My Girlfriend's ex: Problem in my mind

Hey all,

I have been with my gf for like 14 months now, and it all goes really good, but there is one thing always have been on my mind, and that is her ex. Like 16 months ago, she put an end to the relationship with her ex, because he cheated on her, and they were already have problems about stuff. Now she really dislikes him and stuff, and really loves me, and even wanna go in future with me. But here is where im stuck with: I just cant handle the fact that her ex had sex with her. It sound stupid but im just stuck with fact. When my Gf first saw my dick, she was really surprised, because apparently i have a much bigger dick then he had. Also she told me a lot of times that my sex is waaay more better then his, and my fingering skills compared to his are even 100 times better. She tells me that when she was having sex with him, sometimes she was just like thinking about other stuff like Soap series or that the New magazine is out, and stuff. She never has that with me.

So, my sex is better, my foreplay is better, my dick is bigger, But still, when im fantazising about sex, i see her having sex with her ex, and that she is enjoying it a lot. I dont get it, Why do keep thinking about that and get a sad feeling about it ? Even when she talks negative about her sex with her ex, it just ruins my mind.

I just can't handle the fact that she had sex with him, and somehow, when ever i think about it, i am thinking about her having a lot of enjoyment with him, more then with me. It's stupid, I know, but i dont know why.

Anytime after we have sex, I always feel really good. At those moments i KNOW i am better then him, in all those ways, and her reaction after the sex confirms that. Then when i think about him having sex with my gf, i just laugh in my selfs that he sucked at it. But like when im home again, the other day, again i gets in my mind that she had sex with him.

Did somebody had the same, or can somebody encourage me somehow, so that i dont worry about it anymore?

Thanks for reading my story!

One addition: My girlfriend is my first with all the sexual experience. Her first was with her ex.

Let it go. a relationship is like a sports teams. You can be good but one player can't do it all himself. Some guys for a couple, sex is a part of it but its not everything.

Talk to her. One thing that guys don't do is figure what she likes and they get cheated on when they thought everything was OK. You can tell her your problem(optional) and talk during sex, she will tell what she likes. Must guys assume there blowing her socks off when there not cause they don't care to found out what she likes.

Eat the meow(optional) but if you want to show her a good time and she hasn't been with a ton of dudes and you like her a lot, get to licking.

No, i dont think you understood my problem Let me try to once more:

The sex is great, Foreplay Unbelieveable, i know exactly what my girlfriend likes, we communicate a lot. We have NON sexual problem.

The only problem is me: Despite of the fact that Im doing everything 100 times better then her ex did, I still feel uncomfortable when i think about my gf and her ex, that they had sex.

You know normally, when a guy knows that he is better then his girlfriend's ex, there shouldn't be a problem. But with me, even if my girlfriend tells me, i still cant deal with the fact they had sex, even if it sucked! I think i can't handle the fact that he had sex with my gf. Oke i know it was before she had anything with me, but still....

So the problem is that, even if my GF tells me that the sex and stuff sucked with her ex, when i imagen about them, having sex, i feel bad about it...

You already know the answer to this. Get rid of that negative mindset. You can't live life thinking about the negative stuff.

Do you just dislike the guy?

Cause I had that once when I liked a chick but I hated the guy she use to fool around with and that held me back with her and I couldn't stop thinking"how could she with that guy" If its that I understand but If your better than him why would you care.

Ye it does look a bit like that. I hate that guy now, because he had sex with my GF, and cheated on her. So im like ''how could she be with that guy''. In the beginning i had no problems with this, but later on i started to ask stuff about them, and their sex. That was a mistake of me to ask that.

But Girth Hammer, i really got to thank you. That last sentence: ''Why would you care'' helped me. It's that simpel. I also gotta say because i wrote about this, i do feel a lot better, since yesterday it didn't pop in my mind. Now anytime it pops up in my mind, that they were having sex, im kind of laughing cause im thinking: haha dude you sucked at it.

Thanks, feel a lot better

Welcome man, Deep down I knew that what your question really was. She sees the light now and wants a great guy like you, make sure you treat her right. Plenty of chicks will repeat the some mistake over & over. At least she understands her mistake, don't hold it against her.

Thanks both of you guys. I really feel a lot of better. I didnt even think about the whole idea that had been together, and i didnt give any f*ck that they had sex. Before I started this thread, my body always gave me this weird and uncomfortable feeling. Now i dont have that anymore!

Tomorrow i will sneak into her house, while she is a sleep, and lay flowers next to her, coz tomorrow we are together for 15 months.

Dude, seriously, MAN THE F*CK UP!

Beleive it or not, WOMEN LOVE SEX!!!

You really need to get over your maddona/whore complethis is where you group women as innocent little flowers if they havn't had sex before, or if they have, you consider them whores) its a purity thing which you need to eraze from your head.

its understandable to feel uncomfortable when hearing about a girlfriend's past relationships and sexual experiences,
but if you two are happy and having good sex, and she tells you how much better you are than him, then why worry about it?
just forget about him, hes not in her life anymore, but you are

Believe it or not but i think im over it! I really dont care about it anymore. I think it's all over. Now im in the period of: Why did i even care about that they had sex

trainingtzr;379878 said:

Believe it or not but i think im over it! I really dont care about it anymore. I think it's all over. Now im in the period of: Why did i even care about that they had sex

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I am glad we gave you some perspective on this, it most likely saved your relationship.

And when she leaves you for another man, she will continue to have sex and enjoy it.

skyfox7;380023 said:

And when she leaves you for another man, she will continue to have sex and enjoy it.

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hehe, she wont leave me for another man

skyfox7;380023 said:

And when she leaves you for another man, she will continue to have sex and enjoy it.

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Prediction seems odd.

trainingtzr;380035 said:

hehe, she wont leave me for another man

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keep telling yourself that buddy, because soon you will be in for the biggest shock of your life.

doublelongdaddy;380056 said:

Prediction seems odd.

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She'l get bored and tired of his insecurities eventually and find somebody else.

skyfox7;380321 said:

keep telling yourself that buddy, because soon you will be in for the biggest shock of your life.



She'l get bored and tired of his insecurities eventually and find somebody else.

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Agree with all of this. Women ALWAYS keep there eyes open for "mister right". All women are searching for prince charming to sweep them off there feet, marry them, live in a white picket fence house.

Never assume you know what she's thinking. Keep thinking like that and it will be to late. She may leave or just cheat to find what she wants. And you would never know cause women don't want to bruise your ego so she will never tell you what your doing wrong, She just hope you change to her liking. If you don't she WILL search for a guy that fits the mold of a guy she wants.

You think guys are better cheater? Sit with a group of chicks and talk about cheating. They will make you want to be gay. A chick will find the smallest thing wrong and cheat for that. I have heard so many times "he is perfect but" And the poor guy is being cheated on.

This thread just got brutal

When you find the person who is right for you none of this will be an issue.

doublelongdaddy;380408 said:

When you find the person who is right for you none of this will be an issue.

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Agree

laocoon;380330 said:

This thread just got brutal

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I only said what I said to keep him on his toes. I see so many guys make the mistake of thinking they know there girl like the back of there hand. I just said that for a "heads up" so he will get to know what she really likes than doing what most guys do, which is assuming.