I am at a crossroad with continuing PE

[cladre60]

Since my hysterectomy thread got derailed with jokes....

My wife is facing a hysterectomy very soon. They've been running tests and scans and hopefully there's no cancer or we're really screwed. They need to remove her cervix and uterus from what we're being told. Fortunately the upper 1/3 of her vagina should remain intact.

Sex can be painful for her at times if I hit too deep and she's not positioned right. This was almost never a problem before PE. I've gained enough so far that she regularly needs to tilt her cervix. For you guys who don't think 1" in length is a lot, well, IT IS.

So now I'm unsure how to proceed. After the surgery (date isn't set yet) and recovery sex should go back to normal. Actually it should be better since she won't have pain. Maybe it will fully expose both the anterior and posterior fornixes. I know during sex the uterus will pull back to extend the vagina and I'm not sure how that will work after the surgery. Those are questions for the doctor.

So right now I'm not sure if gaining more is in our best interests. I may not be able to add more length, maybe just some girth and that's it. I need to really think about all this and talk to her doctor.


It's a constant struggle. We knew this was a possibility a few years ago and now it's a reality. Tough times. We'll get through it though.


For now I think I may ease up on length a bit, just do hand stretches. Girth I can gain more still so I think I'll focus on that more for a while. I'm not sure which direction I'm going to be honest.

 

[huge-girth]

I pray everything goes well for you and your wife.

 

[cladre60]

I pray everything goes well for you and your wife.

Thank you. This isn't going to be easy. Hoping for the best possible news later this week.

 

[stillwantmore]

Sometimes life gets in the way for whatever the reasons and we have to put things on hold for a while. Focus on what's more important right now. You can always resume PE later on.

 

[cladre60]

Sometimes life gets in the way for whatever the reasons and we have to put things on hold for a while. Focus on what's more important right now. You can always resume PE later on.

This is true. I am going to keep going at it for now best I can. I'll know more of what's going on and when in a few days.

 

[huge-girth]

This is true. I am going to keep going at it for now best I can. I'll know more of what's going on and when in a few days.

You need to do the most important things first. You can always come back to PE.

 

[DLD]

This is true. I am going to keep going at it for now best I can. I'll know more of what's going on and when in a few days.

Get in what you can whenever you can so you maintain. Maybe 5 minutes here and 5 minutes there.

 

[Big Schwanz Acht]

Fortunately she has you to support/love/nourish her in any way that she needs and being 'the best you' (whatever that entails) is the best gift you can give her. Sometimes taking an hour to maintain and recharge is all that's needed, but imperative to providing for her and family. Stay strong and you have all of us pulling for a speedy recovery

 

[cladre60]

Get in what you can whenever you can so you maintain. Maybe 5 minutes here and 5 minutes there.

The plan at the moment is exactly that - do PE when possible until I'm certain of everything they're removing and how it's going to effect our sex life once she heals. After surgery I'm hoping size is no longer an issue as right now I can accidentally hit her cervix much easier than before.

If gaining more length is going to be an issue I'll switch to girth for a while until I'm as thick as she can handle and be satisfied knowing that I'm still above average. All of this will determine my final PE goals. I don't want to kill her, just completely fill her.

 

[cladre60]

Fortunately she has you to support/love/nourish her in any way that she needs and being 'the best you' (whatever that entails) is the best gift you can give her. Sometimes taking an hour to maintain and recharge is all that's needed, but imperative to providing for her and family. Stay strong and you have all of us pulling for a speedy recovery

Thanks. It's going to be a difficult journey. While she knows the surgery will eliminate her pain she's still upset that the ability to reproduce will be taken from her. She's had her tubes tied for a decade but that didn't take away all ability to have a child (either through reversal or a test tube baby). I guess the only way you can compare it to men is saying "we're going to remove both your balls but we'll give you testosterone so you still feel like a man."

No clue how long her recovery will be but we'll get through it financially somehow. Worst case I have to lean on family for help. My job is secure but once I use all my vacation time I'll have no income and we have no savings. It'll all work out though, I have faith. Plus I won't be completely out of work during all this. I'll work days and hours that I can while she's recovering. Might not be full time hours for a few weeks but something will be better than nothing. We'll survive, we always do.

 

[Big Schwanz Acht]

...plus this procedure has been done countless times and the medical technology has made it much less invasive (still a major surgery, but she'll be soooo much better for it, guaranteed!!)

 

[cladre60]

...plus this procedure has been done countless times and the medical technology has made it much less invasive (still a major surgery, but she'll be soooo much better for it, guaranteed!!)

Yes she will. It'll eliminate the pain she's been going through.

I'm really hoping both forenixes are undisturbed from this and she's still able to fully expand to accommodate length. If so once I'm hitting them at the same time things are going to be insane. In the end the surgery could turn her into a total squirting orgasm machine.

Just hoping for the best possible news later this week and outcome. If we hear the C word however this will turn into a nightmare quick.

 

[RR04]

I’m so sorry to hear this I agree with most other posters. Be there for your wife. Perhaps if after she recovers your size is actually an issue, you will have good reason to stop. Hell I wish I had a reason and someone who cares about me enough where I didn’t have to PE. I envy your situation and will be praying for ya!

 

[cladre60]

I’m so sorry to hear this I agree with most other posters. Be there for your wife. Perhaps if after she recovers your size is actually an issue, you will have good reason to stop. Hell I wish I had a reason and someone who cares about me enough where I didn’t have to PE. I envy your situation and will be praying for ya!

Thanks. I don't think size will be an issue after she heals but we'll find out.

And sometimes us married guys envy you single guys. Grass always looks greener thing

 

[Lookn4girth]

As others have said, be there for her and be her rock and that alone will help her get through it. As for you, you have a large brotherhood in your corner to help you get through it as well. Wish the best for the both of you and please keep us posted on how things are going

 

[cladre60]

As others have said, be there for her and be her rock and that alone will help her get through it. As for you, you have a large brotherhood in your corner to help you get through it as well. Wish the best for the both of you and please keep us posted on how things are going

Thank you.

I really hope her doc is cool cause I have many questions that I don't want to research. I've found if I go into those situations too armed with knowledge they tend to assume I know more than I do and skip over things. Plus each situation is different. What may apply for the majority of hysyerectomies may not apply for her.

But I don't know how to say, "last time I measured my BPEL was 6.5" and girth was 5.25". I really want to get to 7.5 or 8" X 5.75" or so. Do you think that will pose a problem for her sexually after she's healed? Will the removal of her cervix and uterus mean she can expand to take DLD's length with ease and I can shoot for an absolute monster penis? Which is it doc?"

Still working on that wording lol.


I'm not worried about anything yet. I'm usually very calm and take things as they come, deal with them, and move forward. When I get worried you guys will certainly know and I'm glad I have the support here.

 

[Big Schwanz Acht]

I'm pretty certain the Doc will give you that perplexed look and admonish you by saying 'this procedure is about your wife's health, not your pleasure'

 

[DLD]

I'm pretty certain the Doc will give you that perplexed look and admonish you by saying 'this procedure is about your wife's health, not your pleasure'

lmao

 

[cladre60]

I'm pretty certain the Doc will give you that perplexed look and admonish you by saying 'this procedure is about your wife's health, not your pleasure'

Her pleasure is part of her health so it applies lol

 

[huge-girth]

Hopefully, you will get good news from her Doc that will allow you get to 9 inches length

 

[cladre60]

Hopefully, you will get good news from her Doc that will allow you get to 9 inches length

That would be insane! I started with 5.5" BPEL. 9 would be getting close to double my original size. I'd have a hard time keeping from showing it to everyone constantly lol.

 

[cladre60]

So the good news is that she doesn't have cancer. She's had HPV related issues before but this is not one of them. Again there's an extremely strong recommendation to get a hysterectomy done. They're going to look at possible surgery dates tomorrow.

She told the doctor that she's afraid to have sex because of pain when I'm at her cervix or if I accidentally hit it. We were told that if she gets the surgery we're looking at a normal, healthy sex life after. She did say when she's in there if she sees any areas of concern that she can't fix (she has on women before) that she'd warn us about aiming a certain way to avoid it but so far she isn't seeing anything like that. Plus she's planning to leave the ovaries, just remove the uterus and cervix, so no hormone therapy should be needed. She'll hit menopause when her body says it's time.

So really she'll be a more efficient version of herself. No uterus so no periods. No cervix in the way. Ready to resume normal living 8 weeks after surgery. I told her the choice is hers but she already knows what she needs to do.

I did not ask about the anterior or posterior fornix. Since she already informed the doc that I'm regularly at her cervix with length I'm sure the doc would've said something about length being an issue. She knows I'm large and in charge lol.

So now we wait to see when and go from there.

 

[DLD]

You would have to change your name to double long!

 

[huge-girth]

So the good news is that she doesn't have cancer. She's had HPV related issues before but this is not one of them. Again there's an extremely strong recommendation to get a hysterectomy done. They're going to look at possible surgery dates tomorrow.

She told the doctor that she's afraid to have sex because of pain when I'm at her cervix or if I accidentally hit it. We were told that if she gets the surgery we're looking at a normal, healthy sex life after. She did say when she's in there if she sees any areas of concern that she can't fix (she has on women before) that she'd warn us about aiming a certain way to avoid it but so far she isn't seeing anything like that. Plus she's planning to leave the ovaries, just remove the uterus and cervix, so no hormone therapy should be needed. She'll hit menopause when her body says it's time.

So really she'll be a more efficient version of herself. No uterus so no periods. No cervix in the way. Ready to resume normal living 8 weeks after surgery. I told her the choice is hers but she already knows what she needs to do.

I did not ask about the anterior or posterior fornix. Since she already informed the doc that I'm regularly at her cervix with length I'm sure the doc would've said something about length being an issue. She knows I'm large and in charge lol.

So now we wait to see when and go from there.

I believe once the surgery is done, you will get even more good news and become fully addicted to PE.

 

[DLD]

I believe once the surgery is done, you will get even more good news and become fully addicted to PE.

Yup, agreed, but slowly and surely. One step at a time, never rushing, increasing intensity as time allows. We do not want any injuries!

 

[cladre60]

You would have to change your name to double long!

That would be insane! Whip out 6" of flaccid penis to pee? I'd stop wearing pants and underwear lol.

Huge it's too late, already got bit by the PE bug.

 

[DLD]

When I was really thin in those Bang Brothers Pictures I was hanging flaccid at 8”! It looks so big compared to my thin body, I am fat now 🤔🤫😆🤣 but I did love that contrast!

 

[huge-girth]

That would be insane! Whip out 6" of flaccid penis to pee? I'd stop wearing pants and underwear lol.

Huge it's too late, already got bit by the PE bug.

I will be the happiest man if I can get a 6 inches flaccid penis.

 

[cladre60]

When I was really thin in those Bang Brothers Pictures I was hanging flaccid at 8”! It looks so big compared to my thin body, I am fat now 🤔🤫😆🤣 but I did love that contrast!

Were you performing or just posing for pics?

At my heaviest my penis looked small when erect. It was actually pretty sad. I knew gaining weight made you look smaller. I grabbed a ruler one day but didn't even measure cause as soon as it got close I was certain I wouldn't like the results. Lost a lot of weight after that and my penis looked better.

This was all before PE and knowing about the BPEL measurement. I thought I was losing my penis! That was scary.

 

[Big Schwanz Acht]

Great news from The Doc!

 

[DLD]

Were you performing or just posing for pics?

At my heaviest my penis looked small when erect. It was actually pretty sad. I knew gaining weight made you look smaller. I grabbed a ruler one day but didn't even measure cause as soon as it got close I was certain I wouldn't like the results. Lost a lot of weight after that and my penis looked better.

This was all before PE and knowing about the BPEL measurement. I thought I was losing my penis! That was scary.

They wanted me to do a scene called "Doctor Dick" I was way to shy for that I am not at my heaviest but my fat pad is at its thickest. I think it has such to do with age, shifting of body fat. I guess I am not too concerned any longer over such things. I hope that just living a regular clean life will remove the fat pad and I will be good. I have said it thousands of times, PE is for life!

 

[cladre60]

Age will do it. Us men can be skinny everywhere yet have a beach ball belly.

Doctor Dick lol. I saw a scene years ago where the guy was a "doctor" and it was so cheesy and corny I was yelling at the screen "just stick your cock in her already so I can jerk off!"

 

[huge-girth]

They wanted me to do a scene called "Doctor Dick" I was way to shy for that I am not at my heaviest but my fat pad is at its thickest. I think it has such to do with age, shifting of body fat. I guess I am not too concerned any longer over such things. I hope that just living a regular clean life will remove the fat pad and I will be good. I have said it thousands of times, PE is for life!

PE is a marathon.

 

[DLD]

Age will do it. Us men can be skinny everywhere yet have a beach ball belly.

Doctor Dick lol. I saw a scene years ago where the guy was a "doctor" and it was so cheesy and corny I was yelling at the screen "just stick your cock in her already so I can jerk off!"

It sucks and my belly has changed over that last 2 years where I have one belly roll then another at the pubic area. But I agree, this has to do with age.

Yeah it was dr. Dick and they wanted me to fuck like 5 chicks, sounds like a dream come true to so many, to me it was an instant anxiety attack

 

[cladre60]

It sucks and my belly has changed over that last 2 years where I have one belly roll then another at the pubic area. But I agree, this has to do with age.

Yeah it was dr. Dick and they wanted me to fuck like 5 chicks, sounds like a dream come true to so many, to me it was an instant anxiety attack

If it was just 5 chicks, no cameras, would it have been easier? Or are you a 1 at a time guy?

Yes it'd be a dream for me. With my growing confidence in my penis size I don't think I'd have a problem. Having people in the room filming, especially men, would more than likely boost my [words=http://fleshlight.sjv.io/c/348327/302851/4702]stamina[/words].


Modify your diet. Start slowly and it'll work much easier. Stop eating processed garbage (yes Hot Pockets etc are quick and easy but horrible for you) and replace those meals with stuff that's good. Salads, nuts, fruits, they're all good for you. Cut the sugary drinks down to 1 a day cause it's just empty calories. Stop carbs 4 hours before bed and eat early in the morning.

Do NOT "crash diet" and immediately jump to a 100% healthy diet cause you'll fall off the wagon just as fast. Slow changes in diet will keep you on it. If you get things nailed down right you can safely drop 1 pound a week. Anything faster typically means your changes were too radical and you'll quit sooner. Losing 1lb/wk means you're making a consistent lifestyle change that will endure the long haul.

And don't feel guilty if you eat a garbage meal or 2 during the week. You can even plan 1-2 as a reward for behaving so when you're eating all those salads and fruits you can tell yourself "Sunday is pizza and donut day! That's my reward day!" Or whatever day you choose.

I'm talking to the guy who created a 10" penis. You can certainly modify your diet to lose the belly.

 

[huge-girth]

I'm a one at a time guy. I have once tried banging two chicks at the same time but when the time came, I was shy so I took one chick inside and left the other in the sitting room.

 

[DLD]

If it was just 5 chicks, no cameras, would it have been easier? Or are you a 1 at a time guy?

Yes it'd be a dream for me. With my growing confidence in my penis size I don't think I'd have a problem. Having people in the room filming, especially men, would more than likely boost my [words=http://fleshlight.sjv.io/c/348327/302851/4702]stamina[/words].


Modify your diet. Start slowly and it'll work much easier. Stop eating processed garbage (yes Hot Pockets etc are quick and easy but horrible for you) and replace those meals with stuff that's good. Salads, nuts, fruits, they're all good for you. Cut the sugary drinks down to 1 a day cause it's just empty calories. Stop carbs 4 hours before bed and eat early in the morning.

Do NOT "crash diet" and immediately jump to a 100% healthy diet cause you'll fall off the wagon just as fast. Slow changes in diet will keep you on it. If you get things nailed down right you can safely drop 1 pound a week. Anything faster typically means your changes were too radical and you'll quit sooner. Losing 1lb/wk means you're making a consistent lifestyle change that will endure the long haul.

And don't feel guilty if you eat a garbage meal or 2 during the week. You can even plan 1-2 as a reward for behaving so when you're eating all those salads and fruits you can tell yourself "Sunday is pizza and donut day! That's my reward day!" Or whatever day you choose.

I'm talking to the guy who created a 10" penis. You can certainly modify your diet to lose the belly.

It just did not fit into my moral system. They were beautiful and of course there is temptation but the after effects of this would have been terrible for me. I have been with multiple woman in my past, I have done pretty much everything you can in my past. But since becoming a pastor my life has changed in many ways. I love women and love sex, don't get me wrong, it is just I do not have time for it between the Brotherhood and my Ministries I have no time and when I do I spend it with my Children. Someday perhaps I will find the right woman but today I am satisfied with my life.

 

[Big Al]

Whatever you decide, take intercourse slow and keep her comfort as a priority. When she's fully healed you may be able to get back to planning your training with an unencumbered mind set.

 

[Big Al]

Age will do it. Us men can be skinny everywhere yet have a beach ball belly.

The intra-abdominal is an area where you want to avoid developing fat as it's considered the deadliest form of weight gain. This tends to happen as men get older.

 

[cladre60]

Whatever you decide, take intercourse slow and keep her comfort as a priority. When she's fully healed you may be able to get back to planning your training with an unencumbered mind set.

I will certainly have to go slow until she's 100%. Doc said things would be normal after. Maybe at a followup appt I'll ask about the "deep vaginal area."

I've been trying to get on top of the belly fat thing now and keep it in check so I don't have to worry about it later. It wasn't getting bad but there's no reason why I shouldn't be able to maintain a 32" waist. Being a short guy with wider shoulders it fits me well. In 10 years I want to be able to look down and see my penis, not tilt my head to the side looking around my belly to see it.

Building my upper body again will happen eventually. I know it gets harder with age but I've already got a good platform to add to.

 

[huge-girth]

I will certainly have to go slow until she's 100%. Doc said things would be normal after. Maybe at a followup appt I'll ask about the "deep vaginal area."

I've been trying to get on top of the belly fat thing now and keep it in check so I don't have to worry about it later. It wasn't getting bad but there's no reason why I shouldn't be able to maintain a 32" waist. Being a short guy with wider shoulders it fits me well. In 10 years I want to be able to look down and see my penis, not tilt my head to the side looking around my belly to see it.

Building my upper body again will happen eventually. I know it gets harder with age but I've already got a good platform to add to.

With consistency and determination, you can get your desired goal.

 

[DLD]

The intra-abdominal is an area where you want to avoid developing fat as it's considered the deadliest form of weight gain. This tends to happen as men get older.

Do you mean how my belly fat has dropped to my pubic pad? This has never been this way until this year where I have a belly roll and a separation then another roll at the pubic bone.

 

[Big Schwanz Acht]

Do you mean how my belly fat has dropped to my pubic pad? This has never been this way until this year where I have a belly roll and a separation then another roll at the pubic bone.

I kinda have this too...effin' hate it!

 

[Big Al]

I will certainly have to go slow until she's 100%. Doc said things would be normal after. Maybe at a followup appt I'll ask about the "deep vaginal area."

I've been trying to get on top of the belly fat thing now and keep it in check so I don't have to worry about it later. It wasn't getting bad but there's no reason why I shouldn't be able to maintain a 32" waist. Being a short guy with wider shoulders it fits me well. In 10 years I want to be able to look down and see my penis, not tilt my head to the side looking around my belly to see it.

Building my upper body again will happen eventually. I know it gets harder with age but I've already got a good platform to add to.

Low glycemic index foods and ensuring you're not developing higher levels of hormones like prolactin will go a long way towards keeping down waist size.

 

[Big Al]

Do you mean how my belly fat has dropped to my pubic pad? This has never been this way until this year where I have a belly roll and a separation then another roll at the pubic bone.

The fat in question is the type which surrounds the organs. One can have little external fat but still have intra-abdominal (visceral) fat.

 

[cladre60]

Low glycemic index foods and ensuring you're not developing higher levels of hormones like prolactin will go a long way towards keeping down waist size.

Yup. I just have to remind myself to eat a little cleaner and everything usually goes okay. Cheaper than buying new clothes lol.

 

[huge-girth]

Do you mean how my belly fat has dropped to my pubic pad? This has never been this way until this year where I have a belly roll and a separation then another roll at the pubic bone.

Your diet is the cause maybe and age too.

 

[Big Schwanz Acht]

Your diet is the cause maybe and age too.

thanks for that

 

[Big Al]

Yup. I just have to remind myself to eat a little cleaner and everything usually goes okay. Cheaper than buying new clothes lol.

Agreed- it's also cheaper than medicine and medical care.

 

[DLD]

Agreed- it's also cheaper than medicine and medical care.

Got no choice now, gotta eat cheap and cheap is not good for you but I gotta survive while we revive!