you should get a lot more control over your orgasms. Check out my pre ejac thread in my signature.

Hi digby 709, welcome. As you probably know, on this forum things are never really set in stone and many people have their own individual opinions about things. I think however that you are a bit confused about kegals. The only way (in my opinion) that kegals will make you cum quicker during sex or masturbation is by doing them whilst having sex or masturbating. In order to delay ejaculation it is best to do reverse kegals whilst having sex. Exersizing your PC muscle will by no means make you ejaculate prematurely. Personally I find that keeping my PC muscle in tip top condition insures that I will become aroused at the drop of a hat. So my advice is to do a lot of kegals, e.g. 500 per day, in order to keep your PC muscle well developed but make sure that whilst having sex you are doing reverse kegals. Then when you think that your partner is cumming kegal like crazy. With a bit of practice you should be able to time your ejaculation to match your partners. Experiment with it. Good luck!

Wow, thanks for the quick replies...

Though all the different advice sort of shows why people can get so confused about things like this!

9cyclops9, do you do daily Kegel exercises... and does doing them more and more make your reverse kegels stronger when you're having sex?

Digby

I do daily kegels and reverse kegels. I've never had sex, so I can't answer that, but I have no problem masturbating for an hour or more when I want to.

Thanks 9cyclops9

I read DLD's thread about only having a refractory period of 10 minutes due to kegelling, so I'm assuming that it's best to keep kegelling.

Thanks again for the replies

TomdW said:

Hi digby 709, welcome. As you probably know, on this forum things are never really set in stone and many people have their own individual opinions about things. I think however that you are a bit confused about kegals. The only way (in my opinion) that kegals will make you cum quicker during sex or masturbation is by doing them whilst having sex or masturbating. In order to delay ejaculation it is best to do reverse kegals whilst having sex. Exersizing your PC muscle will by no means make you ejaculate prematurely. Personally I find that keeping my PC muscle in tip top condition insures that I will become aroused at the drop of a hat. So my advice is to do a lot of kegals, e.g. 500 per day, in order to keep your PC muscle well developed but make sure that whilst having sex you are doing reverse kegals. Then when you think that your partner is cumming kegal like crazy. With a bit of practice you should be able to time your ejaculation to match your partners. Experiment with it. Good luck!

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great post tom

Hey Tom

There's a lot of talk in the forum and other Penis Enlargement forums about kegelling being related to premature ejaculation, so that's why I'm linking the two.

I'll follow your advice

Cheers

Digby

9cyclops9 said:

I do daily kegels and reverse kegels. I've never had sex, so I can't answer that, but I have no problem masturbating for an hour or more when I want to.

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:dropjaw: OK...why? lol

No offense 9Cyclops9 but if you never had sex you really can't answer. I mean jackin off and having sex are very different.

Jason1 said:

No offense 9Cyclops9 but if you never had sex you really can't answer. I mean jackin off and having sex are very different.

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Which is exactly why I said "I've never had sex, so I can't answer that." :s

And why would I be offended? It's my own choice.

penguinsfan said:

:dropjaw: OK...why? lol

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:D Ever try it? It's nice! lol

Nah I don't really do that, I only have twice to see how long I could make myself last. I said that because before I found out about this method of ejaculation control, there would have been no way. And now I'm able to last as long as I want, which I proved to myself by masturbating for about an hour, no holding back. Just to see if I could do it. lol

No, for me, masturbation is work and I can be downright lazy at times. The goal is purely to relieve built-up sexual tension. When I have sex (the frequency of which seems to be less than that of most comet cycles) there is another person to consider. I want it to last. Not as long as it sometimes does, but I do want it to last. I seem to have what we might call "post-mature ejaculation". It can be hard work for me to reach orgasm. Granted, I'm 30 and my prime is long gone. For what it's worth, I've never gone bareback and I suspect that the added sensation my be the ticket.

Anyhow, I have no control over my ejaculation. I just feel almost nothing, fuck for 15-60 minutes, and then it's over all of the sudden.

never gone bareback!???!!! aaahhhh its so much better mate. heres what i think you should do, go find some real hot 18 year old girl with a tight pussy and fuck her bareback ,then you'll feel some great sensation

Kegals are all good, especially if you are serious about keeping your gains

digby709 said:

Hey Tom

There's a lot of talk in the forum and other Penis Enlargement forums about kegelling being related to premature ejaculation, so that's why I'm linking the two.

I'll follow your advice

Cheers

Digby

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No problem Digby. I hope it goes well.

Thanks homeslice.

joe_bloggs808 said:

Kegals are all good, especially if you are serious about keeping your gains

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How would kegals help keep your gains?

Maybe by filling it with a little more blood or something, but I'm not sure if that would have that great of an effect?

Kegels cause premature ejaculation????

In Men's Health Magazine (Australia), I read that kegels are good for building the base, not ruining it!

homeslice1325 said:

never gone bareback!???!!! aaahhhh its so much better mate. heres what i think you should do, go find some real hot 18 year old girl with a tight pussy and fuck her bareback ,then you'll feel some great sensation

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Well, I'm an overweight, nearly broke, redhead (while a large percentage of men like redheads, it's a one-way street--very few women find themselves attracted to redheads). Summary: I'm not much of a catch for anyone. Therefore, I'm one of those guys whose sex is cheaper than his booze. Women just don't seem to view me as boyfriend material, as I've never been in a relationship. What I've been with I would never consider going bareback. Live to fuck another day (don't get HIV) I say.