Dating or Getting into a relationship with a EXOTIC DANCER?

REDZULU2003 said:

Do any of them [these women] move off this path? or are they victims of cause and effect? always living this potential deadly, and abusive lifestyle.

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You find all kind of girls in this industry. Not necessarily all of them have trouble past. For example one of the girls that I still talk with I met her down here at Cheetah in Pompano Beach. She moved a couple of years ago to NY due to the nastiness of the business down here. She's the type of girl that plays in the club, but doesnt do any sexual activity. Not even a hand job. She's a nice girl, from a normal family without a lot of money, but she's the type of lazy person. She's just comfortable dancing, making her money, smoking pot the whole day and staying in bed. Doesnt have the drive to do other things with her life. Eventually she will meet some good guy that loves her and take care of her.

You will find others, which I have met too that are fitness models or fitness competitors. They have their career, but in the bodybuilding industry is VERY expensive to afford diet, supplement and anabolic steroids. So many of these girls dance for that extra money while having their lives together and knowing exactly what theyre doing. On a side note, many of the girls in the fitness industry escort for this same reason.

I actually know quite a few that have successfully (relative term) moved on and done pretty damn well but almost all of those had made a move outta state to do so.
.... the expection are the ones really in school (most here all say they are in school but...). Some stay kinda local and just leave it off the resume and do fine.

I asked because in some of the posts it mentions that many working in this area have had hard lives including but not limited to sexual abuse. I understand that, but I never accept this leads someone into this line of work.

You choose it, is what I'm saying to you, and that is a personal choice, unless forced into it by some disgusting creature, its a choice.

One of my ex loves was abused by her father, and no way was she ever able to do this work.

Its a generalization that women who work in ����, and stripping, anything of this nature, have been in hard homes, or abused. Indeed, I have known loads of women that went to university here in the UK, and did escort work on the side for easy money.

You confirmed, as I already knew - friends that did it - ordinary women do this work.

I think it just needs pointing out, so these ladies dont all get put into the same box.

So you guys are 1000% right?. I did a little more digging and yes I found her Instagram account where she is wishing her ride or die a happy birthday even though "he's not here!"

REDZULU2003 said:

I asked because in some of the posts it mentions that many working in this area have had hard lives including but not limited to sexual abuse. I understand that, but I never accept this leads someone into this line of work.

You choose it, is what I'm saying to you, and that is a personal choice, unless forced into it by some disgusting creature, its a choice.

One of my ex loves was abused by her father, and no way was she ever able to do this work.

Its a generalization that women who work in ����, and stripping, anything of this nature, have been in hard homes, or abused. Indeed, I have known loads of women that went to university here in the UK, and did escort work on the side for easy money.

You confirmed, as I already knew - friends that did it - ordinary women do this work.

I think it just needs pointing out, so these ladies dont all get put into the same box.

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Well those are personal experience facts. Its a dilemma like the one "not all muslims are terrorists but 99% of terrorists are muslims" Same happens here. Of course not everybody who was abused during childhood necessarily will end up in ���� or stripping. However I can tell you from personal experience, started going to strip clubs 10 years ago, was a stripper and ���� star for 4, have met 100's of strippers, I would say 85% of them were abused. And when I say that I met hundreds, Im not sayin "hello, nice to meet you. By the way, were you abused during childhood?" No. Im talking about girls with who I have created a relationship of friendship. Not necessarily a lifelong relationship but enough to trust our lives and tell our stories.

One detail to point out, abuse doesnt necessarily comes from father or home. Many girls have been sexually abused in their neighborhood. They grow up drinking heavily, partying with drugs, and in those situations they have been abused not even remembering the details because of intoxication. But that same lifestyle repeated every single weekend for years, creates a very disturbed mind in a teenager.

In fact one story that I remember from a girl that I used to hangout A LOT at scarletts, she is from Ohio, country girl, raised on a pig farm, unfortunately grew up between very bad people. While at scarletts she was hooked up on opioids, and drinking HEAVY every single night. I remember seeing her drinking and nobody could understand how this girl was able to stay on two feet after that. She was getting severely wasted every single fucking night. Gorgeous girl, petite, curvy blonde hair, big bright blue eyes. Looked like a barbie doll. One of her stories was that before coming down to FL, she had an abusive boyfriend. He was very jealous, used to beat her, and in her own words "he had a huge dick and every time he fucked me I used to cry" So there you go...the variety of samples in this studied universe is too diverse.

Jackxxx said:

She's the type of girl that plays in the club, but doesnt do any sexual activity. Not even a hand job. She's a nice girl, from a normal family without a lot of money, but she's the type of lazy person. She's just comfortable dancing, making her money, smoking pot the whole day and staying in bed. Doesnt have the drive to do other things with her life. Eventually she will meet some good guy that loves her and take care of her.

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Kind of sounds like my wife's story, but a big BUT...

True Southern bell, played in her club, made good money but never worked in fuck spots. She slept all day, smoked weed, went no-where besides the Kava bars and ate out here and there. She had her fuck boy for when she wanted to get dick but no steady boyfriend.

She had no idea how crazy the party life was in Miami. She never heard of Electronic music and thought Scarletts was the only spot that played that type of music lol

She ran into some people in the club that preached to her about joining a power movement organization, she was a lame that wanted to save the world so she got involved. They ended up having her run guns and drive for them. They were involved in that big scandal with Rick Ross and it became a big Fed thing. She saw the really bad side of Miami O-town :devilish: . Drive bys murders and all, this "organization" was the biggest gang in Florida.

I ended up being the good guy she met. Happily ever after :D

@Jackxxx when I recently went down to visit a friend in Pompano, I stopped by Cheetahs. I couldn't believe that after 7 years, some of the same girls were still working there.

There was a mother and daughter that use to work there but I didn't see them the night I went. I also use to go out and chill with some dancers there named Miami, Mariah and Claudia. Not sure if you know any of them. We use to go to All-Star after the club closed.

My massage girl was still working there and she flipped out when she saw me. I stood for one beer and left.

Remember that club centerfolds in the middle of the industrial area of Pompano? I never understood that place. It was a Steakhouse before or something. My wife worked there one day when They first opened and made $10 lol

My first KOD outside girlfriend when I was "Trick Daddy" lol This was when I was in my big booty phase (too many rap videos).

She was actually one of the smartest hustlers I met in FL and taught me allot about the game.

Id BURY my face in that ass and eat it all the whole night

Lightning said:

@Jackxxx when I recently went down to visit a friend in Pompano, I stopped by Cheetahs. I couldn't believe that after 7 years, some of the same girls were still working there.

There was a mother and daughter that use to work there but I didn't see them the night I went. I also use to go out and chill with some dancers there named Miami, Mariah and Claudia. Not sure if you know any of them. We use to go to All-Star after the club closed.

My massage girl was still working there and she flipped out when she saw me. I stood for one beer and left.

Remember that club centerfolds in the middle of the industrial area of Pompano? I never understood that place. It was a Steakhouse before or something. My wife worked there one day when They first opened and made $10 :D

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I remember all those 3 names, specially Claudia. A latina with long hair and a delicious booty.

Yeah centerfolds is long gone. You're right, before it was a steakhouse or something. However after that it became a gay strip club called Swinging Richards. They were fined and shutdown by the city for nudity and prostitution. Then they build Centerfolds which was a beautiful club but never succeeded in attracting people. Eventually filed for chapter 11.

Then 1 year ago they demolished the whole block and built the new Solid Gold. The old solid gold and pure platinum on Federal Highway and Oakland Park were "indirectly" closed by the city. Basically the city of Fort Lauderdale didn't want more strip cubs in the city so they gave them a new ordinance: No more alcohol sales after 12AM. Of course a strip club cant survive without alcohol so they knew it was time to go. The old classic Solid Gold was demolished along with the strip mall in front of it and they just opened a Bahama Breeze there. The whole block where Pure Platinum was with that giant sex shop in the corner is currently flattened. Empty lot.

The new Solid Gold in Pompano I haven't been there yet, however Ive heard is a state of the art club with latest sound system, jacuzzi, different rooms, etc.

Jackxxx said:

I remember all those 3 names, specially Claudia. A latina with long hair and a delicious booty.

Yeah centerfolds is long gone. You're right, before it was a steakhouse or something. However after that it became a gay strip club called Swinging Richards. They were fined and shutdown by the city for nudity and prostitution. Then they build Centerfolds which was a beautiful club but never succeeded in attracting people. Eventually filed for chapter 11.

Then 1 year ago they demolished the whole block and built the new Solid Gold. The old solid gold and pure platinum on Federal Highway and Oakland Park were "indirectly" closed by the city. Basically the city of Fort Lauderdale didn't want more strip cubs in the city so they gave them a new ordinance: No more alcohol sales after 12AM. Of course a strip club cant survive without alcohol so they knew it was time to go. The old classic Solid Gold was demolished along with the strip mall in front of it and they just opened a Bahama Breeze there. The whole block where Pure Platinum was with that giant sex shop in the corner is currently flattened. Empty lot.

The new Solid Gold in Pompano I haven't been there yet, however Ive heard is a state of the art club with latest sound system, jacuzzi, different rooms, etc.

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Wow, I was in Pure Platinum one night (talk about fuck spots) and management put me up by the stage in vip with the curtains and a chick came in and sat with me. Of course I was drunk, she pulled my zipper down and started sucking my dick before I even spent a dime on her. She chilled with me the rest of the night, we went to a hotel after and she complained the whole fucking night about her kids, once I sobered up I realized she was a latina talent we use to shoot for Bang Bros named Anastaysha Benz. I was like wow, this shit is really fucked up out here and I'm no better :D

Yeah same Claudia, I hung out with her many nights. I took her and Miami to KOD one night and me being the drunk arrogant asshole I use to be, I had them both making out with me and each other and called the dancer over I was fucking with to dance for us at KOD. The dancer got mad, scratched the shit out of my neck with her claw nails (bleeding and all) and Blac Chynna jumped on her and beat the shit out of her. It was a huge mess of shit I caused that night at KOD. The dancer I was fucking with in KOD got fired and kicked a huge dent in the side of my car and then called me for a week begging me to get her job back. I was a total dick but those women loved that drama shit.

One of the frustrations of being married to an exotic dancer/���� actress can be the sex at home. Allot of ���� talent and dancers that I met in the past that were in relationships had a very little interest in having sex at home due to the nature of their profession.

Many men think marrying a stripper / ���� star is going to come with amazing sex, ummm that's not always true. Again, women are emotional creatures and allot of them get fucked up with their profession and feel bringing it home is fake. It's like the mechanic working hard all day and then coming home after work to fix his broke car too.

But on the other hand, I know studs that shoot 4-5 scenes a day and then go to the Brazilian massage parlor after to get laid.

I remember sitting at lunch one day with talent and she was telling her husband sex is off for a while because her pussy is tired.

I myself can tell you, when I first got with my wife, we were pretty sexually active, now it's like not a big deal for her. She is a freak in the club but when she is at home, I have to be the one to initiate or there is no sex.

It can make any man feel insecure at times like "maybe I suck in bed" (I probably do anyway) :D but on the same note, she is not the same girl at home she is in the club.

So remember, all that glitter ain't gold and your mileage may vary.

This has been a very interesting topic, to say the least! From an honest question the thread has "derailed" to a very organic conversation about experiences related to the whole scene. Lots of juicy history and good stories, I've enjoyed reading this thread, but I don't personally have much to say regarding to the subject. :D

I look forward for more stories around this subject.

@Jackxxx , allot of studs I knew use to pump before scenes to girth-up, did you pump as well before scenes?

Lightning said:

@Jackxxx , allot of studs I knew use to pump before scenes to girth-up, did you pump as well before scenes?

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No I never did. I thought about doing it many times, but the problem is that timing in ���� is very unpredictable. They call you to the on set at 9:00AM and you end up shooting at 1:00PM. And with pumping if you pump too much, it will look fake pumped up dick full of water retention. And if its too little it wont be enough to increase girth. It would have been nice tough because my girth is around 6.2. Pumping the right amount could bring it to 6.5-6.7 and still look natural.

I used to pump after though as part of my routine. First get home and jerk off, sometimes jerk off in the car while driving. Shooting the scene itself was never enough for me to release everything. I always had to jerk off after and cum again. Then take a shower and start my PE session.

@Lightning remember Gia and Sunny at Cheetah? they used to hangout sometimes with Claudia at the club. Gia was a gorgeous exotic mix of middle eastern and puerto rican. Sunny was Costa Rican with a gorgeous body. I think I still have pics of them...Ill have to dig some very old files and see if I can find them...

Jackxxx said:

@Lightning remember Gia and Sunny at Cheetah? they used to hangout sometimes with Claudia at the club. Gia was a gorgeous exotic mix of middle eastern and puerto rican. Sunny was Costa Rican with a gorgeous body. I think I still have pics of them...Ill have to dig some very old files and see if I can find them...

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Nah, I don't remember them by name. I would love to see who you are talking about tho. I have so many pics too :D I use to hang out with this chick there outside the club that was a medium colored latina and she had a white birthmark on her cho-cha. She was good people but I forgot her name. We use to go hang out at Wonderland when it just opened back then.

Ironically, I brought her and Dennis Rodman home from being crazy wasted (two different ocassions) and ironically they both lived in the same building around East Ft Lauderdale :D. I use to leave Dennis in the lobby as the lobby guy dealt with him every night same routine.