Fuck buddies: experiences, tips and advice?

[Shafty]

Alright, here's the deal:
lately my sex drive has been through the roof, and I haven't gotten laid in a looong time. :blush: My [words=http://fleshlight.sjv.io/c/348327/302851/4702]FleshLight[/words] and adult entertainment aren't cutting it any more; I need the real thing!! I don't want a relationship with anyone though, but what I would like is a fuck relationship, or "fuck buddy" as the say in the States.
Now, there are plenty of hot girls in my school who are interested in me, and I flirt with them all the time. It would be easy pickings for me to just choose one... if it weren't for the relationship catch.
I just don't know how to approach a woman with the intent of making her my fuck buddy while avoiding sounding too crass or straightforward. The best scenario would be if I could get maybe two or three girls who I could just call up whenever I start to feel horny.
My lil sister also has some tight 16 year old friends, and I know they are all drooling over me. I wouldn't mind some sweet 16 pussy, and I know my sister wouldn't mind either. She's open minded, and I actually asked her once if she would be upset about me messing around with her friends. The answer was a resounding "I don't really care, do what you like"!.
Girls at that age can be incredibly shy, though, so I'll have to be even more careful with my approach if I want some of that.

Does anyone have any experiences to share or tips on fuck buddies and how to aquire them in the first place without sounding like a total pervert?

 

[stillwantmore]

Hey man, I can definitely give a little advice from my own experience. First thing's first. YOU have to be totally ok with the 'fuck buddy', or more commonly called "friends with benefits" scenario. I say this because not all people can handle it. Sex has a way of causing feelings to develop. Sometimes they can be pretty emotional feelings too. If you have ever had possessive/controlling feelings while dating a girl before, I would proceed with extreme caution. I'm not saying you cant do it, it's just that you 'may' have issues. Example, the 'fuck buddy' youve been with on and off for a few months, and yourself just happen to both be at a party or get together, and you see her kissing/making out with some guy. Are you gonna go off, and approach the two of them or, her later like a possessive/controlling boyfriend asking her what the fuck she was thinking making out with this other guy, when in fact, you are NOT her boyfriend?

That said, there's no real, set way of approaching a woman for a "just sex" relationship. In fact, you will usually have little or no success in doing so. The way to be about it is "I'm not really looking for a committed relationship, but you seem cool, I would like to go out with you sometime". That's the way of saying exactly the same as "I dont wanna date you seriously, but I would like to go out and see what happens"....albeit a lot less indirectly. How you put it into words is up to you of course.

A girl I'm currently "seeing" and I are basically in the same situation. We're not in a totally committed relationship. We talk on the phone a few times a week, she and her girlfriend might come by and see me at work for a little bit once a week or so, and we go out and do stuff together when we can, but there's not that clingy, boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Oh, and we have sex once and a while too. Currently, about once a week. This situation is working well for both of us. Then again, we both have openly acknowledged with each other (communication on what youre both looking for is a BIG factor) that we're trying the friends first thing. Now, depending on how you were raised, what type of social "values" or religious guilt trips you may have been exposed to growing up, you may see things differently than I do. I feel like two people of the opposite sex can in fact be friends, in other words care about each other, be there for each other, hang out together, do all the things friends might do together, AND have sex without being in a dating, or "we're gonna get married someday" type of relationship. It's a foreign idea to many people, that things can be that way, but it can work....if the right kind of people are doing it.

Also, you both have to be ready for the very real possibilty that one or both of you may either develop feelings for each other, OR that one or both of you may meet someone else and develop feelings for that person. If and when that happens, you have to be prepared mentally. If you dont deal with change well, again you may have issues. Then again, if you both go into the friends with benefits type relationship, and you discuss this type of stuff, you shouldnt have issues later on if/when something like this happens. There has to be some sort of acknowledgement that if either of you meets someone that youre interested in seeing on a committed level, then it's curtains ...the end of the 'friends with benefits' relationship.

 

[AlloyCG]

The worst chance you'll ever have finding a fuck buddy is when you are looking for one.

Even so, it's possible. There are girls looking for the same thing you are. In that case, you will know those girls - they are easy to pick out of the crowd. They want a relationship about as much as you do. You can most definitely ask these girls to have sex... if done tactfully, nonchalant, and NOT JOKINGLY. Where most guys dig their grave is they try to play it off like a joke or are too direct and to "beggy."

As far as the young girls - they are good candidates. Very often they are happy with whatever attention they get from older guys - including sex. It is easy to carry on a fuck buddy system with one of them, as long as they are old enough that they don't have to have their mom drive them over. Be weary of the law, make sure they tell you they are 18. Also, be careful with breaking one of the poor girls' hearts.

I'm not too down with the whole fuck buddy thing myself lately. But I'll cheer you on if that's what you want. Do be careful of STDs, protection, and keeping those who you have a sexual relationship with and yourself psychologically sound - don't let things get out of hand with jealousy, actually liking the girl, attachment, etc. These things happen.

 

[AlloyCG]

Hey man, I can definitely give a little advice from my own experience. First thing's first. YOU have to be totally ok with the 'fuck buddy', or more commonly called "friends with benefits" scenario. I say this because not all people can handle it. Sex has a way of causing feelings to develop. Sometimes they can be pretty emotional feelings too. If you have ever had possessive/controlling feelings while dating a girl before, I would proceed with extreme caution. I'm not saying you cant do it, it's just that you 'may' have issues. Example, the 'fuck buddy' youve been with on and off for a few months, and yourself just happen to both be at a party or get together, and you see her kissing/making out with some guy. Are you gonna go off, and approach the two of them or, her later like a possessive/controlling boyfriend asking her what the fuck she was thinking making out with this other guy, when in fact, you are NOT her boyfriend?

That said, there's no real, set way of approaching a woman for a "just sex" relationship. In fact, you will usually have little or no success in doing so. The way to be about it is "I'm not really looking for a committed relationship, but you seem cool, I would like to go out with you sometime". That's the way of saying exactly the same as "I dont wanna date you seriously, but I would like to go out and see what happens"....albeit a lot less indirectly. How you put it into words is up to you of course.

A girl I'm currently "seeing" and I are basically in the same situation. We're not in a totally committed relationship. We talk on the phone a few times a week, she and her girlfriend might come by and see me at work for a little bit once a week or so, and we go out and do stuff together when we can, but there's not that clingy, boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Oh, and we have sex once and a while too. Currently, about once a week. This situation is working well for both of us. Then again, we both have openly acknowledged with each other (communication on what youre both looking for is a BIG factor) that we're trying the friends first thing. Now, depending on how you were raised, what type of social "values" or religious guilt trips you may have been exposed to growing up, you may see things differently than I do. I feel like two people of the opposite sex can in fact be friends, in other words care about each other, be there for each other, hang out together, do all the things friends might do together, AND have sex without being in a dating, or "we're gonna get married someday" type of relationship. It's a foreign idea to many people, that things can be that way, but it can work....if the right kind of people are doing it.

Good post Still, you seem to have the right mindset.

 

[Shafty]

Thanks for the input guys!
Stillwantsmore, great advice! I have pretty "loose" morals in these matters, if you can put it that way. The thing is, about 90% of the girls I've gotten to know better over the course of my life have failed to spark any romantic feelings in me. Arousal and passion is a different ballpark, but I don't usually fall head over heels for a girl in any given scenario. I am totally cool with the whole "friends with benefits" thing, and it doesn't bother me the least if the girl wants to fool around with other guys at the same time. After all, I know that I'm the best thing for her, so if she wants second rate guys on the side, then she can knock her socks off for all I care. Contrary to what might be expected, this not-giving-a-crap attitude actually makes THEM chase after YOU and try and force a more serious relationship down your throat (for anyone who's ever read David Deangelo's stuff, you know what I'm talking about).

And alloyCG, thanks for your insight, too!
Don't worry- the legal age here is 16, so I can get away with what would be considered child molestation in the States. Still it would be wise to check up on them, just to avoid the embarassing scenario of a broken hearted 15 year old girl ratting my ass out to the police, out of spite for me "taking advantage of her". These young girls are often at the peak of sexual curiosity, though: not getting any, but dying to, so they would make for good practice.
I seriously don't want to break any hearts while I'm at it, so I guess it would be best to pick out the sluttiest, horniest girls whose first priority is to get some cock, just to minimize the risks. If they start to have feelings for me, then I will end the whole thing as tactfully as possible to avoid any unneccessary heartache.

This has always been sort of a fantasy for me: just to be able to skip on all the shit that comes along with a relationship and just get busy with fucking. I'll see what happens...

thanks again for the great input!

 

[stillwantmore]

No problem man. Keep us posted.

 

[Adolf Hilter]

My Ermgard, would make you a good FUCK buddy, She would probably suck you right in and then blow you out boot laces first. If you ever cum to the UK, cum to Newcastle on Tyne, We call it Gannan Yam country. Emrgard has massive tits big arse, and does a wonderful blow job. But let me warn you mate, If you ever did fuck her, you would probably be crippled for a month. She would suck your bollocks dry.

 

[kausion_420]

I would let Ermgardt suck me dry if it wasn't for the fact that she kinda looks like patrick swayze. Im just not sure if my main player could rise to the occassion for such an event.

She does have big tits though.

 

[quijjiboo]

lol

 

[BeBobBox]

lol lol lol lol


just go get with girls and try and make a move on them without being their boyfriend if all goes well theyll be like a fuck buddy

 

[Shafty]

My Ermgard, would make you a good FUCK buddy, She would probably suck you right in and then blow you out boot laces first. If you ever cum to the UK, cum to Newcastle on Tyne, We call it Gannan Yam country. Emrgard has massive tits big arse, and does a wonderful blow job. But let me warn you mate, If you ever did fuck her, you would probably be crippled for a month. She would suck your bollocks dry.

But would I be able to satisfy her with my 7 inch penis after a lifetime of her getting banged by Sidney Sidebottom? rofl

 

[Jason1]

What are you guys talking about?

 

[Shafty]

What are you guys talking about?

It's an inside joke... you have to ask Hitler to elaborate on that. lol

 

[VladtheImpaler]

I would let Ermgardt suck me dry if it wasn't for the fact that she kinda looks like patrick swayze. Im just not sure if my main player could rise to the occassion for such an event.

C'mon Kausion, Feed Patrick Swayze that Alabama Blacksnake......lol

 

[Bigd5903]

Make sure the bitch isnt emotional or you'll be in for phone calls and emails all day everyday... Yeah I had a bad experience with a girl my age, but I still have my 46 year old fuck buddy

 

[Shafty]

Make sure the bitch isnt emotional or you'll be in for phone calls and emails all day everyday... Yeah I had a bad experience with a girl my age, but I still have my 46 year old fuck buddy

Yeah, I'll do my best to steer clear of the touchy-feely types. I get no kicks from breaking girls hearts, so it's gotta be a slutty bitch who doesn't care.

What happened with the girl that freaked out on you? Did it turn into a stalker type of situation?

 

[thebug]

Shafty how old are you man? i only ask cause your talking bout ur lil sis being 16 and wanting to get with 16yr olds.

hollar back amego.

 

[Shafty]

Hey bug,
I'm 20, so this is not a 'dirty old man' scenario. 16 is the legal age for sex here in Finland.

I just happen to know quite a few 16 year old girls that would make for excellent practice in the fuck buddy field while on my way up to bigger fish. It may sound cruel, I know, but the particular girls I have in mind are the type of young hoochies who just want cock and don't really care if the setup is what I am planning for them.

I've come down with a case of weak erections as of late, though. <
I have also obviously stopped gaining again, so it may be time for me to take a deconditioning break from Penis Enlargementing. I need to get my slight ED fixed before I start playing the field, and I think taking a break would help.

 

[VladtheImpaler]

Shafty, so your little sister has young lolitas coming over all the tiem to your house.......wow.

I wish i had a little sister, then i wouldnt even have to go out, just let em flock to the homeland.....
yeah, you better take a break off the Penis Enlargement cuz if you have ED in this situation......somethings fucked lol

 

[Shafty]

Shafty, so your little sister has young lolitas coming over all the tiem to your house.......wow.

I wish i had a little sister, then i wouldnt even have to go out, just let em flock to the homeland.....
yeah, you better take a break off the Penis Enlargement cuz if you have ED in this situation......somethings fucked lol

Yeah, I know... I can't help myself when these IoIitas (had to type it this way to avoid the "lol" smiley) come over. I joke with them and tease them in a semi sexual manner... you know, grabbing their tight little asses at every opportunity and whatnot. I'm just waiting for the day when they let me take it a little further... and the best thing is, IT'S all LEGAL BABY!
God, I am such a swine! rofl

Anyway, I HAVE to get my dick up and running again! I'm only going to be 20 years old for so long...I'll be moving out of the house soon enough, so the pussy won't be coming home to me any more. That, and I'd start to lose my sense of self respect if I kept on doing this at an older age.

 

[Bigd5903]

Yeah, I'll do my best to steer clear of the touchy-feely types. I get no kicks from breaking girls hearts, so it's gotta be a slutty bitch who doesn't care.

What happened with the girl that freaked out on you? Did it turn into a stalker type of situation?

She wanted to be my girlfriend and I said I dont want one so then shes like lets be friends with benefits and I was like ok whatever. So yea screwed a few times then she got clingy. She stated callin me everyday and sending me emaisl every day. I talked to her baout it and she still kept callin me so I just quit talkin to her. This ended over a month ago and she still keeps emailing me wanting to start over and be friends. Freakin psycho. Anyways, I had some erection problems too but ever since taking ginseng and ginko biloba, and the occasional horny goat weed, I havent had any problems at all. If ya can, you should give it a shot.

 

[VladtheImpaler]

Yeah, I know... I can't help myself when these IoIitas (had to type it this way to avoid the "lol" smiley) come over. I joke with them and tease them in a semi sexual manner... you know, grabbing their tight little asses at every opportunity and whatnot. I'm just waiting for the day when they let me take it a little further... and the best thing is, IT'S all LEGAL BABY!
God, I am such a swine! rofl
QUOTE]

Its funny how some of us (guys like you and I) can get away with such things....I can get really greasy with women and they just think I mean well while other guys that are more intimidating looking would get a rape charge....

True story: went to a party a few weeks ago, im in a room with one Really drunk chick, and another not so drunk one, both pretty good looking....Im sitting down with the really drunk chick laying over me like you would have a child while spanking them......and thats what I was doing....

The other girl was sitting and watching, and I was like, damn, I gotta say something to this other one before she does something rational....Sooooooo I look at her in the eyes....
Then she says: "I know you are good of heart, and mean well"
WHAT DO YOU SAY TO THAT!!!
Stunned, I just started kissing her...and that was the start of some thing beautiful......
In my defence I was as hammered as the other parties in the story....

Another True story: I met a hot black stripper named Lolita (she sure looked it ).....she thought she knew me from another club.....(coolest stripper I ever met) Talked to her for a good 45 minutes and she didnt even ask ME if I wanted a lap dance....

Bless her soul

 

[Shafty]

Good stuff, vlad!

Yeah, it's a blessing having been born with a cute face. You can just don that 'lost puppy dog' look if a chick starts to look like she's offended by your actions, and soon enough she'll be thinking nothing but sweet thoughts. It's a great way to distract them while you get dirty. You can practically get away with murder. rofl

BTW, I just noticed your sig, and I couldn't stop laughing! lol

"Oy! What's this then? If it isn't Sidney Sidebottom shagging me Ermgard while I'm trying to have me four o'clock tea and biccies with bangers and mash! Bloody hell, me football hooligan mates be watching the whole thing through the window and I'm getting a wee bit randy meself! I've got half the mind to jump in with me own talliwacker and shag me bird where the sun don't shine, aye? Fancy that!"

 

[hopful]

looooool God damn shafty you just wrote exacly like me granny talks ..... Now i want some fish and chips and a cold cider from my local pub. God damn i do miss england!.......

 

[Shafty]

looooool God damn shafty you just wrote exacly like me granny talks ..... Now i want some fish and chips and a cold cider from my local pub. God damn i do miss england!.......

Hehe! rofl
So I take it your grandma is English? Do they really talk like this over there, or have I just watched too much Conan O'Brien?

 

[hopful]

hehe yeah. Well you gotta see it like that, it depends on what part of england you are in. The are so many diffrent cinds of acents. But that one realy hit me and made me instanly think of her

 

[thebug]

shafty ur in finland.. well here in australia they have to be 18,... looks like im coming to finland, hehe

 

[hopful]

Hydromaxm... in Germany It's like that:

From the age of 14 you're allowed to have sex but only with people under 18
From the age of 16 as far as i know you can have sex with who you want

+ You're allowed to drink beer and wine and smoke at the age of 16
Hard alkohol at 18

 

[Shafty]

Yeah bug, come over to Finland if you want to indulge in "IoIitas" without getting into trouble with the law.

Really though, I think the whole 'you have to be 18 to have sex' thing is blown way out of proportion, especially in places such as the U.S. A 16 year old is by all intents and purposes a fully matured woman (maybe not mentally and emotionally, but I'd still say they are old enough to make the decision). If I want to fuck a horny 16 year old girl, then by god I will, and I'll be damned if someone frowns upon it!
I think you have to go way under 16 before you can start talking about real IoIitas. 13-15 maybe, and anything under that falls under the category of child molestation.

 

[hopful]

I mean i would never touch a girl that does't want to have sex, but if she want's to have sex then i wouldn't say no. I mean my first time was with 14 and she was 13. I know it sounds like kids playing but we both new what we wanted, what we were doing and we both loved it. I mean she started at what... around 12 to have sex so it wasn't like fucking a unknown virgin.

 

[BDS]

The legal age for sex in Sweden is 15... unless they have changed it lately. One of my friend is so damn sure that the age is 16, but I think he's wrong.

 

[Bigd5903]

If I want to fuck a horny 16 year old girl, then by god I will, and I'll be damned if someone frowns upon it!

Oh man you crack me up.