Dating or Getting into a relationship with a EXOTIC DANCER?

So to begin, I am here I guess to get some input or at least to get it off my chest. So for the last few months I have started to see a exotic dancer professionally, it started when a few of the guys went out for a guys night a few months ago, right away after the first night I got her number and of course her professional name. So a few months go by till the guys want to go again and of course she is there and we have another great night, so a few weeks go by and I decide go see her again but this time by myself without the guys, also we do a little more than just a dance. By the way at this point my third visit is the most I have ever been to a club in a years’ time, I am also the guy that usually never gets dances because I never really enjoyed it. So my visits have become more frequent and the fun has escalated as well. I’m at the point where she has changed her name on my phone from her professional name to her Real name and I have checked Its her real name. We are on the phone every day messaging each other even if I’m not going to see her for weeks at a time, and I have come to know way more about her personal life then I think most guys would know who enter those doors. She has also dropped hints of going for a bite to eat or meeting outside the club. I am so out of my comfort zone I don’t know where and how to proceed with this? As for some of the benefits it has motivated me to stay which my PE, which she has also enjoyed, and also I have been proactive in loosing almost 30 lbs in the last few months. I’ll be honest I think I’m just going to throw it out there and ask her out but I am very out of my league because I have never dated or been with a girl this hot or interesting in my life. Any help or opinions would be great!

definitely out of my wheelhouse, god speed brother!

Go all in brother but don't get too attached

When you become emotionally involved with a person you are making an investment of some sort.

A few questions you may want to ask yourself:
Everything comes at a cost, it's a matter of what price you want to pay for it...
...think, spend & invest wisely

Lighting where you at? lol

going all out said:

Lighting where you at? lol

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He’s here somewhere!

@Lightning

@Tornadocock Your story sounds a bit like mine but I married mine. First big question, how much money are you spending on her or spent on her the first time and following times? What did she do in the club?

Here is a picture of my wife the first night we met in the club. She worked in one of the biggest clubs in Miami.

Lightning said:

@Tornadocock Your story sounds a bit like mine but I married mine. First big question, how much money are you spending on her or spent on her the first time and following times? What did she do in the club?

Here is a picture of my wife the first night we met in the club. She worked in one of the biggest clubs in Miami.

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An excellent return on your investment...

Threak-X said:

An excellent return on your investment...

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The crazy thing is, out of all the money I spent on strippers in the clubs, I never spent any on her in the club. She was a rarity because as much as I thought I had to spoil her, she felt uncomfortable when I took her out shopping, wining and dining.

Lightning said:

The crazy thing is, out of all the money I spent on strippers in the clubs, I never spent any on her in the club. She was a rarity because as much as I thought I had to spoil her, she felt uncomfortable when I took her out shopping, wining and dining.

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Well that's the problem I feel like our situation has changed. I know what her parents did for work and that they both retired now, and where she has been having lunch and dinner for Christmas the last few days. We message each other several times daily, wishing each other good morning, good night, wishing each other a very good day. I haven't been on my phone this much since my last relationship. I feel like I had an opportunity when, She mentioned last time we should grab something to eat but I think my reaction was not positive because I've been out of the dating scene for so many years. I'm thinking I should just jump with both feet and see what happens.

Tornadocock said:

Well that's the problem I feel like our situation has changed. I know what her parents did for work and that they both retired now, and where she has been having lunch and dinner for Christmas the last few days. We message each other several times daily, wishing each other good morning, good night, wishing each other a very good day. I haven't been on my phone this much since my last relationship. I feel like I had an opportunity when, She mentioned last time we should grab something to eat but I think my reaction was not positive because I've been out of the dating scene for so many years. I'm thinking I should just jump with both feet and see what happens.

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How much have you spent on her? That will tell me allot. Be honest

I have spent quite a bit the last few times I have been going on a weekly basis, what would be your thoughts stop seeing her and if she stops messaging me I know it's bullshit, and if she is still messaging me after I know there is something there.

Tornadocock said:

I have spent a bit the last few times I have been going on a weekly basis.

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If you are the type of person that showed decent potential future income for her, she will keep you on the call list. My wife occasionally travels and dances and she has men that call her and text her late hours, it is part of the game. I set up an additional phone line on google so all her Johns call and text into it.

If she is a veteran dancer like my wife, this is her hustle. My wife is usually one of the hottest dancers in the clubs she works in and it is still hard for her to make money now a days. So if a dancer sees potential money coming from you in the future, she will keep you tied in.

Remember, you are not special and you are not the only one with these privileges. If the girl is good, she has a few of you on call.

If she is good, she will keep the money in the club and not meet you outside the club, that is sloppy and that is when strippers lose their customers and money. If she is a whore, she will meet you outside the club to fuck, but that is still going to cost you cash or paying her bills on the regular for ass on the regular (just like marriage) lol.

I say give it a chance and just watch your pockets.

Thanks lighting appreciate it!

Tornadocock said:

What would be your thoughts stop seeing her and if she stops messaging me I know it's bullshit, and if she is still messaging me after I know there is something there.

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If you still haven't met her outside the club, it is still business. Also you need to ask yourself, are you strong enough emotionally to handle a stripper? Many of them have daddy issues and many have pimps.

Are you just trying to fuck or find a hot girlfriend?

+1 on Lightning’s advice

Nothing wrong with dating a stripper but you have to understand most (not all) strippers have some real issues.

Just ask her out, movie, supper, etc.
but please stop paying for extras.... you can get dances but don’t pay for extras!

Good luck, I would suggest you go into this just looking to have some fun with a hot female and see how it goes.

Ya I have to tell her I can't come see her in the club anymore and it she proposes to see me outside and I have to pay for it. Then I got thank her for the great times I have had and move on!

Tornadocock said:

Ya I have to tell her I can't come see her in the club anymore and it she proposes to see me outside and I have to pay for it. Then I got thank her for the great times I have had and move on!

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Cool, please let me know what happens.

Lightning said:

Cool, please let me know what happens.

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Will do thanks lighting and everyone else from for there input.