See this is the problem. You use reason and rationalize your decisions despite the fact that God's word which is infallible says Sex is to be saved for marriage. This is not a personal attack, I've been there myself. You say live together and figure it out, but see the problem with figuring it out is the damage that "figuring" it out causes to both parties. The reason the divorce rate in the church is so high stems from several things, mainly people going through relationships and "figuring" it out and ending up just wanting someone, someone to love, to care for etc. Christ talks about serving two masters. You will love one and hate the other, because you can not have two allegiances. Again this comes back to this discussion very quickly, you can't be a believer in the Savior and take little bits of what he says and then combine that with what the world says. For how can light and darkness exist in the same body??? A good number of people within the church are...shockingly not Christian. They play at church and go about doing the "religious" things that everyone seems to not really like or regard too highly. See as men we can not know a man's heart, but God says you will know my children by the fruit they bear. My biggest point in all of this Pharoah is when does faith come into play, when do we become part of something bigger than ourselves, and when does it stop being about me, me, me??? The biggest reason people deny who Christ was is not because he wasn't who he said he was, but because he requires too much, the perfect example is the rich young man. He persued Christ and said what must I do to follow you, Christ replied give away all of your belongings and follow me. He requires too much of us to lay down our lives to serve Him and to love others as He loved is extremely difficult. Love is all that is neccessary to survive, and by the Grace of God we have the Son and eternal life through Him.