Originally posted by WaxN
Good point, ny. I'm still amazed at how many guys believe a girl's word like the Gospel. Girls lie. Girls lie.
Girls lie.
It's funny.... my second lover, when I was 19, was a 29 year old drug addict. She had a nice body, and was extremely skillful in bed. I remember her telling me "I've never had anyone as big as you." Years later I realize that statement doesn't rule out anyone bigger .. heheh.
Frankly, I'm with DLD on this if in a committed lifelong relationship. I must say it was 15 years + before I ever talked to my wife about these things. In our case, it has helped our relationship a great deal. If you're with a woman whom you plan to spend the rest of your life with, then all of her past sex/love experience directly affects you whether you know the details or not. It's better to know, IMHO, as long as you can deal with it and not obsess. Sure, you're going to go through some pain. But you may discover some pleasure as well, for instance maybe you find out that your wife has had quickies in semi-public places - something that you wouldn't have thought she'd do - this gives you incentive and desire to say, follow her into the ladie's room in a public place or pull into a rest stop for a back seat session.
I definitely believe the benefits far outweigh the cons, in a committed relationship. If I'm choosing to spend the rest of my life with one person, I want us to be able to be completely honest with one another. Yes, sexual history is a touchy subject, but it's not life and death (barring possible STD information). My wife and I have faced (and still face) a life-threatening illness in one of our children. We've stuck together through it all, and share the pain. So for me, any pain felt when considering her previous horse-hung partners is really as nothing, in comparison. Sex is our greatest pleasure in life, and learning about her past has helped increase that pleasure.
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