Pretty interesting...isn't it???

BigThingStory;719246 said:

I have a girlfriend since 2 years and we have a nice solid sex with a lot of position changing and even I make her cum t twice or at the same time together.

Before her always almost always the first time I meet a girl and we go to have sex for the first time I cum within seconds even without sex. Once I cum and relax and spent some more time with the girl I am able to have good sex. SO stress I guess is the biggest negative factor which makes me trgger too fast. I had a lot of women in my life and lot of them admitted they had the best sex in their lives with me(and I could theoretically boost with this my self confidence) I still have this unconcious stress inside me which turns my abilities of fucking good into a looser.

RECENTLY: Since I am with my current gf and never feel stressed with her and the sex sessions last even 45min to an hour, I wanted to try what would happen if I fuck other girl. Just to experiment. I have tried with 2 different girls who turned me on within a week but the result was that I came almost in my pants even in the same day in the morning I have had a long good sex with my gf. I dont know if probably also thoughts of guilt that I was doing that in combination with stress was the x factor but i failed in both girls. I felt so empharassed and my ego got kicked in the nuts.

I want somehow to get over this fear stress of first time sex with an unknown person that leads me to this. Or maybe I am just another type of guy who needs just more romanitc shit and time with the other person to feel comfortable.

Long stor short, its not any physicall reason or sensitivity reason for the PE I suffer during the frst time but the STRESS itself.

Share your thoughts and merry Christmas.

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BigThingStory;719246 said:

I have a girlfriend since 2 years and we have a nice solid sex with a lot of position changing and even I make her cum t twice or at the same time together.

Before her always almost always the first time I meet a girl and we go to have sex for the first time I cum within seconds even without sex. Once I cum and relax and spent some more time with the girl I am able to have good sex. SO stress I guess is the biggest negative factor which makes me trgger too fast. I had a lot of women in my life and lot of them admitted they had the best sex in their lives with me(and I could theoretically boost with this my self confidence) I still have this unconcious stress inside me which turns my abilities of fucking good into a looser.

RECENTLY: Since I am with my current gf and never feel stressed with her and the sex sessions last even 45min to an hour, I wanted to try what would happen if I fuck other girl. Just to experiment. I have tried with 2 different girls who turned me on within a week but the result was that I came almost in my pants even in the same day in the morning I have had a long good sex with my gf. I dont know if probably also thoughts of guilt that I was doing that in combination with stress was the x factor but i failed in both girls. I felt so empharassed and my ego got kicked in the nuts.

I want somehow to get over this fear stress of first time sex with an unknown person that leads me to this. Or maybe I am just another type of guy who needs just more romanitc shit and time with the other person to feel comfortable.

Long stor short, its not any physicall reason or sensitivity reason for the PE I suffer during the frst time but the STRESS itself.

Share your thoughts and merry Christmas.

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doublelongdaddy;719334 said:

First and foremost, why the hell are you cheating on your girl? How would you feel if this was the case with her? You have been blessed with a woman you are comfortable with, someone you connect with, someone you can have solid sex with, someone who you can satisfy and she can satisfy you. I would STOP this type of "testing" as it is not a test it is cheating! I do not mean to scold you but I feel compassion for your girl in this. Many men, when they first get with a new woman, will have the same issues. For me, when I was having sex, any time I got with a new girl I couldn't get an erection. This eventually changed when I became comfortable but what you have experienced in the past is quite normal. Think about it this way, you have been driving a automatic car for ages and then one day you trade that car for one with a manual transmission, if you never have driven a standard you will; go through a period of learning and becoming comfortable, the same goes with sex. Anytime we step out of our comfort zone into uncharted territory we will always go through growing pains.

My advice is to stop questioning this and start dedicating yourself to the blessing you already have!

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BigThingStory;719321 said:

Thank you for the replay but please man. it seems like you didn't read the context at all.

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templnite;719431 said:

I'm so proud of you mike you've been giving pretty stronge replies lately , lots of medicine in that candy when you look close

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BigThingStory;719622 said:

Thank you very much for your honest reply and explanation Mike! I deeply aprecciate it, I had tons of regrets afterwards anyway but most important thank you for trying to advice me and open my eyes.
I am a newbie in the relationship world, have no previous experience with relationships and learn everyday from my mistakes. You have solves all kind of questions I have had.
Have a have happy new year in 2 days everyone!

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doublelongdaddy;719720 said:

I am happy you have seen the light as you were facing some pretty dark things. Relationships are a beautiful union of 2 people who love one another and need nothing more to satisfy themselves. Lust is everywhere, I understand this, it is impossible to even open your eyes in public without seeing some ridiculous temptations of the flesh, but in not falling for these things you will be graced with so much more blessing in the relationship you have. I have advice to someone who is married or in a union, if you feel the temptation to cheat, go and make love to your woman and then make the decision.

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templnite;719734 said:

You can't serve two masters without betraying one

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