Okay, I'm 30 and I'm pretty good friends with this 40 year-old lady that started work with my company about 3-4 months ago. She's a huge hockey fan and stuff so we hit it off and talk all the time. For starters, we're absolutely nothing more than friends. She's married and all that stuff.
Anyhow, Friday night she tells me and a couple females at work this story where her son (about 11 years old) was working out in the basement and she was on the nearby computer. Looking at the drop box at the top of the Windows browser she saw some unfamiliar site and click on it. She said she came to a site where she chick just had her face drenched with jism and another chick had a cock in her ass while taking two in the mouth. She described it as the grossest thing she'd ever seen. She told son and go upstairs and get her husband. Her son then could sense that something was wrong and began to inquire, so she yelled upstairs for her husband to come down. She then opened the drop box and noted the site, at which point he denied having any knowledge of the site. He headed upstairs and she decided to confront him about it later.
Later that night her husband was asleep upstairs and she told us she pondered keying his Porsche to get back at him. We were all a little horrified and told her that would have been quite extreme. Anyway, she opted for yanking him out of bed and arguing with him, at which point he admitted to the adult entertainment site thing and said he denied it initially because their son was nearby. She was furious and her husband has repeated apologized saying he doesn't do those kind of things and doesn't know what he was thinking. His story is that he stumbled on to the site but looking up something to help their other son with his homework and the site came up on a search engine. That much is believeable, as adult entertainment is all over the web and searches for non-adult entertainment items are likely to turn up adult sites at times. But what doesn't make sense is that click via a search engine would put the URL in the address memory at the top of the web browser.
She is so mad, so is not entirely sure of where to go with her marriage from here. I tried to tell her that even if her husband has a adult entertainment problem that she needs to work through it, that this should not end a 13 year marriage. What is is upset about is that they are a Christian, church-going family and don't want adult entertainment at a part of their family. Now, she feels betrayed that her husband has not honored those values. I tried to her that this does not mean that her husband is a bad husband or even that this shortcoming means he is not sincere in his religious beliefs, but that most good people have their vices they struggle with. She said she was also grossed out by how extreme the site was, that she would have been more likely to understand it had it just been nude or erotic photos or even more traditional sex. She was also upset that at his initial denial.
I explained that men and women are wired differently, that men are attracted or at least intrigued by things that women do not find appealling. And I said that men can be curious and even attracted to things that they do not actually intend to pursue. For example, adult entertainment magazines are full of bullshit letters about men being turned on by their wives fucking other men. Men read that stuff even though such opportunites will not likely present themselves and most readers have no intent on sharing their wives with anyone else, a type of fantasy that most do not want to become reality. I told her beyond curiosity, he might feel unfulfilled in their sex life and she needs to talk about that and she is there is anything that can be done. For starters, he works a normal dayshift and she works 5:00 pm till 2:00 am. I just get the impression that she is not highly adventurous in a sexual sense, and I kinda explained that I myself would need a real freak in the sack to satisfy me, and that such things should be worked out early in a relationship. But she says she finds their sex life good and he tells her the same, although he may not be completely honest about that.
Well, I told her I would seek advice from some online community friends. I advised her to join an online forum of some sorts and get advice too. So, if any of you have any words of wisdom, let's her them.
Anyhow, Friday night she tells me and a couple females at work this story where her son (about 11 years old) was working out in the basement and she was on the nearby computer. Looking at the drop box at the top of the Windows browser she saw some unfamiliar site and click on it. She said she came to a site where she chick just had her face drenched with jism and another chick had a cock in her ass while taking two in the mouth. She described it as the grossest thing she'd ever seen. She told son and go upstairs and get her husband. Her son then could sense that something was wrong and began to inquire, so she yelled upstairs for her husband to come down. She then opened the drop box and noted the site, at which point he denied having any knowledge of the site. He headed upstairs and she decided to confront him about it later.
Later that night her husband was asleep upstairs and she told us she pondered keying his Porsche to get back at him. We were all a little horrified and told her that would have been quite extreme. Anyway, she opted for yanking him out of bed and arguing with him, at which point he admitted to the adult entertainment site thing and said he denied it initially because their son was nearby. She was furious and her husband has repeated apologized saying he doesn't do those kind of things and doesn't know what he was thinking. His story is that he stumbled on to the site but looking up something to help their other son with his homework and the site came up on a search engine. That much is believeable, as adult entertainment is all over the web and searches for non-adult entertainment items are likely to turn up adult sites at times. But what doesn't make sense is that click via a search engine would put the URL in the address memory at the top of the web browser.
She is so mad, so is not entirely sure of where to go with her marriage from here. I tried to tell her that even if her husband has a adult entertainment problem that she needs to work through it, that this should not end a 13 year marriage. What is is upset about is that they are a Christian, church-going family and don't want adult entertainment at a part of their family. Now, she feels betrayed that her husband has not honored those values. I tried to her that this does not mean that her husband is a bad husband or even that this shortcoming means he is not sincere in his religious beliefs, but that most good people have their vices they struggle with. She said she was also grossed out by how extreme the site was, that she would have been more likely to understand it had it just been nude or erotic photos or even more traditional sex. She was also upset that at his initial denial.
I explained that men and women are wired differently, that men are attracted or at least intrigued by things that women do not find appealling. And I said that men can be curious and even attracted to things that they do not actually intend to pursue. For example, adult entertainment magazines are full of bullshit letters about men being turned on by their wives fucking other men. Men read that stuff even though such opportunites will not likely present themselves and most readers have no intent on sharing their wives with anyone else, a type of fantasy that most do not want to become reality. I told her beyond curiosity, he might feel unfulfilled in their sex life and she needs to talk about that and she is there is anything that can be done. For starters, he works a normal dayshift and she works 5:00 pm till 2:00 am. I just get the impression that she is not highly adventurous in a sexual sense, and I kinda explained that I myself would need a real freak in the sack to satisfy me, and that such things should be worked out early in a relationship. But she says she finds their sex life good and he tells her the same, although he may not be completely honest about that.
Well, I told her I would seek advice from some online community friends. I advised her to join an online forum of some sorts and get advice too. So, if any of you have any words of wisdom, let's her them.