Don't ask her!

Originally posted by WaxN
Good point, ny. I'm still amazed at how many guys believe a girl's word like the Gospel. Girls lie. Girls lie.
Girls lie.

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It's funny.... my second lover, when I was 19, was a 29 year old drug addict. She had a nice body, and was extremely skillful in bed. I remember her telling me "I've never had anyone as big as you." Years later I realize that statement doesn't rule out anyone bigger .. heheh.

Frankly, I'm with DLD on this if in a committed lifelong relationship. I must say it was 15 years + before I ever talked to my wife about these things. In our case, it has helped our relationship a great deal. If you're with a woman whom you plan to spend the rest of your life with, then all of her past sex/love experience directly affects you whether you know the details or not. It's better to know, IMHO, as long as you can deal with it and not obsess. Sure, you're going to go through some pain. But you may discover some pleasure as well, for instance maybe you find out that your wife has had quickies in semi-public places - something that you wouldn't have thought she'd do - this gives you incentive and desire to say, follow her into the ladie's room in a public place or pull into a rest stop for a back seat session.

I definitely believe the benefits far outweigh the cons, in a committed relationship. If I'm choosing to spend the rest of my life with one person, I want us to be able to be completely honest with one another. Yes, sexual history is a touchy subject, but it's not life and death (barring possible STD information). My wife and I have faced (and still face) a life-threatening illness in one of our children. We've stuck together through it all, and share the pain. So for me, any pain felt when considering her previous horse-hung partners is really as nothing, in comparison. Sex is our greatest pleasure in life, and learning about her past has helped increase that pleasure.

wesb

It's stange too guys but once you get your ego out of the picture and accept she had a life before you, some of the stuff may actually turn you on.

Originally posted by doublelongdaddy
It's stange too guys but once you get your ego out of the picture and accept she had a life before you, some of the stuff may actually turn you on.

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ummm.....well what i think about it is...you already know her standards, so whynot push the limits and set new standards of your own :D

I think men get too caught up in jealousy to really see that the things that turn them on so much about the mate they choose is the things that bother them to begin with.

Originally posted by doublelongdaddy
I think men get too caught up in jealousy to really see that the things that turn them on so much about the mate they choose is the things that bother them to begin with.

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Thanks DLD, you and I think alike - both deranged and perverted I suppose Isn't it funny how many of the same guys who fear learning about their mate's former stud, but get off viewing ���� featuring huge cocks? I think it's sexy as hell to see a hot babe taking a big one, in fact I'm bored by most ���� if there's not an exceptionally large dick involved.

Additionally, I've found some scenes with a girl taking on 2 or more guys extremely sexy as well. For a long time, whenever I ran across DP scenes I skipped it, thinking it was just a "dirty act" for the camera. But, I've seen some where it is obvious the girl is getting off like crazy, and that turns me on. Heck, I've even seen some of the videos from http://www.fuckingmachines.com and it can be quite erotic to see a female taking on a huge dildo (or two) powered by a machine.

The reason it's such a turn on IMO is when you see the girls genuine unfaked reactions. That's the bottom line for me, if it appears that the girl is just going through the motions for the camera then I'm not excited. I wanna see them orgasm, most of the time you can tell if it's real or faked. Just like, I love to hear girls who talk dirty or make a lot of noise....but if it's an "actress" you can tell when she's just reciting lines or making noise voluntarily.

I'm saying all that, to describe what turns me on the most. If you're honest with yourself, think about the kind of woman you want to have in your bed for the rest of your life. If you want a good looking woman who's uninhibited and adventurous, then most likely she will have sampled some bigger dicks than yours. Come on, we've read over and over about guys who had very few partners or much sexual experience, because of penis size/performance insecurity. Don't you think that the reverse scenario is usually true - guys with bigger dicks getting laid a lot? I've seen this first hand, as my best friend in high school was very well hung. He had girls calling him all the time. He'd screw just about anyone too, given the chance - looks didn't matter much. I was a virgin, heheh, pretending not to be. I never even got laid till I was 18, and this guy had screwed more women at age 16 than I've had in my entire life.

Based upon my experience, it is <b>easy</b> for a girl to get most any guy to screw her. He might not take her out on a date, be seen with her, or ever even admit it. The guys who have a rep, will usually screw just about anyone if approached at the right time.

I know that my wife lost her virginity to a guy just like this. She never went on a date with him, she just had the hots for him and wanted him to get her cherry. She told me that she knew he was experienced, and asked a friend to set her up with him. Now, I know there's still a lot of girls who want to be "in love" first etc., but you better wake up and smell the coffee if you don't think that in this day girls aren't just as curious about sex (and big dicks) as you are .... and, many will satisfy that curiosity

wesb

The bigger your dick gets, the less you'll give a shit about who she's been with.

Originally posted by Godsize
The bigger your dick gets, the less you'll give a shit about who she's been with.

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damn right

LOL that is so damn true! :D

WaxN;17999 said:

Over the past year, I've frequented 4 different Penis Enlargement forums, and I've encountered the same faux pas in all of them. Namely, guys asking a gal about the size(s) of her previous lover(s).
This inquiry can be fraught with disaster. First of all, you can't change her past, regardless of what it is (nor can she). Second, unless you are massive, the odds are that she may have had bigger (especially if she's had some "experience").
To hear that you were her biggest - assuming that she's being honest, which she may have learned not to be - you might get some ego-stroking (if you really need that). However, I think the risks outweigh any potential benefits.
You may in fact be the smallest she's had. Or, like what happened to an obsessive friend of mine, she may have had a lover much much bigger than you. Even worse is when she then tries to smooth it over, pitying you, trying to make you feel better.
A buddy of mine always asked this of his dates. He said he was "about 6 inches," though I have no way of verifying it. But most of the girls told him he was "average," a few even said "small." Yet he kept asking. Finally, one gal indicated to him the size of her biggest (& "best") lover with her hand over his glans. My buddy said he had to have been at least 9", according to her demonstration, and much wider. She admitted that he was the best sex she ever had, but he kept cheating on her so she dumped him.
If all this wasn't bad enough, he really fell for the girl over the next few months, yet had to keep struggling with this.
I asked my future wife the same stupid questions (when I was 6.5 x 5.2). She had 2 men before me (she was young when we met, and she dated the 1 guy for 3 years). She said I was thicker than both, but one was "about an inch longer" than me, but quite bent to the side. I guess it could've been worse. But it's a question that I would never ask any woman again - unless I was prepared for a painful answer.
Just enjoy the snatch in front of you, and don't ask about her past! (it can also make you look like an insecure little boy worrying about your peepee....or, worse, she might wonder why you're thinking of other men's cocks while she's spread out in front of you)....

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Threads like this is one reason why I am going for 9 X 7. If I have that size, there won't be any reason to ask the lady about her past because with a 7 inches girth which is extremely rare, I'd be the thickest she has ever been with. All thanks to MOS.

Godsize;18887 said:

The bigger your dick gets, the less you'll give a shit about who she's been with.

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eloquent in its simplicity (and in my case, very true). Prior to PE I would be secretly obsessed if I was her biggest (having my partners achieve orgasm was never a problem), but I always repressed the urge to out-and-out ask. I think instinctively knowing full-well that I'd be viewed as insecure and diminish her respect for me. I can't imagine any woman relishing this discussion about her sexual past...especially if it was littered with horse-cocks