has anyone ever ran into a issue like this.

Hey guys, I was in bed last night woke up with a hard on from hell, and horny as all get out, I got the hard on to subside, but still had the urge, and no matter what I did, I could not go back to sleep. has anyone ever had anything like this.

Also I have all but quit masturbation, as my spouse does not like me doing it, and I find we seem to have more sex when I dont, I could of last night, but I didnt wanna start that habit of doing that again.

thats completely normal being that you have stopped masturbating, congrats on that btw. what helps when this happen is try to get my mind off anything sexual related,pick up my phone browse social media or something, that kind of stuff. stay strong and don't ruin your achievement

megamike;728052 said:

thats completely normal being that you have stopped masturbating, congrats on that btw. what helps when this happen is try to get my mind off anything sexual related,pick up my phone browse social media or something, that kind of stuff. stay strong and don't ruin your achievement

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Yeah I quit masturbating about a month ago or more, ive even quit the edging for fear that I will ejaculate, what I have noticed since I quit it , is that my EQ has went through the roof.

bandit2010;728030 said:

Hey guys, I was in bed last night woke up with a hard on from hell, and horny as all get out, I got the hard on to subside, but still had the urge, and no matter what I did, I could not go back to sleep. has anyone ever had anything like this.

Also I have all but quit masturbation, as my spouse does not like me doing it, and I find we seem to have more sex when I dont, I could of last night, but I didnt wanna start that habit of doing that again.

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Normal and one of the positive effects of not masturbating. Now, what is more beautiful than stopping pleasuring yourself and finding pleasure with each other! So proud that you have stopped masturbation, it is a tough one, but it will only benefit your marriage and the love you share together.

I have quite some experience with nofap but more with something I would call "noorgasm". I never really went back to my old habits but I am not following nofap or noorgasm at the moment. Anyway, often when I go to bed with underwear on I will find the underwear next to my feet. I must have taken it off at some point in the night. However I didn't really remember when this happened. After I while I found out what it was which is extensive masturbation sessions during the night, half awake/half asleep. It turns out that i don't reach any climax, I can go on jerking really fast and hard for quite some time. I am not really aware of what I am doing at these moments - I also don't really have any sense of my own will. It happens more or less automatic with me powerless to stop it. There are many interesting experiences like that but I haven't really found space for them to share.

Chaoskampf;730866 said:

I have quite some experience with nofap but more with something I would call "noorgasm". I never really went back to my old habits but I am not following nofap or noorgasm at the moment. Anyway, often when I go to bed with underwear on I will find the underwear next to my feet. I must have taken it off at some point in the night. However I didn't really remember when this happened. After I while I found out what it was which is extensive masturbation sessions during the night, half awake/half asleep. It turns out that i don't reach any climax, I can go on jerking really fast and hard for quite some time. I am not really aware of what I am doing at these moments - I also don't really have any sense of my own will. It happens more or less automatic with me powerless to stop it. There are many interesting experiences like that but I haven't really found space for them to share.

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Have not experienced that but I also have not even experienced a wet dream. Dreams have been strange to say the lest, I am usually having sex while smoking cigarettes, two things I have given up. I wake up in the AM, at times, thinking to myself 'did I really do that?' Such a relief when I realize it was a dream. I have gotten so good with keeping my eyes in check. I have made a list of my triggers so I know what to look for. I found another trigger two days ago that I will explain in the proper thread. For me it is all about learning through my falls. Falling should never be seen as a bad thing when we are trying our best. If we fall there is reason and when we can search out and find the reason we learn a lesson.

doublelongdaddy;730881 said:

Falling should never be seen as a bad thing when we are trying our best. If we fall there is reason and when we can search out and find the reason we learn a lesson.

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"Why do we fall sir? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up." From Batman Begins, but relatively usual quote I think.

About bandit's original guestion, I haven't had such occasions. Then again, I'm not in a position of relationship where I could have sex now and then, so masturbating for me is an outlet.
Feels a lot better with someone else though than by yourself, this I've noticed big time lately. Might be that I'm coming older as well, but by myself I haven't experienced the rope effects so much. The mind is such a powerful tool; with someone else I seem to spark more!

arkailija;730945 said:

"Why do we fall sir? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up." From Batman Begins, but relatively usual quote I think.

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I thought it was gravity? Oh yeah, gravity is a lie!

Picking ourselves up after the fall is the hardest thing to do when we find ourselves defeated. It is so much harder for us to forgive ourselves even when we know that God already has forgiven us. When we hold ourselves back from self-forgiveness we are creating a much bigger problem than the fall itself. I can tell you from much experience that when I first started to abstain from masturbation if I failed I would not get over it for days. I would put myself down and even though I had already prayed for forgiveness (and it was given) I still held it against myself. This makes things so much more difficult and it takes a positive thing, like abstinence, and makes the results far worse than the desired outcome. When we fall we need to ask for forgiveness, accept it immediately, become convicted with a new plan and move on. Sitting in out pity and guilt for days in slothful as we are wasting time and remember the same commandment was written in equality with covertness. When we fall, jump up, brush yourself off and start again.

I fully embrace falling/failing because it's a by-product of attempting/doing something. It's easy to sit-back, do nothing and make 'sideline' judgments, the real magic happens when you try your hardest and fail. Take a look at what happened when you're down there, sometimes that perspective is all that's needed to succeed on the next attempt.

doublelongdaddy;730881 said:

Have not experienced that but I also have not even experienced a wet dream. Dreams have been strange to say the lest, I am usually having sex while smoking cigarettes, two things I have given up. I wake up in the AM, at times, thinking to myself 'did I really do that?' Such a relief when I realize it was a dream. I have gotten so good with keeping my eyes in check. I have made a list of my triggers so I know what to look for. I found another trigger two days ago that I will explain in the proper thread. For me it is all about learning through my falls. Falling should never be seen as a bad thing when we are trying our best. If we fall there is reason and when we can search out and find the reason we learn a lesson.

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That's interesting If I dream about sexual things I dream about a bathroom with a lot of mirrors on the wall and me having a 30 inch erect penis that is pointing towards the roof.

yep but keeping the hands off my penis is nt easy,need that relief tough, quite vivid dreams im whit girls not having sex but they are whit me,more like an erotic love kind of thing...

I have never had dreams having sex ,but i have had wet dreams..

Big Schwanz Acht;730987 said:

I fully embrace falling/failing because it's a by-product of attempting/doing something. It's easy to sit-back, do nothing and make 'sideline' judgments, the real magic happens when you try your hardest and fail. Take a look at what happened when you're down there, sometimes that perspective is all that's needed to succeed on the next attempt.

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I have found out many things about myself in this struggle but the most important one is this; Whenever I fall, no matter how big or bad the fall may seem, to immediately go to Jesus for forgiveness (and here is the important part) accept the forgiveness and forgive myself. The toughest part of every fall I have had has been the forgiving of myself but when I do this allows me to immediately reset myself and restart with a new conviction. Yes, the success is not so much in the fact that we are able to stop this, because we can't stop this, it is in the attempt of the works. Let me explain. No matter how much we try, no matter what we attempt to do, no matter what efforts we make we will NEVER get better. There is good reason for this and it goes down to being human. We can become like saints but still the sin (darkness, evil, etc) is alive and well and always waging war against the spirit. The battle is constant and it is very personal, the flesh fighting the spirt. I personally want to do good because I am alive in the spirit, I do not want to do bad but I still do that which is bad. So if my condition can not change and I can not get better than it is not me who is committing the offense but the sin that lives inside of me. THIS IS NOT A FREE LICENSE TO SIN and DO WRONG! Doing evil still applies! What is most important, in the eyes of the Lord, is not the actual works but our attempt at it. God knows we can not get better without Him and this is why it is so important to run as quickly as possible to Jesus ask for forgiveness. The Justice of God still stands true but the Mercy of Jesus is available to all.