10 Ways to Fight Pornography

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10 Ways to Fight Pornography



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A recent study asked a group of kids how often their peers look at **** online. They responded that it was often. The study also asked what parental controls were in place on their devices, and almost all said none — because their parents trusted them. These parents have no idea what their children are seeing.
Why are controls so critical? First, the average age of a child’s first exposure to pornography is 11. So if that’s the average, some children are seeing it much earlier. Furthermore, research is beginning to give us the full, frightening picture of what **** does to a brain and to a life. Much like substance abuse, it alters the brain, creating a need for a level of stimulation that a healthy, marital sex life doesn’t always provide. It sets our children up to have a distorted view of sex and suffer from a desire that can’t be satisfied.
Why are so many dads turning a blind eye to this problem? Is it because they don’t think it’s a problem? Is it because of their own **** use? Maybe they feel hypocritical setting up boundaries for their kids that they themselves can’t hold. If this is you, we want you to know that it’s not too late to protect your children, and there is hope for you too. Here are 10 ways to fight pornography:

1. Admit you have a problem.
We live in a world that wants us to make allowance for justifying and tolerating almost every off-color thing we could think of. One of the best things you can do for yourself, your marriage and your children is to admit you have a problem with pornography.

2. Invite trusted friends to encourage you and hold you accountable.
We would also suggest bringing your wife in on your struggle. Voicing your struggle to others and admitting you have a problem is a huge step in the right direction.

3. Online accountability.
Use software to monitor your online activity. Covenant Eyes is a great resource for men. It allows you to receive your accountability partner’s reports weekly for the sites they visit and the searches they make. It lets you know when you need to follow up with each other on questionable activity. Finally, it allows you to celebrate with each other in putting online struggles to death.

4. Set boundaries with your mobile device.
Nowadays, our smartphones and tablets are even more of a gateway to pornography than a desktop computer. The same online accountability applies to your mobile device. Set boundaries and use software to monitor all online activity.

5. If you have offline pornography at your disposal, destroy it.
If you are wanting to fight your addiction to pornography but are hanging on to that magazine or [words=[URL]http://www.mattersofsize.com/mosdvd.htm]DVD[/words[/URL]] (in its secret hiding place) then your “fight” is really just a masquerade. Man up, and destroy those items. Right now.

6. Take all forms of media seriously.
Don’t think to yourself that TV shows or movies that emphasize sexual situations or portray women in the wrong light are harmless. Even if they are not considered “****,” they are damaging. If you’re struggling with pornography, these types of entertainment will only make your struggle more difficult.

7. If you are married, take a step back and think on your marriage.
Are you satisfied and happy in your marriage? What’s awesome about your marriage? What is lacking? Are you content with the level of sexual intimacy within your marriage? These are great questions to ask yourself. They just might lead you to the root cause for your addiction.

8. Realize that you didn’t just become addicted to ****.
How you conduct yourself in public and where you look every day have greatly influenced where you find yourself today. That long stare at the passing woman, the double take at the lady you just walked by, the thoughts that come to mind when you see the magazines in the checkout lane at the grocery store… This is where the battle starts in the everyday scenarios and situations. Fight the good fight here too. Guard your eyes and guard your mind.

9. Take a second and think beyond the images or videos you’re looking at.
This is a person, a real woman, a human being created by God, just like you. She’s somebody’s daughter, sister, or even mother. Think of what her life must be like in front of the camera day after day – exploited and made insanely vulnerable. Chances are she is wrapped up in some kind of string of human sex trafficking and your addiction is helping to fund this multibillion-dollar business. She is not there for your enjoyment. She is being held captive and more than likely is crying out for help.

10. Your pornography addiction is a heart issue first and foremost.
You are exchanging truth for a lie. You are voluntarily placing your affections on the cheap thrills that are ultimately fleeting and leave you feeling worthless. You were created for God, by God. Ask God to help you every time you are tempted.
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DLD said:
10 Ways to Fight Pornography



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A recent study asked a group of kids how often their peers look at adult entertainment online. They responded that it was often. The study also asked what parental controls were in place on their devices, and almost all said none — because their parents trusted them. These parents have no idea what their children are seeing.
Why are controls so critical? First, the average age of a child’s first exposure to pornography is 11. So if that’s the average, some children are seeing it much earlier. Furthermore, research is beginning to give us the full, frightening picture of what adult entertainment does to a brain and to a life. Much like substance abuse, it alters the brain, creating a need for a level of stimulation that a healthy, marital sex life doesn’t always provide. It sets our children up to have a distorted view of sex and suffer from a desire that can’t be satisfied.
Why are so many dads turning a blind eye to this problem? Is it because they don’t think it’s a problem? Is it because of their own adult entertainment use? Maybe they feel hypocritical setting up boundaries for their kids that they themselves can’t hold. If this is you, we want you to know that it’s not too late to protect your children, and there is hope for you too. Here are 10 ways to fight pornography:

1. Admit you have a problem.
We live in a world that wants us to make allowance for justifying and tolerating almost every off-color thing we could think of. One of the best things you can do for yourself, your marriage and your children is to admit you have a problem with pornography.

2. Invite trusted friends to encourage you and hold you accountable.
We would also suggest bringing your wife in on your struggle. Voicing your struggle to others and admitting you have a problem is a huge step in the right direction.

3. Online accountability.
소프트웨어를 사용하여 온라인 활동을 모니터링하십시오. Covenant Eyes는 남성을 위한 훌륭한 리소스입니다. 이를 통해 책임 파트너가 방문하는 사이트와 검색 내용에 대한 보고서를 매주 받을 수 있습니다. 의심스러운 활동에 대해 서로 후속 조치를 취해야 할 때 알려줍니다. 마지막으로, 온라인 투쟁을 죽음으로 몰아넣는 데 서로 축하할 수 있습니다.

4. 모바일 장치와의 경계를 설정합니다.
오늘날 우리의 스마트폰과 태블릿은 데스크톱 컴퓨터보다 훨씬 더 외설물로 향하는 관문입니다. 동일한 온라인 책임이 모바일 장치에도 적용됩니다. 경계를 설정하고 소프트웨어를 사용하여 모든 온라인 활동을 모니터링하십시오.

5. 오프라인 포르노가 있다면 파괴하십시오.
만약 당신이 포르노에 대한 중독과 싸우고 싶지만 그 잡지나 [words=[URL]http://www.mattersofsize.com/mosdvd.htm]DVD[/words[/URL]] (비밀스런 은신처에서)에 매달려 있다면, 당신의 "싸움"은 정말로 가장무도회일 뿐입니다. 사람을 모아 그 물건들을 파괴하십시오. 바로 지금.

6. 모든 형태의 미디어를 진지하게 받아들이십시오.
성적인 상황을 강조하거나 여성을 잘못된 시각으로 묘사하는 TV 프로그램이나 영화가 무해하다고 생각하지 마십시오. 설령 그것이 "성인 오락"으로 간주되지 않는다 하더라도, 그것들은 해를 끼치고 있습니다. 만약 당신이 포르노로 어려움을 겪고 있다면, 이런 종류의 오락은 당신의 어려움을 더 어렵게 만들 뿐이다.

7. 기혼자라면 한 걸음 물러서서 결혼 생활에 대해 생각해 보십시오.
당신은 결혼 생활에서 만족스럽고 행복합니까? 당신의 결혼 생활에서 어떤 점이 멋진가요? 무엇이 부족한가? 당신은 결혼 생활 속에서의 성적 친밀감의 수준에 만족합니까? 이것들은 스스로에게 물어볼 수 있는 좋은 질문입니다. 그들은 당신을 중독의 근본 원인으로 이끌 수 있습니다.

8. 당신이 성인 엔터테인먼트에 중독된 것이 아니라는 것을 깨달으십시오.
대중 앞에서 어떻게 처신하고 매일 어디를 보는지는 오늘날 당신이 처한 위치에 큰 영향을 미쳤습니다. 지나가는 여자를 오랫동안 바라보던 그 순간, 방금 지나가던 그 여자를 더블 테이크, 식료품점 계산대에서 잡지를 보았을 때 떠오르는 생각들... 이것은 일상적인 시나리오와 상황에서 전투가 시작되는 곳입니다. 여기서도 선한 싸움을 싸워라. 그대의 눈을 지키고 마음을 지키라.

9. 잠시 시간을 내어 보고 있는 이미지나 비디오 너머에 대해 생각해 보세요.
이 사람은 한 사람이고, 진정한 여자이며, 하나님이 창조하신 인간이며, 여러분과 같습니다. 그녀는 누군가의 딸, 자매, 심지어 어머니입니다. 매일 카메라 앞에서 착취당하고 미친 듯이 취약해지는 그녀의 삶이 어떨지 생각해 보십시오. 그녀는 일종의 인신매매에 휩싸여 있을 가능성이 있으며 당신의 중독은 이 수십억 달러 규모의 사업에 자금을 대는 데 도움이 되고 있습니다. 그녀는 당신의 즐거움을 위해 거기에 있지 않습니다. 그녀는 포로로 잡혀 있으며 아마도 도움을 부르짖고 있을 것입니다.

10. 여러분의 외설물 중독은 무엇보다도 마음의 문제입니다.
당신은 진실을 거짓으로 바꾸고 있습니다. 당신은 궁극적으로 덧없고 당신을 무가치하다고 느끼게 만드는 값싼 스릴에 자발적으로 애정을 쏟고 있습니다. 당신은 하나님을 위해, 하나님에 의해 창조되었습니다. 유혹을 받을 때마다 하나님께 도움을 구하십시오.
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I daresay, It was so meaningful to me. Pornography shows us ridiculous and huge things. That's the reason why people think that their own penis is quite small or they can't give pleasure to women. But, One thing is certain, Respect and conversation are quite important to say.
Thank you, DLD. To your gift.
 
The scary thing about pornography isn’t just that it’s addictive — it’s how it messes with your brain over time.

There’s this subreddit where straight guys talk about how years of watching pornography slowly escalated to the point where they were watching gay pornography… even though they aren’t actually attracted to men. It’s not really about sex anymore — it’s about chasing that next dopamine hit, no matter how extreme.

And these dudes sound like they’re genuinely suffering. They all say the same thing: they started with normal straight stuff, but eventually it stopped doing anything for them, so they kept going deeper and darker just to feel something. It’s actually terrifying how far it can take you.

I really hope these guys find a way out. The way adult entertainment can rewire your brain is honestly disturbing — like, actually life-ruining if it goes far enough.
 
Your both right adult entertainment is a sick poison that will destroy the way you think about women. God tells us to have respect and love with one another, not to just over. It took me several tries to quit completely and the last time I conquered with help of the Holy Spirit. God be with all who are suffering from this sickness
 
I honestly love adult entertainment because I learned to use it as a tool. I use it to edge. What I’ve noticed is that it he visual stimuli is what is so toxic. Masturbation should be from mental imagery. I use adult entertainment for the sound of the moans but I close my eyes and imagine my own scenario to the noise. I have really bad ADHD so the sound keeps me focused. Otherwise I’ll start wondering off and I’ll be tugging on a flaccid dick thinking about what I forgot to order on Amazon. Real talk. It’s not what you do, it’s how you do it. And what you do it for. People condemn adult entertainment so often but it is also a beautiful thing if you find a way to make it beautiful. I prefer amateur adult entertainment because there’s more reality to it. I used to jerk off so much that now one forearm is permanently thicker than the other so I know the pain of adult entertainment addiction. But it’s not the adult entertainment. It’s the ejaculation. Once you find the power of semen retention, no weapons formed against your wang shall prosper. Sex is just as if not more addictive if you ejaculate every time. The power is in the withholding of your seed. Once I learned of semen retention, I was able to enjoy all the sex and adult entertainment I wanted without draining my kundalini energy. Start with complete abstinence of all sexual gratification for 6-9 months. You will start having teenage spontaneous erections like crazy. Do advanced Kegel routines and reverse Kegel like a mad man. Once you reach your abstinence goal, start slow and work on edging. Gain that mental over physical power. Learn to enjoy the process of reaching orgasm over the orgasm itself. The journey will begin to feel better than the destination. It’s the ejaculation that’s the enemy. That’s for reproduction. Once you learn to edge you will find the beauty of full body non ejaculatory orgasms. I love adult entertainment. I love it because I have power over it. It no longer has power over me. I love sex because I can go without coming.
 
Bulldaboss said:
I honestly love adult entertainment because I learned to use it as a tool. I use it to edge. What I’ve noticed is that it he visual stimuli is what is so toxic. Masturbation should be from mental imagery. I use adult entertainment for the sound of the moans but I close my eyes and imagine my own scenario to the noise. I have really bad ADHD so the sound keeps me focused. Otherwise I’ll start wondering off and I’ll be tugging on a flaccid dick thinking about what I forgot to order on Amazon. Real talk. It’s not what you do, it’s how you do it. And what you do it for. People condemn adult entertainment so often but it is also a beautiful thing if you find a way to make it beautiful. I prefer amateur adult entertainment because there’s more reality to it. I used to jerk off so much that now one forearm is permanently thicker than the other so I know the pain of adult entertainment addiction. But it’s not the adult entertainment. It’s the ejaculation. Once you find the power of semen retention, no weapons formed against your wang shall prosper. Sex is just as if not more addictive if you ejaculate every time. The power is in the withholding of your seed. Once I learned of semen retention, I was able to enjoy all the sex and adult entertainment I wanted without draining my kundalini energy. Start with complete abstinence of all sexual gratification for 6-9 months. You will start having teenage spontaneous erections like crazy. Do advanced Kegel routines and reverse Kegel like a mad man. Once you reach your abstinence goal, start slow and work on edging. Gain that mental over physical power. Learn to enjoy the process of reaching orgasm over the orgasm itself. The journey will begin to feel better than the destination. It’s the ejaculation that’s the enemy. That’s for reproduction. Once you learn to edge you will find the beauty of full body non ejaculatory orgasms. I love adult entertainment. I love it because I have power over it. It no longer has power over me. I love sex because I can go without coming.
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the best way to fight pornography:

1. find the place where you usually watch adult entertainment. adult entertainment is a habit tied to specific situations, environments, and moments of privacy. we rarely have many places where we can do it. for example, you cannot watch adult entertainment on the bus.

2. identify the device you use to watch adult entertainment. think about it, we all have a routine. some lie in bed, prepare tissues, open the laptop or phone, etc. find those cues and routines, and break them.

3. put a sticky note on that device: "i am disgusted by adult entertainment. i am disgusted by adult entertainment. i am disgusted by adult entertainment. i will never watch this. i will never watch this. i will never watch this." read it out loud when you see it.

identify every step in your ritual, and at each step put a barrier so watching adult entertainment becomes harder and harder.

also, change your identity around it. tell yourself you find it disgusting and that you cannot possibly watch it. in time, you will believe it. "tell a lie enough times and people will believe it."
i never had a problem with adult entertainment, last time i watched adult entertainment and masturbated was when i was 16 years old (now i am 26), but i broke some bad habits not by restricting myself, but by changing how i viewed the habit.

think about it, if you live in a 3rd-world country, you might see taking a shower every day as wasteful, “we do not have easy access to water, why are you showering daily?”

but in a 1st-world country, you would be disgusted by not showering every day, right?

identity and worldview shape our reality.

p.s. i lied, i did watch adult entertainment from time to time, but only to learn things to do in bed. 😜
 
vladimir1999 said:
the best way to fight pornography:

1. find the place where you usually watch adult entertainment. adult entertainment is a habit tied to specific situations, environments, and moments of privacy. we rarely have many places where we can do it. for example, you cannot watch adult entertainment on the bus.

2. identify the device you use to watch adult entertainment. think about it, we all have a routine. some lie in bed, prepare tissues, open the laptop or phone, etc. find those cues and routines, and break them.

3. put a sticky note on that device: "i am disgusted by adult entertainment. i am disgusted by adult entertainment. i am disgusted by adult entertainment. i will never watch this. i will never watch this. i will never watch this." read it out loud when you see it.

identify every step in your ritual, and at each step put a barrier so watching adult entertainment becomes harder and harder.

also, change your identity around it. tell yourself you find it disgusting and that you cannot possibly watch it. in time, you will believe it. "tell a lie enough times and people will believe it."
i never had a problem with adult entertainment, last time i watched adult entertainment and masturbated was when i was 16 years old (now i am 26), but i broke some bad habits not by restricting myself, but by changing how i viewed the habit.

think about it, if you live in a 3rd-world country, you might see taking a shower every day as wasteful, “we do not have easy access to water, why are you showering daily?”

but in a 1st-world country, you would be disgusted by not showering every day, right?

identity and worldview shape our reality.

p.s. i lied, i did watch adult entertainment from time to time, but only to learn things to do in bed. 😜
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Excellent post! I'm so happy that you have entered a great deal of information.And hopefully other brothers will see this and get serious about this terrible sin
 
DLD said:
Your both right adult entertainment is a sick poison that will destroy the way you think about women. God tells us to have respect and love with one another, not to just over. It took me several tries to quit completely and the last time I conquered with help of the Holy Spirit. God be with all who are suffering from this sickness
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As a Christian man, adult entertainment is sin to me, its Lust, i fight the addiction every day not to watch. Its hard to do! I pray to God about it daily
 
That's why i'm here every day.You are my people and you are my support group
 
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