Low Confidence

Hello brotherhood.i wasnt here for a long time,probably for like 6+ months but i was doing my p.e.Many thing on my life is going great but my confidence is very very low.Long story short the last 2 years of life was a train wreck.The girlfriend i loved cheated on me i lost interest about my studies and both of my parents lost their jobs.We are ok now but still i dont have enough money(100-120$ per month for me)so thing for me the last 2 year is much tighter than it used to be,i had depression.i know welcome to the adult life.but last summer i freaked out and realise i have to make my own luck.i start going at my university everyday,studing and doing my hw,i am trying to train as much as i can,my cock is bigger,generally trying to make my self as much as i can better person and professional.But still my confidence is very low and scared when i talk to girls.I feel like i dont have the balls to do anything diffrent.My psychology is diffrent.
Anyway,If anyone can give me some tips or a nice book about confidence it would very helpfull.A friend of mine told me to read a book"how to manipulate people"
i dont remember the exact title but he told me that help him cause he knew better how to talk and behave on them.

We all need someone to learn a potentially better approach from.

You'll get suggestions, but often what I've found after mentoring and coaching people: you need advice and guidance that is no more than 2 steps away from where you are now.

I could give you the best information from the smartest people alive or that ever lived, but it has to be close enough to your current state that you can make the leap to it from where you are.
You get me?
So while it may be relevant and top guidance, if you can't reach it from your current mindset it's as good as a dream.

Stop trying so hard with women. If you have to go through a ton of effort and pretending to be somebody you're not what is the point. They will either like your real self or not, if not move on. Being a pick up artist and getting one night stands is completely different from being a guy who is comfortable with himself and can hold a long term relationship.

wazedi;640537 said:

But still my confidence is very low and scared when i talk to girls.I feel like i dont have the balls to do anything diffrent.My psychology is diffrent.
Anyway,If anyone can give me some tips or a nice book about confidence it would very helpfull.A friend of mine told me to read a book"how to manipulate people"
i dont remember the exact title but he told me that help him cause he knew better how to talk and behave on them.

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With women, yeah it´s scary as hell and am in my 30:s and 7 - 9 on the scale. But am getting better and better working at it, there´s a saying you fail until you succeed. Fail as much as you can until you eventually learn and then you will succeed. Root of all evil? The fear of failure/rejected, well maybe not but you get my point.

This is so classic and almost all men suffer from it when it comes to women. My confidence is low with them? Yep that´s cause you NEVER try and have not put in the required hours of learning HOW.

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Believe me no youtube videos neither books are gonna fix this. Start doing more and more daredevil things with women and build slowly, eventually you will have been embarrassed/rejected so much that the fear of failure will go away and you´ll not give a fuck. When you come to this stage please do not stop because you are so close to being successful. So there you go now you have saved money and time. This works as i´ve been rejected/embarrassed enough to know and then remember am on the correct side on the attractive scale. People have for countless centuries believed/wanna believe that there´s a holy grail (a correct/right way) for everything out there, well those people are now dead laying in the ground never finding "the secret".

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Ok, there might be a few so called holygrails out there. Don´t think, do & and with consistency.

thanks for you responses.i am just sad cause i used to have a great confidence before all those things happend.now even though i look better i dont have condidence.
anyway.thanks for everything.i will do my research.i actually checked my t-level and they are very good

acromegaly;640543 said:

stop trying so hard with women. If you have to go through a ton of effort and pretending to be somebody you're not what is the point. They will either like your real self or not, if not move on. Being a pick up artist and getting one night stands is completely different from being a guy who is comfortable with himself and can hold a long term relationship.

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wazedi;640548 said:

thanks for you responses.i am just sad cause i used to have a great confidence before all those things happend.now even though i look better i dont have condidence.
anyway.thanks for everything.i will do my research.i actually checked my t-level and they are very good

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I feel & understand you brother. My lowest confidence periods around women have always been like something you described out of a job, not finishing studies etc etc. However the first time i really actually tried my skills with women i was somehow at the bottom not caring about my studies etc etc, i just went all black & white bipolar manic and started talking to them all of a sudden. Man i got burned, but that made my fears go away, remember fear of failure. This lead me to have a fucking awesome perception of myself despite being somehow on the bottom work, studies etc. Women started checking me out, hitting on me etc from nowhere, still not doing well in school.

About six months ago i was at a birthday party with my nice and she told me something interesting about confident men. I said WOW it does not matter if i work at mcdonalds or my waist is 10 cm to much they really do not care (women) it all comes down to HOW MY PERCEPTION OF MYSELF IS. She said yeah that´s true, what did you think sili? I thought it was how women perceived me? NO she said again confidence is all about how men perceive themselves... Wow i just threw away all the years between 20 and 30 believing it was theirs perception of mine that mattered> You see women can read you better than you think.

GOOD LUCK WITH WOMEN DO NOT BE A STUPID FUCK LIKE ME.

That is quite true they can decodify basic info about a guy in secs lol

Bacheelor i think you just found out the key of my problem.Seriously i just realise that was the difference between my life 2 years before and now.i had forgot on how to love myself.you see the problem after all those things is that i am not sad but i am not happy either.i am not having fun easily anymore and i knew it was because of my confidence.i was just a silent person.when i mention girls that was just an example.when i was having huge confidence i was feeling unbeatable.i will try to gain that feel back

wazedi;640558 said:

Bacheelor i think you just found out the key of my problem.Seriously i just realise that was the difference between my life 2 years before and now.i had forgot on how to love myself.you see the problem after all those things is that i am not sad but i am not happy either.i am not having fun easily anymore and i knew it was because of my confidence.i was just a silent person.when i mention girls that was just an example.when i was having huge confidence i was feeling unbeatable.i will try to gain that feel back

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Yep, i knew it was YOUR perception of yourself that was the problem. Now how about giving me a star so my rep power goes up

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Start slow as i told you Rome was not build in a day. Trying to get there (to that special happy place you´re talking about) by never doing anything CHALLENGING wont build/grow you, lets be honest here, you´ll get shit/sqat.

1. Tell a random girl that she has nice shoes, shirt, scarf whatever you think is nice then walk or say you have to go . Do this a couple of times now see that was not so dangerous now was it.

2. Do nr 1 again however now you start to build, what you build is up to you, say that she´s attractive (walk away or stand there and let things be awkward) something a little more challenging/daring than nr 1.

3. Well you get the picture

The OUTCOME of these steps is NOT IMPORTANT, let me say it again NOT IMPORTANT. However by doing this you will have the biggest dopamine release (google if you do not know what is is) from your body that you will ever have experienced in your life leading to you feeling awesome about yourself = Great perception about yourself = Women will find you attractive.

Do these things and you´ll live your life to your fullest potential.

Confidence is all about self worth or worthiness. You can't start big in this area, you need to start small. Each night create a gratitude list, 3 things that you feel good about that have to do with you as a man. If you can't find reasons then create new goals that will help you create the list. Add to this list everyday and look it over each night. This will quickly help you guid up your worthiness and will directly effect your confidence.

Quoting Bacheelor .. but for the OP wazedi

the first time i really actually tried my skills with women i was somehow at the bottom not caring about my studies etc etc, i just went all black & white bipolar manic and started talking to them all of a sudden. Man i got burned, but that made my fears go away, remember fear of failure. This lead me to have a fucking awesome perception of myself despite being somehow on the bottom work, studies etc. Women started checking me out, hitting on me etc from nowhere

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A great buddy of mine super liked this gal that worked across the street from his workplace. He dated quite a lot actually .. but froze up regarding this one girl because he wasn't relaxed and being himself .. he was all uptight and attaching too much ego to a desired outcome. This very reticence to ask her out would automatically subcommunicate all the wrong things in his approach and his confidence and his body language, making it seem as though he was undercalibrated for her and that he felt like, somehow, she was out of his league. If he felt like that, why shouldn't she feel like that as well?

I told him two things: one, you've gotta relax so you can be yourself, or at least not nervous. and two ... she's already NOT dating you, .. What's she going to say? 'No'?

.. If you think about it all there is .. is upside.

They're married with two kids.

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Quoting Bacheelor .. but for the OP wazedi



A great buddy of mine super liked this gal that worked across the street from his workplace. He dated quite a lot actually .. but froze up regarding this one girl because he wasn't relaxed and being himself .. he was all uptight and attaching too much ego to a desired outcome. This very reticence to ask her out would automatically subcommunicate all the wrong things in his approach and his confidence and his body language, making it seem as though he was undercalibrated for her and that he felt like, somehow, she was out of his league. If he felt like that, why shouldn't she feel like that as well?

I told him two things: one, you've gotta relax so you can be yourself, or at least not nervous. and two ... she's already NOT dating you, .. What's she going to say? 'No'?

.. If you think about it all there is .. is upside.

They're married with two kids.

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Very insightful and true! I am so glad that your advise brought his so much joy and now children....nothing better in the world.

everything seems right.now i have to find a way to bring back my mojo in my life.the way i see and do things.i will work on that guys

wazedi;641214 said:

everything seems right.now i have to find a way to bring back my mojo in my life.the way i see and do things.i will work on that guys

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Not just you believe me brother! I have been talking to a girl for a couple months now and pretty soon I will meet her in person and I am nervous as hell. She is the first girl I have dated in 8 years....I not even sure if I have any mojo

doublelongdaddy;641241 said:

Not just you believe me brother! I have been talking to a girl for a couple months now and pretty soon I will meet her in person and I am nervous as hell. She is the first girl I have dated in 8 years....I not even sure if I have any mojo

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It will go fine, you´re Mike Salvini and there´s only one
Wear one of those cool hats that you have on your head in penis faq(youtube) along with one or two chains around your neck, makes you look gangsta in a good way.

doublelongdaddy;641241 said:

Not just you believe me brother! I have been talking to a girl for a couple months now and pretty soon I will meet her in person and I am nervous as hell. She is the first girl I have dated in 8 years....I not even sure if I have any mojo

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Awesome, that is so cool that you're going to let yourself love again. I hope everything goes great.

If it's not good in real life don't stress bro. You are such a good person and I know women you date will see that too. You deserve a good woman DLD

acromegaly;641383 said:

If it's not good in real life don't stress bro. You are such a good person and I know women you date will see that too. You deserve a good woman DLD

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Oh Thank you so much! I needed to hear this right now!