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Over the past year, I've frequented 4 different Penis Enlargement forums, and I've encountered the same faux pas in all of them. Namely, guys asking a gal about the size(s) of her previous lover(s).
This inquiry can be fraught with disaster. First of all, you can't change her past, regardless of what it is (nor can she). Second, unless you are massive, the odds are that she may have had bigger (especially if she's had some "experience").
To hear that you were her biggest - assuming that she's being honest, which she may have learned not to be - you might get some ego-stroking (if you really need that). However, I think the risks outweigh any potential benefits.
You may in fact be the smallest she's had. Or, like what happened to an obsessive friend of mine, she may have had a lover much much bigger than you. Even worse is when she then tries to smooth it over, pitying you, trying to make you feel better.
A buddy of mine always asked this of his dates. He said he was "about 6 inches," though I have no way of verifying it. But most of the girls told him he was "average," a few even said "small." Yet he kept asking. Finally, one gal indicated to him the size of her biggest (& "best") lover with her hand over his glans. My buddy said he had to have been at least 9", according to her demonstration, and much wider. She admitted that he was the best sex she ever had, but he kept cheating on her so she dumped him.
If all this wasn't bad enough, he really fell for the girl over the next few months, yet had to keep struggling with this.
I asked my future wife the same stupid questions (when I was 6.5 x 5.2). She had 2 men before me (she was young when we met, and she dated the 1 guy for 3 years). She said I was thicker than both, but one was "about an inch longer" than me, but quite bent to the side. I guess it could've been worse. But it's a question that I would never ask any woman again - unless I was prepared for a painful answer.
Just enjoy the snatch in front of you, and don't ask about her past! (it can also make you look like an insecure little boy worrying about your peepee....or, worse, she might wonder why you're thinking of other men's cocks while she's spread out in front of you).... :O
 
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It's the same deal with the infamous "SO, how many people have YOU been with?" question. Why the hell do you want to know??? You dont in most cases! I mean really, what good will knowing her/his number do you? If they were the main attraction at the Daytona Beach, Spring Break Gang Bang 500, or used to have wild threesomes with Juan Valdez (Columbian Coffee Mascot) and his donkee, ...thats really non of your business. The past should stay the past. The only question I have learned that is ok to ask someone is something along the lines of "SO, is there anything I should know about you sexually before we get involved on a deeper level?" I feel it's important to know if there is a potential STD risk but, you dont need to know how many past lovers that person has had or what size their penises were. That's just silly and youre doing nothing but setting yourself up for dissapointment. Very few people of either sex are totally "innocent". Most people go through a 'wild' or 'experimental' phase. As the saying goes "Let by gones be by gones".
 
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It's the same deal with the infamous "SO, how many people have YOU been with?" question. Why the hell do you want to know??? You dont in most cases! I mean really, what good will knowing her/his number do you? If they were the main attraction at the Daytona Beach, Spring Break Gang Bang 500, or used to have wild threesomes with Juan Valdez (Columbian Coffee Mascot) and his donkee, ...thats really non of your business. The past should stay the past. The only question I have learned that is ok to ask someone is something along the lines of "SO, is there anything I should know about you sexually before we get involved on a deeper level?" I feel it's important to know if there is a potential STD risk but, you dont need to know how many past lovers that person has had or what size their penises were. That's just silly and youre doing nothing but setting yourself up for dissapointment. Very few people of either sex are totally "innocent". Most people go through a 'wild' or 'experimental' phase. As the saying goes "Let by gones be by gones".

i completely agree with you.. its not like your going to stop being with the person because he/she has more/less experience than you...
 
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Well personally, if they had been with a Donkey...:D...that would be it. I have to draw the line somewhere!!
 

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Originally posted by kurei
i completely agree with you.. its not like your going to stop being with the person because he/she has more/less experience than you...
I agree as well, the past is the past.

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I am going to step out on a limb here, as I do so often:D , and give my thoughts.

This is only about my relationship with Jen and my experience with this issue.

I knew Jen was very experienced when I met her. I also knew she rivaled the amount of lovers I have been with, which is quite a bit. I think both of us were very curious about each other’s past and I think it prevented us from becoming as close as we are today. I am not suggesting every couple do this, I am only saying it made my relationship with Jen incredible. After about 9 months of being together we decided to come clean with everything and I mean EVERYTHING. She wanted to know every detail as I did and we sat down over the course of a few nights opening up. Honesty is very bitter medicine but in my case the outcome was refreshing. We made list of our previous lovers and had a very open forum on discussing all of our insecurities and curiosities. I admit, some stuff was terrible to hear, as I am sure it was for her too but we became so much closer over these few nights. I found out I was big in comparison to her past lover with the exception of 2 other guys who were right around my size (6.5-7.5). I hated hearing this but I really wanted to know...kind of a catch 22. She went on to describe in detail all of my guilty curiosities and through and I gritted my teeth and listened.

For me knowing was better than imagining. After we did this we had a clean slate and our relationship became so close.

It was also nice to know what I was up against...after all this is Penis Enlargement and we have the potential to be as big as we want. Today Jen gets a bigger cock every time we have sex.
 
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Good call by DLD about the merits of total honesty, but save that for the special ones . . .

When you get down to it, when we want to know about a girls past history it has to do with our own egos. It may be a reflection of this forums content to an extent, but i feel confident in saying that when we ask about a girl's past we are mostly wondering about cock size . . . and how we stack up.

This is obviously an issue for us, but I suggest that unless you can;t live without knowing . . . then don't! Don't know, don't ask. For the msot part we probab;y don't understand the lasses anymore than they seem to understand what makes us tick, and if she is fucking you, then she likes something, and leave it at that.

Also, keep in mind that even though many women are very sexual, their perceptions and approaches to sexualtiy and pleasure are different than our male persepective, generally, Don't let the internet arena and culture give you a warped perception, i firmly believe that in the real world a girl's sexual pleasure has more to do with a man as whole lover than penis size. Penis Enlargement for yourselves . . . if a girl doesn't like what you're packing than fuck 'er, she'll never make you happy with that attitude anyways.

Great sex is about connection, not some pornographic ideal. I gurantee 9/10's of the internet accounts of women begging for that big foot-long dong to savage them (and they will accept nothing less) we see on less reliable internet boards are actually overweight middle aged men with deeply repressed gay desires.
 
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there is only one thing I would care about if I was to get involved with a girl. and that is if she had slept with my best friend. I dunno about you guys, but the thought of this guy being sexually intimate with the girl I'm after makes me sick to my stomach. maybe that has to do with his preference for younger girls, or just that he has no respect for girls (kind of try every girl until he gets some, and never actually goes out with a girl, but just meets up and fingers them). I literally couldn't look at those girls the same if it was to happen, so lets hope it doesn't, lol.

And regarding dick size... I don't even want to know. Because it will most likely make me feel worse. ;)
 

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Originally posted by doublelongdaddy
I am going to step out on a limb here, as I do so often:D , and give my thoughts.

This is only about my relationship with Jen and my experience with this issue.

I knew Jen was very experienced when I met her. I also knew she rivaled the amount of lovers I have been with, which is quite a bit. I think both of us were very curious about each other’s past and I think it prevented us from becoming as close as we are today. I am not suggesting every couple do this, I am only saying it made my relationship with Jen incredible. After about 9 months of being together we decided to come clean with everything and I mean EVERYTHING. She wanted to know every detail as I did and we sat down over the course of a few nights opening up. Honesty is very bitter medicine but in my case the outcome was refreshing. We made list of our previous lovers and had a very open forum on discussing all of our insecurities and curiosities. I admit, some stuff was terrible to hear, as I am sure it was for her too but we became so much closer over these few nights. I found out I was big in comparison to her past lover with the exception of 2 other guys who were right around my size (6.5-7.5). I hated hearing this but I really wanted to know...kind of a catch 22. She went on to describe in detail all of my guilty curiosities and through and I gritted my teeth and listened.

For me knowing was better than imagining. After we did this we had a clean slate and our relationship became so close.

It was also nice to know what I was up against...after all this is Penis Enlargement and we have the potential to be as big as we want. Today Jen gets a bigger cock every time we have sex.
Heather and I do this on a regular basis, once a week or so we'll talk about ANYTHING we want to get off of our chest. No matter what it is, I can trust her to understand. I believe this is why we have such a sound relationship and if you have someone that's "real" (IE: Isn't pampered up with how she should be and what she should do according to society) then I believe you will have a great relationship as well.

-ItsElectric
 

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Originally posted by ItsElectric
Heather and I do this on a regular basis, once a week or so we'll talk about ANYTHING we want to get off of our chest. No matter what it is, I can trust her to understand. I believe this is why we have such a sound relationship and if you have someone that's "real" (IE: Isn't pampered up with how she should be and what she should do according to society) then I believe you will have a great relationship as well.

-ItsElectric
Thats what I'm talkig about. It's like an unbreakable bond. A differemt kind of love...very secure.

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I believe it really depends on the individuals, per se. I don't believe it's just a matter of "closeness" or "specialness." Some people, especially women, feel very uncomfortable discussing sex, let alone past partners. Some women would feel you're just a freak for asking/insisting. Some may even think you're turned on hearing about other men's cocks. :O
It's also true about whether or not to divulge Penis Enlargement to your partner. That's a 100% by-case basis. Some can, some can't. You just have to know the individual well enough to know whether to go down that alley or not.
My wife, for example, doesn't even care to discuss sex with me, even after I give her a shattering orgasm. I might ask which particular thing she liked and she just gets embarrassed. I could never go very in-depth in that topic with her. As I said, I made a basic inquiry years ago (back in like 1986, :D). I was young myself. But if I ever found myself single again, I definitely would not ask that of women. DLD said that he thought it better to know that to imagine. I agree - if you're obsessing about it. But I don't at my age. Life is to short to care whether the woman had a 9-incher or 7-inch girth, etc. Or how many, or which guy came the most often, or the most juice, etc., etc., etc.
 

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i asked my girl how big her last bf was......she said that i'm MUCH bigger than him, she said that he was aobut 5.5 or somethin like that....that made me feel great. one time one of her FRIENDS even saw my girl and i havin sex and she was amazed at my size, ever since she saw me after than night she was always more friendly to me.
 

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Originally posted by doublelongdaddy
I am going to step out on a limb here, as I do so often:D , and give my thoughts.

This is only about my relationship with Jen and my experience with this issue.

I knew Jen was very experienced when I met her. I also knew she rivaled the amount of lovers I have been with, which is quite a bit. I think both of us were very curious about each other’s past and I think it prevented us from becoming as close as we are today. I am not suggesting every couple do this, I am only saying it made my relationship with Jen incredible. After about 9 months of being together we decided to come clean with everything and I mean EVERYTHING. She wanted to know every detail as I did and we sat down over the course of a few nights opening up. Honesty is very bitter medicine but in my case the outcome was refreshing. We made list of our previous lovers and had a very open forum on discussing all of our insecurities and curiosities. I admit, some stuff was terrible to hear, as I am sure it was for her too but we became so much closer over these few nights. I found out I was big in comparison to her past lover with the exception of 2 other guys who were right around my size (6.5-7.5). I hated hearing this but I really wanted to know...kind of a catch 22. She went on to describe in detail all of my guilty curiosities and through and I gritted my teeth and listened.

For me knowing was better than imagining. After we did this we had a clean slate and our relationship became so close.

It was also nice to know what I was up against...after all this is Penis Enlargement and we have the potential to be as big as we want. Today Jen gets a bigger cock every time we have sex.
"Oh Yeah, I almost forgot there was another one, his name was Jim"
 

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Originally posted by samzman
i asked my girl how big her last bf was......she said that i'm MUCH bigger than him, she said that he was aobut 5.5 or somethin like that....that made me feel great. one time one of her FRIENDS even saw my girl and i havin sex and she was amazed at my size, ever since she saw me after than night she was always more friendly to me.
"I'll take Threesome for 200 points Chuck"
 

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Originally posted by Jaz
"I'll take Threesome for 200 points Chuck"

ROTFLMAO. :p


well i don't know if i would want that with this girl. she's pounded more meat than a meat packer and she is about 200 lbs.

maybe one of her finer friends should see us doin it. then maybe we'll see about that threesome :)
 
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My girls ex was 11 long and i wasn't insecure about it at all.She knew that if she ever cheated that i would leave and that would be that.From what i understand and I dont belive it i'm the best shes ever had.I hear this from every chick that i been with.I don't belive it though,what i do is every other time we have sex i try to make it last longer and longer.Right now with the help of kegals i can make my girl come on average 5 times before I let one off during sex.Thats not counting foreplay.I feel if ur gonna dig in ur ole girls past u betta be man enough to deal with it
 
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Originally posted by goodbutnotgreat
Good call by DLD about the merits of total honesty, but save that for the special ones . . .

When you get down to it, when we want to know about a girls past history it has to do with our own egos. It may be a reflection of this forums content to an extent, but i feel confident in saying that when we ask about a girl's past we are mostly wondering about cock size . . . and how we stack up.

This is obviously an issue for us, but I suggest that unless you can;t live without knowing . . . then don't! Don't know, don't ask. For the msot part we probab;y don't understand the lasses anymore than they seem to understand what makes us tick, and if she is fucking you, then she likes something, and leave it at that.

Also, keep in mind that even though many women are very sexual, their perceptions and approaches to sexualtiy and pleasure are different than our male persepective, generally, Don't let the internet arena and culture give you a warped perception, i firmly believe that in the real world a girl's sexual pleasure has more to do with a man as whole lover than penis size. Penis Enlargement for yourselves . . . if a girl doesn't like what you're packing than fuck 'er, she'll never make you happy with that attitude anyways.

Great sex is about connection, not some pornographic ideal. I gurantee 9/10's of the internet accounts of women begging for that big foot-long dong to savage them (and they will accept nothing less) we see on less reliable internet boards are actually overweight middle aged men with deeply repressed gay desires.

OMG, what a SUPenis EnlargementRB response. Two big thumbs up. He's right - Penis Enlargement for YOURSELVES, not to please someone else.
 

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Don't ask, don't tell.

I never try to pry open Pandora's Box (and I ain't talkin' about rape). I just fucking hate it when the GIRL initiates the conversation! It's like she's got it in her head that she wants to one-up me or something. No matter what, there is ALWAYS someone bigger, or better.

Asking a girl about her past is one thing, but asking about past lover's dick sizes? That's just plain stupid. It makes you seem as if you're interested in men or something. If not that, you will look VERY INSECURE, which is a major turnoff for chicks. You will lose face, and if you're lucky, that's all you'll lose.
 
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From what i understand and I dont belive it i'm the best shes ever had.I hear this from every chick that i been with.I don't belive it though....
Good point, ny. I'm still amazed at how many guys believe a girl's word like the Gospel. Girls lie. Girls lie.
Girls lie.
It's funny - guys think they bullshit the gals, but the gals don't bullshit them. Wake up.
I've heard the same shit in the past, ny (I've been married for years) - but I never believed it back then.
You gotta be secure in yourself, not based on what some b'yotch says. I never cared if a girl said, "I love you," OR "I hate you." That's the only way to maintain your sanity. Even now, on occasion, the wife will talk shit like she wants to leave. I tell her all the time, "Okay, you know I'll help you move."
 
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worst thing is if you ask if any of her lovers have had bigger dicks and she replys "can't remember"

then you start to get paranoid that she's hiding somthing from you. so you'll start buggin her over and over to get her previous lovers stats and when she finally tells you she'll say " i think he was smaller" but your so paranoid you won't beleive her...

and so it goes on.
 

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