After cheating.

Okay Kingsnake-definitely didn't know that.... I still think the overall advice applies, he should just suddenly disappear.

After knowing the real situation, all I can say is this: That is one sadistic bitch.

@Zulu: Yank??? Well... these days being a yank is one of the lowest things one can be... but there is one lower: The Lobsterback.
(Max might get that reference)

You know there are other girls out there, right? Who cares?



3D

To Med;

To quote:

"Just walk away."

Med, Where you at? What is going on? You OK? I know you are seeing these notifications. Chime in and let us know how you are doing.

It sucks what happened. It really does, but it sounds like she has the potential to hurt you time and time again in the future.

The hurt you feel now will just happen again and again. Save yourself. Move on from the hurt and don't let her have the opportunity to do it again. Find another girl.

Poor medicated ran off lol.

Could be serious! Last activity 11-03-11 05:25 PM approx 4 hours and 40 minutes after creating this thread. Never been back since.
If he isn't back soon I will email him via the mod console. He would have been able to read all responses from post #1-#6.

Maybe he found some strange and spent the whole weekend bangin' his balls off.
What I woulda done.

REDZULU2003;461544 said:

Could be serious! Last activity 11-03-11 05:25 PM approx 4 hours and 40 minutes after creating this thread. Never been back since.
If he isn't back soon I will email him via the mod console. He would have been able to read all responses from post #1-#6.

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Check up on him Red, make sure he is ok.

I've read the responses. I just feel that instead of listening to her, I read too much into peoples opinions here.

Thanks to the few of you who were actually caring though.

We had a lot of heart to hearts since and actually, she had and has a hell of a lot going on, which anyone would find hard to deal with and because we're so far apart, she just needed someone there for her. Nothing more than a kiss happened and once I go out to college we're going to be in adjacent states, meaning I can see her regularly and we can be there a lot more for each other in person. Before we met, we knew we liked each other, but we realised we couldn't be there for each other in person, so we dated other people etc. After we met, perspective was thrown out the window and we forgot how hard it really is when you really need someone there for you, but you know you won't see them for months and months.

I kissed another girl since we decided cooled back to friends between now and January when I move out to the states. I told her, as she was honest with me so I was honest with her, and I think now she understands how I felt. I didn't do it to get back at her, I did it because the girl made me feel wanted.

Yes, to the myriad of you that told me this, there are plenty of girls out there and yes, I could have walked away... but that's the easiest thing in the world. When you have someone you actually love, you fight til the fucking end. Maybe she will hurt me again, but I don't think she will. If she does? I know that I gave it everything and that there was nothing more I could do. I'd rather know that there was nothing more I could do, than be wondering 'what if?' in 10 years time.

She's flying to see me in January and we're gonna take it from there. We're gonna take it in turns to visit each other each month as we planned before this happened. We haven't talked about next summer yet, but she planned to come back to live with me when I go home over summer for 4 months. So we shall see what happens then.

And yeah, Kingsnake she did have a boyfriend, and I had a girlfriend. We both were very open about who we were dating and our sex life. We're both not dating anyone now and we don't plan on dating anyone now as January is only a month and a bit away.

Thanks to the rest of you though. I appreciate it a lot.

Well bro all I got to say is glad that you are okay really I am happy you made the decisions that worked for you and only you and hopefully everything goes the way you want it to and if it doesn't just roll with the punches and take one step at a time take it easy bro

Cheers buddy. I appreciate that. I just can't wait to get to VA now and just get back what's mine. Ha, just realized you're from VA.

yes I am lol what school are you going to

I'm pleased its worked out. Doesnt matter mate what our thoughts are. I personally would never have an open relashionship but I aint going to call one for doing it. I understand 100% on the part about trying and when you love someone. Truth be told if the girl who I loved once would have comeback to me after sleeping with my ex best mate I would have had her back!

Sounds to me like you will both be more happy when nearer and closer. Nice to read a happy ending for once.

Well we didn't have an open relationship as we didn't have a relationship before we met. We just knew we wanted to be with each other. It's not an open relationship now either, we're just... best friends who know that at some point there's gonna be a time for us. We spoke last night and again she told me that she knows our time will come, we just need to be closer.

That best mate situation is horrible Red. I really can't even imagine how painful that must have been for you.

Hey Medicating. Well if this is the path that your choosing then that's good, as long as you are happy. Like Red said, I also wouldn't go for the whole long distance thing but it's on you bro. Good luck to you and hopefully she stays away from that guy that kissed her.

Yeah it really hurt me deeply. The best freind was like a brother to me but thats the way it went. I'm pleased you are on the right track 'cos finding somebody - the 'right' - somebody is really hard.

I bet. Having both parties close to you must be so hard to take. Eh, we're not on the right track yet, but we got out the car and we're walking to the station. My train leaves in January, I just hope she gets on it with me or I won't be back for a while.