Fisting Experience Fucking With My Head! Please Help Guys!

Yeah man, me and Rob wouldn't steer ya wrong here.....not sure how old ya are but when you look back and feel like I shoulda been this way or that way and realize ur wisdom in hindsight, u would give anything to go back knowing what u know now, that sucks.

I'm not saying go screw randoms, I'm saying let urself free from this situation. It's amazing how liberating it is when u tell urself, hey, I don't give a fuck anymore. Cuz u and I both know there was a time when u did, and the way say I haven't met anyone as cool as her yet, tells me u still care which is ok, normal. All I am saying is the sooner u get out there and try and heal ur mind, the sooner it will happen. Chicks love this shit anyway, and besides it's a lot more fun. :)
 
I don't think the guy is holding himself back from getting laid, he's just saying that he's not interested in fucking any skank that comes his way. That's generally pretty smart, and he seems to be getting plenty of experience with the girl he's currently fucking.

I've always taken a little personal pride in never having fucked a bunch of sub-standard chicks just to get laid. It's a lot more satisfying for me personally to look back over my various encounters and be reminded that I never banged a bunch of fatties of disgusting bar whores, especailly when I compare my record to some of my friend's. Plus, only sleeping with women of quality and maturity helps insure that you'll avoid disease, unwanted, pregnancy, or any psychotics/stalkers/clingy idiots.

I know plenty of guys who didn't get laid that much in school that now fuck lots of great women, and I knew guys that were studs in college that don't get around much anymore. Just because he's playing it smart and not fucking anything that moves his first few years of college doesn't mean he won't be able to enjoy himself later on, in the near future or farther down the road.
 
Who said anything about fucking substandard whores? You're assuming a.) that that was my intention and b.) that I have/condone racking em up, just for shits.....ugly bitches and all. Not to burst your bubble, but that's not me, and also, I only meant that I have seen so many guys hang onto that good ol girl and it sickens me. I'm not even about to brag about the women I have had sec with, cuz it's dumb, but I have high standards my friend, and not one fat chick, not even close. I always hear how women get a attached blah blah blah, very true, but the same happens to us men. Not saying 10inch is, but that mantality signifies to me that there are restraints for some reason. Lets be honest, no good looking chicks are going to come to you, and my point was get out there, get over her if that's what needs to happen. Go have fun, whether it be have sex, get ur education, or just hang (in which I condone all of those). Cold turkey is the best way to go in my opinion.
 
If you're not meeting smart, fun, and beautiful girls then you need to take responsibility for that. Be more outgoing and you'll find there are lots of girls you like as much as your ex.
 
Alwaystrying, I think you missed the point here. He's fucking this girl, who happens to be his ex, without any obligation. He doesn't need to get over her or get back out there, because he's already done both of those things. I was merely suggesting that he shouldn't feel the pressure, as per some of the advice offered on this thread, to try and fuck every girl that he possibly could.

I never suggested were out banging fat chicks, so don't be so insecure - I wasn't even addressing you, I was just offering my two cents to 10inch.
 
alwaystrying;284404 said:
10inch, are you saying this is the only pussy u have fucked? K, not to sound condescending but there is a lot out there man, and when u only know one thing it almost blinds you, u have nuthin to compare it to hence people often think that's all there is. I may be sounding a tad harsh but I only say this with great experience, I too was exactly this way, almost married my first gf, were together for 3 and a half years the whole bit. She was a doll in hindsight, but a lousy lay. Great pussy, etc. but it wasn't til I got out there and felt women out (emotionally and physically) that I had the authority or knowledge to realize she was good, but there was/is better for me out there, and of course worse. This experience and wisdom I wouldn't change for anything, take it from me. I can only recommend the same to you. I know it's rough but u sound like u want to but are having issues with pulling the trigger? Live it up man, u will see there are plenty of great women out there, and of course nutcases as well (who can be awesome in bed I might add haha).

Again, this just hits close to home cuz I got buddies who won't let that one loose, and they are often blinded, and the woman will respect u more if u tell her to fuck off (not really, but at least not always be there for her), maybe come back, maybe not (I've done both many a time). Plus, it sounds like in ur case u have a woman who is prob a bit looser than average, lots of the time it's just genetic, but I am more concerned of the mindgames this may be playing on ya and you don't even realize it.

I know I'm not in a relationship, but I don't have much incentive to truly get with new women because I have one that jives so well with me now. I know it's tempting to go and explore some, but if restaurant ordering experiences are anything similar, more often than not when I try something new I'm pissed and want my old thing back. Also, I haven't met a girl cooler than her personality wise. About a month and a half ago I had a chance to slam some hot Persian girl who I had just picked up at a party, but because of several factors (was a horrible kisser, she was a dumbass, had nothing interesting) I was totally turned off and ended up just leaving without her, even though she was running after me trying to get my number (she had already put hers in my phone for me). Sure, I could've slammed that nice ass, but what would I have gotten out of it? Probably a whole lot of emotional entanglements, etc. I mean, shit, I haven't even known the girl for a week and I'm supposed to be fucking her brains out? What if she's crazy?

I think sex without any kind of love would be very hard if not impossible for me to do. Fooling around, yeah I can do that, but actual sex, doubt it. At least I probably wouldn't enjoy it, although the girl might.
 
Stridge, 10inch is only confirming my advice, as I have been where he is.....and your comment came after mine so I thought u were addressing me.

10inch, I been there man, and all I can say is that comfort level with someone else won't just happen, that's understood. You sound like a good guy, not wanting to just fuck a chick if you're not into them. At the same time, don't feel obligated to fall in love with every woman u almost have sex with or even have sex with. Experiences like the one with you and the Persian chick (if you had sex with her or not) are priceless in my opinion.

As stated, u are king of your own ship, do as you feel fit. Also, just keep in mind women are very tricky in these type of situations. People (men and women) can be so awesome, and so conniving as I am sure you're aware of, and my buddy who is going through something similar (diff situation but doing the on and off again hook up with an ex) yeah well she is a total -------, lets just say she's on the conniving side. :)
 
10inchadvantage;284480 said:
I know I'm not in a relationship, but I don't have much incentive to truly get with new women because I have one that jives so well with me now. I know it's tempting to go and explore some, but if restaurant ordering experiences are anything similar, more often than not when I try something new I'm pissed and want my old thing back. Also, I haven't met a girl cooler than her personality wise.

Don't do anything that could lose your girl now. You've got a dream lover, with the fisting and anal. Hell, if she ever takes the notion to give you a rimjob...propose to her on the spot. rofl
 
The pussy stretches for a baby but it repairs itself back to the way it was after a couple of weeks. But think about it if your doing this on continuosly it will loosen her up and my opinion is that she has done this before but has been too embarrassed to tell you. The anal is a gold-mine but fisting is a shit-hole.
 
Oh and I'm going through the same thing as you, I just broke up with my ex (obviously) and I've never really chased women before but at this moment I'm more than willing to learn. I think its a great skill, even if your in a relationship because it means you know a little more about women and after all thats what most of us want. All we need to do is be a little more confident and meet new people. Me and my ex are having sex too, we're even going to start trying anal with my dick soon, but she is starting to try to meet other people and go to parties so I'm going to do the same and I think I should regardless. But I don't think you want a girl who wants a fist, realistically thats over the top, freaky is fine but Goddamn.
 
Yeah Longstretch, good post....we've all been there man with "the ex". And you're right, it is a skill going after and getting women, it's fuckin weird but it totally is. Practice makes perfect. And just know u won't get everyone, but the better you get the better you'll feel.

Oh, and good luck with the anal u lucky bastard lmao :)
 
I'll give you the best advice you'll ever get right now on the spot.


Pussy is pussy. If you don't have a connection. It'll simply be just Sex. And although I'm sure most will say "that's great" it's really not as wonderful as it seems. When you truly find someone who you LOVE and you have sex it's a whole other level of pleasure. Also it's a psychological thing (just like with restaurants) when you know what you like and you have it getting something else doesn't seem so great. I like the buffet at this little mexican place it's simple a taco, enchilla, burrito, beans and rice with red sauce. I mean sure it's not the most extravagant thing to order, but I like it and know that I've not found anything on the menu I've liked more.

Also why is she your "ex" anyway if you get along so well?...and if she's not to controlling or worried over how many partner's you've been with maybe exploration isn't a bad thing....but some girls don't dig it when you look around and change how they look at you...something else to consider.
 
penguinsfan;284554 said:
Don't do anything that could lose your girl now. You've got a dream lover, with the fisting and anal. Hell, if she ever takes the notion to give you a rimjob...propose to her on the spot. rofl

Already done all that shit bro. rofl
 
longstretch;284556 said:
Oh and I'm going through the same thing as you, I just broke up with my ex (obviously) and I've never really chased women before but at this moment I'm more than willing to learn. I think its a great skill, even if your in a relationship because it means you know a little more about women and after all thats what most of us want. All we need to do is be a little more confident and meet new people. Me and my ex are having sex too, we're even going to start trying anal with my dick soon, but she is starting to try to meet other people and go to parties so I'm going to do the same and I think I should regardless. But I don't think you want a girl who wants a fist, realistically thats over the top, freaky is fine but Goddamn.

My ex is VERY experimental. It's like she'll try anything once, except scat. This was her first time being fisted. She was quite turned on before hand, I haven't seen her that turned on in months.

Also, I'd say I'm a lousy lover. I don't like foreplay, and this time I did long foreplay on her and she was so hot, so I think I'm going to have to do foreplay more often. And no I didn't stick my whole hand in there, just up to the four-finger knuckles, with my thumb in there of course. Five fingers up to the knuckles pretty much. She didn't like it when I got that far in because of my finger nails. However, I couldn't believe she was taking so much girth. I was thinking, "Damn, she could take Biggy Mac, my hand cupped around the knuckles is about 9" thick." That's where it hurt my ego.
 
10inchadvantage;284597 said:
And no I didn't stick my whole hand in there, just up to the four-finger knuckles, with my thumb in there of course. Five fingers up to the knuckles pretty much. She didn't like it when I got that far in because of my finger nails. However, I couldn't believe she was taking so much girth. I was thinking, "Damn, she could take Biggy Mac, my hand cupped around the knuckles is about 9" thick." That's where it hurt my ego.
Thing is I think women are wider near the surface, and then they narrow down inside; so she's probably not really doing 9".

The other thing is that women don't necessarily primarily like girth; it's more the way your dick massages the walls of her; often women when they're on top they tend to do more backward and forwards hip movements. The thing is you can do that as well when you're on top; move up and down as well as in and out; and many other strokes (spiral, stabbing all kinds of weird stuff, whatever works for her). Of course girth helps with the stimulation as well.

The other thing is your stats are pretty long, so I don't think she's likely to ever consider you small, even if you're fisting her, not even if you're double fisting her :)
 
wolfkeeper;284978 said:
Thing is I think women are wider near the surface, and then they narrow down inside; so she's probably not really doing 9".

The other thing is that women don't necessarily primarily like girth; it's more the way your dick massages the walls of her; often women when they're on top they tend to do more backward and forwards hip movements. The thing is you can do that as well when you're on top; move up and down as well as in and out; and many other strokes (spiral, stabbing all kinds of weird stuff, whatever works for her). Of course girth helps with the stimulation as well.

The other thing is your stats are pretty long, so I don't think she's likely to ever consider you small, even if you're fisting her, not even if you're double fisting her :)

I think if some girl were to ever call my length short and be totally serious I'd call up her ex, hire him to do some adult entertainment, and make some mad $$$ as his agent and producer. Talk about making the best out of a potentially ego-shattering situation rofl
 
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