Lost my virginity,but had problems keeping it up, advice wanted

[fleuryfan91]

so heres what happened,

we started off with foreplay but very quickly went to a blow job,i maybe reached 60% erect before i told her to bend over.so then i busted out the condom,put it on and my erection just slowly decreased back to flaccid. i had her give me some more head untill i got pretty hard and just began to fuck her without the condom.

that would last only a minute before i would go limp and need more stimulation.i never even got to climax and im sure she was dissapointed.

im pretty comfortable with this girl so im not thinking its because i was nervous,i did have to pee though while we were doing it but i held it in.

i know DLD will reccomend generic viagra but im 18 and dont take pills anyways.

so please share your thoughts on if this is normal for the first time and if it goes away?

or if there is any tricks ide like to know too,i have a super high sex drive as it is and can usually get my dick up easily when masturbating. so i want to fix this problem soon

thanks

 

[littleleft]

there's lots of pressure on yourself with loads of expectations the first MILLION times. you might want to practice with condoms a few times to get yourself used to the feel of them, the fit of them (you might need to try a few) . you might want to beat up a condom also to feel better about the strength of the condoms. you might want to be careful about what and how you're masterbating also, your dick gets used to certain things and you might need to switch up the jerking off to be less rough and more like what the real deal is like. you could get your partner to jerk you a bunch also if that'll transition you in.

just be happy you got a willing partner and lots of time to work the kinks out.

 

[DLD]

just be happy you got a willing partner and lots of time to work the kinks out.

Thats it! You are just like many of us when we had our first few experiences...IT IS NORMAL. Let her know that you are nervous, let her take command for a night, spend more time in foreplay, get her off before you even insert...there are lots of things you can do. I don't think you need medication, your 18 and I am sure you can get 100% erect on your own.

 

[fleuryfan91]

everything went perfect,i felt like a natural,and if i could just get this handled sex will become 10x better

great advice dudes

thanks

 

[higherone]

Bro, totally normal. Take a deep breath and maybe try to rub yourself hard a bit next time. Every guy has been there man, and not just your first time too.

 

[savageblue]

Stress, anxiety, fatigue, time of the day, time since last meal, condoms, the novelty of the experience, all of that plays a role. It is all pretty normal and a part of the game.
It will still happen from time to time (like higherone said, every guy has been there and not just the first time), so do not worry about it.
Condoms, in particular, aren't easy to "master". Your penis needs to get accostumed to the feel of it, and you will probably feel some loss of sensitivity, which can lead to a limp penis. But that is all a matter of time (and not a very long time, for that matter) until you get used to it. If you feel like you're loosing too much sensitivity, try using extra-thin condoms. Just make sure they don't tear easily.

And remember that practice makes perfect, which is one of the great things about sex – the more you do it, the better it gets... for both of you rofl.

Good luck and make the most of this new stage of your life (always keep it safe)

 

[fleuryfan91]

great advice thanks

 

[DLD]

Stress, anxiety, fatigue, time of the day, time since last meal, condoms, the novelty of the experience, all of that plays a role. It is all pretty normal and a part of the game.
It will still happen from time to time (like higherone said, every guy has been there and not just the first time), so do not worry about it.
Condoms, in particular, aren't easy to "master". Your penis needs to get accostumed to the feel of it, and you will probably feel some loss of sensitivity, which can lead to a limp penis. But that is all a matter of time (and not a very long time, for that matter) until you get used to it. If you feel like you're loosing too much sensitivity, try using extra-thin condoms. Just make sure they don't tear easily.

And remember that practice makes perfect, which is one of the great things about sex – the more you do it, the better it gets... for both of you rofl.

Good luck and make the most of this new stage of your life (always keep it safe)

Great Advice!

 

[Benoz]

Its definitely true the more you do it the better it gets man, i was nervous as hell when i first did it... there's so much pressure on you and its all new and sometimes it gets in the way of the moment.

My partner has an extremely high sex drive good for me and her so over the past 4 years we have racked up a huge score and there has been many learning curves along the way, even when it came to oral.

Trust me you will go through a lot of different scenarios and stages

 

[DLD]

Trust me you will go through a lot of different scenarios and stages

Indeed!

 

[fleuryfan91]

thanks mate,

just glad to know that this is natural

 

[DLD]

thanks mate,

just glad to know that this is natural

Glad we could help.

 

[The Gooch]

Leech oil. I had problems with full erections it was about a 5 or 6. after a few days of leech oil my penis was the hardest it had been in a long long time and it measured 1/8 of an inch bigger in girth.

 

[Jenius]

Yes this is definitely normal, it just happens sometimes.
I think that my thing was anxiety and my partner started saying that she doesn't think that I am sexually attracted to her along with me not thinking about her and how she feels smh. I felt dissapointed however she is great because while I was kicking my @$$ about it she said don't worry about it so much we will try again and again so having someone that supports you and that you can joke with about the situation feels great.