I've been to ''motivational'' seminars hosted by some of the biggest names in the field: Tony Robbins, Tom Hopkins, Jim Rohn, John Maxwell. It all basically boils down to not focusing on what you HAVE done in your life and not being a reactive person. In other words, focus on the positive you have accomplished, and where you ARE going. Also, learn to be adaptive. Rather than saying for example ''Who moved my cheese?'' Learn to think, ''ok my cheese got moved...I'm gonna go find some NEW cheese.'' Goofy example, but it's a great correlation to how most people handle life. Most dwell on where they are now, how miserable their life supposedly is, and how things will probably just always be that way because that's what they are worth.
I'm 32. I've been a great son, a great friend, I'm a great husband, I've coached several dozen men directly to bigger penises (and happier lives) and probably helped thousands of others indirectly, I've served my country, and now I'm back in school getting ready to go into a career that will help me grow even more and give back to society as well. I'll also be making more $$ than I've ever made.
Now, I have had multiple obstacles along the way. I could focus on ideas like ''gosh I'm so far behind...most people my age already have kids, a house, make at least average income...bla bla bla...poor me.''
Besides that, I've already made most of the mistakes most people make in life and in relationships. I got married way too young, got divorced, worked odd..dead end jobs for years, broke lots of girls hearts along the way, went through several downright shitty relationships, have been a total asshole to some people, have been around $30,000 in debt, and so on.
BUT, I'm focused on the good things I've done and am continuing to do in my life instead. Winners keep pushing forward and re inventing themselves until they find the right path.